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14 and pregnant.
Hey everyone, I'm 14 year's old, and im pregnant. My family is broke, and struggling for money. My father just lost his job, and has less than 400 dollars in the bank. And im against adoption and abortion, i have no idea what to do. I live in Salt Lake City, Utah. I dont have a job, and i have no idea how i can get one at my age. And to top everything all together, I haven't told my parent's... i dont know what to do. Can they make me give up my baby? Please help, and soon.
thanks in advance
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look why dont you consider adoption? IM AN ADOPTED CHILD my birthmother gave me up at a very young age she was all alone she didnt had her boyfriend or her parents by her side. Your very young you havent lived your teenage years yet.! cmon think of your kid! he or she deserves a wonderful life!! & your parents are broke and your only 14! my parents(the ones who adopted me)gave me EVERYTHING I COULD EVER ASKED FOR! give the oportunity to your kid to have the same oportunity as i did!
please think about it and look im only 16 years old and trust me theres a lot of more for both of us to live!! dont give up your teenage dreams!!
but if you think you can have the responsability and your mature enough to take care of your kid go ahead...but remember that beign a mom means giving up your SOCIAL LIFE and trust me you dont want to get up in the middle of the night to your kid crying.and iknow this is harsh but i really woulnt like raising a kid bymyself.
but in the future get some ways of birth control :)
good luck and tell me what your decision is
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Your parents cannot make you give up your baby. You as a mother who's a minor, have the same rights as a mother who's an adult. You don't have to put your baby up for adoption, abort it, or sign over custodial rights if you do not wish to. But, you do need to think about whether or not this is something you should really go through with.
You don't need to have an abortion if you don't believe in it, but you really should consider adoption. You're 14 years old, you know for a fact that getting a job at your age will be impossible, and that you & your family just do not have the funds to help you support a baby.
I highly suggest you look into adoption. There are a lot of couples who just cannot have babies no matter how hard they try, or people who can't have babies because of genetics or sometimes even cancers who are looking to adopt. Adoption is the best choice because you get to pick the family (so you know that they're going to a good home where they'll have someone who can afford to take care of them & give them the life that you cannot), and you can even choose whether or not you'd like to have an open or closed adoption. An open adoption is when the family who adopts your baby sends you updates, pictures, etc on the baby so you know how they're doing. With a closed adoption, you give away the baby & that's it. You won't see them again.
If you want to keep the baby, just know that it will be VERY difficult and that babies are not cheap. They take a lot of work, and you will have to make a lot of sacrifices to care for one. You will have to go school, do homework AND take care of your child. You won't be able to hang out with your friends, you'll be tired and your relationship with boys will be different because you're no longer the only one that boy is dating. That baby will make you a package deal. It'll take a lot away from you, so if that's what you want you need to be ready.
Most importantly out of this whole thing, you need to tell your parents ASAP. Let them know what's going on and maybe see what they say about the whole thing. Tell them that abortion is not an option and that you may be considering adoption or keeping it. Your parents should be as helpful as possible, and I'm sure no matter what you decide, they'll support your decision. I definitely wish you luck, and I really hope you keep adoption in mind.
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It sounds like a tough situation that you're in but you need to keep the options that you mentioned opened.
First things first...do you want to have the baby?
Its a big responsible to care for a baby and especially at your age. You'll be entering high school in another year...it will be very difficult to be and school plus take care of a baby. You also said your family is truggling with money...thats not good either bringing a child into the world equals a lot more money that needs to be spent.
Second...Abortion is a choice and if you don't believe in it then don't do it! On the other hand adoption is a great way to know that your baby is in a safe environment and is being taken care of. There are many families out there who can't concieve and are looking into adoption and its a great thing but at the same time it can be very emotional for you.
Finally you NEED to tell your parents as soon as possible. They can't tell you what to do with the baby because well its your baby. They can direct you into the right direction which maybe adoption.
With the situation you're in right now you need to make a smart and mature decision about what you're going to do. In the end you will have to get a job and pay for the neccesities that the baby may need. Just think about talk to someone you trust maybe at your school or your mom or dad.
Good luck! Happy Holidays!
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tell your parents about this, they might be mad at you for awhile but it will eventually blow over. You are a minor so yes they have the right too choose adoption for you which is probably what you should do for your sake and the baby.
1. You don't have a job and even if you try to find a job this doesn't mean a job that pays minimum wage.
2. You need health benefits for this baby, It will require visits to the doctors
3. Diapers, Crib, Formula, Clothes, Stroller, Car seat etc. Can you afford all of this?...
4. Many young people these days who are pregnant "think" they are ready to raise a baby this DOES NOT mean ask Mommy and Daddy to raise YOUR child for you after all this baby is your responsibility not theirs.
Think about this...You are 14 years old. You are not ready for motherhood just yet
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honestly, babies are VERY expensive (insurance, doctors, food, clothes, diapers, crib, stroller,..etc). at your age, you really cant make enough money to take care of a baby. plus- your parents barely have enough money to take care of you guys.
no they cant make you give up your baby but if they want you to they have a good reason. youre 14 years old, still growin up yourself. you guys cannot afford a baby right now and it wouldnt be fair to him/her if you couldnt properly take care of it.
rate me whatever you want, but i honestly think you should give it up for adoption. its truly not fair if to the baby for you to keep it. im not sayin that youd be a bad parent, but all the odds are against you. im havin a baby, but i can afford her and im older... but if i was in your situation, i would decide to give her up to give her a chance at life.
you absolutely need to tell your parents. theyre the only ones you have to help you through this.
x sweeethoney
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