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You can call me Miss April Showers. Cute ain't it? Sure a little cliche, but isn't everything? I am 21 from a undisclosed location in the United States. Only for privacy purposes, I'm sure you all understand (: I know alot more than your average woman. Therefore, I would like to use my God given information that I have accumualted over the past 21 years to hopefully help someone else who hasn't been as fortunate as I to learn the do's and don't's of life. I specialize in relationship and parenting advice. However, any question that is asked of me I will give you the best possible answer that I am capable of giving. I would love be a popular columnist one day. Until then, you have my full attention ladies and gentlemen.

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I am dating a guy with a crazy ex that won't leave him or me alone and i need some musical therapy to cope :( any tunes that relate? much appreciated

try "he loves me he loves you not" by Dream. Thats an oldie but a goodie (:

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does constantly being unhappy and lovesick increase the chance of having a heartattack or something?
cause for example when i'm lovesick i still have the butterflies in my stomach and my heart racing but not in a happy/jumpy way but in a painful way. and it's really getting to me because whatever i do, i cant get rid of it. sports sometimes help but only for an hour or so.

I've never actually heard of someone dying from a broken heart, however, it can't be good for you. It is probably taking a toll on your physical and mental health. What you need to do (even though I know it is hard) is to find something fun for you to get your mind off of the lovesickness thing. Try a new hobby, or try meeting someone new. Hope you feel better soon. If you need someone to talk with or have any more questions inbox me!

-Miss April Showers

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I was wondering, can i take a fertility test even though im on birth control? Will it affect the results?

I was on birth control and got pregnant with my youngest, and when I took a home prego test it said positive.. so no it shouldn't. (:

-Miss April Showers

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hi im 15/m

i have bad luck and bad experience with meeting girls. i always say the wrong thing and never end up with any girl. I only do if im lucky.
the problem is to get girls to like me. im not ugly or fat, im just an average looking guy, i dont know what my problem is. ..

You're problem is that you are lacking confidence in yourself. Girls don't like shy guys. You need to find your security blanket and use it to your benefit. If you think you are hott, and actually look like you know what your doing girls will be all over you. Try walking up to a group of girls (as nerve racking as it may seem) and give them a flashy/confident smile. Then walk off confident as ever. Trust me, they WILL take notice. Good luck!

-Miss April Showers

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Riight well i went to this party on saturday were i got pretty drunk (stupid idea i knoow :/) but since then iv been really hungry.
like after i eat a meal or somthing about 2 hours or more later i get hungrey again and just keep eating :S
its not much that i eat maybe just a small bit of chicken out the fridge but i feel like i could go for a hujungus sandwhich

im 18 and male if that makes any difference

im not gonna over do it and im starting to eat healthier breakfasts because a fry up everyday at work wont do me any good after a while so its better i start now before it gets too crazy

For a minute, before I read that you were a male, I was going to say you might be pregnant lol. Anyways, it is perfectly normal to have the "munchies" after drinking or smoking. Alot of people have this side effect. You're fine.

-Miss April Showers

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how do you actually have sex

This will be very graphic. Depends on what "sex" you are talking about. There is oral sex and intercourse. Intercourse is when a male sticks his penis into a female vagina. Oral sex is when a woman sucks a mans penis, or a man licks a girls vagina. You should probably talk to your parents about this. This is a talk you should be having with them. They can explain more.

-Miss April Showers

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so there is this boy in the year above me in my school and i like really really like i might even love him i spmetimes speek to him on msn and ask the usual like how are you an stuff but as soon as i ask him wot has he been doin or something like that he nevr ansers anymore than that he is fine he knows i like him and the other day he added me on facebook as the 5th person the added wich i was made up about an now i dont no wot to do cause he wont say anymore on msn but i dont wont to keep annoying him because he might get abit pissed off with me wot should i say to him

You need to be more original. The "what's up? How are you?" Questions are pretty played out, and let's face it, EVERYONE says asks them. You need something that stands out, that makes him want to have a conversation with you. If you insist on talking to him on MSN then start off by saying "so that jacket you were wearing today was really hott." or something along the lines of that. Guys love a girl with confidence in herself. If he still doesn't talk with you (which would be hard to believe) then play some hard ball with him. Start ignoring HIM and acting like your life couldn't be any better. Pretty soon he will take notice and he'll be the one messaging you. Guys like to feel that they have the upper hand. Show him your mature, and most of all different. Good luck sweetie, hope I helped!

-Miss April Showers

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I want to give my bf the best bday gift. we've been together for over 4yrz and i want to getaway, such as cruise or a week vacation. Does anyone has any places they recommend? I live in the US and would like to keep a week vcation not so far from the US. It doesnt have to be romantic it can be fun and Adventures.thanks!!

Mertle Beach South Carolina is a great place to vacation. It is fun and romantic. If a fun cruise is what you are looking for check out all of Carnival's cruise ships. My husband and I have been on 6 cruises with them and every time we have a blast! Have fun!

-Miss April Showers

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I am having my second baby in the beginning of March. My son is 2, He will be 3 when my next child is born. I am pricing items for this baby since I have nothing from my last pregnancy. Would I need a double stroller or a single? My son weighs as much as his 6 year old step brother which is 45 pounds he isn't chunky though just tall.

It would probably be more convinent to get a double stroller. You don't want to be pushing two around! I done all my sons shopping at Wal-Mart. I started to at Babies'r'Us but alot of their prices are rediculous! As if having a baby isn't expensive enough! Try Wal-Mart. A friend of mine has twin girls and she got a double stroller for under $110.00. Which really, is a good deal! Good luck with the new baby.

-Miss April Showers

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I am really worried everytime at church the adults there always ask me so how are you doing. And deep down inside there is conflict that is happening between me and my mom but If I told them about it I am afraid that I would make it worse cause my mom does not want me to tell. I am afraid that if I tell I would sound like I was embarassing my family. I want to say that I really do not want to be talking about how I am doing right now. But then it would be rude right. But at the same time those people that asks me how I am doing sounds concern so what would be a more polite thing to do. Cause I am not comfortable pretending things are o.k.

That is a sticky situation. Tell them that you have "been better" or are "sticking in there." Their both very polite ways to let the person know who is asking that you aren't as well as you could be, but at the same time you don't want to give a whole lot of detail. Usually with replies like that, they don't ask for more details. It kinda says it all. I hope you start to feel better soon. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. If you ever need to talk about ANYTHING, feel free to send me a message.

-Miss April Showers

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Ok my dad died a couple months back and i've been trying to get over it. get back to normal. but now my mom is out looking for another guy and is always talking about. like if we might move, or i'll get step brothers or sisters. im just not ready for it, should i be upset?

First of all let me tell you I am very sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is hard. You have every reason to be upset. You react on what you think is right. Thats pefectly normal, you are only human. Just remember though, and try to keep in mind, your mom lost someone special too. She is lonely, and though it isn't right for her to talk about it as much, she does have the right to be happy. Let her know it upsets you, but also try to be supportive. You both need eachother.

-Miss April Showers

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Hey im 18/f my mom had me when she was 16 and my biological father gave away his rights. Then she met my adopted father bryan. he is my 2 sisters real dad. But he adopted me when i was like 2. They got divorced and he could have not seen me anymore and whatnot but he chose to. He is basically my dad and i dont think of him any different. I want to create something to show how much i love him. Is there any songs that you can think of that somewhat relate. I really like brad paisleys song he didnt have to be. Are there any other songs like that out there?

Thanks

Celine Dion- Because you loved me.
It's a classic and I used it for my step-dad and I to dance at my wedding. Your dad sounds like a great guy. Hope I helped!

-Miss April Showers

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I have a job application for an ice cream parlor. A section of it says "Subjects of Special Study/Research Work". I don't understand what they want me to write there. I'm in high school with minimal job experience. Would I put down some extra curricular activities that I do? Please give me some general ideas and/or examples of what the employment manager is looking for in regards to that area of the application.

If you have had special study/ and or training for the position you are applying for. Meaning, if you have worked at an ice cream parlor before, and been trained to do so. If you haven't it is okay to leave it blank. Hope you get the job!

-Miss April Showers

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so i have this white stuff coming out of my vagina, is it a good thing or a bad? like it smells really bad. if im in class and i open my legs to sit or something then you smell it. i went on birth control and when you first get it, the girl goes inside your vagina and sees if you have anything wrong, but she said that i dont have anyhting wrong with me but idk how to get rid of the white stuff && the smell..

HELP!
(:

It sounds like you could possibly have a yeast infection. Don't worry, you didn't do anything wrong and it's very common for women. I am not a doctor though, so you might want to get it checked out before you run to the drug store. Sometimes you can get rid of odor by douching. Ask your mom or practioner if it is okay for you to do fist though. Every girl has this problem so don't feel bad sweetie. Hope I helped!

-Miss April Showers

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Okay, so I am 17 years old and a senior in high school, and my boyfriend graduated last year and went to college this fall. A lot of my friends tell me that I should break up with him so we could date people that we could see all the time, but i really like him and I dont want to end a relationship of 10 months just because i miss him. Meanwhile, theres another guy who likes me that goes to my school, and i kind of like him but i really love my boyfriend. What should I do???

I am not going to lie to you, long distance relationships are hard. 85% fail. I'm sure you know this. The thing you really need to ask yourself is if you truely love him. Do you see yourself with this one guy for the rest of your life? Are you willing to spend your entire senior year missing him? If your answer is yes, then I would encourage you to fight for your relationship. If you weren't sure of the answers, then I would tell you to have fun and enjoy your senior year. 10 months is a good relationship, but a whole SENIOR YEAR is even longer. It is a choice you have to make, but no matter the choice just have fun. You only get to be 17 once. So don't waste it. Do what your heart tells you is best for you. I hope helped. Good luck no matter what!

-Miss April Showers

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okay so heres how it is. for two days i would sit down and around there my uturs would hurt and sometimes its crampy i thought cuz i needed to fart. haha but idk. and my back hurt yesterday kinda. but its killing me. not really but its annoying.

There are ALOT of reasons why you could be hurting. When someone says they have stomach pain it doesn't always mean their stomach is the source of their pain. To the right side of their stomach is their appendix. Upper right Gall Bladder. Center Pancreus. To the upper left splene. Lower center ovaries and uterus. It could be anumber of things hun. You should really get a doctors appointment to make sure everything is ok and it is not anything serious. If you are in alot of pain go to the ER right away. If you don't think it is severe then try taking a warm bath and relaxing for a bit incase it is a muscle of some sort. I am not a doctor so I'm not really sure. The best advice I can give is see a doctor. Hope you feel better!

-Miss April Showers

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Hey you all..I have this huge problem that needs fixing a.s.a.p! Ok..you see..when I wuz a junior in high school,I had this huge crush on this boy named aj.Can you say fine! But the thing wuz that he was only in the tenth grade.We eventually exchanged numbers and would talk like EVERYDAY! we were like buddys that had huge crushes on each other.But with him being in a lower grade..i just couldnt find the COURAGE to date him.I just thought of the comments my friends would make.So i later found out that someone else had a crush on me.He wuz nice and cool so i decided to date him.Aj wuz crushed.Things didnt work out between me and the dude I started dating.He cheated on me with his ex girlfriend which crushed me but anthony wuz there to help me heal.So like a month passed and aj wuz still hinting that he liked me and that he wanted to date me but around that TIME another dude came in the picture..we will call him elliot.Me and elliot started dating.Aj wuz crushed.The whole time I wuz with elliot i just kept thinking about aj.He wuz my friend and i CARED about him so much but i had a boyfriend and didnt want to ruin things.Sadly,aj got kicked out of school and that wuz the last time I ever saw him.During the summer,me and elliot broke up becuz he wanted to play pimp daddy and mess around with all types of girls.I wuz so heartbroken.So just recently I realized that I made a huge mistake by dissing aj TWICE. I know that I have to live with my mistakes and that I should always be willing to give people chances no matter who they are.I juss cant get aj off my mind.I miss him so much..I guess he changed numbers or something cuz I never heard from him again.I would walk to the moon and back to have him in my life.If i ever had the chance to be with him again I would take it in a heartbeat.I know that deep down in my heart that i love him.So..could it be that the love of my life came and gone that fast? I hope not.So what do you guys think?..should I just get him out my head and accept the fact that he's gone...or should I keep hope alive and do a people search? I just got to find him..or least know were he is..my heart just cant rest until i know. Please help..i need some advice big time..

Ever heard the quote "you don't miss your water until your well runs dry?" Thats what has happened here. You let peer preasure make a choice for you that wasn't really "best" for you. You should never let your friends control what you really want for yourself. I have been in a similar situation myself. My advice to you, is go to whitepages.com and do a people search. If you know his last name it should be fairly simple. Find out what city/state he is currently living in and go through the listings of everyone with that last name. It will probably take some work. But, he's worth it, right? Good luck, and hey if you do find this guy KEEP HIM. He sounds like a winner. Hope I helped!

-Miss April Showers

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i dont know if i really care for this person as much as he does for me i think everytime i am around him i get a little tickle in my belly and i dont know if that is a sign of love or something else i am 13 about to be 14 and i am a girl

When you are in love you will know for sure it's love and you won't question it. Love is a hard feeling to describe. It really can't be explained. If you find yourself constantly smiling when you are around him, getting nervous but excited all at the same time. Missing him if you have just been apart for 5 minutes or so.. then it's probably your first actual case of the love bug. Hope I helped sweetie.

P.S.
Don't worry if you answered "no" to any of the above. You're young. There will be PLENTY of love bugs in your life. So have fun and just listen to what your heart is telling you.

-Miss April Showers

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