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My bf went off to college and im still in high school.
Okay, so I am 17 years old and a senior in high school, and my boyfriend graduated last year and went to college this fall. A lot of my friends tell me that I should break up with him so we could date people that we could see all the time, but i really like him and I dont want to end a relationship of 10 months just because i miss him. Meanwhile, theres another guy who likes me that goes to my school, and i kind of like him but i really love my boyfriend. What should I do???
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okay hun here's what you gotta do....if you love this boy, i mean really love him you'll stick with him, but my advice to you today is to take a break from him for a while since he's gonna be in college. Guys in college tend to get put in risky situations with other girls. Now if you say you love the guy, but you kinda like another guy that means "problems" because i've been in that situation before myself. I've been in love 5 times in my life and the guy i'm with now is real love. I'm not saying that you'r love is real or not real, but you got to experiment and get to dating other guys before deciding you love someone. When i was 16 i had a very sweet boyfriend and everything about him was perfect to me. i thought he was everything and that i was in love with him, but i started liking another guy. You see when you're with someone and you so call "love them" you're confidence boosts and other guys find that very attractive. I say give this other guy a chance and if things don't workout, there are plenty of other fish in the sea. As a senior in high school sweetheart, you shouldn't be looking for love...atleast not yet. Give it some time. you still have college yourself. Anyways, hope i helped.
Your friend, LULABELL aka LULU
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Here is a question you have to think about do you love your boyfriend or do you like him?? I was in the same situation you are in right now with some differences. I was a senior at 17, boyfriend graduated a year before but we had been dating for two years at the time. I never once thought of breaking up with him because he was in college but then again he stayed in state I don't know if your boyfriend is in state too. I graduated and now go to the same college as he does and have been together for 3 years. First of all forget what your friends say, if they want to date around in college that is their choice but you need to decide what you want to do. Whether you want to be single to date around, stay with your boyfriend, or go out with this other boy you like. You need to make this decision based on what you want out of your life. Things to consider when making youR decision: will you be going to the same college as your boyfriend (I don't recommend long distance relationships), do you trust him, is he someone you see yourself with long term, and what is it that you like about him and your feelings towards him and if these out weight the other boy you like and dating period. Don't hurt him by stayIng with him because you have been together for 10 months and you think that is a long time (trust me it isn't). Talk to him about how he feels about the relationship but please don't lie to him there is nothing wrong with moving on and dating other people as long as you make it clear to your partners that you aren't looking for a serious and/or long term relationship. I hope this helps and let me know what happens.
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I am not going to lie to you, long distance relationships are hard. 85% fail. I'm sure you know this. The thing you really need to ask yourself is if you truely love him. Do you see yourself with this one guy for the rest of your life? Are you willing to spend your entire senior year missing him? If your answer is yes, then I would encourage you to fight for your relationship. If you weren't sure of the answers, then I would tell you to have fun and enjoy your senior year. 10 months is a good relationship, but a whole SENIOR YEAR is even longer. It is a choice you have to make, but no matter the choice just have fun. You only get to be 17 once. So don't waste it. Do what your heart tells you is best for you. I hope helped. Good luck no matter what!
-Miss April Showers
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