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im worried and parenoid
ok so i've been dating this guy for over 6 months and were great together. the only thing is he has a friend whose a girl. and there sorta close and it bothers me.they like talk alot on the phone (like 4 hours once) and shes around him some in school. i know he would never do that to me and i trust him completly , im just more worried about her, b/c i know she likes him. and i told him she liked him before we started going out and he denyed it. and we used to joke about it, but its not really funny anymore and kinda hurtful. and i told him about it and i asked him to stop tlkn to her on the phone, he said he would but he still did.i dont wanna be a controlling gf, but i can't help it. and of course she hates me and i can't stand her. i trust my guy completly and i love being with him. i just dont want this to turn into a big thing. what should i do?
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OMG! you sound a lot like Kursty my cousin. Are you her? B/c she has a boyfriend named Daniel whose close friends with his friend Maria and Maria likes him and it get on Kursty's nerves. And she just told me a few days ago that Maria hates her. OMG! this has to be Kursty so I'm sorry I can't give you advice. And plus Maria and Daniel talk on the fone way too much to just me friends. And they go to school together. They're even in the same grade. And Kursty and Daniel always joke about stupid things like that. You should make him realize that this really hurts you. If you're kursty or anything like her you probably arent serious so he doesn't take you in a serious way. He just says ok I wont. You have to make him understand that that really hurts you. I mean how would he feel if you had a guy friend that was always around when he is away. That would piss him off. B/c Kursty's got a friend named Daniel well he's the other dAniel and her boyfriend hates when she's around him. So, yeah. there's really nothing you can do. You can't just say go away! or stop talking to my boyfriend.
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You don't trust him. You think you do, but if you did she wouldn't worry you. He made the decision to
date you and not her, you are going to have to get
it through your head that YOU are the one.
She is a good friend of his. He talks to her a lot.
Your jealousy is going to come up as a topic between them, and the reason why. If they didn't have feelings for each other before, you could be putting it in their heads the more you complain about it.
Its going to be difficult to do but you are going to
have to trust he is telling you the truth. You can't tell him who not to talk to or hang out with. If you
don't stop, you will destroy your relationship.
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I have a friend in your same situation. And this is what I've told her: First of all, you need to remind yourself that your boyfriend is going out with YOU, not her. If he liked her, he'd be going out with her, right? But he's not... he's chosen to be with you and not her.
Of course, that doesn't stop you from worrying that he might eventually start liking her. Especially since she's apparently doing all she can to get him. If she succeeds, and he does start to like her... well, unfortunately, there's not much you can do about it. You can't control his feelings.
But what you CAN do is try hard not to give him a reason to stop liking you. If you start to be controlling, or get mad or pouty when he talks to her, it's not going to make you very pleasant to be around. And he might begin to think, "Why should I put up with a possessive, grumpy girlfriend when I could go out with this other girl instead?" And of course you don't want that.
So just keep being your sweet, wonderful self... so if it comes to the point where he has to choose between you and her, he will choose to stay with you for the same reason he chose to be with you in the first place.
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VV she already has confronted him dummy...if anything you should talk to the girl even though you guys dont get along...but why don't you guys get along??? i think you should at first be friendly with her and then confront to her about the situation
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hmm this is a tough one..
i think that you should deffinitly confront him about this because its obviously bothering you, and if any other girl was put in this situation, they would be concerned too.
first off i think you should tell him how you worried about him and the girls relationship, be sure to tell him that you care about him alot, and your more concerned about the girl then him.
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