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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I always try and hang out with my friends, and they never seem to know I am there, I pitch ideas and they always tear me down! I was the only one who wasn't invited to a party, and all they do is talk about how great it is. I get left out, pushed around and it's driving me insane.
And you call these people friends? Friends don't ditch friends. Hey, If they wanna be jerks let them be just find some new friends who will treat you right.
My friends used to hang out with me a lot but recently, they did not. Two of them thought i was stealing friends away from them.I NEVER intended to do so, as my friends were just close to me. Those two girls don't understand my feelings at all and don't want to befriend with me. I don't get it, it is not their choice who my best friends wants to be friends with right? Some of them always make use of me too. When they got into trouble, they would purposely push all the blame to me when I didn't do anything wrong. They were once my good friends , whats wrong with them? I mean I just want to be friends with everyone, but no one really understands me, not even my family. What should I do to let my friends befriend me again? Please help me...please...
Why would you want to let someone crawl back to you that originally treated you like shit to begin with? This could be why you feel like nobody understands you, The influence you allow to be in your life could have an affect on how you think others view you. If people can't respect you and treat you right then you shouldn't be associated with them. My opinion, I would tell them that if they were real friends then they should of acted like it instead of making assumptions and leaving you high and dry that isn't what friends do. I would find some new friends, Friends that know how to treat a person. Sometimes you can't be friends with everyone because everyone doesn't want a friend.
I am not close to my family, as I feel that they don't understand me at all. My two brothers have been bad to me since I was young when I am innocent. They thought that I was a nuisance to them. They were very selfish to me. They never thought of my feelings, probably only when i was a small little cute kid.
My father is very bias towards my brothers. He wishes us to be very punctual. Once I was late a little and I apologised, he scolded me the whole day. But when my brothers were very late, he didn't really care. He also demanded birthday presents for me. I mean, I am just a teenager who doesn't work how can I have enough money to buy him what he wants-a limousine??
My mother will always discourage me. When I have confidence in doing something well, she will tell me to stop dreaming. I usually lack of confidence, but when I have confidence, she discourages me?? She treats my friends way better than me. Her tone always changes when she is talking to my friends.
Sometimes , i think that usually mygrandparents might understand me a lot. My grandmother passed away when i was a small kid and i was very sad as she understood me a lot. All the people who understands me left me. Sometimes I really feel like commiting suicide. How am I to survive in this type of family. Speaking the truth, my brothers almost attempted to ki_ _ me before, so I am very scared of them. How can they be like this?? Sometimes I feel as though I am an adopted child because my adopted friend was also being treated like this. Her mother beats her up for no reason. Can someone give me some advice what I should do under this kind of circumstances?
Have you ever tried to sit down with your family and have a meeting? Tell them exactly what you told us above? Your mother nor your father and brothers may realize it unless you point it out to them.
However just to point it out, From what you've written you seem like a very bright women who has a good head on their shoulders. If a meeting doesn't work then sometimes it's best to try and except things the way they are and move on from it. I myself am also not close with my family, My immediate family only. "Mother, Sister, Step dad" that's about it. My father's side of the family is almost exactly what you've describe only my father seemed to ignore the fact I was his kid. We sometimes need to realize that we can't choose our family and whether they support us or not we have to believe in ourselves. It was hard without a father figure in my life but I know that sometimes things happen for a reason to whatever they may be I know in the end I'll make it. Don't commit suicide it's not worth it trust me, Like I said above you seem very smart and bright young lady.
My boyfriend is a gorgeous guy who is well mannered (yes sir no sir yes ma'am, no ma'am to all adults) He is athletic and really smart (straight A's in school)but for some reason he always wears his paper napkin tucked in the collar of his shirt when he eats and I don't think that is what most 16 year olds do when they eat. I have not done that since I was 10 years old. Should I say something to him about it. My mom thinks it is cute and told me not to say anything because it would probably embarrass him. I have seen his younger brother (14) do the same thing at dinner one night so I guess maybe his parents require this. What should I do?
You want to say something because your boyfriend has manners? Your boyfriend is polite, Generally that is what every women wants. Let it go and be happy you have a boyfriend who isn't a rude jerk.
me and a friend had sex and we didnt use a condom and im not on birth control. I knew he cummed in me because it didnt just cum back out in my shorts. I have had little signs but not much to tell im really pregnant. SO how can i know for sure without taking a pregnancy test, becuase if my parents found out im screwed.
You knew what you were getting into, If you are worried about getting screwed you should of used a condom. The only other way to know is to have a doctor do blood work or a urine test.
I'm 19/f, my boyfriend of 1 year is 18/m.
My boyfriend likes meeting new people, and I respect that. Just yesterday, he met a girl..(when he went to take placement tests so that he can apply to college next semester.) Apparently, this girl that he met was on campus for placement tests too.
So, when I finally saw him later that night, he told me that he hung out with "his new friend Michaela" for the entire day, and that he picked her up from her friend's house so that they could go to the mall, and he bought her ice cream, and they hung out with another couple, his best friend tyler and tyler's girlfriend.
I asked him a lot of questions about "his new friend" because I'm terrified that something's going on between them, or that something could go on in the near future. I trust that he won't physically cheat on me, but I also don't know why this new attention from other girls is so important to him that he had to spend the entire day with a girl he just met. I'm jealous that he spent so much time with her, because I don't even think he made it very clear that he's got a girlfriend to this new girl. I know that if I was in her shoes, I'd be wondering if this new guy I just met was interested in me or not.
So what should I do about this situation? I don't want to be a cranky girlfriend of his that tries to be annoyingly/unnecessarily possessive and doesn't let him have friends that are girls. But I'm so hurt that he wants to hang out with other girls at the same time.
Communicate, Sit down with him and express your concerns. Whatever you do, Don't come across as you are making assumptions just calmly express that you feel insecure. Maybe you two could come to agreement that you could all hang out together and take it from there.
It blows but we cannot choose our spouses friends, If this girl does happen to make a move then your boyfriend needs to be the man and tell her that he is in a relationship with you and it will not go any further then a friendship. If he doesn't and he slips then he isn't a real man to begin with.
I was dating this guy on and off for awhile, and we're officially done for good after this incident.
What happened is that he told me he was short money for rent last month and his dad would kick him out if he didn't come up with it, so I felt bad and I lent him $300 on the terms that he would pay me back by October 31st, because his work hours were supposed to pick up in the next weeks and he'd be able to come up with the money. I even had him sign a contract with these terms and we both signed it and so did a friend of mine as a witness.
Basically what happened is that I found out he lied about the rent, he was never short money and he was never going to get kicked out. He just wanted to buy a new stereo for his car. I called him out on this and he said, "I'm done with you" and I haven't heard from him since, but he still owes me the money.
Can I take him to local court for this if he does not get in contact with me and return the money? I have the contract that we signed. Will I have to get a lawyer into this case, or is it straight forward enough that I wouldn't need one? If I need one, then it would suck cause the cost of a lawyer would be more than what he owes me anyways. I really need advice, thank you.
You've been scammed
If you have a document agreement stating that he agrees to pay you back with his signature on it, Yep he's screwed and you can take him to court. Lawyers are very costly but if you think you have enough dirt on him to go against him without one.....I'd go for it. In the meantime I wouldn't be lending out anymore money.
At school, there's this classmate on mine who teases me and bully me a lot. Often, he would throw the basketball at me and act as it were nothing. Sometimes, he would also tease me when i look at him when he said something weird or done something stupid. What's confusing me is that no matter how hard i ignore or tell the teacher about his bullying, he just keep on doing. Occasionally he would spurt out something stupid like '*Joanna wants to be in the dance' or something when i clearly dread those things.And then, what really trouble me is that he seems to know when i glance at him and will took that opportunity to tease me to the rest of the day.
I don't really get it, I'm the type that is fat and ugly and don't pay much attention to guys ( I avoid them ). One of his friend told me that i was fun to teased. My friend told me to ignore him and sooner or later he'll get bored, but its been almost 10 months now and it's not helping. I tried to confront the person several times before, but he just wont listen.
I wonder if should just go and filed it to the teacher as a minor bully case......
Help anyone? I'm totally confuse what i should do.
If you can help it, Don't look at him. Pay no mind, If it's been 10 months then you may be showing a sign that it bothers you even if you don't realize it. Bullies pick on others because they are insecure about themselves. Trust me, Although it feels never ending it you show it doesn't bother you then somewhere down the line he'll grow up and move on. Honestly? By your written description the dude sounds immature and obnoxious. If it becomes extreme and overwhelming then you should try talking to a school counselor they are there to help with that sort of stuff. If he doesn't want to listen then let him make an ass out of himself nobody wants to hang around someone that rats on someone all the time anyway. I was picked on for years and I always showed some type of reaction and then one day when they decided to pull some sort of dumb prank I just laughed and walked away. (lol) They eventually got the hint.
hi my name is ozzy and need a girl i am 13 and i am 207 pound i like girls i can cuddle with and have fun with i am not the one to be in a girl pants 24/7 and i want some one that like me for who i am
This is not a dating site
17/f
Ok so I'm a Christian and my boyfriend isn't. I'm fine with it and stuff but I'm afraid that somehow we'll argue about it and it'll get to me.
I'm not like gonna try and change him or anything, I just want advice from people who is with someone that isn't of the same religion and how you get through it and how you deal with it.
Thanks!
This is exactly why my last relationship didn't work out.
My ex was Jewish, I am not. If you are religious and attend church unless your boyfriend respects and supports you in your faith I can almost promise you it won't work out. You are young, but for me it was a matter of marriage and raising children. You would likely want to be married in a church, attend church and raise your children to grow up to be good Christians am I wrong? Now the question is would you want someone who were on the same page? Religion is like a support system you want support in your faith, If your boyfriend isn't respectful and criticizes what you do then you really shouldn't be with him. Fighting over it is stressful and over time drains a relationship.
Let me explain something, It may be a little different because I am years older than you.
My ex and I dated for 5 years, It was all good until we started talking about marriage, In order to marry I was told I would need to study Judaism and convert as many Jewish communities do not marry if the couple aren't both Jewish. I studied but I couldn't find myself into it at all and over time I just felt pressured and the relationship was simply not worth the hassle. If it becomes a drag for you too get your boyfriend to respect you, Then dump him now before you prolong the pain. It is fine as long as he respects you and isn't rude about it. However, I think the question really depends on what you want for yourself and your future.
The guy i am in love with says that he loves me too but he never acts like he loves me..he never calls me,never cares about me.only texts me once a day or two days saying that he misses me...i don't understand him..help me plz
He does not love you, Love isn't ignoring one another. Find someone else that will treat you the way you should be treated.
My Ex boyfriend told me how much i ment to him and how he would never leave me...We were together for *sniffle sniffle* 6 years. I really thought we were ment to be.... i dont want to eat or sleep or anything.. i just dont know what to do with myself...i cry every day and night for the past 3 months..and it never seems to stop.. i love him and i still have one of his socks in my room...it still smells like him.. :'( And i kept a peice of dirt that he walked on in a little plastic baggie to remind me of what he stepped on when he was with me
First, Get rid of the dirt and the sock that isn't not helping you get over it.
Sometimes it can take months to get over a breakup. You need to realize that it has been 3 months and that is a good while but as long as you don't allow yourself to move past it, You never truly will. Holding onto his possessions are only going to make it a hell of a lot harder. I was in a relationship for 5 years, The first thing I do when it was over was get rid of all the memories. Second, As hard as it is you need to realize it's over and it is not doing you any good preventing yourself from moving on thinking about it all the time. If you are still in contact, I highly recommend you cut all contact it will makes things a hell of a lot easier for you.
Our 16 girl wants to date a 20 year old man who dropped out of High School, doesn't have a job, lives with his mother and is not very intelligent. Our girl is in middle college and gets straight A's.
This all started 3 weeks ago. She lied about his age and the nature of the relationship. One week in we discovered the truth and decided that we had to intervene. After speaking with both of them about how it was not only an immoral, but possibly illegal relationship, he was quick to point out the legal age of consent in our state is 16. We told them to wait until she's 18. He seemed rather upset, so the next day I went to his social network page where he had posted the following:
"me plus you equals violence, creepin up behind you I'm stalking you silent, dressed in all black I'm the nighttime assailant, grab you by the neck and stab you with my nine inch, knife, quick like, I end lifes, no strife, i mean i need just one swipe, and then I wipe, your existence away, I'm the evil son, so let me in to play." I also found older posts of murdering people and my favorite" My penis is a weapon".
Though her mother was with me on keeping them from dating, she is now thinking supervised visits is a better option to divert a possible Romeo/Juliette scenario after we discovered that there were over 1400 texts between them in 9 days. Her thinking is the more time they spend together, the more likely the girl will be to discover that the price charming is really a toad. I think a forced separation is in order complete with GPS activated on her cell phone so we know where she is at all times (she has a car).
I am very saddened by all of this because I had a close relationship with her. I have spent a long time explaining why dating him is a terrible idea and that we are really looking out for her and trying to protect her. Since I was the person who told them to stop, I am now the worst person in America. I know after a period of time she will someday be able to appreciate what I am doing, but for now she thinks I am mean and stupid. It would be helpful to be able to give her reason's on why dating a 20 year old man is not a great idea since my reasons have not resonated with her.
I am totally stumped on what to do in this situation and welcome some new ideas.
You need to step up to the plate, You both are parents of a teenager. Stop giving in too her, Stop enabling her.
At 16 years old your daughter is minor, She is legally too young to be seeing someone who is 20 years old. This is pedophilia and illegal, As a parent YOU have say on who your daughter can and can't see. The basics of this whole problem is your daughter is a minor, She lives under your roof. You can be saddened that is perfectly reasonable but you cannot let that sadness get in the way of what is best for your daughter. This guy is a creep, He needs to date someone his own age and stay away from someone who is 4 years younger and just simply too young for him. Punishment comes to play if your daughter rebels against you and your wife. You need to tell this man to stay away from your daughter or you will have to file a complaint with the police. THAT is how you get this man to stay away, I would also tell him to stay off the property. If you also need to then get a restraining order against him. As a parent, Your duty is to protect your child not sit back and watch her be with someone who is too old for her. If this guy refuses to back off then you have a valid reason to file for harassment. Yes, Your daughter might be pissed off and resent you and your wife but in the end she will get over it.
so i'm 14 and i been dating this boy for a couple months now and we had sex twice now and i keep hearing that sex at a young age makes u stop developing. is that true?
No and no offense but if you don't know these sort of things then you shouldn't be having sex.
I'm worried I could be pregnant.
I'm 21f. My boyfriend is 18
The reason I'm worried is because I've been on the pill for about 4 years now and I take it at the exact same time every day. Well me and my boyfriend went to a concert on Friday night and he held my phone for me and I told him to let me know when my alarm went off so I could take my pill. Well I went to the bathroom and came back and asked him what time it was and it was like 9:11. I usually take my pill at 9. And then I'm also worried because my boyfriend was a virgin before this and so I'm not sure if he put the condom on right. When we were done and got up he said "Well it looks like it worked"
We had sex Saturday morning. I'm just freaking out! I wouldn't be as worried if I took my pill on time the night before. I don't even think the condom broke but I'm just worried my boyfriend didn't put it on right or something. Now I have stomach pains, but I think it's because i'm stressing myself out so much thinking about it.
If you take the pill everyday at a faithful time then your fine, 9:11 is only 10 minutes off.
Also, If you REALLY want to know then take a test, We cannot tell you if you could be pregnant or not as we aren't a pregnancy test.
what do you say when a boy asks you to rub his balls at school
I would hope you'd say no.
Fondling in school is not appropriate at all, Duh
I am with a wonderful man whom I love very much. We are in a long-distance relationship but he is endlessly sweet, thoughtful, and loving to me. We talk every day on Skype. In most ways I feel I could not ask for a better man. But. He has been hurt by many women in the past, and he's told me many times about how for 20 years he put a wall around his heart and did not love anyone, nor allow anyone to love him, for fear of getting hurt again. He tells me that he was miserable before I came along. He also says that if I were ever to leave him, he would put the wall back up around his heart, would be miserable again, and would not even try to love anyone else for the rest of his life. (He is 50, so this is conceivable, and knowing him, I believe it might actually be true.) Although we are close and can talk about most anything, I would not marry him yet, because we just don't know each other well enough. I love him because he is a good soul and there is no one with a kinder heart, and don't plan to break up with him, but I still don't like feeling pressured to stay with this man forever or else always carry the guilt of breaking his heart and ruining his life. Is this normal, or am I being a jerk, or what?
And aren't you the same person who asked this question?
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=598992
My friends little sister is 15 i look at her as my sister, she is obseced about this 20 year old guy. He thinks shes cute and all but doesnt want anything with a 15 year old. For the past few weeks me and this guy have been talking and hanging out, we both like eachother. Niether of us want to hurt her, but she wont leave him alone it effects us on moving in to a relationship. I have thought about trying to interduce he to other guys, is that a good idea? what do I do if it doesnt work? All I want is to date the guy without all the drama.
I agree with the first user
He needs to act like a man and tell her she is too young, As long as he keeps her hanging she is never going to really get it. At 15, She is legally not able to date anyone over the 18. If this guy were to ever make a move he'd be looking at pedophilia. That's disturbing. Plus, Would you really want to date a guy that can't be man enough to tell someone they are too young for him? Sounds like a little boy to me
18/f
I shower daily and use soap down there. When I go the bathroom and I have bowel movements, I wipe very well and make sure everything is clean.
After I shower, even if I dont use the bathroom, an hour later my 'crack' will smell like feces, and so does my thong in that area. Its not like everyone can smell it around me, but Im sexually active and Im selfconscious about it. Anytime before my boyfriend and I get intimate I feel like I have to wash with soap and water back there.
Is this normal? What do I do?
Thanks!
There may be a few problems here
Thongs and lace are known to trap odor, They should never be worn unless you plan on going on a date or well I don't need to say the rest. I don't recommend wearing them on a daily basis, 100% cotton is probably your best bet.
What kind of soap do you use? Surprisingly some soaps cause us to smell worse and can build up acne. Try switching the soap
This thought has been bothering me alot lately.First,I'm 13/f.But I'm in a relationship with one of my best friend's who've i've known for a long time.He's 16/m.I really love him,and he says he loves me to death,but sometimes it doesn't feel like he does.I'm not a posessive gf,but sometimes he goes for weeks without talking,or visiting me.And when I visit him,or talk to him,he says he's been busy,but he missed me.We recently broke up,because I thought we were better off friends.But he told me that girls would sext him pics of themselves,even when we were dating.He acted like it wasn't a big deal,but for me it was.So when I had a fit,he told me he would delete them,but I didn't feel he was telling me the truth.Now,we're back together,because I realized I loved him more than me bff.But now,I feel as though I should just call it quits,and give up on our relationship,and friendship,and never speak to him again.I really feel that's what I should do.I'm gonna do it today,but first,just needed advice before I did it.Thanks =).
Dump him
This guy just wants sex, The line "Girls send him sex pictures" is obvious. This dude is manipulating you and whatever you do DO NOT send him a picture of yourself. In fact in some states the recently passed a law that if anyone under the 18 sends sex pictures it is considered child pornography and the person would have to register as a sex offender. Seriously, This guy isn't worth it. If the other girls want to be whores and show themselves out like that then let them do it but don't be one of the girls that has no self respect. If the guy wants to play that game then show him who owns who by leaving his ass. Never let a guy use you it's not worth it. I can promise you anyway there will be more guys out there just need to find the right one not some guy that is all about sex. Also, As much as you trust someone and think you "love" them you need to know that if the people who send naked pictures of themselves not only do not have self respect but when you send a picture that picture goes to his buddies, Their buddies show their buddies and before you know it that picture that was only supposed to be seen by one person ends up being seen by probably a good chunk of folks.
There is that saying: "Never say what you don't want repeated and never show what you don't want seen" Take that advice, Don't do it. I bet you those girls who went ahead and took pictures probably regret it and I wouldn't be surprised if everyone saw it by now. Don't be vulnerable like the others.