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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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so there was this girl that i kinda had a crush on. shes trans. and people bash on both of us almost everyday. im a pretty girl and eveything. boys like me and everything.
but i feel so confused, please help...
i tryed to take my life the other day. because the mean things people were saying, were honestly making me wana die..
:/
You could be bi, Even if you were that's okay.
Honestly, People are going to say mean things. That is just the way some people are. Taking your life isn't going to make things better. You need to realize that people who pick on others are people who have low self esteem issues and aren't happy with themselves. Yes, I know what it's like to be bullied I was bullied for 11 years although out elementary, middle and most of my high school years. The bigger person ignores it and walks away, Sometimes it's hard and hurtful but in the end showing them and giving them a reaction is giving them exactly what they want. Ignoring stupid shit like that is showing you are mature and eventually they get bored. If you feel the bullying becoming unbearable then talk to a school counselor that is what THEY ARE THERE FOR. Way to many people nowadays would rather handle their problems themselves and sometimes it doesn't end up nowhere but to people taking their own lives. It's ridiculous, All it takes it too talk to someone. Taking your life over something like this isn't worth it trust me.
14/f
i have to shave my vag!!! i have done so before but only a little because i get all itchy and get red bumps. How should i shave it without this happening? what is the right way to shave it? thanks so much!
What kind of razor are you using? That could be the problem. Guys have non cut razors and I would believe women would too. If you use soap, Then try switching to shaving cream for women.
So I am a girl 18,
I am out of school and just sit around nowadays, well you see when I turned 15 I dated this guy T for a year I broke up with him on my 16th birthday and a few days after started dating my best friend S well, S and I dated for a year as well, I stayed single after he dumped me for a long time, hoping he'd get back with me, I realized I was an idiot haha, well after about 5 months of being single I met this guy M he was great, he was my dream guy, well I stayed single for about 2 more months until I was certain I wanted to date M, well M and I dated for about 3 months basically he had sex with me and dumped me the same day I found out he had been cheating, you know, your basic brand of Jerk. Well I've been single for two month now, and I realized the majority of my teenaged life I have been in relationships. After S and I broke up I started whoring around and didn't care much for relationships.
I knew M and I wouldn't get married or anything, but that brief amount of time I had with him reminded me how great relationships are. I know I am only 18, but, being alone sucks, I love being independent and doing things on my own, I am a strong girl, but sometimes I lay there at night all alone and wish that I had someone to cuddle up with. I'll go to my friends house and she lives with her boyfriend, these two are what you could call my only close friends. I love them but I feel alone a lot of the time when we go out, because well they are together and I am just there. I feel like I need to find someone to fill this void. I have tried other things, I paint all the time, I ref soccer, I rearrange my furniture and decor about 2 times a week. I go to the gym a lot and spend about 1/2 my day on youtube. I feel like my life is going nowhere. I do nothing, I have no car and my paychecks are really small. I really want to find someone, not a husband or potential husband, pffffft, I am too young! But I want to find a guy who will be a special friend, I don't want anything serious, but a guy to cuddle and kiss and talk to and do things with, but I look at the guys I know and most of them aren't my type or i have already given a go and didn't like. I am completely blind as to how to meet new people and I am very picky. I am just so tired of this feeling in my stomach, right now my only cuddle buddy is my stuffed rabbit. I feel like such a loser, so I guess my question is, how do I get rid of this feeling of being alone? I have tried taking up hobbies and joining social activities, but nothing gets rid of it.
I also want to know how to meet new people, I meet cute guys but I never feel like I am good enough, I know I am not ugly, but I don't feel gorgeous, I am tall about five foot eight and skinny, caucasian, green eyes, black hair. I look at guys but I can never talk to them unless they talk to me first, I mean, I'll see a guy while I am grocery shopping and give him some flirty eyes, but I can't go up and talk to them. :/ I don't know what to do, I am tired of being alone and feeling empty, what do I do? Any advice is greatly appreciated (: thanks!!
While sometimes it does suck to be alone, You also need to learn to be happy with yourself. Men don't make people happy, WE make ourselves happy.
If you want to find someone, Then you are going to have to put yourself out there. The next time you see someone in a grocery store grow some confidence and try talking to him. Start off with a simple "Hey, How ya doing and try complimenting" Smile and make eye contact. Guys find it sexy when a women has confidence in herself. Sometimes another good way to meet someone is through friends, If your friends know someone then make a day to all go out and hang out.
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 4 yrs we've been through a lot including dealing with Erctile Dsynfunction for him at 21 years old. He was addicted to porn and at first it wasnt a problem but he got ED and it became a problem he seeked a urulogist and they said nothing was wrong with him physically that we should probably seek help for porn addiction. I installed a filter in his computer and since then everything was fine sure. I became jealous and paranoid after that about what turned him on. Anyway yesterday we had sex and after sex he usually can't get hard he calms down. We started watching a little kids cartoon The Avatar google it if you dont know and there was a part where the little girl about 12 years old i'd say was drowing in quick sand screaming for help and she was screaming for help i saw my getting a smirk and then i was like whats wrong with you and he was like what nothing? and i was like let me see "down there" and he was hard not fully but almost and i was just disgusted it was a little girl fully clothed from head to toe. I was so digusted i just came home and he said he was turned on. and thats all he would tell me.I just find this so sickening i mean i wouldve understood if she had big breasts and she was older. I don't know what to do i find this sickening that i cant even trust him to look at cartoons?! Is this normal? I just honestly don't wanna go back with him after this i find it sickening. I know he used to watch cartoon porn and thats totally normal because the girls have huge breasts and they are doing sexual acts but this was nothing sexual. What do you guys think?
Errr...This is by far the weirdest question I'm about to answer these days and trust me I get some weird ones.
Your boyfriend needs help, Maybe he really does have a porn addiction but I think there is more too it then that. Getting turned on by little kid cartoons is not normal. I am going to have to agree with the others it sounds like he may have a thing for the kiddos and I think his best be is to see a psychiatrist. However, If I were in your shoes....I'd probably jet too.
Is anyone on here in a LDR? I'm with this guy that I really like but I'm going across the country for college and just wanted other peoples opinions on it.
My last relationship was 3 hours away.
In all honesty, Don't get yourself into something you can't make time for. Long distant relationships are hard as hell to maintain and very costly.
A few things I've learned from my past:
Be willing to travel, My ex lived in the city and sometimes the traveling was exhausting. The longer you have to travel the more exhausting it gets.
You need to know that you will have to try 5x harder than someone who isn't in a long distant relationship. Trust is a huge factor, Will you be able to trust him knowing that you are in another state? .....
There is good, There is bad in LDR. Would you be able to handle the distant and trust that your relationship will be stable when you two are apart?
This guy being across the country does not sound like someone who is going to work out. You are young, You shouldn't hold yourself back for one person that is just not available. Sometimes you can like someone but in the end you really should do what is best for you. Do you want a fantasy or a relationship? Lets be realistic... When you go to college you aren't really going to have the time for someone who is miles away. The stress of traveling and making time is only going to put more baggage on top of the stress you will already have from being in College.
Really what it all comes down too is long distant relationships are a pain in the ass. "My personal opinion" You can't just spend time with the person whenever you wish. I also find long distant relationships to be no different then internet dating. It's nothing but a fantasy and technically isn't real. The guy is across the country, Do you really want to put yourself on hold? I found myself a lot happier with someone I can see frequently and spend time with rather than someone who lives 3 hours away from me.
Hey there!
I am a girl 17, single and very happy.
I am in love with changing my hair, I love cutting it and coloring it, I've had my hair every color you can name, well anyways, I had my hair blue and pink and purple about 2 weeks ago, well I had a job interview and I dyed it all this demi permanent black by n'rage well to keep it sweet and short, I hate my hair now, it's too normal, and it's starting to fade into this grey greenish color and my roots are green!! I want my hair colorful again not this green ugly mess, but I know that requires bleaching. I want my hair hotpink again because I loved it. But I've bleached my hair and dyed it so much that my hair is really damaged and dry and I know if I bleach it anymore my hair is going to fall out.
I don't want to cut it off, I cut off my split ends every couple of weeks and I have been doing hot oil treatments about once a week, I also have stopped washing my hair every day and now I wash it every 2-3 days, I use leave in conditioner and air dry my hair but it still isn't showing improvement, I wanted to get it healthy before I did it pink again, but my hair color looks so gross now and I just want it to be light enough and healthy enough. So I have a few questions.
1. What are some efficient low cost products or at home remedies or even just tips to get my hair strong and healthy again, preferably quick.
2. What are some good ways to lighten my hair fast without bleaching or damaging it further.
3. I have short hair it goes to my shoulders and has a lot of layers, I've been trying to avoid using heat on my hair because I don't want to fry it further, but my hair is very thick and likes to stick up which way, it's kind of scene, and if I dry it by air and don't straighten it my hair looks so weird all misshapen and wavy and sticks up everywhere.
Is there anyway to get my hair straight or to look nice without the flat iron?
Thanks a ton! (:
You need to stop dying your hair, The green isn't only a color fuck up but it's your hair dying.
I've dyed my hair many times, but this is just clearly obsessive. Bleach is the one thing that will damage your hair, It is high on chemicals. If you hate the way your hair looks now "Which I think it looks just fine" then buy a undye kit. It's called "Color oops" and works pretty well. Color oops will take out the dye from your hair, After you do this leave your hair alone for at least 6 months and give it a chance to breathe.
Hi! I m 27 years old Male young guy. From last one year I am suffering sexual problem. I want to having sex with my own Mother. So tell me how can approach her for this? She is 42 years hot women. Plez suggest me for the same.
You need professional help, See a psychiatrist.
Having sex with family members is considered incest and almost anywhere it's illegal. Also, Incest is a very serious crime. If you have a problem, Then you need to seek the proper help for it not confront your mother. That is wrong
can a girl become pregnant if a single sperm is gone in her mouth?
No
You cannot get pregnant from oral sex, The only way to fall pregnant is if the penis has any sort of contact with the vagina or if sperm were be in contact with the vagina. You cannot get pregnant this way, You are fine.
What does it mean when a girl sticks her tongue between two fingers?
A girl referring to oral
Personally, I find it a turn off when girls give this gesture. It seemed to be a very popular one during the night parties at my college dormitory. It's immature, It's unladylike and It's a major turn off. "To me that is"
I am writing a short story and it involves someone who stole from a store at the mall. So I wanted to ask some people anonymously:
Have you ever stolen something? Why? What was the motivation behind it? And how did you feel after you did it?
Thank you so much!
Stealing is crime
Have I ever stolen? Sure, Back in my High School I was rebellious and always doing stupid shit. I stole someone's purse and that ended me in the back of a police car. My intentions? I don't remember having intentions but I do remember making one hell of a stupid choice. I'm not sure if you are "really" writing a story or not but if you are asking this question based on thinking of doing so, I advise you to not do anything you will end up regretting.
Stealing a purse: I ended up with a charge of larceny. It wasn't a very nice thing to have on a record however we are all stupid at one point in our lives and High School was years ago.
I am a sophomore in High School. I've liked this guy who is a junior. I'ved liked him for almost 4 years now. He knows i like him, but he doesn't seem to care. I see him in the hall, and he sees me. We only stare nothing else. I'ved tried talking to him on Facebook and he doesn't even and he doesn't answer me. I've had self esteem issues because of him, and i've gone to my school counselor. She says i should try and avoid him, but i can't. He's in my luch and he's everywhere. He's very popular. I can't get over him no matter what i do. And no matter what my friends say, or how many times they yell at me i'm still never gonna get over him. I've tried liking other people, but he's always still in the back of my mind. I mean he still looks at me, so what does that mean? he looks, but doesn't say a word. I DON'T wanna get over him. And he doesn't know how i feel, and i don't think he will ever understand how much i wanna get to know him and be with him. I feel like he's too good for me, and i'm just nothing to him. He's at the top, and i feel like i'm at the bottom. I don't get this kid, he's so confusing. No one understand how much i like this kid, honestly. People judge me for liking him, but i can't get over him no matter what i do. I think about him constantly. And i've always wanted to talk to him, or wear his football jersey, but i'm afraid and scared to talk to him. The last thing i want is to be turned down by him. I need advice, please :)
You need to move on, He is not interested in you.
It is okay to have a crush on someone but don't let it lead into obsession. That is not healthy and sometimes depending on how much someone likes someone obsession can lead to stalking and harassment. You should avoid him as much as possible. Guys are just guys, They come and they go. It is not healthy to try and stay fit on one guy who has no interest in dating you, It's been four years and this guy hasn't even tried to talk to you. Trying to get him to talk to you is either going to push him away or cause him to become annoyed on facebook to the point where he removes and blocks you if he thinks he should. Move on and meet someone else, If you don't think you can right now then give dating a break but stop with this dude before you become a bit much.
I have a major crush on my teacher. I am 13 and i'm a female. He is probably in his late 20's. I think about him all day. Write his initials on my hand, walk by his room and stare at him through the window, take pictures of him without him noticing, and talk to him all the time at school. My friend even wrote him a note saying I love you mr. ______for me but didn't write my name. I need him to know how i feel, and i was thinking about telling him the last day of school. he's hilarious and nice. i want to get to know him more. what should i do? and i know i should get over him but i can't. he's on my mind 24/7. its causing my problems in my relationships with my friends because i talk about him so much. please help, i'm stressed.
Do you realize that trying to proceed a relationship with a teacher is against the law? It could very well cost your teacher his job and worst case scenario he could be arrested? Seriously, Back off. This is a very bad idea and definitely not something you want to get into.
Added onto the fact that it is wrong and against the law, You are a minor and if your teacher were ever be caught acting inappropriately with a student not only can he be fired, arrested but also very well likely to be charged and would have to register as a sex offender. Taking pictures of a teacher, Slipping him notes etc. COULD be classified as harassment. You need to stop, Your friends need to stop. You have already gone far over the line, Teaching is a privileged job and no your teacher doesn't need to loose his job over stupid and poor choices done by a 13 year old never mind his possible own actions.
I'm 15 in 10th grade (high school)and I go to a small private school where everybody knows everyone and i recently broke up with my bf and on facebook his status went from being in a relationship to single, but now some people who are his friends are commenting on it and they are calling my a slut and more horrible stuff. Is this cyber bullying? What can I do? I've been crying for a long time and I've always been bullied (verbally) by people for as long as I can remember. I told my parents and they said to do something to take my mind off of it..but I cant! I want to switch schools to a bigger school. I feel like people are just ignoring me when I tell them im bullied, I only have 1 friend really and I don't have many classes with her. I'm really tired of this and I'm starting to hate my life...Please help!! please!!!:(
This is common teenage behavior, Ignore it.
Stop letting people's stupid opinions get too you, Words can hurt yes, I understand that but you also need to know that people these days are bored and have nothing better to do then to pick on others.
Do NOT let a boy get too you, These "people" who cares what they think. They are just as dumb as they seek out to be. Trust me, Karma is a bitch. There is no need to cry over it. You need to suck it up and know that you are stronger than that. If someone wants to talk to shit, Let them. Be the bigger person and walk away, Ignoring stupid shit like that is a sign of maturity they obviously don't have. You will meet other people, There will be more boys you will meet but that all comes with patience. Changing schools isn't really going to do much but if you feel the need then sit down and discuss how you'd like to go to a public school with your parents. You also need to realize that if you change schools it's not really going to fix the problem, There are punks everywhere. That is just the way it is, I know the feeling I used to be bullied when I was in school too.
Let me explain something, I don't know if it will really help but I'll try anyway.
I was bullied for 11 years, It was always 7 against 1 and to make matters worse 3 of those bullies lived in the neighborhood. I was terrified to ride my bike around because they used to throw rocks at me. Over time I realized that if I show no reaction they will eventually get bored and look pathetic and that is exactly what happened. I grew up, I laughed it off and walked away and they got bored. However, I never walked alone. Name calling is stupid and you just need to keep reminding yourself that the only reason they say it is because they want a reaction out of you. You just need to reassure yourself you are not a slut, You are not stupid and that you are the one with the brains. Never mind these childish jerks. Now what I mean by karma I thought it was interesting to know that one of the main bullies that used to pick on me daily is now jobless, Lost his apartment and recently moved back into his mothers house and to add to that his divorced. I just happened to catch him as I was going into a gas station.........Oddly the guy held the door opened to me after that brief conversation. Odd isn't it?
im in LOVE with my ex but hes always angry and hes as out of control as it gets. i waznt dat great of a person myself its wasnt all r fault tho we live in a very bad area and have pretty messed up lives but over the last couple of years ive become more mature and hes just become worst. the more im away from him the more better of a person i become and from what ive heard he just gets worst and im still extremely lonely and i know hes the only 1 dat can fix dat. mybe if we lived in a better world without abuse, drugs, and babies we could b happy 2gether again. till then what do i do? can i really keep living without my soulmate?
Well...
Added on to what Tuscan said
If you have been asking us how to get him back and how you can piss his current girlfriend off then you need to get over it and stop. Trying to seek out revenge against someone is childish and immature. Also, If you really want to move on then stop trying to get him back. If that IS the case then it sounds like YOU are the one that is out of control not him.
around 11 , 12 years old , i stuck a finger inside of me , but it didnt hurt . that same night my boyfriend stuck one finger inside of me , it hurt a little & i started to bleed & thats when i first started my period . im 17 now and im still a virgin and ive stuck two fingers inside and it hurted like loosing my virginity , but no blood came out . i stuck a tampon inside on the last day of my period & it didnt hurt as much . was my cherry popped when i was younger ?
Maybe
Hymen can be broken by something as simple as riding a bike. However just to clarify in order for someone to loose their virginity they would have sexual intercourse not pop their cherry.
I have never been to USA, so I just wanted to know. How's the life in USA ? People's attitude, Government's attitude.... Anything you wanna tell about the lifestyle of people in United States. Thankyou.
I have also lived in America my entire life
We do have a lot of freedom but we also have laws we need follow just as if you'd go pretty much anywhere. People are decent, We have good people and we have bad people. As far as lifestyle, It's different for everyone. Some people are better off then others, The economy these days makes it hard for some. Jobs are very difficult to find and it leaves many reliant on the Government for help. There of course are good, There of course are bad
The Government.....Well I'm not a big fan of politics so I don't really pay attention to that.
So I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 18. We've been together for 2 months now.
Next weekend I'm going to meet his whole family for the first time, at a dinner. I guess his mom asks how we are doing and everything, and I've briefly met her once. The thing I'm worried about when meeting his whole family is our age difference.
Everyone always makes a big deal that I'm 3 years older than him. But really, we're perfect for each other. People don't make fun of me, but they just joke around saying things like "Ha ha you cradle robber!" Things like that. I'm worried what his whole family is going to say. I know there is going to be a joke or few and I never know how to handle it! I'm a pretty shy girl so I just kind of laugh it off. Or the question from families are always "Why would you wanna be with him!" Like joking around but I never know how to respond.
Any advice on how to handle comments like these?! I obviously want to make a good impression on his family.
Your boyfriend is legally an adult, That is what it all comes down too. If he were under the age of 18, Then I would say otherwise and believe me 3 year age difference isn't a big deal.
If someone makes a rude comment, You be mature and just act polite anyway. Smile and suck it up
Yes, It is irritating to have to deal with remarks about a relationship but if you show it doesn't faze you then somewhere down the line they will get bored of trying to get a reaction when aren't getting one.
I had a friend named Jon who was 28 and the girl he dated was 22.......Really, As long as you both are adults it doesn't matter. It only becomes a big deal if you make it out too be.
Be happy with him, Be happy in your relationship you two are fine. Also, You can never satisfy everyone no matter how perfect your relationship may seem there will always be that one person who will have something bad to say. If it weren't age, They'd find something else to pick at just shrug it off and ignore it because believe me with people like that the thing that really pisses them off the most is too see you two happy.
How often should you change your bedsheets.
Obviously they need to be changed if something gets spilt like juice or something but other than that how often should they be changed if nothing gets spilt on them
Generally every other day but once a week should be okay. Just make sure you have more than one bed sheet in the house and every time you do laundry wash one. If you spill something on the bed, Then depending on what it was then change the sheet.
im a girl. and im 14 :p okay so, ill start rom the beginning. in April i dated this guy Magilla (ehh, code name). he was my first love and i dated him for three months.he left me because i wouldnt have sex with him. and i was so heart broken. id have alot of good friends that helped me. one of them was Jonny. Jonny at that time had a girlfriend that he was with for a whole year. so he was there for me through everything. so when school started again in August, Jonny helped me get to most of my classes and i started to really like him. and i knew he did too. me and Jonny would always get high together and have the most funnest time ever when we hung out :)he was like me brother. but i always felt like hed use me becase when his girlfriend wasnt there hed treat me like i was his gf. and i didnt like that. him and his gf broke up last week (its October now)and he asked me out. but......i dont like him as much as he likes me. being in a relationship with him is so different from us just being friends. his kiss dosent feel right. nor when we cuddle. im so confused. i wanna leave him but i know we wont have the same friendship we had befor. help? :(
People cannot use you if you don't let them.
The ex boyfriend who left you because you didn't want to give into sex was using you. If someone is that shallow to end a relationship over such a thing then you shouldn't be with that person to begin with. Dumping someone over such a matter is not only proof he just wanted to use you but the guy never respected you. You should be proud, Not feeling guilty because you had self respect.
As far as I read, Jonny isn't using you. Least not yet and will not as long as you don't let it get too far. Communication is important in friendships and relationships. If you are feeling uncomfortable with how close Jonny is becoming then you should remind him that you are uncomfortable. Now you stated that Jonny broke up with his girlfriend......Whatever you do DO NOT become his rebound. I'm not saying this is his intentions but like I said in the beginning nobody can use you if you do not allow them too. Let Jonny know that "As a friend" you are hear to listen if he needs to talk. The key word "Friend" should give him the hint. Communicate
I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months, but we've known each other for 7 years. On and off. I really love him and all, but he is just too obsessed with playing his video games! When ever i try to talk to him, he doesn't pay attention to me. Just the game! When i suggest to do something together like go out somewhere he would just find an excuse not to go and he'd end up playing his game. I don't know what to do. He is a great boyfriend, but he's starting to play his game almost everyday and its extremely annoying. I've also tried to play with him at one point, but he's just so competitive and we argue over the game and its not healthy. I don't know what to do now :/
If you don't want to date a child then don't. Your boyfriend is still hung up in video games and when you try to talk to him about his problem he shuts you out. If he really wanted to fix his problem then you would think he would take your concerns into consideration. He is clearly addicted and puts his games before your relationship.
You can try to talk to him when he is not playing his game or ask him if he can shut the damn thing off for 10 minutes so you two can talk. Then you express how you feel that his constant playing of video games is having an effect on your relationship. You feel that you two can't spend quality time together and that you think he should try and work on weaning off the system a little bit. If he doesn't seem to want to hear you out and be reasonable then you know that you aren't his main priority and should probably date someone else who you will be.