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One of my closest friends typed this Note on Facebook:
I'm sick of this teenage girl drama.
If you have a problem with me then just say it. I'm not going to sit around and put up with you "joking around" because I know there's a not just a grain of truth behind it, it's a damn truck load. You people are so immature.
Oh boo freaking hoo, I talk to your boyfriend. What's the big deal? Is he not allowed to have FRIENDS? Do you keep that tight of a leash on him? Shows how much trust you have in that wonderful person.
I've been spending my summer, no, my LIFE, trying to cut you people out of my everyday routine. How do you manage to come crawling back? By tricking me into thinking you're genuine EVERY GOD DAMN TIME. Well, you'll be glad to know that I'm sick of you and I'm not going to be putting up with how immature you people are any more. I'm completely and utterly cutting you from my life for good.
If you see me at school? Don't talk to me. If you see me on the street? Don't talk to me. If you see me in a dream? Don't talk to me. I swear to God, I want nothing to do with you ever again.
Congratulations on succeeding in being the most ridiculously immature, ignorant and self absorbed people that have ever stepped foot into my life. Oh, and for the record, you should feel pretty happy that I let you in my life for that long because you REALLY did not deserve it.
Fin.
=/ I don't know what to say. I don't know who she's referring to but I just want to let her know that it's okay and that I'm there for her. I'm good at caring but I never really know what to say.
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If your really close friends, and your curious of what's going on in her life don't be afraid to ask her, as long as this thing isn't about you haha. Just point blank say "Is everything okay? I read your note on facebook and I'm just letting you know if you want to tell me you totally can(: I'm just curious, but you don't have to tell me if you don't want to(:" just plain and simple! She can't get mad at you if your not forcing her to tell you what its about, does that make sense? I think it'll be fine, just let her know that your here for her and your lucky to have a friend like her! (: hope I helped!
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Alright, so me and my best friend are EXTREMELY close. We can tell each other anything and we trust each other completely. We hang out a lot and stuff and we're both addicted to taking pictures and stuff, so we go to the mall and take crazy pictures all the time. According to another of our friends, who is really really honest about anything, we are acting like lesbians? I don't know how, I mean we just like to hang out, like normal "best friends" should. I'm straight and I don't know about my best friend, but she says she is so I believe her. Not that there's anything wrong with lesbians, but if people think you are and you aren't, it can kinda mess up some relationships. I guess what I want to know is; how do you and your best friend act? if it's similair to the way we act, do people call you a lesbian? Thanks! (link)
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Okay I totally see the problem, and there's nothing wrong with you guys at all, its just other people maybe being Shallow, Jealous or Gossipy. But that's totally their problem. I'm with my best friend now acctually, and I don't have a sister or anything but I think having a best friend is exactly the way you described it. Like me and my best friend hug like all the time, doesn't mean we're lesbians right? People hug! And nah I don't think anyone's ever thought that we were lesbians. Maybe people want you two to think that, so you'll become less of bestfriends and other people will steal you away from eachother? It happens! But all I have to say is, that's so rediculous, it seems to me that you two act way more like best friends, because best friends tell eachother everything, can take lots of pictures together, finish eachothers sentences, like the same things or not like the same things and argue all the time but still love eachother! I hope this makes sense! (:
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i have braces and ever since i got them on my teeth arent as white as they used to be. and i brush my teeth. does anyone know what i should do? and what would help? (link)
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I no the feeling! I had braces. And its pretty hard to brush. Okay so, go to target and get "Listerine Whitening" its like mouth wash, but it makes your teeth whiter it looks like this: http://www.theimpulsivebuy.com/images/listerinewhitening.jpg
Your supposed to rinse with that first, then brush your teeth. I advise you to use "Crest Pro Health" Tooth paste which looks like this : http://www.dentist.net/images/crest-prohealth-toothpaste.jpg
And after that, use the regular green mint flavored listerine, I would because it'll make your breath smell really good. Haha. I hope it helped! That what I use, and my teeth are for sure getting whiter! :D
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Whats going on?
ok me and this guy started talking 2 weeks ago, we started talking on aim and on the phone, we would talk to eachother for 6 hours a day on aim and we would sleep in 5am i kinda had a crush on him he's funny and nice. and we were flirty too in a way, and one day we were sharing secrets all the time and he said tell me something that i dont know and i said umm im a natural flirt and he was all haha i knew it and he became a little quiet and he began to talk again, and next day he was okay but he becoming quiet again and he signed off at 2am but he usually stay on till 5am and the next day again he texted me saying "wheres my lunch? haha im at mcdonalds" cause we bet on it and then after that he didnt talk to me on aim like he ALWAYS do cause he always im me right when i get on but now he wont anymore is there something wrong? whats going on?
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He could be losing intrest, you know like, doing the same thing over and over. Like you said, he always IM's you and you talk from this time to that time. And I know what you mean exactly. Maybe you could shake it up a little bit. By first asking him something like "Are you mad at me?" and he'll probobly say "No, why?" then you could say "Well, it just seems like your avoiding me a little or something, I just noticed that and I was wondering why you don't talk to me like before and stuff." Don't make it too "All up in his face" but Don't make it like easy for him to tell you nothing is that matter, becuase you so have the right to know. I know it's hard to ask guys things like this, some girls think they'll get mad at them and never talk to them again. But trust me, most guys aren't that heartless. And maybe if you guys get back to normal, you could bring up hanging out in person and going to the mall or something else you guys have in common? Just an idea! Make things a little less, re-played. If that makes sense. Well I hope something works out! And that I sparked something, if not I hope you get really great advice! :D
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Okay So I have an out break of acne on my forehead, right. Well I hate it . IT's everywhere. It's SO embarresing I've tried all the products that say will work like the "wave" clearisill, neutrogena, etc. Is there any house hold products that'll work
LIKE some people have suggested lemon juice will that help it go away, or irritate it? 17 days till school gotta get these zitz gone. asap (link)
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Well, some people say the inside of a banana peel works? Other's say, just put a hot/warm wash cloth over your zits, pop some or just ones that are big because it attracks the white blood cells they'll pop easier, then put toner on them or neo sporin and they'll be gone in 1 to 2 days. And the lemon juice really depends on how sensitive your skin is. If your skin isn't sensative at all, maybe try it but I wouldn't keep it on your skin for very long. I have the same problem, its becuase of my side bangs, I had a TON of zits like in that area andI could never put my bangs back behind my ear and I have the habbit of that. So I pretty much understand, I've had a lot of acne. But what I use, besides household products, is Acne Free, and I used it night and day for about 3 days or 4 days. And I swear to god, it cleared up my face SO good. I'm so serious. Well, I hope something helped you or sparked an idea? Good luck(:
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ok. i'm 15 from IL. my friend has the hugest crush on my other friend. but shes so oblivious that she doesn't even realize it. should i tell her, or should i just let the chips fall where they may? (link)
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I would say, give her hints he likes her. But don't tell her straight away and don't make it obvious. Also first before you do anything, you could casually do in to a conversation like "So, who do you think is hot at our school?" and like name off guys untill you get to the person who likes her. And then if she says lie "9" then you could say "Oh do you like him?" and if she says yes, you could say things like "you guys would be so cute together" or "I should ask if he likes you.. should I?". Or if she already does like him, then don't say anything, and just see what happens. But I'd say if nothing happens for a while and they still like eachother, maybe step in but don't make a big approach if that makes sense. That's what I'd do! (: Hope something helped.
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i know alot of people that get drunk on the weekend. for some reason i just really want to try it. is this like bad? i mean i dont think drinking is that bad.. it's not like smoking pot or anything. and i wouldn't get so wasted that i'd endanger myself. what do you think? (link)
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That's totally normal, trust me, me and my friend were like that in 7th grade, we didn't really do anything in 7th because we waited untill 8th grade, and then we started "Trying" it. and yeah its not that bad, but if you do it to much you can get alcohol poisoning, and if its really bad the docotors pump your stomach. So I'd advice you to get "tispy" first, before going like all out wasted. And if you know your going to not endanger yourself that I guess so, and if your not getting caught also and if your with friends who you trust then yeah. And I mean if you just want to try it and your not gonna do it all day everyday like some people, then its probobly not bad. At least everyone in public schools who aren't like, goody-goody, have at least drank or been drunk once.
Hope something helped.
BE CAREFUL!
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17/f
How can I keep my hands from smelling like smoke? I've tried Dawn, Febreeze, soaking them in lemon juice, cutting my nails...any ideas?
No lectures please. I already know I shouldn't be smoking. Thank you! (link)
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I know a guy right next to my locker, who acctually sprays himself with either Axe or perfume becuase it smells really strong and he says it works. So you could use like perfume and something strong. Or wash your clothes right after you smoke. And think of things that ae really heavy and stuff, because Febreeze and stuff doesn't do that much use its too light.
Hope something helped.
Even thought I don't really smoke.
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pros/cons of smoking pot
health risks that are proven, if any
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Okay here are just some off the top of my headd.
Good things.
-You get high
-It feels good
-It can't really hurt you if you do it sometimes and not all the time
-Its' chill and not really that bad
Bad things.
-If your high and you drive, you could get into an accident by driving super fast and sometimes to slow but I don't think driving slow will get you in an accident
-smoking too much can cause cancer in the neck, head, ect as in like tumors and stuff
-If your caught you can go to Juvi, I know a lot who have from dealing it and stuff.
-Its pretty bad for you lungs andyour brain
And that's all I got now.
Hope something helped.
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14/M
Is it wrong to make out 1 week after the first date? (link)
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Well it depends. If she wants to, I'd say go for it! Becuase a lot of girls probobly would want to, unless they don't if that makes sense. Make sure she's okay with it first, either by asking her yourself, or getting one of your friends to ask her but tell not to say you wanted to know, just ask them if they could ask her really casually. But I don't think its wrong at all. Go for it. Hope something helped! :D
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so this guy i like who is kinda interested in me imed me and it was his frends over who are girls and they were like calling me a ho and stuff and like hey your crush wants to video chat with you he wants to hear your beautiful voice and messing around with me what does this mean...does he like me...oh he knos i like him (link)
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Jeeze, that sounds kind of mean. Well yeah he might like you if they're messing with him. But my advice, is if you talk to him MAKE SURE your talking to HIM. So, like if you talk to him on aim, don't always believe its him or not, because it might not be. I would say talk to him in person or on the phone or maybe texting if you guys have it. Hope something helped. (:
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Ok, so 15/f...
I get along with pretty much everyone in my class. But, there's this one girl who just goes out of her way to bother me =( It's like effecting my self esteem. I don't understand why she acts this way. Like, I'll just be sitting there and she'll say something funny so I'll laugh and next thing I know she's all like "Did I tell you you could laugh?!" Ugh I hate her. But I can't just ignore her because I feel so totally stupid and self-conscious because of the way she calls me out in front of everyone =(
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Well she's a bitch. Totally don't worry about her, and I mean your not being bullied but you should look up on Google.com "Kristina Calco" and read her story about what happend.
She commited suicide because of things like this, but her condition was WAY worse. So its good your at least on this, because your talking about it and we're all here to help, and we're on your side(:
And, she's probobly doing that because she's jealous of you, and she probobly says things like "Did I tell yoiu you could laugh?!" Because she feels like, you won't say anything back to her, so she can say what she wants, which she can't. If I were you I would say "Oh kay, whatever.." and give her some sass,
and see what she does. If she EVER gets physical with you, TELL SOMEONE RIGHT AWAY. Or if she threats you do that to! You could also try to make friends with her, but sometimes people don't understand that that doesn't always work. You could also have a friend with you that you trust, and will help you stick up for yourself? A lot of people have self esteem issues all over the place, so don't feel alone!
Even I do. Everyone is insecure, or at least most normal people. But anyways, I know the feeling of being called out infront of everyone, but call her out to. Say something that you know will make her look way more stupid. Look at it through her point of view, and if you said that to someone, think of a comeback you would hate for someone to say to you. If that makes sence. And use it! Dont let her walk all over you.
I hope something really helped!
Best of luck! :DD
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What should I do? I can't take my family anymore. No one talks to each other...I'll elaborate in steps of a typical night:
1. I get home from school.
2. Mom gets home from work (comes in says hello and thats it)
3. Brother gets home and tells me to F!@# myself and calls me a "homo"
4. I go up to my bedroom because of them
5. Step dad gets home, goes into basement... no one says anything to him but my mom... about five minutes later he'll be on his blackberry, emailing people from work
6. Everyone goes to their own part of he house Me: my bedroom Brother: his room Mom: kitchen/bedroom/goes out Stepdad:basement (Tv)
I can't do it anymore we're so isolated. What should i do
PS ive tried a lot already and mom uses the exscuse that i figh with her so she has no desire to talk to me. (link)
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Kay well, for starters, Don't listen to your brother he sounds like he's being a jerk and tell him to shut up or something. Find a big flaw from him, and pick at it untill he breaks. Well thats what normally works, but all brothers do that, trust me mine do that all the time. Also, I can totally see why you feel the way you do, maybe you could try talking to your mom without giving her "Tone" or anything so she won't get pissed at you adn start a fight, maybe talk about something you guys could all do together, I know going out with the family might be embaressing or something. But maybe if you guys all just go out for dinner that would be good. Or maybe go bowling or something? Also, you proboly want to start by GETTING ALONG with your brother, and I know its really hard, it took me a while, but start by being nice to him (after your mean to him but its your choice if you want to or not) and see what you guys have in common and hang out and get closer, then move on to your mom, talk to her about her day or something, really small things can make any parent happy, then go on to your step dad, talk to him in the basement when he's not using the phone or something. I'm not saying its completely up to you to get the family together, but you can always have a small start and hopfully it'll get really big and you guys will be fine! :D
Hope something helped! Good luck! :D
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I just started going out with this guy today. His birthday is tomorrow. Should I do anything special?
We've liked each other since january.
He missed my birthday Friday because he wasn't at school. (link)
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Well since you just started going out, he must like you a lot now. So think of anything that he might like, my advice would be don't go too over the top. Unless your like, throwing him a party or something. Birthday's can be pretty big. But it depends how old they're turning. Otherwisee, think of things he likes, if its food or cars or music or something, think along the lines of that, be creative you'll think of something, or bake him a cake! :D
Good luck, hope something helped.
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well i have this friend that i like but i dont want to tell her that i like her we just have such good chemistry together we've made out a few times before but i dont know what to do anymore. (link)
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If you've made out a few times, she probobly likes you too. Give it a shot and tell her. Or you could get one of your friends, who's friends with her and get them to ask her if she likes anyone and then casually bring up your name and see what she says, just incase she doesn't like you. Because it wouldn't be good if you told her and she said "Uhh, no?!".
I hope something helped you out(: Good luck.
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music to get pumped up
What are some good songs that get people pumped up? (link)
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Obsessed with you - The Orion Experience
Fer Sure - The Medic Droid *
DoltDuece and Nitti - Duece Poppi
Nosebleed 2003 Recharged - Hilltop Hoods
Junkyard - The Potbelleez *
Bottoms up - keke
Shake it - Metro station
I stand alone - Godsmack *
Greed - Godsmack
Decptacon - Le tigre
Bet that - trick daddy *
I wish - Skee-low
No. 5 - hollywood undead
What I go - sublime
I like money - MILLIONAIRES
Pretty rave girl - I Am X-ray *
Are you gonna be my girl - jet
Drop - ying yang twins
Feli Akon Diddy Ludacris - DJ felli fel
Writing on the walls - underOATH
Get 2 da money - Duece Poppi
Make me High - DJ Temptation *
Panama - Van Halen
Any godsmack song for sure.
Any heavy metal.
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14/f okay so i've been depressed and cutting myself for like almost a year now, and about a month or so ago my parents found out, so they put me in therapy and stuff. so now my whole family knows about me (mom, dad, sister, 3 brothers, and step-mom). plus my 2 best friends no. every second of the day my family stares at me and comes in my room like every five minutes to 'check up' and its so annoying! i have no where i can go to be alone and it's like i'm trapped. everywhere i turn someone is trying to get inside my head and asking how i feel and its just so annoying. a couple months ago i tried to commit suicide and obviuosly failed and no one knows i'm suicidal accept for my 2 best friends, my parents think im fine. i lie to my therapist every time i go saying i didnt cut and that im fine but i'm not! all i can think about is going home and cutting and i always fantisize about dieing. its sickining and i hate how all i want to do is die and im afraid that i'll get really mad and actually do it and succeed this time. i have no where to turn and i just need answers. please help. (link)
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Okay, Okay. Well I don't know you so I'm not going to judge you or anything, but sounds like you have a lot on your mind right now. All your parents are wanting to do is help you, and oh jeeze, trust me, I know what you mean with the whole people trying to get in your head, wanting to know where you are and what your doing every second, having no privacy and thinking things like wanting to run away and live some where else. But right now, they're taking care of you and the want to know your safe. And I know it sucks, but suicide? not the way to take care of it. And cutting yourself, isn't that great of a thing to do. I mean, I don't think I've ever cut myself but I have a lot of friends who have or still do. Not a lot of people know why they're depressed, maybe you feel sufficated in the first place? it sounds to me like you have a big family, and your parents got divorced? It sounds like you have it pretty rough. If you really want all of this to stop, if I were you I'd just tell the therapist straight up how you feel, and you can tell him/her things, and say "keep this confidential" because ive been to like 3 counselors, therapists or whatever, and they will. Or most of them will. You can just ge it over with and tell her everything, I mean, the more you stall by saying everything is okay when its not, it'll only get worse. Think back to when you didn't feel trapped, if you ever didn't feel trapped, and think of whats different and what changed between then and now. You can completly fix it, but that's the thing is your the only one who can chose between the suicidal road, or life? Sometimes thoughts and fantasies go through people's heads, and they don't even know why. The saying "everything happens for a reason" isn't always nessacerily true. People are just worried about you because they care, and they want you to be healthy. But you should sit them down and talk to them about how you really want privacy in your life, and they can trust you, but you have to trust yourself that you won't do all that stuff if you don't even want to. No matter how much that sounded like a confusious line right there, Its cool. I really hope something helped, don't commit suicide, theres so much more to life that you'll do, and just think, in like 4 years you'll be free. Good luck. (:
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So i'm on a mission, to get myself more musically involved, im sure you all agree to music is life, okay well my dream has always been to play the guitar, so i decided Im going to try, I was thinking about just buying a cheap acoustic from like Target, that way if I decided for some reason I don't like it, i didn't waste a lot of money, I'm a college kid without a job during the schcool year, so yeah... first of all what do you think of that, buying one of those cheap guitars to learn on? secondly (please don't judge me) I honestly have not a freaking clue on how to read music, i know thats horrible, how can i try without that, so does anybody know of a really good book to learn from, like musicc reading for dummies or something? i looked on amazon and stuff but there are soooo many and i have not a freaking clue, I'm overwhelmed by it all. oh and not like super expensive, again theres a big problem with money, but could you say ya, you'll be able to learn, and its easy to understand, cause i'm definately not the brightest crayon in the box. Anyway I really need somebody's help. Even if you think I'm ridiculous, but I really want to do this. please tell me what you think. Brutaly honest.
So im doing this right.. learn to read music, then learn how to play?
thanks for all your help
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Okay, haha, well you defidently got the part on learning how to read music and then playing, but you can also learn the music while your playing if that makes sense. I've only been playing guitar maybe since december I think.
And I love it! For the cheap guitar thing, I guess that's okay but make sure the strings are good, and if you tune it make sure they're sturdy and they won't break. Also, I don't know if target is the greatest place to get one. My advice is to look for a guitar at a local music store, because then you can look for a cheap one, but if you don't find one, you can still always ask the sales person for a lot of advice.
As crazy as it is, most people who work at music stores know a thing or two about guitars(: also, when you start playing, it kind of depends on your string type, but you'll probobly get little calases (sp?) on the tips of your fingers, so don't stop playing if you fingers hurt really bad, because all that's happening is they're getting used to having all the pressure put down on them from the strings.
For the learning to read music, you could grab a "Guitar lessons for beginers" book or something. And it helps you a lot, and maybe if you have a friend or know someone who does guitar they can help you. Also, you can go on Ultimate guitar.com and look up things called "tabs" which is like, 6 lines with letters "e B G D A E" at the ends, and those letters are pretty much the names of the strings.
And then the numbers on the end are the frets. You can go on google and look up "Guitar frets" "Guitar tabs" and stuff to learn about it, also on You Tube there's A TON of people playing guitar, and theres chords and everything, you can go here to learn a really easy basic song : http://youtube.com/watch?v=gf0zC65UHyM and you can just copy her. (:
I know this is super long, but i hope something helped, Guitar is amazing, good luck. (:
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so there is this guy im interested in and i swear i seriously suck at flirting.
i want him to be able to talk to me.and notice me. and get to know me, what should i do? he seems kinda not really shy. (link)
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Well, trust me, I have been there plenty of times, and I probobly will later on. I totally know what you mean, its hard to be the one to walk up to someone and talk to them, and get them to notice you and everything. I know this may sound a little stalkerish, but it worked for me. Find out by either talking to him, or his friends or something, and see what he really likes, find out what you two have in common, I noticed guys really like, down to earth girls they can talk to with things they each have in common with eachother. I don't know who he is, or what he likes, so I can't exactly give you all the information.
But say if he's into rock music and skate boarding, maybe you could listen to some of the music he does, or ask him about it. Maybe he could teach you to skateboard once you get close. For him to notice you, you could just smile a lot and be really really friendly. But not too fake looking. And make sure he sees you at least 5 times a day. Then he'll maybe walk up to you. Its okay though, because I really suck at flirting, and you don't even really have to "Flirt" the first few times. Just make sure he sees you as a relaxed nice girl to talk to. I really hope it works out for you! :D
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i'm 15 girl that's a sophmore in highschoool!
i want to be popular
and i don't want the typical advice like put yourself out there..it does not work or help! (link)
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Okay, well if you don't want to be yourself, you can test out a bunch of make up, exercise, join clubs/dance/other things you like. Make new friends by being nice and smiling (but not to annoying) and laugh a lot, because people apparently love laughing. Except unhappy people or serious people I guess if you look at it that way. Don't transform yourself though. Think of a person or a personality you would think a person would have that would make you want to be around, and be that person. If that makes sense. Also, don't be afraid to say stuff, quiet people normally don't get that much credit. So try putting yourself out there, and be ready for anything anyone might say. Just try to be confident with yourself, you'll get the hang of it(:
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