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i want to be coool
i'm 15 girl that's a sophmore in highschoool!
i want to be popular
and i don't want the typical advice like put yourself out there..it does not work or help!
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Okay, well if you don't want to be yourself, you can test out a bunch of make up, exercise, join clubs/dance/other things you like. Make new friends by being nice and smiling (but not to annoying) and laugh a lot, because people apparently love laughing. Except unhappy people or serious people I guess if you look at it that way. Don't transform yourself though. Think of a person or a personality you would think a person would have that would make you want to be around, and be that person. If that makes sense. Also, don't be afraid to say stuff, quiet people normally don't get that much credit. So try putting yourself out there, and be ready for anything anyone might say. Just try to be confident with yourself, you'll get the hang of it(:
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high school is one of those times where it comes and goes, and noone makes a passing glance at who you were then, but what you become in the future. i wouldn't worry about joining the "popular kids." it's really not that fun, you have to always worry about what you say and how you act to keep cool. i know you probably don't like hearing this but it's a pretty stale environment, it ain't as good as it seems from the outside, unless you want superficial relationships. be yourself, you'll find your own clique that'll make you much much happier and you'll grow into yourself and be more confident, b/c THAT'S what matters. so don't act a particular way, find your own talents and tastes and pursue them, and trust me you'll find a bunch of cool people in the process that you wouldn't want to give up!
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Well, it helps if you understand what true populartiy really means. Being popular means being liked and respected by everyone... not just a handful of people in the "cool group."
A lot of people don't understand that. They think that hanging around a certain group will make them popular. So they put all their energy into impressing and befriending that small handful of people. Sometimes they succeed, and they get accepted into that group. But that doesn't get them real, lasting popularity. Because the cool group is constantly changing. The people who seem to be "all that" right now will eventually be dethroned by someone else. And if those are your only friends, you'll be yesterday's news right along with them.
Think of it this way: let's say you want to run for class president, or homecoming queen, or captain of your sports team. You'll need a lot more votes than just the 10-15 people who are currently "cool." You'll need a majority of the people in your school voting for you. Which means you'll need to be truly "popular" - liked and respected and admired by a whole lot of different people.
So the key to being popular is to be nice and friendly to everyone... and I mean *everyone*. The cool people, the nerdy people, the sporty people, the emo people, even the people who no one else likes. It doesn't mean you have to be best friends with all of them, it just means being nice and treating them all with kindness and respect.
But you can't be fake, because people can see right through that. You have to be sincere, and truly believe that every single person has something to offer and is worthy of your time, attention and friendship. When you have that attitude, you'll find that you'll have a lot of friends - people who like you, and who you like right back. And that's what being popular is all about.
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Stifle your personality and whore out a new one listed below.
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I agree with the previous advice.
I just moved this year, and have gooten to be pretty well-known. The reason? I was outgoing. I talked to everyone, no matter who it was. I smile like way to much. I also help people with their homework and give them easy ways to understand something.
The only reason you can be "cool" is by being yourself. Act nice. Be friendly. Don't fall into peer pressure.
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Conceited as it may be, I am one of the most popular people at my school.
Argue all you want, but putting yourself out there is the ONLY way to become popular. After all, how would you expect people to know and like you if they don't even know you?
I'm popular because I'm too nice and I care too much about everybody. I make sure that people think that about me by not being rude to people and being open-minded.
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