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Is it the time?
This thought has been bothering me alot lately.First,I'm 13/f.But I'm in a relationship with one of my best friend's who've i've known for a long time.He's 16/m.I really love him,and he says he loves me to death,but sometimes it doesn't feel like he does.I'm not a posessive gf,but sometimes he goes for weeks without talking,or visiting me.And when I visit him,or talk to him,he says he's been busy,but he missed me.We recently broke up,because I thought we were better off friends.But he told me that girls would sext him pics of themselves,even when we were dating.He acted like it wasn't a big deal,but for me it was.So when I had a fit,he told me he would delete them,but I didn't feel he was telling me the truth.Now,we're back together,because I realized I loved him more than me bff.But now,I feel as though I should just call it quits,and give up on our relationship,and friendship,and never speak to him again.I really feel that's what I should do.I'm gonna do it today,but first,just needed advice before I did it.Thanks =).
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It sounds like you aren't happy with him because of everything he's doing. If that's the case you just need to tell him up front you aren't happy and end it there. Don't go back to him or talk to him or contact him. You need to move on and do your own thing and find someone who is going to make you happy. If a guy likes you, as I always say, he will make the effort. If you ask the guy to change something and he cares for you he should do it. I'm not saying change totally but if he's doing something that hurts you then he should know something has got to change. Good luck! :)
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Dump him
This guy just wants sex, The line "Girls send him sex pictures" is obvious. This dude is manipulating you and whatever you do DO NOT send him a picture of yourself. In fact in some states the recently passed a law that if anyone under the 18 sends sex pictures it is considered child pornography and the person would have to register as a sex offender. Seriously, This guy isn't worth it. If the other girls want to be whores and show themselves out like that then let them do it but don't be one of the girls that has no self respect. If the guy wants to play that game then show him who owns who by leaving his ass. Never let a guy use you it's not worth it. I can promise you anyway there will be more guys out there just need to find the right one not some guy that is all about sex. Also, As much as you trust someone and think you "love" them you need to know that if the people who send naked pictures of themselves not only do not have self respect but when you send a picture that picture goes to his buddies, Their buddies show their buddies and before you know it that picture that was only supposed to be seen by one person ends up being seen by probably a good chunk of folks.
There is that saying: "Never say what you don't want repeated and never show what you don't want seen" Take that advice, Don't do it. I bet you those girls who went ahead and took pictures probably regret it and I wouldn't be surprised if everyone saw it by now. Don't be vulnerable like the others.
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Personally one big alarm bell for me here is the "sext pics". The fact that he hadn't deleted them when they were sent is just a big NO NO in my book. And the way you have described it he didn't tell you about this while you were dating so obviously he was keeping secrets. Now you're only 13 and he's 16 so you guys are at very different stages in life and I think it would be better for you guys to end your relationship mainly because it is causing you too much unnecessary stress and he isn't treating you as he should. If you still want to be friends that's fine but don't fall into that trap of thinking you can't live without him so you take him back at the drop of a hat because then - he knows he can get away with anything and he has the control.
I hope this helps, xx
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