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should i move on?
I am a sophomore in High School. I've liked this guy who is a junior. I'ved liked him for almost 4 years now. He knows i like him, but he doesn't seem to care. I see him in the hall, and he sees me. We only stare nothing else. I'ved tried talking to him on Facebook and he doesn't even and he doesn't answer me. I've had self esteem issues because of him, and i've gone to my school counselor. She says i should try and avoid him, but i can't. He's in my luch and he's everywhere. He's very popular. I can't get over him no matter what i do. And no matter what my friends say, or how many times they yell at me i'm still never gonna get over him. I've tried liking other people, but he's always still in the back of my mind. I mean he still looks at me, so what does that mean? he looks, but doesn't say a word. I DON'T wanna get over him. And he doesn't know how i feel, and i don't think he will ever understand how much i wanna get to know him and be with him. I feel like he's too good for me, and i'm just nothing to him. He's at the top, and i feel like i'm at the bottom. I don't get this kid, he's so confusing. No one understand how much i like this kid, honestly. People judge me for liking him, but i can't get over him no matter what i do. I think about him constantly. And i've always wanted to talk to him, or wear his football jersey, but i'm afraid and scared to talk to him. The last thing i want is to be turned down by him. I need advice, please :)
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You've already given him plenty of openings to get with you. He obviously isn't interested, so it's time to move on. You don't like losing him to other women because women are all in competition with each other and there may also be a part of you that wants to elevate your profile at school by being with him. It's almost like a groupie type of thing. Your obsession with him isn't constructive and you are wasting a lot of emotional space on him, which has to be stressful for you.
So write him off and seek other guys. You should only define yourself according to yourself and not try to be somebody else. You can only be you and thus not liking yourself is a complete waste of time. Create your own party and be open to letting whoever wants to get on board with you do so. That is all you can do.
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You need to move on, He is not interested in you.
It is okay to have a crush on someone but don't let it lead into obsession. That is not healthy and sometimes depending on how much someone likes someone obsession can lead to stalking and harassment. You should avoid him as much as possible. Guys are just guys, They come and they go. It is not healthy to try and stay fit on one guy who has no interest in dating you, It's been four years and this guy hasn't even tried to talk to you. Trying to get him to talk to you is either going to push him away or cause him to become annoyed on facebook to the point where he removes and blocks you if he thinks he should. Move on and meet someone else, If you don't think you can right now then give dating a break but stop with this dude before you become a bit much.
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