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Ok my dad died a couple months back and i've been trying to get over it. get back to normal. but now my mom is out looking for another guy and is always talking about. like if we might move, or i'll get step brothers or sisters. im just not ready for it, should i be upset?
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First of all let me tell you I am very sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is hard. You have every reason to be upset. You react on what you think is right. Thats pefectly normal, you are only human. Just remember though, and try to keep in mind, your mom lost someone special too. She is lonely, and though it isn't right for her to talk about it as much, she does have the right to be happy. Let her know it upsets you, but also try to be supportive. You both need eachother.
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Im so sorry for your loss, thats a tough thing to deal with. Its completely understandable that you are upset, and its natural, these things take time to get over. You need to talk to your mom, and explain to her how you feel, we are talking about a couple of months, not a couple of years. Feel better sweety!
If you need to talk, please dont hesitate to inbox me!
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Absolutely. It's only been a couple of months and your mother is already trying to find a man?
Trying to move on so quickly doesn't help in the slightest. Trust me. It really only makes things worse. What she should be doing is going to therapy and relaxing. She should not be looking for someone.
You need to tell her to take time to recollect herself. You really have to talk to her about this. She can't jump into relationships this soon. It'll really fuck her up.
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You most definetly have a right to be upset ! But also, that might just be your mom's way of coping with what happened. Maybe talking about the future and thinking about it will consume her mind and she won't think about the past so much because it hurts to think about the past because your father passed away in the past [if that makes sense] .. she probably needs something to look forwad to, yuh know ? Like, if it's only been a couple months ... people need time. You do too, and if it bothers you, you need to talk to your mom about it. Sit her down and share your feelings. You can't hide this from her, because in the end, all of these feelings that you are feeling, will bottle up inside of you and eventually explode.
I'm so sorry to hear about your father :[ but you honestly do have a right to be upset because it SHOULD have some sort of effect on you ... but you really need to talk to your mom about it and things will improve, i promise. you seem like a strong person, and i am so proud of you for being this strong and brave :] i support you :]
good luck ! if you need anything else feel free to inbox me ! I wish you and your family the best of luck, xxo.
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I completely understand where youre coming from because my uncle passed away just a few months ago and he had 2 sons i was very close to and my best friends dad passed away when she was only 13. Even though it might be hard and you might not be ready to move on and pick yourself up again but you should really support your mom because she might need some help moving on and maybe this is the easiest way for her. Its so hard to lose someone you love and I know you will miss him but just because she wants to date doesnt mean she will ever forget him! trust me she NEVER will. maybe this is just what she needs to do to get on with her life. even though it sounds like its too fast or he will be forgotten its just what she needs and wants right now. Everyone wants someone to love and she loved your father but now she needs someone else to take care of her. I really think being upset isnt a good idea for right now. If you are upset inside then maybe you should talk to her and tell her how you feel and she will tell you how she feels and why she thinks its the right thing for her to do. Im so sorry about your dad btw :(
i really hope i helped. ive helped my friend and cousins through the same thing so inbox me if you want to talk about anything. im always here :)
erinn:)
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