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Everyone comments about our age difference...
So I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 18. We've been together for 2 months now.
Next weekend I'm going to meet his whole family for the first time, at a dinner. I guess his mom asks how we are doing and everything, and I've briefly met her once. The thing I'm worried about when meeting his whole family is our age difference.
Everyone always makes a big deal that I'm 3 years older than him. But really, we're perfect for each other. People don't make fun of me, but they just joke around saying things like "Ha ha you cradle robber!" Things like that. I'm worried what his whole family is going to say. I know there is going to be a joke or few and I never know how to handle it! I'm a pretty shy girl so I just kind of laugh it off. Or the question from families are always "Why would you wanna be with him!" Like joking around but I never know how to respond.
Any advice on how to handle comments like these?! I obviously want to make a good impression on his family.
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I personally don't think you have anything to worry about from his family, at least the older members of the family because most of us believe that age is just a number.
I am 20/Female and my boyfriend is 34 years old. I too was terrified when I met his parents, I was scared they were going to think I was after his money or with him because he was still married and not really mine to have.
As long as you make it clear that you love him and he is happy with you, you should be fine. At first mind what you say to people and give brief answers.
As for the comments from others just put them to the back of your mind. I have personally been called all sorts and asked if I have been to the old folks home lately. I just manage to laugh and say I prefer my men on the other side of puberty.
If they ask why you want to be with him just tell them what you like about your boyfriend (leave out anything sexual of course)
Hope this helps and good luck.
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I think you're worrying too much. To show how cool you are, just say, "yes, I'm a Cougar in training!" Hopefully they know what a 'Cougar' is and will laugh. that should stop the questions.
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Your boyfriend is legally an adult, That is what it all comes down too. If he were under the age of 18, Then I would say otherwise and believe me 3 year age difference isn't a big deal.
If someone makes a rude comment, You be mature and just act polite anyway. Smile and suck it up
Yes, It is irritating to have to deal with remarks about a relationship but if you show it doesn't faze you then somewhere down the line they will get bored of trying to get a reaction when aren't getting one.
I had a friend named Jon who was 28 and the girl he dated was 22.......Really, As long as you both are adults it doesn't matter. It only becomes a big deal if you make it out too be.
Be happy with him, Be happy in your relationship you two are fine. Also, You can never satisfy everyone no matter how perfect your relationship may seem there will always be that one person who will have something bad to say. If it weren't age, They'd find something else to pick at just shrug it off and ignore it because believe me with people like that the thing that really pisses them off the most is too see you two happy.
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Be classy. If someone makes a rude comment about the age difference, just brush if off and say something like "Even though Tom is 18, I really feel like he's at my maturity level. I don't even realize he's 18 until someone makes some comment about it."
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