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bff child abuse and death, not supposed to tell, please serious help
im told not to tell a soul because its getting somewhat taken care of. so il ask un-named. my bff is very badly depressed bc her moms boyfriend abused her so she told her mom after a while and he killed her mom and he went to jail which was a little over a year ago. now she lives with her grandparents. her grandpa is very bad bipolar and abuses her as well but only her none of her younger siblings. today she finally told me about what her grandpa does and showed me her new bruise which is very bad, it is like right on under her breast an its bloody red and very swollen and stuff she wont even put anything on it because its swollen and itd make it bigger. still which happend two days ago it even ripped her shirt. this weekend he is going to treatment for bipolar so she is running away and staying with a certain friend because he will be very bad. he is also their only source of income since the grandma cant work so if he goes they go homeless. hes going into treatment so it will maybe get better and if she gets taken away hed probly go for her little siblings so she wants to stay and take it for them. she also has anger management problems and depression so shes very agressive to people but i dont blame her. what can i do? any advice on any of this and as much advice as possible?! its getting better so i am not telling. im almost 16 and she is 14
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you shoud go to the police, call cps or talk to a counsler at schoolimmediatly someone needs to know so she dosn't have to go through this anymore. please don't let your friend go through with this anymore!
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I am sorry but weather it is getting better or not you need to go to the police and let them know because a few good days could lead to a very bad day and she could end up like her mother. I am sorry if what I say sounds harsh but my mothers boyfriend abuses my mother and my brother and has hit me before I am married now and I do not deal with that anymore. My mom wont leave him my brother isnt old enough to leave and doesnt want to move with me because im in a different state. but you need to help her.
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You really need to tell someone who is responsible about this problem, this is very common and it usually gets to the point where the abuser kills the child. Really, (knock on wood) if she got hurt to the point that she died, would you feel bad? Your the only other person that knows, so your somewhat responsible. You and your friend really need to take action and call the abusive hotline
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they are professionals and will tell you what to do.
good luck, and best of luck to your friend.
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This is a an unfortunate but common problem. A lot of children suffer from child abuse and unfortunately they never tell.
This could really hurt her emotionally later in her life. You could go to a school counsler and let them know what is going on and work something out with them so no one knows it was you that told. You could just ask them to say that she has been acting differently in class and maybe she will let them know what is going on.
I hope everything gets better for your friend and please don't keep something like this from anyone that could help her.
-bryttnii
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If your friend put something on her bruise (like a pack of peas from the freezer), the swelling would go down, not get bigger.
You really do need to tell though. This isn't something that should be kept a secret. If you don't tell and her grandfather keeps abusing her, he could eventually kill her. Tell an adult. You can't continue to let this go on. She'll get mad at you for telling, but you'll be saving her & her siblings lives, and she'll be thanking you later. I promise you.
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i agree with answers below. You need to tell someone. You cannot stand by and watch this injustice. If she does leave home, will she leave her siblings? if so..they could be at danger! so you need to tell cps. it is your duty to do the right thing. not doing the right thing for fear of losing your friend is a selfish deed, and so you cannot stand by. I urge you to tell someone of authority to help with this situation. You will be doing the right thing.
Hope everything gets sorted out, good luck :)
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I think that you should call child protective services or if you are to young to make the call tell a friend,teacher,or family member that you trust so that they can callc cps and all children undrer the age of 18 will be taken away from the home and your friend may even be mad at you for sometime but in the end you will know that you did the right thing and mabey one day sooner or later she will thankyou for being a good frieind to her and looking out for her and making sure she is safe becouse her and her siblings are not safe in the home that they are in and they will be much safer in foster care than where they are now. I hope i have helped you and I will keep you and your friend in my prayere and maybey god wiil also help you and your friend in this situation.
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You should be telling. The grandparents in this case are incapable of providing a safe home for any of them.
This whole thing isn't making sense to me. She isn't making sense at all. Shes running away on the one hand and yet she wants to stay and take it for her siblings? If she runs she will probably be taken away. She/you, somebody needs to contact proper authorities and have all the children removed from the home before someone is killed.
Don't stand by and watch it happen. Your friend will need some mental help as well. Her anger is probably a result of all the abuse she has endured.
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Don't kid yourself and say it's "getting better" when you know it isn't. Sure, her grandpa is going to get help but it doesn't mean this will all end any time soon. No child should have to be abused at all. Does her grandma know what her grandpa is doing to her?
I think your friend should try to get herself out of this situation even if it will be hard in the future. This abuse could escalate and could possibly lead to even worse injuries, rape, or death! It's best for her and her siblings to leave.
She should talk to a school guidance counselor about this and get help instead of instead of dealing with this and taking the abuse which will probably take it's toll on her in the future.
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