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how do i see who has viewed my myspace profile
Chokebacktears is right... there's no way to find out who has visited your myspace. They make it that way on purpose, because they want people to feel comfortable browsing their friends' pages anonymously. (Would YOU want your crush or your ex to know you'd stopped by their myspace 37 times yesterday? Haha - probably not!).
All you can do is get a good guess. If you're online and notice that your visitor count has just gone up, you can look to see which of your friends is currently online, and that can narrow it down some. But I don't think they'll ever make it possible to see exactly who has visited your myspace.
Ok so heres the deal. I have a really good and easy job. Im basically a concierge at a resort. I get paid good money for doing almost nothing. There is only me and one other girl that have this job. The problem is that my boss is totally unfair and my coworker gets everything her way. For example, the past 2 weeks she has gotten a extra day off and i got none. I keep my mouth shut all the time but i just got hit with the last straw. We are changing our schedules for the summer time and it was supposed to go into effect on a saturday which would mean my coworker would be workin on friday. shes arguing and doesnt want to work friday. neither do i. but my boss gave her her way and shes now off friday and i have to work for her when its supposed to be my day off. i tried sayin its not fair but everyone expects me to be so easy going that it doesnt matter what i say. i still have to work. and it makes it more difficult because my boss is my girlfriends dad and i live with them. (by the way i am female too). im soo fed up at this point that if it were any other job i would quit but its too good of a job. how can i get them to take me seriously??? i really need some advice.
I've been in a similar situation. My boss always gave me the lousy hours and the jobs no one else wanted, even though I was better qualified than the other employess. But in my case, my boss was my mom. And what it boiled down to was: she was so worried that the other employees would accuse her of showing favoritism to her daughter, that she went to the opposite extreme and treated me worse than anyone else. It really stunk!
That may be what's happening with your boss. You have more than just a regular employee/employer relationship with him. Living at his house makes it almost like a family relationship. And he may worry that if he gives you the hours the other girl wants, she'll say he's being "unfair" because of your relationship with him and his daughter.
I know that doesn't change anything, but maybe it will make you feel a *little* better knowing that he's not just out to get you. But anyway... since you really like the job and it's a great situation for you, I think it's probably best not to say anything. However, if there are certain times that you REALLY want off, don't be afraid to ask for it. Just be sure to let your boss, and the other girl, know well in advance that you'll be asking for that time off. If everyone knows ahead of time, it won't appear like you're getting preferential treatment, and he'll probably be more likely to let you have it.
Good luck! =]
I just turned 16 and I'm of course a girl. I never cared about what I wore to school, mostly it was jeans and t-shirts with a pony-tail, right? Well maybe two weeks ago I got the nerve to talk to this guy I've been crushing on for a while and he was nice, but only in a "I'm being nice only until someone else comes along." I dunno what switch went off in my body, but all of the sudden I wanted to be a "GIRL" for once. I wanted to flirt, I wanted to be the one the guy comes up and talks to just to talk. I felt like I could do it, but I didn't know how to do it. I know I am a girl but the main question is... How do I be a "girl"? Is it a natural thing or do I have to practice? Any help is great.
Thanks to anyone,
The tomboy turned girly-girl
Wow, my friend just went through the same transformation. Up until last year, she was the typical tomboy - sweats & t-shirts, ponytail, etc. But this year - wow! - what a change! For the first time, she's been wearing her hair down, wearing makeup and jewelry, and buying some really cute outfits. Her personality hasn't changed at all, just the way she dresses. And the guys have definitely noticed! She went from being pretty much invisible to being asked out left and right! She's still one of the "jock" girls, but now she's a hot jock!
So yeah... keep being yourself. Like you said, you ARE a girl. Just let the guys know it by taking a little more time to make yourself look like one. There's nothing wrong with that at all... it's completely natural to want to look and feel feminine. And the nice thing is, you can do it and still be yourself.
My family is letting me open a snow cone shop. I have been looking online and I found a website called hawaiianshavedice.com. It is really good, but that is like the only one I have found that I like. Do you know any other websites that sell snow cone flavors? I live in a rural part of the state (3 hours away from any city over a population of 40,000) so I can't really be making trips to get these things. That's why I need them mailed to me. I found a great ice shaver machine. Now what I really need is to figure out what I'm getting myself into. Any ideas of what I am doing? Lol. I'm looking a lot up, but I really need people's opinions on ideas for my first day. I need ideas for attracting people to the snow cone shop. Also I really need to what kind of theme should I make it. Like should it be a beach theme, a rainbow theme, or two solid colors. I have no idea what theme it should be. Please help!
Yaaay! I love snowcones!! There's a snowcone stand in my town and I'm there like every day! I don't know much about running a snowcone business, but here's an suggestion from a customer's standpoint: Our shop offers Small, Medium and Large. But I've always wished they'd offer a "Kiddie" size, because even the small is way too much for little kids. And sometimes even the grownups would like just a little taste. =]
Have fun and good luck!
F/14
One of my best freinds is a boy, and he came over like twice or three times. Today we wanted to go to a football game and my parents say "I dont think this relationship you two are sharing will work out" and im standing there with my mouth hung open and they dont believe me that we are JUST FREINDS. They wont let us hang out cause they think were going out, and my parents are really over protective. I tell them that were just friends and they say "A boy and a girl cant be 'best freinds'"
Thats definatley not true and i dont want to bring it up again, but i definatley wanna hang out more with him cause well . . . WERE FREINDS!
Im totally lost and embarrassed, i need a way to let them know that there is no way were ever gunna go out!
Were like brother and sister!
HELP!
Well, first let me say that I'm totally on your side with this. I've had lots of guy friends who I like hanging out with because, well, they're just fun to hang out with! But let's take a look at it from your parent's viewpoint, because it always helps to understand where they're coming from when you're trying to present a good arguement.
For one thing, a lot of people DO think it's impossible for a girl and a guy to be "just good friends." Not from the girl's side... girls always have guys they consider just friends and nothing more. But from the guy's side... lots of people believe that guys are always thinking of "one thing", and that somewhere in their mind, they're always hoping that a friendship might lead to something more. Your parents might totally believe that YOU have only friendship in mind, but they may worry that your guy friend has other motives... and that you might eventually give in to that.
Another thing they might worry about is appearences. If you're always hanging out with this guy, especially if it's just the two of you, it may appear to other people that you're going out (even if you aren't). And if your parents are against you dating right now, they may worry what other people will think. They might imagine people saying, "Oh, I see they're letting her date now." Or even, "Oh my goodness! I can't believe they're letting her spend so much time with that boy! What scandal!"
So that may be what you're up against. The solution? Well, if you really like spending time with your friend, you may have to settle for hanging around him in a group. If there are other girls and guys along with you, it won't look like it's just you two together. You could also try getting HIS parents involved... next time the two of you want to do something, have his parents call your parents. That might give it a more innocent "play date" kind of feel, and your parents might be more comfortable with it.
Good luck!
okay so this guy i've been talking to since like the beggining of february has a girlfriend.
and they've been dating for like 2 years and last night i sent him a picture.
it wasn't revealing or anything but it was kinda..
ya okay so then he kept trying to get me to send him another and i can't.
i can't just be the one to break up a couple of 2 years and i dont really care if he ever talks to me again but what should i do if he asks me again??
b/c the last time i said no and reminded him he has a girlfriend..but idk.
thank you
Good for you... I'm glad you feel that way. Because I'm sure you know how bad you'd feel if someone was sending YOUR boyfriend pictures. It's just not right, and it's good that you've realized that.
If he asks you again, just tell him the same thing. Tell him you're sorry you sent him that one in the first place... that it was a mistake, and you were wrong to do it, because he has a girlfriend. And don't let him give you the old "but I'm gonna break up with her" routine. That's a bunch of BS that guys use to keep stringing you along while they have their cake and eat it too. If he actually does break up with her, then fine... he's fair game. But as long as he's still taken, then he's off limits. And not just for his girlfriend's sake, but for yours as well.
15/f
My handwriting absolutly sucks! Once I forgot to put my name on it and the teacher said it looked like a boys handwriting (since girls are more neater) and when I saw it, it was mine. I'd like to change my handwriting to be neat and clear. Is there any way to make it better?
Do not tell me to write slower and take my time because I need to be able to write fast in school. (lots of notes)
any suggestions?
Just spend some time practicing. When you're bored, get a paper and pen and just start writing... the lyrics to your favoirte song, or a list of your friends' names, or even just the alphabet. And yes, when you're practicing, it's okay to take your time and form each letter the way you want it to look. With time and practice, you'll be able to do it faster and faster... and eventually your writing will look great even when you're in a hurry at school!
Like alot of people at my school are saying that I am annoying and that is so not true and I am really upset. So how can I stop being annoying like really or how am I annoying.
Ok, well a lot of people will say, "Don't listen to them; just keep being yourself and don't change for anyone else; people should like you for who you are, and you shouldn't care what other people think."
Well, I have to disagree. It DOES matter what other people think. No one likes to have people think badly of them. And if there's something you're doing that makes people think badly of you, then there's nothing wrong with changing it!
Yes, it's true that you shouldn't change your basic beliefs or values for someone else; and you shouldn't try to be someone you're not, just to make someone like you. But saying that you should never change ANYTHING is ridiculous. Nobody is perfect; we all have faults. But if we never made an attempt improve ourselves and become better people, we'd just keep making the same unhappy mistakes over and over.
When we correct our mistakes and improve ourselves, it not only makes us more likable, but it usually makes us happier as well!
That said... if you honestly don't know what you're doing that annoys people, maybe you should ask someone. Or think about some people that YOU find annoying; pinpoint what it is that annoys you, and then ask yourself if you do the same thing.
In case it helps, here are some things that a lot of people think are annoying:
People who are really loud/obnoxious
People who act like they know everything or who always have to give their opinion
People who brag or talk about themselves a lot
People who are nosy, ask a lot of personal questions, or always need to know everyone's business
People who try TOO hard make people like them
Think carefully; do you do any of those things?
Once you figure out what people find annoying about you, take some steps to change it. Ask for help from someone if you need it. But try not to feel bad about it. Remember, everyone has faults! The good thing is, we can change them!
My problem is simple. My girlfriend is always pertending to be a lesbian with her friends (in front of me!) . They arent making out with each other and i know that they are definetly not real lesbians (or bisexual). I think that they are just trying to make me jealous. What should i do? By the way, im 14 years old and so is she. Now, im not saying that it isnt amusing to watch, but, i want her to give me some public attention, too. What should i do?
I have a friend who's sort of in your same boat. His girlfriend doesn't actually pretend to be a lesbian, but she and her friends always hug each other and say I love you... and it really bugs him. He also gets irritated when they act silly and talk about all their inside jokes. I guess in a way it just makes him feel a little left out.
But the fact is, girls do silly stuff like that. If you make a big deal about it, or let her know it bugs you, it will just become an issue. I say just ignore it... it's probably just a quick phase and they'll stop doing it soon enough. Then they'll move on to some other silly thing that irritates you just as much! HAHA
And just for the record... when guys are with their friends, they do goofy stuff that bugs their girlfriends just as much! So you're not alone. Just try to ignore it.
ok this is embarrassing, but there's a teacher in my school who i have every day. He's young and REALLY good looking. haha. every girl thinks so. I'm like nervous to talk to him and stuff (im 14/f) but i don't want this to affect my grade. how can i move past this and focus on the schoolwork and not him?
Well, first of all, don't be embarrassed. I bet just about every girl has had a crush on a teacher or coach or whatever at some point. I know I have!
And don't worry about him knowing that you have a crush on him. If you're shy or nervous around him, he'll probably just think that's your personality. And even if he DID have an idea that you think he's a cutie, it's really no big deal. Good looking guys are used to younger girls getting giggly or starry-eyed around them; if he's a mature, professional person, he's not going to let that affect your grade or his attitude towards you.
As for your schoolwork... just think of it this way. If you work hard and do well in the class, he's going to like you. Not that he's gonna offer you an engagement ring (haha), but hey, it's always nice be thought well of by someone you admire. So just try to enjoy the class... and the view... at the same time!
im 16/f. i have to admit that usually i am one to let things get to me, and i've been trying to change that lately. in my school, the other girls treat me with such hostility, mainly because of racism, and i learned to deal with it. but now this one specific girl has taken some kind of negative interest in me, and getting her friends to do the same. all she does is just stare at me as if i've ever done something to her, and when she walks by, she comes real close as if trying to bump into me. it's really tormenting me even though i try to hide it. i don't know why, cause im not even scared of her. i just wish she would stop. and worse, i have to see her everyday, and if i tell anyone, they'll just think i'm being stupid. it's bothering me so much, i just basically feel like shit all day. any insights on how i can get my mind off it?
Well, this might sound like a crazy idea, but it just might help. It sounds like this girl doesn't know you that well, or at all. But maybe if she were to get to know you better, even a little, she'd come to see you as a person who has feelings. Not that you'd end up being best friends, but maybe it would make her stop being so blatantly mean to you.
Soooo... how to get her to know you? This is where my crazy idea comes in. Go to your councelor or a teacher you like, and talk to her about it. Be sure to say that your goal is not to get this girl in trouble, but to find a way to make things better. Say that you think if this girl could get to know you a little, she might stop being so mean. And then ask if the councelor/teacher could arrange to have you and this girl work together on something. Doesn't matter what... a project, or assisting a teacher in some way, or whatever... but something where it's just you and her together, working on something for some period of time.
And then once you're with her, just be really, really nice! Act like you've never even noticed that she's been mean to you. When she's there with you, just the two of you and away from her friends, she probably won't be mean at all. And afterwards, it might not feel so good to her to be mean to you.
I really think that could work, because I've seen it happen before. When I was coaching gymnastics, I sometimes paired up girls who obvisously didn't like each other. But once they were stuck together for some reason, things seemed to get better. So give it a try! It might help!
I am tall and i hate it i am 5 ft 11 and im only 14! and i odnt wanan grow anymore i dont like it :( is it bad to be tall because i ahte it please help me :(
Well, I'm short, and I've always wished I could be tall! There are a lot of advantages to being tall. For one thing, taller people can see over a crowd. That might not sound like such a big deal, but trust me, it's really frustrating to never be able to see anything except people's backs!
Another advantage: There have been studies done about this, and taller people are usually thought to be smarter, more talented, and better leaders than shorter people. In other words, you get more respect! And that's a GREAT advantage when competing for a job or some leadership position!
Another bonus when you're a teenager: people assume you're older, and therefore more mature, so you'll sometimes get more privleges and get treated like more of an adult than some of your shorter friends. My cousin (who's the same age as me) is 5'10 and she always got picked to be "in charge" and to do the cool stuff, because people just assumed she was so much older.
So yeah... being tall is great! And not just for being a model or a basketball player. Consider yourself lucky!
okay so I'm running for student body president at my school. I have to write a speech and right now im just trying to get ideas but I'm totally stuck. So i was just wondering... what are some things in your school that you like? or dislike? or what are some things you would like to see? stuff like that. Because I just need some ideas then i can use some and put them into ideas for my speech or whatever. so if you could help that would be great!
Well, whatever you decide to say, just make sure it's something you can actually follow through on. I've heard a lot of speeches that promise to do things that the student council isn't even involved with or capable of doing! So before you write your speech, make sure you know EXACTLY what you can and can't do as president. Talk to the teachers or other students who have been involved with it, and ask them what sort of things they did last year. Then you can use those things in your speech, by saying something like: "Last year, the student council did blah blah blah; I will work diligently to make sure that this year is just as great, or even better, by doing blah blah blah."
Good luck!
Okay Last night i went to my best friends dance party . and everyone was danceing with everyone and it didnt matter if you had a boyfriend or not we were all danceing close and jsut haveing SOOOO much fun. Well me and one of my guy friends we were dacing close and my boyfriend got mad and cussed and he said he was going to leave. Well he said you need to stop danceing with all those guys. and It made me mad! and he told me afterward that it was his two friends that made him mad at me but then today he told me it was because he was tired.(which i dont get) and also i was standing by the one guy i have known for a while and we were playing with each others phones and my boyfriend just came up there and pulled me away from him ! and he jsut cant trust me . . do you think i should break up with him . and i have already tried to talkk to him about it and he wouldnt listen !!! uhhhh he makes me MAD !!!! please help !
I think your boyfriend's reaction was very normal. Think about how YOU would feel if HE was dancing close and/or flirting with other girls. If you really like him, then you probably wouldn't be real happy about it.
When you have a boyfriend, you need to think about how your actions are going to make him feel; and if you care about him, you won't want to do things that make him feel bad. If you're not willing to give up dancing and flirting with other guys... then yes, you should break up with him, because you're not ready to be in a relationship.
well, i have this teacher, in high school.
I think she might have a grudge on me!
It all began like this... i was in class and she said we all needed to listen, althought i was still writing, she came up to me and started shouting that i don't listen, she then told me to put my pen down, i did ad said 'ok'. She got in a really bad mood and sent me out for the whole lesson.
My next lesson i came in and said 'sorry am late miss, my school bus was late. She said 'oh so now you own a bus'! and told me to sit down
The next lesson, i was sitting with my mate dana, and she shouted saying 'don't talk oh you will be moved' so i stopped.
The next lesson, she said come and sit next to me
and i had to do that for the rest of the year!
There's loadz more...
sometimes when she hands out exsam papers she missed me, first and second times and mistakes but i think she did that 6 times to me.
Once my friend asked for a pen, and that reminded me i needed one so i put hand up about 35 secs after my friend put hers up, and she shouted saying that i should ask earlier!
Then i was wearing a blue jacket and told me to take it off, i did then this girl went passed her with massive hoop earings and bright green jacket-even this girl i did'nt know said she has a grudge on you! There LOADZ more!
I MAY JUST BE THAT AM IN THE WRONG, BUT I REALLY THINK THIS TEACHER GOT SOMETHING AGAIST ME, MY FRIENDS THINK IT AND MY BEST TEACHER SAID SHES BEEN TALKING ABOUT ME SAYING I BEHAVE BAD(MY BEST TEACHER WAS SURPRISED COS AM AN OKAY STUDNET)
I HAVE TOLD MY DAD AND HE SAYS HE'LL TALK TO HER BUT AM NOT SURE IF ITS ME OH HER!
SORRY ITS SO LONG :(
Wow, that stinks! It sounds like this teacher really has it in for you. And now that she has this bad attitude toward you, anything you do is going to look bad in her eyes. Maybe it was something you did, or some way you acted?? Or maybe she has just pre-judged you without giving you a chance, because something about you (looks, clothes, mannerisms) remind her of another student who gave her trouble in the past? So she's assumed you're the same way?
Whatever the reason for her attitude, you're going to have to deal with her for the rest of the year. So it would be best to get things straightened out right away.
I think having you dad talk to her would NOT be a good idea. Even if he is really nice about it, she will take that as a personal attack and it might actually make things worse. I think it would be much better if YOU talked to her about it!
Try writing her a note. Say something like, "Dear Miss _____, I think we've gotten off on the wrong foot, and it's really been bothering me. I really want to do well in your class this year, and I'm afraid I may have done something to make you think I don't care about your class. I just want you to know that I am going to try my best to be a good student."
Another thing you could try is asking her for help with the work, perhaps after school. That may help soften her up a bit. When a teacher gives a student one on one help, they get to know the student on a more personal level, and they tend to feel more friendly and sympathetic toward them.
If none of that works, then have your dad talk to her. And if THAT doesn't work, have him talk to the principal. Maybe you can be transferred to a different teacher?
Good luck! =]
ok so i've been dating this guy for over 6 months and were great together. the only thing is he has a friend whose a girl. and there sorta close and it bothers me.they like talk alot on the phone (like 4 hours once) and shes around him some in school. i know he would never do that to me and i trust him completly , im just more worried about her, b/c i know she likes him. and i told him she liked him before we started going out and he denyed it. and we used to joke about it, but its not really funny anymore and kinda hurtful. and i told him about it and i asked him to stop tlkn to her on the phone, he said he would but he still did.i dont wanna be a controlling gf, but i can't help it. and of course she hates me and i can't stand her. i trust my guy completly and i love being with him. i just dont want this to turn into a big thing. what should i do?
XromanticX
I have a friend in your same situation. And this is what I've told her: First of all, you need to remind yourself that your boyfriend is going out with YOU, not her. If he liked her, he'd be going out with her, right? But he's not... he's chosen to be with you and not her.
Of course, that doesn't stop you from worrying that he might eventually start liking her. Especially since she's apparently doing all she can to get him. If she succeeds, and he does start to like her... well, unfortunately, there's not much you can do about it. You can't control his feelings.
But what you CAN do is try hard not to give him a reason to stop liking you. If you start to be controlling, or get mad or pouty when he talks to her, it's not going to make you very pleasant to be around. And he might begin to think, "Why should I put up with a possessive, grumpy girlfriend when I could go out with this other girl instead?" And of course you don't want that.
So just keep being your sweet, wonderful self... so if it comes to the point where he has to choose between you and her, he will choose to stay with you for the same reason he chose to be with you in the first place.
Everyone seems to mention their senior pics. and
I have senior pics. on the 21st and does anyone
know if it is the cap and gown pics. or is it
just regular pictures? Cause I dont want to miss
it if its cap and gown.
Try calling the photography studio and ask them what kind of pictures they'll be taking.
I have the sweetest boyfriend in the world and I feel really bad because we got in a fight and he's going to be gone all this weekend.. So I wanted to know if any of you have some cute ideas for a gift or something to give to him when he gets back.
thank you :]
Well, this might sound corny, but why not bake him some cookies? (Or brownies, or a cake, or whatever you think he'd like). You could even write "I'm sorry" or "I love you" on it with icing. =]
i work in a restuarant and my boss is really weird. he's like in his thirties but always hits on me and asks me when im finally gonna let him take me home. it makes me really uncomfortable but i dont knw what to do about it. i asked him to stop but he just tells me to stop teasing him and that he knows i want him.
plz help if you have any advice.
Oh, im 16 btw
Well, regardless of whether he's serious or just teasing, this is sexual harrassment and it's against the law. And with you being a minor, that makes it even worse. You should definitely tell your parents about it, and also his boss and/or the restaurant owner. They will make sure he stops or that you don't have to work under him anymore. You should not have to put up with this or quit your job because of it.
okay well i have this friend who had been my best friend fot the past 3 years now. 6 months ago she found herself a boyfriend who she has liked since 6th grade(3 years ago)in the beginning he was the better of her ex boyfriends but now he is a total jerk. all he wants to do is makeout and go to 2nd wherever they are. when she isn't around or not paying attention he makes these really annoying/hurtful comments either to me and my friends or to someone about someone else and i hate it. all of my friends and my best friends friends hate him and know where i am coming from. Jess(my bf) really likes him. i dont know if she likes HIM or the IDEA of having a boyfriend. we have been fighting so much with any little thing i say about him. when he is with her she forgets that my friends and i are there. her boyfriend bobby will randomly walk up to her while her and i are having a conversation and start making out with her. i have come to hate him and i cant stand to be around him. i have told jess all of this a ton of times but she claims she loves him. and her and i never get alone time. i just dont know what i should do because she likes him and knows i hate him and still no progress with anything is being made.(ex. trying to not forget im there) what should i do? ps sorry this is so long
There are two things going on here, so I'm going to address them separately:
Number one, your friend is going out with someone who is apparently not a real nice guy. You know she's gonna end up being hurt, and you're genuinely worried about her. Unfortunately, there's not a whole lot you can do about this. You've already told her what you think of him, but she's still crazy about him. As they say, love is blind. If you keep saying bad things about him (even though they may be true), she's only gonna get defensive and angry with you. She may accuse you of being jealous or meddlesome, because she's not ready to see the truth. She's gonna have to find out on her own what a jerk he is. And when she does, she's going to need her friends' shoulders to cry on. So just realize that and be there for her.
Number two: you're feeling rejected by your friend because she's ditched you for a boyfriend. (You'd probably feel this even if he was a great guy). This happens all the time! It's hard to learn how to balance friends and a boyfriend. Try not to take it as a personal rejection. Your friend still loves you and needs you, she's just to preoccupied to realize that you're feeling left out. Just tell her that you miss spending "girl time" with her and try to plan some shopping trips, sleepovers, etc. that don't include him. But keep this separate from the other issue (that he's a jerk).