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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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I like to think about names for if I ever have kids, and I really love the name Alexei for a boy, but a lot of my friends say it sounds like a girl name. Would this be an ok boy name? Thank you answerers

I would definitely say that Alexei is a unisex name meaning it's okay for both genders.

If you really love the name, and you are sure that's what you would want to name your child, go for it! It's your kid, so anyone's opinion on the name is kind of invalid (unless it's your spouse's opinion, of course).

Besides, the obvious nickname would be Alex. I don't think you have anything to worry about. But don't let anyone stop you from giving your kid the name you want. I see Alexei as a fairly normal name. At least you're not naming them Leaf, or T-Shirt or something.

My husband has 3 children from his previous marriage and has full-custody. We've had custody of them for 3 years now in Texas. Their mother lives in California. She has been unemployed since she moved out there 5 years ago. She makes no efforts to be a "real" part of the kids' lives. She hasn't come to visit, her cell is continuously shut off so calls are limited (once a week or every two weeks). And the children are currently 11, 8, and 6.

The other day the 8 year old asked if I knew why she didn't correct someone when they call me her mom. She then told me she didn't want them to know I was her step-mom. I asked her if she believed it was a bad thing and she told me no, she thinks I am a mom. I told her it was fine if she does that in front of people. She took it the wrong way and now wants desperately to call me mom 24/7.

My question is if both myself and the child are comfortable with mom is it alright for her to call me that? Her real mom's jealousy is not an issue because her presence is absent. Most people I ask tell me not to encourage her but she is the one asking not me.

In a sense you are her mother. Her mom isn't around to take care of her or do things for her. You are!

Her mother is making no effort to really be apart of her daughters life, so she sees you as that figure. You should be flattered! I don't think it's wrong. She loves you, embrace it. :)

I'm a teenager, and I'm trying to convincemy parents
to get me a cell phone! They never let ne even look at one! Anyone know what I should do???

Do you take part in any sports or go out a lot? If you do and have no way to get ahold of them, this might be a good argument to bring up when asking for a cell phone.

Also keep in mind that if you're whining and yelling and complaining about it, they're going to be less likely to buy it for you. If you're calm and mature while asking, they may hear you out.

You should always remember that a cell phone is a privilege, not a right so remember that if you go overboard, it can be taken away. You don't need a cell phone.

Hannah is my bro's feiance. She is a bad situation at her house and when she turns 18 wants to move in with me. Im ok with her living with me but I will expect certain things from her like going to school and having a job. Do you think expections would be a bad thing and if not what should I expect out of her?

I don't think it's okay for you to expect school out of her because not every 18 year old goes to college right after high school ends. I would say that school is a personal decision that she should be able to make on her own - not something you should expect out of her.

As far as having a job, I think that's a reasonable expectation. It wouldn't be right of her to live with you at no expense. Just tell her to try and have a job before she comes to stay with you so that way she's already sort of supporting herself and doesn't have to laze around looking for work.

Hey everyone, I'm 14 year's old, and im pregnant. My family is broke, and struggling for money. My father just lost his job, and has less than 400 dollars in the bank. And im against adoption and abortion, i have no idea what to do. I live in Salt Lake City, Utah. I dont have a job, and i have no idea how i can get one at my age. And to top everything all together, I haven't told my parent's... i dont know what to do. Can they make me give up my baby? Please help, and soon.
thanks in advance

Your parents cannot make you give up your baby. You as a mother who's a minor, have the same rights as a mother who's an adult. You don't have to put your baby up for adoption, abort it, or sign over custodial rights if you do not wish to. But, you do need to think about whether or not this is something you should really go through with.

You don't need to have an abortion if you don't believe in it, but you really should consider adoption. You're 14 years old, you know for a fact that getting a job at your age will be impossible, and that you & your family just do not have the funds to help you support a baby.

I highly suggest you look into adoption. There are a lot of couples who just cannot have babies no matter how hard they try, or people who can't have babies because of genetics or sometimes even cancers who are looking to adopt. Adoption is the best choice because you get to pick the family (so you know that they're going to a good home where they'll have someone who can afford to take care of them & give them the life that you cannot), and you can even choose whether or not you'd like to have an open or closed adoption. An open adoption is when the family who adopts your baby sends you updates, pictures, etc on the baby so you know how they're doing. With a closed adoption, you give away the baby & that's it. You won't see them again.

If you want to keep the baby, just know that it will be VERY difficult and that babies are not cheap. They take a lot of work, and you will have to make a lot of sacrifices to care for one. You will have to go school, do homework AND take care of your child. You won't be able to hang out with your friends, you'll be tired and your relationship with boys will be different because you're no longer the only one that boy is dating. That baby will make you a package deal. It'll take a lot away from you, so if that's what you want you need to be ready.

Most importantly out of this whole thing, you need to tell your parents ASAP. Let them know what's going on and maybe see what they say about the whole thing. Tell them that abortion is not an option and that you may be considering adoption or keeping it. Your parents should be as helpful as possible, and I'm sure no matter what you decide, they'll support your decision. I definitely wish you luck, and I really hope you keep adoption in mind.

im told not to tell a soul because its getting somewhat taken care of. so il ask un-named. my bff is very badly depressed bc her moms boyfriend abused her so she told her mom after a while and he killed her mom and he went to jail which was a little over a year ago. now she lives with her grandparents. her grandpa is very bad bipolar and abuses her as well but only her none of her younger siblings. today she finally told me about what her grandpa does and showed me her new bruise which is very bad, it is like right on under her breast an its bloody red and very swollen and stuff she wont even put anything on it because its swollen and itd make it bigger. still which happend two days ago it even ripped her shirt. this weekend he is going to treatment for bipolar so she is running away and staying with a certain friend because he will be very bad. he is also their only source of income since the grandma cant work so if he goes they go homeless. hes going into treatment so it will maybe get better and if she gets taken away hed probly go for her little siblings so she wants to stay and take it for them. she also has anger management problems and depression so shes very agressive to people but i dont blame her. what can i do? any advice on any of this and as much advice as possible?! its getting better so i am not telling. im almost 16 and she is 14

If your friend put something on her bruise (like a pack of peas from the freezer), the swelling would go down, not get bigger.

You really do need to tell though. This isn't something that should be kept a secret. If you don't tell and her grandfather keeps abusing her, he could eventually kill her. Tell an adult. You can't continue to let this go on. She'll get mad at you for telling, but you'll be saving her & her siblings lives, and she'll be thanking you later. I promise you.

does anyone know if having bad credit can keep you from being able to adopt?

I doubt it, but they may check your financial background to see if you're able to take care of the kid. But I doubt it. They don't charge kids to your credit card. I don't think your credit would affect it, but your financial decisions might.

I have a 5 year-old daughter studying ballet and dreaming of going pro, her brother is 2.5 years old and she wants him to learn ballet. I also want him to learn, but have a husband that thinks it's gay... Any advice on any side?

I don't see anything wrong with it. Just because your son does ballet doesn't mean he'll end up being a homosexual. Your husband needs to get his head out of his ass. He's being a homophobe and a discriminatory. If I had a son & he did ballet, I'm sure I wouldn't love him any less.

Enroll him in ballet. If your husband doesn't like it, too damn bad. Your son can be whatever he wants. If your husband is going to be a homophobe then he needs a serious lesson.

I am 3 1/2 months pregnant and most days except like once in a while i am always aggervated or angry. very irritable is this normal

Yes because your hormones are changing and are out of whack.

Whats everyone's view on them. I am always telling my son not to point them at people. His step brother all he does is play with them and point them at my son so of course my son is going to point them back.

At least it's not a real gun he's holding at people, right?

Aside from that, just enforce a no guns rule. If you don't want them playing with toy guns, then take them away & refuse to buy the toys for them anymore.

At what age should a girl be able to shave her legs?

My mother started letting me shave around 10 or 11. But a girl can start whenever she wants (as long as there's hair to be shaven, obviously) because that's her choice. :)

i hav a 16 yrold daughter who has been living with me for 2 mth,and she tells me last nite she is 5 months preg.she is a below average student,with out a plan for the future.she wants to keep the baby and i am against it,i have told her my reason.i also told her she cant live with me with a baby.was i to hard on her?

While I agree with the your house, your rules thing, I don't think you'd be right to kick her out. She is too far in to have an abortion, but she can give it up for adoption. So yeah, you were a little hard on her.

I don't like assuming, but I'm going to have to with this one. Did you by chance tell her NEGATIVELY that she is out if she keeps it or did you tell her calmly? If you told her negatively, chances are she is going to disobey you because for one, you're screaming at her and not listening to her side.

You need to sit her down calmly & explain anything you think you need to say, and let her know how you feel. Chances are, if you tell her calmly what's up & then listen what she has to say without screaming at her, she'll be more likely to listen to you & see your side.

I think you need to re-think this whole thing though. I understand that your daughter has not made a smart decision with unprotected sex & whatnot, but you cannot penalize the baby for your daughter's mistake. The baby is not at fault & kicking your daughter out would also put the baby out onto the streets. Is that something you want for someone who's innocent? Maybe there is a way that if she cannot/will not give the baby up for adoption that you could help her raise it? I know you're not entitled to because it's not your doing, but I think at least trying to help her (but not doing everything for her) will make things a little better.

Also, do not assume that just because your daughter is slacking in school that she is not going to make it in life. I was the same way your daughter was (except I wasn't going out & getting myself pregnant), and I've completely turned my life around. So, it is possible for her to turn her life around & shock you - do not doubt her. I know the chances are slim, but there's always that possibility.

Ok my dad died a couple months back and i've been trying to get over it. get back to normal. but now my mom is out looking for another guy and is always talking about. like if we might move, or i'll get step brothers or sisters. im just not ready for it, should i be upset?

Absolutely. It's only been a couple of months and your mother is already trying to find a man?

Trying to move on so quickly doesn't help in the slightest. Trust me. It really only makes things worse. What she should be doing is going to therapy and relaxing. She should not be looking for someone.

You need to tell her to take time to recollect herself. You really have to talk to her about this. She can't jump into relationships this soon. It'll really fuck her up.

Can i be pregnant if im a virgin and my boyfriend came near my vagina but not in it

It's highly unlikely.

If you're going to have sex, use a condom. Don't take chances like this.

why shouldn't a 14 year old get her nose pierced

There's a chance you'll regret it. Chances are you might not still want it in a year & it'll be a waste of money.

Only add something to your body if you're sure you still want it a long while down the road. Another thing is that your parents may not want you to get it. So if mom & dad say no, then that's that.

Also, most places have the age limit of 16 to be pierced (even with parental consent) so you may not be able to get it done anyways.

Okay well ive already wrote on here a couple times but. Im 15/f...Dont tell me im too young or anything cause i already know. Well i think i am pregnant. Im about one week late on my period wich is about the 21st or 22nd of each month. and when i was suppose to have it i was spotting for like two days.

I took a pregnancy test this morning and it says im not pergnant? This doesnt make since? What do i do?

I don't know when you started your period but if you've started it about 13 or 14, then your period is going to be irregular for the first couple of years. I've had my period for about 5, and it's JUST starting to regulate.

I wouldn't automatically assume that you're pregnant because like I said, your period won't always show when you think it's supposed to. You can sometimes go up to months at a time without a period. If you don't end up getting it, and are still scared, I'd take another test but if it again comes out negative, you can go to a doctor or assume that it's just your period acting up.

((the story)) Im pregnant oh and im also 19 years old.. i recently found out and i called the father of the baby.. he is not my boyfriend.. but he is the boy i love with all my heart. he is the love of my life. when i told him he just right away said i dont want it, that i needed to take care of it.. i got mad and just hung up the phone and sent him a text saying i would talk to him later, that i wasnt in the mood to talk... later that night we talked some more, he made it 100% clear he doesnt want it.. he told me to take a pill or get an abortion.. i said ok... but the truth is.. i dont know if i want to... i know im young, i know i have my life to live... but i want a child... i feel like i need it.. to fill the emptiness i feel inside me.. that i have felt for such a long time... but at the same time.. i know if i keep it i will loose him, which makes me not want it... i love him with all my heart, with everything i have..but i know and feel in my heart that he and i will never be what i want to be... we have been "together" ((friends with benifets/bestfriends/'inlove'/all of the above)) for 2 1/2 years now.. and he knows i love him, and he claims he loves me aswell.. but he never wants something "real"... if i keep the baby, i am like 90% sure he will have nothing to do with me because i will be going against his wishes.. that or i just dont tell him and i leave to live in the US ((i live in mexico bythe way)) to stay with my family who lives there...

((the question)) should i get an abortion and continue being in this f*ed up relationsip that goes no where with theman i love.. or should i keep the baby and risk losing him forever, yet gaining a new never ending love of a child??

I don't think you should have an abortion.

You're 19 years old, and you're young, but it doesn't matter. You and your ex or whatever the hell had sex & you guys should take responsibility for your actions & keep it. Now, if he doesn't want the baby, then that is his problem, BUT he should at least help you by pay for food or clothes or something. You need to talk to him more. You're 19 so my question for him is HOW IN THE FUCK does he EXPECT you to do this on your own? Babies are lots of work & that's why there's 2 parents.

Anyways, don't get the abortion. If you do that, you're taking away the life of a child who could become the next einstein or brain surgeon. This baby could change the world & by killing it, you're not doing anything but fucking yourself over. I realize your ex will be upset & ditch you, BUT nothing replaces the love of a child.

Also, don't flee to the US without your green card. It's not worth it to get in trouble, so if you're going to come, come legally. :] Another thing; if this guy loved you, he'd help you & stick around. He's a dick. A man who gets a girl pregnant then ditches doesn't deserve to live. And always remember:

No child is a mistake; just an expected miracle.

All he does is sit around and watch cartoons all day. Why wont he go out and make some money.
I say if he is old enough to carry a shovel he should.
He also sucks in school, I think he ll drop out from kindergarden.

What the hell? :|

Ok so I'm a 15 f and i'm 36 weeks, 1 day pregnant today. My due date isnt until novemeber 17th but I was wondering if there was any way I could schedule a C-section before hand so I won't have to go threw giving birth and I could have my baby home sooner. Please answer fast I need to know. Thanks.

Love, Amanda.

I honestly agree with YG. C-Sections are only available if there's a complication with giving birth the regular way. If there are no complications, you canno request something completely unncessary. Besides, that's a surgery they do NOT put you asleep for, so you see them open you open & whatever. It's gross.

You're better off giving birth the natural way. C-Sections are waste of money if not needed.

Somebody once told me that when you're pregnant, and if you go over due and you just want to have the baby but its just not comming, if you eat something thats sure to give you diarrhea, then it'll induce labor, but while delivering wouldnt that kinda be gross? for that matter, is it something regular for a woman to like fart or pee or something while giving birth? I know its kinda gross, im just curious.

I have heard of women doing number two while giving birth from pushing so hard, but I know that it's a very rare thing to happen.

However, if it does occur, they will get you/the bed cleaned up. It's no big.

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