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am i bi?
so there was this girl that i kinda had a crush on. shes trans. and people bash on both of us almost everyday. im a pretty girl and eveything. boys like me and everything.
but i feel so confused, please help...
i tryed to take my life the other day. because the mean things people were saying, were honestly making me wana die..
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I really like what WingYan said; "Labels should be restricted to cans of tuna." Who cares if you're bi or strait, lesbian or gay or transgender. Frankly it is no one’s business but yours and your significant other(s).
In this day and age we should be more accepting of people regardless of color, nationality or sexual orientation. Children, meaning teenagers, can and are not very accepting of those that are different than they are. Their tendency is to bully and shame those that are different. This is wrong and very much at the attention of society at the moment. Bullying has become not only morally wrong it has become legally wrong as well.
If you’re being bullied or harassed in school you need to tell a teacher or the principal. Out of school you call the police. Bullying or harassment because of sexual orientation is a hate crime.
What really bothers me is the fact that you tried to end your life over this. I hope you are being seen by a doctor or therapist for help with this. If you are not I would like you to call this number; 1-800-273-TALK.
This is the National Suicide prevention hot line. It is a 24/7 hot line answered by trained volunteers who are there to help you. They will talk with you and stay on the line with you until either they can send help to you or the can arrange for you to see someone that can help you. Please call them. They are really good at what they do and they can help you.
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Labels should be restricted to cans of tuna.
Bottom line: if you are physically attracted to a person and have emotional feelings for them, there is the potential of a relationship. Be it male or female, does it matter that much to you?
There is no rule written that says you must only be attracted to males, females, whatever.
Perhaps you do find yourself dating a girl you really like. Maybe you'll find other girls thereafter or perhaps she was the only one you were attracted to.
You may well be bi. There's only one way to find out and thats being honest with yourself and having the confidence, should you like a girl, to see where it goes.
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You could be bi, Even if you were that's okay.
Honestly, People are going to say mean things. That is just the way some people are. Taking your life isn't going to make things better. You need to realize that people who pick on others are people who have low self esteem issues and aren't happy with themselves. Yes, I know what it's like to be bullied I was bullied for 11 years although out elementary, middle and most of my high school years. The bigger person ignores it and walks away, Sometimes it's hard and hurtful but in the end showing them and giving them a reaction is giving them exactly what they want. Ignoring stupid shit like that is showing you are mature and eventually they get bored. If you feel the bullying becoming unbearable then talk to a school counselor that is what THEY ARE THERE FOR. Way to many people nowadays would rather handle their problems themselves and sometimes it doesn't end up nowhere but to people taking their own lives. It's ridiculous, All it takes it too talk to someone. Taking your life over something like this isn't worth it trust me.
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It might not actually be a crush that you have here. But this is somebody who you can relate to because your going through the same thing, which is; being bullied. I got bullied myself during school for being a lesbian and there were some seriously hurtful things said and done. But that's not any reason for you to end your life because there's so much more life to live that doesn't involve these people. There's so much you can make of yourself in the coming years. You just need to take a step back from the situation, there's no need to immediately find some kind of label for yourself or work out whether having one girl crush makes you a lesbian or bisexual. You said 'she's trans' which I'm guessing means transgender? I've never seen this girl before but maybe you actually like her because she bares some resemblance to a guy? At the end of the day it doesn't matter, you like who you like and sometimes figuring out your sexuality is just a matter of waiting - you'll figure it out - don't rush it.
Hope this helps, xx
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