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jealousy/low self asteem when with friend??
My best friend is really pretty. Guys are constantly talkiing to her and commenting on her looks. I feel so awkward just standing therewhile all the guys are allhitting on her. I mean--i'm not ugly but they never do anything like that to me. i feel extremely ugly when i'm with her.I feel bad to be saying this,, but what should i do? liek i feel like im jealous of her maybe?? I don't have a low self esteem any other time--it's just with her. I try not to let it get to me--but after a while it does. How do i get guys to pay attention to me too? and what else should i do?
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Hey girl, just chill and if you're that insecure of your inner and outer beauty when you're with her, just tap her on the shoulder and say i'll catch up with you later and walk away.
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I had the same problem... my best friend was totally gorgeous, and whenever I was with her I felt like an old stump. So I know how you feel. Unfortunately, you can't make your friend any less attractive... but if you dwell on it and let it make you feel bad about yourself, those feeling will show through to others... and that will make YOU less attractive.
Try to think of it this way. Your friend may be the one attracting the guys, but since you're with her, you get to benefit from it! Sure, they may come over to talk to her, but you can join in and start talking to them as well. Instead of leaving or standing there quietly pouting, jump into the conversation and let them get to know you! As someone already said, looks aren't everything: I can think of tons of girls who aren't exactly runway models, but always have the guys' attention because they're friendly, outgoing and full of self confidence. If your attitude is "I have just as much right to their attention as she does", that attitude will shine through and the guys will come to feel that way, too.
I probably wouldn't mention your feelings to your friend, though. That will only make her feel bad or guilty... and after all, she can't help it. Besides, if she's a good friend, she probably already has a hint of how you might feel. If you bring it up, that might put a strain on your friendship.
Good luck! =]
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Hii Honey!!
you have some options here:
1. tell your friend about it. if she understands, maybe she can kind of hint to the boys to hit on you too.
2. be busy when the boys come over. call another friend, and walk to the side and talk to her. or, dont walk alone with this particular friend if you know youll be running into the boys. then, youll have someone to talk to!
leaving dosent work so well if this happens ALL the time. you cant ALWAYS be leaving her.
3. you could just try distancing yourself from your friend, and start hanging out with girls who make you feel good about yourself.
4. (my least favorite, but thats just personally).
change yourself so the boys hit on you too.
The choice is yours!
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Hey! Im Sydney and well i think i know what might help you out a bit. Well, always think positive about yourself. And remember apperance isnt everythin. but anyway i kinda have the same problem and heres how i deal, whenever guys come up to her, just say "hey im ganna go to class or hey im ganna go to lunch" so that you dont have to stand there and feel akward. Also if you feel like you are having low self asteem problems, heres what you should try doin, try getting some guy friends that might think your cute or just get some guy friends just cus, there fun!, trust me and then you can hang out with them when your best friend is talkin to some other guys. If you need anythin else, just ask, hope this helps!
~Sydney~
*Peace, Love, and Happiness* :)
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