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I've had pretty good skin up until this year, a little more acne and my skin's splotchier. I'm SUPER fair, also. I need help figuring out what products to get.
Acne isle- What face washes/cleansers should I get to clear up my acne and would make my complexion better?
Cosmetics- What foundation (I like powder foundations) could I get that would hide my imperfections without making me look like a porcelain doll? I used to use this product-http://www.beautyrose.com/pressedpowder.html
and it did the perfect job but it's a little too expensive.
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first off it's always best to go to a dermatologist to see which products complement your specific skin type on all product levels.
it's good to wash, not scrub, your face gently w/soap cleanser at least once a day. good ones are aveeno or cetaphil. acne toners are good to apply before you go to bed(put lotion over it though b/c your skin may get dry), or in the morning before you apply your makeup and sunblock. ooh yeah you have to wear sunscreen everyday, just in case you don't it's really important! good toners should have sacylic acid(something like that). neutrogena is a good one.
as for foundations, unfortunately you're going to have to run some trial and error experiments on that to see which ones don't make you break out. it really depends on your skin complexion, whether it's more oily or dry. also if your acne gets real bad i know some people who took acutane(you need prescription) and it really makes a difference. but that's for severe cases. best of luck w/the fight against raging hormones!
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i'm 15 girl that's a sophmore in highschoool!
i want to be popular
and i don't want the typical advice like put yourself out there..it does not work or help! (link)
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high school is one of those times where it comes and goes, and noone makes a passing glance at who you were then, but what you become in the future. i wouldn't worry about joining the "popular kids." it's really not that fun, you have to always worry about what you say and how you act to keep cool. i know you probably don't like hearing this but it's a pretty stale environment, it ain't as good as it seems from the outside, unless you want superficial relationships. be yourself, you'll find your own clique that'll make you much much happier and you'll grow into yourself and be more confident, b/c THAT'S what matters. so don't act a particular way, find your own talents and tastes and pursue them, and trust me you'll find a bunch of cool people in the process that you wouldn't want to give up!
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Hi there, I'm a senior in high school and I'm about to make the first big decision ever, where I want to go to college. I live in San Antonio, Texas and I got accepted to UTSA (in San Antonio) and ASU (in San Angelo about 3 hours away).
I have a scholarship (2,000) to ASU and I have no scholarship at UTSA, but I'm afraid to move 3 hours away from my parents. I'm really stuck between these two choices and I have to make up my mind soon.
So, with that being said.. if you could choose, would you go to UTSA and live with your parents? Or, would you go to ASU and be three hours away from your parents?
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i agree w/ainne, do you really need that scholarship, and which campus do you feel more at home?
if still you're unsure, consider what your future major will be and which campus offers a better program. if it's still a tie, or depending on your priorities, i think it's a good idea to stay at home if you're close to your family. b/c you're still young and it's good to remain in that comfort zone you've grown up in, it's a good buffer when you enter the college world. it's really good your considering the distance apart from your family, but don't beat yourself to it. 3 hours isn't that far, nor is it close but don't let that stop you from enjoying it if ASU is your first choice. hope i was any help, and good luck, those are really good schools!!
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So i'm having a "dance party" in about 2 weeks and i really need some good dancing music to put in a playlist for the party. i need like "grinding" songs almost.. sorry if you're against that "type" of dance or don't even consider it dancing, but thats the kind of music i'm looking for..
also if you have and love songs that would be really helpful too, seeing as i really like this guy but idk if it'll ever work out =/ (link)
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do you mean slow love songs? these are some oldies my favorites there are a lot more, but i'm not sure if this is what you're looking for. good luck!
thompson twins-hold me now
bryan adams-pretty much all his songs
spandau ballet-true
bee gees-more than a woman; how deep is your love
hall and oates-kiss is on my list
johnny mathis-chances are (this is really sweet)
van morrison-dancing in the moonlight
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my guy friend likes me and i like him too, any subtle ways of flirting? not too much bcs he is still my friend and i don't want to come off too strong and scare him, just a little... (link)
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i'm kind of in the same situation,except i don't know if my guy friend likes me or not. so i asked him to check this restaurant out with me. it worked.we got the chance to spend time alone, and it was a lot of fun. and though i thought that me initiating this was bold and upfront, he didn't seem to mind. so if you're sure your friend likes you, i bet he won't say no. but if he's shy or not comfortable alone w/you yet, then go w/a group but focus on him more if you can, so eventually it's just you and him. honestly the best way to flirt in my opinion is to go out w/him and try out something new that you can both share. you can also tease him or gently touch his arm, laugh w/him, talk to him more, that shows you're interested. hope i helped some.
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Sorry this is a book. So my boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months. He is my first big relationship (I'm 28 and he's 25) and I am completely in love with him. This past Wednesday night (the night before Valentine's Day... can you say PRESSURE?), I really screwed up. He was out with his best friend, and was going to call me when he was on his way back home to meet me, but for some reason I panicked and started over-dialing. I called him three times between 8pm and 9pm and then 5 more times between 9 and 11. I left a total of 5 messages which got increasingly bitchy, and also called his roommate 3 times to see if he'd gotten home and forgotten to call. I know this could have all been avoided if I had just called him once and let it be, or if he had picked up his phone after the first call, but I started having a panic attack and freaked. Needless to say, he's furious with me and hasn't spoken to me since we met for a brief period on Thursday so I could try to explain myself. He told me at that time that he was considering breaking up with me, but that we'd have dinner on Sunday night (tonight), and we'd try to work things out. I'm beating myself up, because I know I screwed up and don't know how to fix it. And now I desperately afraid he's just going to leave me hanging. I'm afraid his best friend has convinced him to dump me (she's mad at me too), and I'm pissed at myself for having a big mouth about it and talking to people that we mutually know (they asked because I look like hell) about the situation. I'm also upset on top of all of this because I just started seeing a therapist to try and work on my anxiety issues. But I still basically took all of the personal space we had between one another and threw it out the window. I don't want to lose him. He's my best friend, my anchor, the person I trust and love most outside my immediate family. What do I do? How can I mend this? I feel like my heart is broken. Thanks... (link)
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i know how you feel, many times i've been in that situation where i've been over anxious and paranoid and keep pestering whomever it is, and then hating myself for acting up over nothing in the first place. it's very good that you recognize that what you've done could have been avoided..right now i don't think you should stress on your boyfriend's friend and how she's influencing him.if she's pissed too, well so what,a relationship has room for only two. right now you might want to give him some space, when he says he's thinking about breaking up over that, it's probably just an initial defensive reaction. just let him think it over and then find the right time to talk about it, or maybe he'll come around to talk w/you. and if he truly loves you, then this is mendable. noone is perfect, and being in a relationship means you have to commit to your partner all the way. he needs to know you're distressed, not through his friend's eyes, b/c how you feel right now it's very clear that you care for him.he needs to see that. just don't stress, i know that's very very difficult, but the calmer you are, the better you can communicate w/him when the time comes. it just takes patience and time. i really hope i helped. if you need more help let me know.
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i really want a treadmill and i was gonna buy one from Walmart for like 300 with my own money but my dads like oh you cant buy one blah blah blah.
i want to know which ones better, an elliptical or a treadmill.
i only have like 300 dollars to spend on one. and i wanted this treadmill from walmart, but my dads being a party pooper and wont let me. http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=6561182
and i don't know if ellipticals are good. so which one will tone my abs and legs/butt better an elliptical or treadmill? (link)
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ellipticals are much easier/safer on the knees, but you can still get a really good workout on them just as you would on a treadmill. but if you have good knees going out running on cement is a lot harder and more of a workout than a treadmill since there's more friction.
the good thing is that you can change the ramp incline/speed, or select a specific routine exercise program that's set up in the machine. you need to ease into it, but honestly both are good on the butt and quads, esp. when you do quick spurts of high intensity workouts on high incline, that'll do the trick :) you can buy an elliptical but run outside maybe.
hope i helped.
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well so this year i somehow got voted the winter ball queen and my boyfriend jake is the winter ball king. but the day before we found this out i decided to break up with him. hes really started to get super clingy and hes all over me all the time which i totally cant tolerate and yes ive talked to him but it hasnt gotten any better. just i wonder if i should still break up with him before winter ball because of the court thing and all. but then again i definatly couldnt stand being his date to the dance. so idk what to do. advice please and thanks :) (link)
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you don't have to do something you don't want to. and it'd be worse if you were dancing together where everyone notices your breakup afterwards, pple will misinterpret your intentions and you can come off as a jerk. so just don't make it a big deal or a topic of discussion. can you go talk to those who counted the polls or who were responsible for announcing winter queen? i don't know how that stuff works, but go see who's in charge, and tell them you don't want to be queen(you don't have to tell them the story about breaking up, you can say you don't want your friend to be upset, for example). and they can play it off like they miscounted the votes and they'll announce second place instead. if you don't like to do that, then just go to the dance w/him, but make it known that you're both taking it easy(make sure he's in on it too), so later on when people do find out you've broken up, it wouldn't seem so sudden like you were taking advantage of him or something. i hope that was some help.
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So I've been talking to this guy and he's really nice, sweet, charming. Basically, perfect. He talks to me like he likes me, he's told me that he feels a 'connection' with us.
The thing is, I feel like he tells every girl he talks to, the same exact thing. Then that makes me think that maybe I'm wasting my time or something?
Should I just let him go and forget about him or what? (link)
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make sure you know that as a fact that he tells every girl the same thing, you want to be sure and you don't want to have doubts when you're in a relationship. but if that's what is commonly thought of him, then chances are he's the kind of guy who doesn't put all his eggs in one basket, as in he'll take whoever girl who takes his compliments to heart first. you want to be w/someone you're sure wouldn't be surrounding themeselves around girls,trust your gut if this is how you feel about him. as charming as he may be, it's not as special and meaningful as when you're with someone who's charming only to YOU. i hope this was helpful.you're smart for not going into it right away and for thinking it through, you'll be okay.
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i'm seriously getting scared. i used to have insanely thick hair, and i hated it. i always got it thinned, and even after it was thinned it was so thick. throughout this past 1-2 months, my hair's been falling out like crazy. it's seriously more than 1/2 way thinner than it used to be. i just combed my hair, and seriously my sink was covered with hair. i've always had long, thick hair and i'm getting so scared. my diet hasn't really changed, and I don't think that i'm stressed? i kinda was during exam week, but i didn't thik it was that bad? maybe it's the dry weather? not only is it breaking off (from straightening so much) but it's mainly actual full strands.. idk what to do and i'm getting so nervous because it's so thin now.. what could it be??&what can i do? (link)
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you need to give your hair a break from all those chemicals, and thick hair is good, you don't want to have so little hair that it sticks to your scalp. yeah i agree getting a blood test is a really good idea, plus take daily multivitamins. and take selenium and magnesium, you can buy them at any drugstore, i think.
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Okay, well this is partially another 'does this guy like me' kind of question.
I have a guy friend, and my best friend's locker is right next to his. I want him to notice me as MORE THAN A FRIEND. I've always had this issue with guys, whereas they like me as 'just a friend'. However, my problem is that I prefer having guys as friends for a couple of months or so, and then trying to get them to like me as more. My guy friend is kinda shy. I see him talking to a few girls sometimes [maybe once a week], and I'm fine with that. I had a class with him last semester, and we talked all the time. Every time he passes me in the hallway, he raises his eyebrows and says 'hey', and keeps walking. Our classes are scattered all throughout the building, so it's not like we can just walk to class together and talk. However, he had Cooking with me this semester, and my friends told me that they say him looking at me a lot. We would always joke in that class, stuff like that. Now, he transferred to another class, and he's in the class across the hall, literally a few steps away from my classroom door to his classroom door.
I mean, it's great that we're friends and stuff, and we talk quite frequently when I'm by his locker, but how do I get him to slow down and notice me? We might end up going to different high schools [we're in junior high], and I want him to look at me as more than a friend. I'm really shy, so please don't say 'just give him your number, or ask him to hang out', because I also do not want to look desperate.
In depth advice is appreciated. Please actually put some effort into your answer.
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hey,
that's a big problem i always had, actually now i have a similar problem with my guy friend right now! i wouldn't tell you to ask him out or get his number either, that's too bold too soon. so it's perfect that your best friend's locker is next to his, go hang around there more often, initiate little conversations with him, let him get to know you better, instead of staring at you during class wondering who you are! mention your hobbies,classes,usual stuff you tell your friends. and yet make it known that he's your exclusive audience, then he'd get the point. you can also go to your friend's locker after school, where chances are he'll be there too, so then just walk out of school together. that can lead to hanging out and talking for longer periods after school's over, and just take it from there. i hope i helped.
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im invited to this girls 14th birthday party. she only invited 20 people. we used to be best friends in 6th grade and were in love with eachother she told me she liked me but i wasnt in the mood so i said i didnt like her. that was in 6th grade. over that summer we totally lost contact by the next party she hated me then a month later school, she didnt notice me. i dont like her. she is creepy she is the gothic skater but too hyper and im a preppy jock she said. so its now end of 8th grade. since then her and her best friend they are always with eachother and they grew up around eachother, they keep falling for eachother but their friendship stays. i havent really thought about her till now she gave ME an invintation. i havent really talked to her since 6th grade. she changed so much since 6th shes the total oppasite i guess. im not the one to go to parties i never was. she always is she just has fun and talks to anyone. but she looks so miserable when shes not with any friends you can see the very deep pain in her eyes but shes so good at hiding it. her other friend told me she just hates life and is having a rough time and he said i dont have enough nerve to hurt her but if i did... i forget what he even said but her guy friends are extremely close to her more than they should be she constintly flirts with them but they say its fine. i want to know what is with her but im afraid of what her friends would say to me or what shed do to me. why did she invite me we dont even talk. what am i supposed to do. should i go or should i not and what do u think is with her? anything else u think or i mentiond please help
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i think you should go, even though she hasn't talked much to you, even though she's changed (at least on the exterior), the fact that she's invited you means you're still in her thoughts. she may notice how you can sense her lonliness, it could be a message that she wants you there, or that you'd be a close person to talk to. since you've lost contact, there are many reasons why she's acting different, it could be her family you never know. so yeah go for it, don't expect anything, as in whether you're going to have fun or not, just go as a favor for a friend. i hope i helped. good luck!
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i abosolutely cannot focus. no matter waht i do i procrastinate mroe than anything else in the world. I don't have add, so thats not the problem. ITs like i think of something else i wana do like paint my nails or look up a video on yourtube, and then i can;t do anything else until i do it. PLeasessee tell me a way i can fix it! (link)
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i like to check out random stuff on youtube too, if you don't need to do work on it just keep your comp. turned off, force yourself to not do those distracting things you want to do. discipline yourself by making a timed schedule, planning how much of your hw you want to complete in a given time, then treat yourself to putting on nail polish and other fun things! it's not as fun when you've got work on your mind, so leaving it till when you have free time makes it special. very impt: keep yourself busy, join a club/sports team or learn an instrument, where you won't have time to dilly daddle. hope i helped :)
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my best friend killed himself 4 months ago. ive been literally a mess ever since. My mind is fucked up. I get soooooo sad if the littlest thing happens, and i am in a relationship right now. we've been togetehr for 5 months. he's been there for me a lot. he goes out and parties a lot, and he tries to fightwith other guys a lot.. whenever something happens, my body starts to shake incredibly, like i get the chills.. ive lost a lot of feelings in myself, like i am not ticklish anymore, have no appetite for food, every second of the day even when things are giong good i just want to die. Its too much pain, ive tried tooo hard to get better, and i did start to get there. now i am just terrible. Its not cause of my boyfriened, its just things he does and every other lilthing can do it too. anything that can possibly be bad or makes me feel like shit hits me one million times harder than a normal person.. i cantkeep giong on like this, i tried depressant pills, they fucked me up worse, i go to counceling.. its just that this is something that continously wears me down soo much physicaly and mentally.. i cant take it much longer.
idk, i need help..
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i'm so sorry for you and your friend. i can relate only through my friend, who suffered extreme depression from family problems, but eventually pulled through and is now incredibly successful. she was focused and resilient. right now you're hurting, but it seems your boyfriend adds stress. maybe you should spend time focusing on yourself w/out having another element in your life right now. and maybe accepting the pain and tragedy and letting your emotions flow over would allow you to heal. it seems you're trying to get over it consciously, just accept it for now and let things pass. i'm sorry if this hasn't helped much, but i can assure you from hearing my friend's story that pain is manageable and life endures. people are capable of pulling out of tragic events to become someone beyond what was imgaginable. because of that, know you have the potential to pull through as well. my friend sought poetry and said it was very comforting during the time, maybe finding a new hobby would help you too. i hope i was any help, and i hope you feel better soon.
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so, i have this guy friend. "jim" (;. we're like best friends, we hang outall the time. my best girl friend & his best guy friend are going out, so usually its the 4 of us. im very attracted to him physically, but i like his personality too, like when im sitting next to him all i want to do is kiss him, but i dont know how to let him know. he's never had a girlfriend, and hes prude, but hes definitely straight. i just dont know if it would be weird. but anyway, i just always want him to hold me, hes so strong, but like when he does touch me i get these little electric shockish things i guess you could say? like my heart skips a beat. i always want to hang out with him too, if we're all gonna hang out i always say "is jim gonna be there?" or "wheres jim?" .. do you think its love or lust? (link)
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love and lust are interrelated, you can't have one w/out the other, but since you guys are really good friends, and you like his personality enough to find attractive, then you are not all consumed by lust, you truly do like him! i question why i like someone too, but you know you like them when you can't flirt w/another guy w/out thinking about "jim" :)
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well i'm 15/f
and i do indoor track. And well of course we have to do pushups. I want to know how i can increase my arm strengths so i'll be able to do pushups! (link)
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your coach can teach you how to use free weights, they help A LOT!! i used to swim too, and i had the loose swimmer's shoulder, so to build muscle i made it a daily routine of free weights everyday(if you can't make it to the gym), and keep record of your limit and not to overdo it. you notice results really fast if you keep it up, and repetition counts more than the actual weight you're lifting. i used 2 pounds and lifted a lot, and it gets tiring! plus awesome results :)
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is confidence really sexy to a guy?, like cause i don't think i'm super attractive, but my personality is pretty good, but i just wanna know if guys like a girl whos confident?
&other ways to know if a guy is into you.
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that's a good question, you'd think all guys would like personality over looks, but unfortunately it doesn't apply to all of them.
it you have confidence in yourself, and that shows through in much more clarity than if you were a drop dead gorgeous model. whether that is counted as sexy or not to a guy, know that the personality factor that you have is what will make you happy and successful, and maybe you'll find someone in the midst of your achievements! good luck and keep being yourself!
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so, theres this boy i like a lot and we might even date. but the pronlem is that all the relationships i've been in before weren't that serious, maybe a hug or a kiss sometimes but not much really. and now that im older im kinda worried because i know when your older and in a relashionship you make out or go further, and i've always worrid about that kinda stuff. i really want to do this stuff but im scared ill mess up and embaress myself, help!!!! (link)
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if he likes you enough to want to go out with you, then he respects you and accepts your concerns. don't be fearful of the future, but know what you want out of a relationship and what you're ready for. if you trust him, then know that he won't push you to a point where you're not comfortable with. just go with the flow and let that time come on its own, and you know what, everyone starts somewhere so you're definitely not alone on being scared!
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