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Am I being Cyber bullied?
I'm 15 in 10th grade (high school)and I go to a small private school where everybody knows everyone and i recently broke up with my bf and on facebook his status went from being in a relationship to single, but now some people who are his friends are commenting on it and they are calling my a slut and more horrible stuff. Is this cyber bullying? What can I do? I've been crying for a long time and I've always been bullied (verbally) by people for as long as I can remember. I told my parents and they said to do something to take my mind off of it..but I cant! I want to switch schools to a bigger school. I feel like people are just ignoring me when I tell them im bullied, I only have 1 friend really and I don't have many classes with her. I'm really tired of this and I'm starting to hate my life...Please help!! please!!!:(
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Women tend to take the criticisms of others to heart whether those criticisms have any actual merit or not. The irony about women is that often times their worst bully is themselves that way they are always critiquing their looks in minute detail.
Anyway, realize that once you get out of high school and move on to college that the bullying bullshit stops. Unfortunately, adolescents are a very insecure lot and some deal with their own self loathing by lashing out at other people. This is especially true among boys because boys are dominance oriented and usually don't deal very well with situations in which they are on the losing side of a particular circumstance.
So my advice to you is to consider that the bullies are just a bunch of miserable, self hating fucks and the problem is them, not you. As long as you are a thoughtful, well meaning and hard working person you have no reason to be down on yourself. You know the truth about yourself and what some given set of others project on you is pure fantasy and delusion and therefore shouldn't be lent any credence.
Don't let others sabotage you or they will have won. Carry out your own agenda because only you can live your life and what others have to say about it should be treated as immaterial because they aren't you.
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Anytime you are being insulted over the internet I consider it cyber bullying. Sorry to say but switching to a new school doesn't change the fact that people are bullies, so everywhere you go there's gonna be that one kid that won't leave you alone. But your parents are right take your mind off of it.... You know that you aren't those things that they are calling you so don't even bother getting upset. To make yourself feel better do something fun with your friend(s) invite them over and do your nails.... anything fun that will help you gain confidence. Hoped that I could help thanks bye!
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This is common teenage behavior, Ignore it.
Stop letting people's stupid opinions get too you, Words can hurt yes, I understand that but you also need to know that people these days are bored and have nothing better to do then to pick on others.
Do NOT let a boy get too you, These "people" who cares what they think. They are just as dumb as they seek out to be. Trust me, Karma is a bitch. There is no need to cry over it. You need to suck it up and know that you are stronger than that. If someone wants to talk to shit, Let them. Be the bigger person and walk away, Ignoring stupid shit like that is a sign of maturity they obviously don't have. You will meet other people, There will be more boys you will meet but that all comes with patience. Changing schools isn't really going to do much but if you feel the need then sit down and discuss how you'd like to go to a public school with your parents. You also need to realize that if you change schools it's not really going to fix the problem, There are punks everywhere. That is just the way it is, I know the feeling I used to be bullied when I was in school too.
Let me explain something, I don't know if it will really help but I'll try anyway.
I was bullied for 11 years, It was always 7 against 1 and to make matters worse 3 of those bullies lived in the neighborhood. I was terrified to ride my bike around because they used to throw rocks at me. Over time I realized that if I show no reaction they will eventually get bored and look pathetic and that is exactly what happened. I grew up, I laughed it off and walked away and they got bored. However, I never walked alone. Name calling is stupid and you just need to keep reminding yourself that the only reason they say it is because they want a reaction out of you. You just need to reassure yourself you are not a slut, You are not stupid and that you are the one with the brains. Never mind these childish jerks. Now what I mean by karma I thought it was interesting to know that one of the main bullies that used to pick on me daily is now jobless, Lost his apartment and recently moved back into his mothers house and to add to that his divorced. I just happened to catch him as I was going into a gas station.........Oddly the guy held the door opened to me after that brief conversation. Odd isn't it?
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It's natural to have guy friends say that stuff, because they don't want a girl in his life to distract him from his buddies. It has happened to me when I broke up with my boyfriend.. it's part of nature.. yes it hurts, but you'll get over it.. you will most likely deal with that with every break up, and your friends will say the same thing sometimes, when they are happy you may have broken up with a jerk. It's called support that's all. Hold up your head and walk proudly, don't act like it bothers you and it will shut them up from saying things.
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calm down. this happens alot. the resons why people may do this is one: if its a girl; shes probably jealous of you. and now, is trying to take the spotlight to get closer to him. if its a guy; he most likey has a crush in you. guys only tease girls because it gives them attiention so that you think of them.
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