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Hi, I'm Brittney, I'm a junior in college. don't ever feel hesitant to ask me a question, I will never judge you. Be completely honest and I will give you the best answer I can give, 100% of the time. A fun fact about me- I'm a triplet!

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Ok my dad died a couple months back and i've been trying to get over it. get back to normal. but now my mom is out looking for another guy and is always talking about. like if we might move, or i'll get step brothers or sisters. im just not ready for it, should i be upset?

Im so sorry for your loss, thats a tough thing to deal with. Its completely understandable that you are upset, and its natural, these things take time to get over. You need to talk to your mom, and explain to her how you feel, we are talking about a couple of months, not a couple of years. Feel better sweety!
If you need to talk, please dont hesitate to inbox me!
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i am living with my boyfriend at home with my mum i am 16 & he is 25 & i have been with him a year now i know about our age diffrence but i love him so much and i want to be with him forever but we have been arguing latly and one day i went on his imesh a website were you can download music and meet people and he had set his own account up and he had pictures of himself with no top on and o the acount it asks a question 'what i'm here for and he has clicked the date and hook up choice i confronted him about it and neally kicked him out but he got really upset and told me it was a mistake i forgave him but now he should be making up to me but hes just acting the same way as he always did and i am startin to wonder wether i had made the right decision ????

That doesnt sound like a mistake at all...His mistake was getting caught by you, I have nothing against age differences, but maybe you should re-evaluate whether or not this is going to work out. He is being completely disrespectful, you deserve way more than that.
Good luck!!!!

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Hi, I'm 14 and I have a problem...my boyfriend is really really short and I'm rather tall, I'm about 6 inches taller than him. Everyone at skool makes fun of us whenever we're together all all the stuff. And he sucks at kissing. My friends have told me to break up with him because of our height difference, but I'm very close to loving him. I like him alot and I really don't wanna break up with him, but I don't know if I can stand the jokes anymore. What should I do? And is it true that shorter guys have big dicks?

Don't let anyone else decide for you whether or not you should break up with him. Its your love life, and if you like him so much, then you should stay with him. Learn to love his flaws is how I see it, you can work on the kissing, and who cares if you are taller than him? People unfortunately can be very mean, but just remember "sticks and stones can break your bones, but words will never hurt you." Its cheesy but it is so true. Ignore what they say, and I promise you it will go away, theres nothing he can do to make himself any taller, and he probabaly doesn't feel too good about it either.
Good Luck!

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18/f 18/m
Okayy so i met michael on Myspace and we talked for a while. So about two weeks later we actually met face to face and that same nighht he asked if i got sneak him in so i did. We had sex about three times with a condom but the 4th time we didnt use one and he got scared that i might get pregnant so he bought me the "plan b". And we never spoke to each other again.
So now 5 months later he texted saying he wanted to see me and me being so stupid i said yes and we had sex again and he told me he loved mee but that he didnt wanna be with me because he's leaving to the marines and i said i'd wait for him and all he said was that it wasn't gonna work out that wayy and walked out the door:(

what do i do to make him realize we're right for each other and that it'll work out when he leaves...
PLEASE HELP ME!!!

If he doesnt feel like youre worth it, then why is he? If you really want to see if it will work out, then take it slow, when he comes back, hang out with each other to see if the chemestry is still there. But remember that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Maybe stay on break and hang out with other guys while he is away to see if anything works out. If not, you can always see him again when he returns.
Good luck!

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I have this male coworker and I'm female. He seems like a pretty friendly guy. During my training I was told that I wasn't ever suppose to touch another employee as it could be taken as sexual harassment--even if it was just a little touch that meant nothing to me. I guess I understand that. A meaningless touch from me could make somebody else feel uncomfortable if they thought more of it.

Anyway, my coworker keeps rubbing on my shoulder as he passes me in the hallways and such. (You know, "Hi! How you doin' today?" while touching the shoulder, passingly.) I wouldn't mind because I know he's just being nice and friendly but he had the same training that I did about this, I'm sure. He should be well aware of the rules. The touching doesn't bother me but I don't want somebody else to take the matter to extremes or something. I KNOW he doesn't mean anything by it but I don't want him to get in trouble for his friendly gestures. I'm positive that he's doing this to other coworkers (male and female) as he passes them in the halls because I've seen him a couple of times.

What should I do?

Its great that you are concerned. If you feel comfortable enough, and have friendly relations with him, you can tell him in private yourself that you, personally, don't take it as harrassment, but other people might. If you really think his touching is a little more concerning, tell your boss, not in the manner of accusing him of harrassing you, but just as a concerned friend and coworker. Sometimes people make mistakes or forget, no biggy. :-) Good luck!!!

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I probably wouldn't even ask this, but I told my best guy friend what I did, and he told me that what I did was very wrong to the point that even a Satanist would have problems condoning all of my actions.

It really has messed w/ my head since he said that, so I wanted your opinion on if you think I did the right things or not in this instance.

I was in college this past semester, and had 19 hours worth of classes. I also was working two jobs, one of them on campus for the housing dept., one off campus. I had been engaged to this guy I'd been w/ for 5 years from back home, but it was long distance by then because he didn't go to college. I had gotten pretty bored w/ him, and I had found a friend w/ benefits on the side, and the more that went on, the more I felt like I need to break off the engagement, so I did that over Christmas break.

Well, about 3 weeks before the semester ended, my ex fiance showed up and surprised me at my apt. He had a gun, but he didn't threaten me w/ it. He said that unless I got on his Harley w/ him and ran away, he was going to kill his self right then and there. I did call my little sister and I told her that I was running away w/ my ex-fiance, and she was the only person I would call while I was gone. I told her to tell our parents for me, so they'd know I was ok, but not to tell anybody else. So then I left w/ him, and we headed out west. The plan was that we were going to Vegas to get married. We were on the road for like 4 weeks, and the longer I was w/ him, the more I remembered why I had broken up w/ him to begin w/. We were somewhere in west Texas, I forget the name of the place, and he had gotten really drunk at our motel room and passed out. I looked in his pants pocket and got his wallet, and I slipped out the door. I used what cash he had to buy a bus ticket to Dallas, because he didn't have enough cash on him to buy a bus ticket for anywhere closer to home. On the way to Dallas, I ripped up or cut up everything from his wallet because I was bored, plus I didn't want someone to do identity theft on him, ya know? So when I got to Dallas, I found this strip club and asked if I could dance there for one shift to make money for bus fare, and the manager was nice enough to let me. (I had worked in strip clubs where I go to college at before.) So, I was able to use that money to finally make it back home. When I made it back home, I found out that I had fired from both of my jobs when they didn't hear from me, and also that I was on academic suspension because they had given me F's in all of my classes when I didn't show up for finals. Also, when I didn't show up to move out of my dorm room, they cleaned my room out, so I lost everything in there. In short, I lost my whole life on that trip. But still, in my mind, I did the right thing b/c he would've killed his self otherwise if I hadn't have left with him. I can rebuild what I've lost, and I've already found one new job.

The thing that my best guy friend has the biggest problem w/ was that he said if I was going to steal my ex's wallet, then I should have also stolen his gun and thrown it away or pawned it so that he couldn't use it to kill his self when he woke up and saw that I was gone. I really didn't think about that at the time, and now that it has been pointed out to me, I am a little bit worried about it.

So, did I really handle things as badly as my best guy friend said?

It seems like you had a hectic time at one point in your life. Im just going to tell you as it is:
You weren't right for having friends with benefits before telling your (at the time) fiance that you two werent going to work out. But I think you already know that. With that, though, I will say that what he did was not ethical, either he wasn't in the right state of mind, or he has some emotional and mental issues that he needs to see a psychologist for. If (on the odd chance) anything like this happens again, you need to tell your sister to call the police, he could have injured you or himself with the gun very easily. Also, suggest that you get "married" in town, just a spur of the moment suggestion, this way you can escape and feel more comfortable with your surroundings. Im glad everything worked out with you being safe, but is he? If he was emotionally unstable with the fact that his fiance broke up with him, he can't be much more at ease finding that his wallet is gone, and he has no way to get home. I still urge you to get help or contact the police, he still has the gun, and youre not sure whether he is alive or not. If he is alive, he needs to be apprehended and helped immediately.
When a situation like that occurs, you barely have enough time to think, let alone decide what you should do. Don't beat yourself up on how you reacted when he showed up in your appartment, you were just trying to save his life, and yours for that matter.
As for loosing your jobs and having your stuff cleared out of your dorm, Im sorry that happened. Perhaps you could explain the situation to them, your bosses included. Then again, you don't seem to be too upset about the loss of your belongings, and it sounds like you have rebalanced your footing and gotten a new job.
My advice to you is to go to church and confess, God forgives everyone of their sins, he will undoubtedly forgive you. After you confess, you will feel refreshed, and you can start a new chapter in your life. You have learned alot from this experience, and will grow from it. Im so sorry for what you have been through, but you have made it this far already, thats great. Confide in your family until your situation clears up, everything will be okay. :-)
Good luck! If you need to talk, please dont hesitate to inbox me!

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When you get braces do they put any needles in so they have to numb you like getting a filling?

I have gotten needles in my mouth before, but most definately none for braces!!!!!! If you have really sensitive teeth though, tell them, they have to air dry your teeth before applying the dab of glue and the actual braces. My teeth are incredibly sore to cold air and warm things, I told my orthodontist and he made sure to take frequent breaks. If anything else feels uncomfortable, dont be shy to ask for a quick break!
Good Luck!!!

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I have a little bit of acne on my face and I want a good acne wash to get rid of it. I don't want something over-drying or anything though that will cause my face to lose that glow I have :)

Any suggestions?

Theres this new clean and clear in shower facial, it only takes a few minutes, and you can use it while your showering! Double plus haha! My friends say it works well, and Im going to definately get it soon too. If you didnt want to use it in the shower Im sure you dont need to be in the shower to use it. :-)
Good Luck!!!

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so i'm a 19 year old female and i have CELLULITE on my butt and my legs, GROSS?!

i'm 5'6 and weigh like 118, always been skinny too.

it's sooo embarassing. i'm a pretty girl but now i get self-conscious when i wear a bathing suit, or even doing anything sexual with a guy because its just so unattractive.

anything i can do about this :(

Theres this new neutrogena goodbye cellulite cream that I hear works amazingly. Its not even that expensive. I will include a website for you with a picture of it in case you want to buy it :-)

http://www.40somethingreviews.com/Images/nivea-goodbye-cellulite-cream.jpg


If you want to naturally reduce cellulite too, I found a website that gives great instruction and help on how to do that for you.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Exercises-to-Get-Rid-of-Cellulite---Naturally-Remove-Cellulite&id=1529958


Good Luck!!!

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My best friend told me she liked to watch things that starred Cary Grant. I thought I might buy her something for her birthday that stars the actor. Well, the problem is that I don't really know who Cary Grant actually is. I mean, I just assume he's an actor.

So, can somebody tell me some things that Cary Grant stars or has starred in? Preferably something good or something that he is famous for. Then I can take the information and go from there on looking for a DVD set or something...

Cary Grant is an actor. I found you a website that lists every film he has ever stared in :-) Good luck!!!


http://www.destinationhollywood.com/celebrities/carygrant/careerbasics_content.shtml


http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000026/


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i have had my puppy dolphin for 5 years and she has made me itch only sometimes when she licks me but i figured it was just from eating grass outside. then i went on vacation for 4 days, come back, and she doesnt lick me but i still itch. she just sat in my lap and i got all red and blotchy! i am not allergic to dogs and there is no reason why i should be itchy! what the heck is the problem?

You are mostlikely allergic to whatever she touches. Watch her when she goes outside, is she rubbing into any specific bushes? Or trees? She could be rolling in the grass, or if you have woods around, she could be getting into poison ivy or poison oak.
Good Luck!
ps
Give her a bath asap and then see if the blotches keep appearing.

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What does the quote,

Keep your friends close and your enemies closer mean ?

It means keep your friends close, but keep your enemies even closer by making them think you like them, when you really dont like them at all.

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16/f
I eat when I'm bored or depressed even when I'm not hungry, and when I do I eat until I can't fit any more food in me. Whenever I'm doing something, I'm also always thinking about what I'm going to eat when I get home.
I think these are signs of being a binge eater.

So my question is: What are some ways that I can get this under control? I've gained some weight and while I'm not overweight yet, I'd like to have this under control now. It's making me even sadder, which of course makes me want to eat more.
I feel gross and disgusting all the time, but I can't stop thinking about food.

Help?

First off, if you have alot of sweets in your house, ask whoever buys the groceries to start buying healthier food, like fruits and veggies that you like, this way when you do snack, you wont feel as bad. Celery is really really good to snack on when you get the urge to eat or are bored. Its basically nothing but it contains some sugar and alot of water. You burn off more calories than the celery puts on. Baby carrots are good too. Instead of regular potatoe chips, get baked they are tastier in my opinion, and are alot healthier!
Also, gum helps alot, it distracts your "stomach" if you will; and tastes good! Popcorn is another good, light, thing to snack on. But you have to make sure its not filled with butter. I always make home made popcorn, its better than the bag. Just put some olive oil in a pan, and pour the popcorn cournals into it once the oil is hot, then watch it pop!
Its important to remember that its okay to have that piece of chocolate cake, or ice cream sunday, you just have to keep portion control in mind. Its not what you eat, its how much you eat. If you are eating alot of fruit, its better than eating alot of cake.
Keeping yourself busy will help you too. Sports, hanging out with friends, going out, anything to keep you busy is great.
Writing down what you eat and the amount of calories you have consumed is good. Once you look at your paper and see what you have already consumed, it will make you rethink that extra bag of chips you want to snack on.
Another tip is to set a time for yourself, make a time at night where you cant eat. For example, try not to eat after 7pm.
Good Luck!!!!!
ps,
exercising will balance out the amount that you eat in a day. Also, drinking lots of water (even with a touch of lemon or lime) is really crucial and vital.

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15/F

I want to get ear gauges. However, my parents think it's a dumb idea and I won't ever be able to get a job with them. They believe that they won't heal back if I decide to take them out. They say I can have them when I move out, but I know I won't want them then.

How do I convince my parents to let me get them?

I wont give my opinion on ear gauges considering thats not the question you are asking :-).
You can try to compromise with your parents on a size. Show them a really small size, then say : "see, its not bad at all, its just a little bigger than a regular earing hole." Tell them you might not even go through with the whole process, you just want to try them out. Start out with that, and once they become more comfortable with them on you, it wont be that big of a deal.
Good Luck!

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Okay, so i have 2 teddy bear hamsters.
Boy and girl.
I really want to breed them, I think i am ready.
Just one problem;
I don't know if they like eachother.
They sleep in the house together and what,
But i just dont know.
Is there any way to tell if your hamsters like eachother?
Respond if you know!
Thanks ! :D

I had two little hampsters too! It shouldnt matter if they like each other too much, but it would help! A way to tell if they like each other is if they go near each other. At first my hampsters hated each other so they wouldnt go near each other. Then they became friends appariently and would sit next to each other. If they are not fighting, thats a good sign too!
Good Luck!

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hi i am 17 and my boyfriend and i have been going out for 1 year and i really love him i know he is the one for me. i have never been so sure but there has been girls that he has been talking about and girls that work at the store that he goes out of his way to go get something there. i am a very jelous person and i have this incredible heavy gut feeling that he is cheating on me what do i do?

I understand where you are coming from. I think you should talk to him, dont accuse him, but just ask him. Have him reassure you that youre the only girl for him. If your suspision continues, then you should talk to one of the girls you think he has a connection with. My motto is trust until you cant be trusted. Meaning you should trust him, until you catch him doing something wrong and loose your trust.
Good luck!!!

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Okay so im almost 18 and i still suck my thumb! I only do when im in my room or going to sleep i would love to quit this childish habit but i have tried before and it just puts me in a bad mood if i dont do it ... Any suggestions?

Okay so when I was little, the problem was I couldnt stop sucking on my thumb, they got me to stop in a couple of ways:

First I had a mitten put on the hand that I sucked my thumb with. A furry one at that haha, and only at night. It works because nobody wants to suck on a mitten.

Secondly, I my parents bought this clear nailpolish that is special because after you paint your thumb nail with it, and it dries, if you put your mouth on it or lick it, it tastes sour. Its not horrible, but it doesnt taste good.

Good luck!!!! Hope this helped :-)

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Is age 16, female, 'very beautiful' (what most men call me) normal to STILL be a virgin ? I think something's wrong with me ! I'm starting to feel depressed that all my friends arent. help !

Nothing is wrong with you, Im still a virgin too! :-) feel better!!!

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firstly, I am 15/f.
I get alot of headaches. This is probably because I have to wear glasses, and when I forget to put them on or take them off for a sec my head starts to hurt. It could also be because I hit my head a couple weeks ago and it has been hurting sinse then (but thats kinda unlikely).

But it could also be because I have been feeling sad lately and its been making me feel physically down as well (this could be it, I'm not sure)

But either way I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions or techniques to make head aches go away. I am away from school today because my head is killing me and I don't like missing school so any suggestions would really help.

PS. I know some of u will say to talk about what is making me sad so that my pains will go away, but I am doing that already x]
and all I really need to know is remedies or techniques to make head pains and eye pains go away.

Thank you in advance and any suggestions are appreciated :)

Its possible that everything you just listed combined is causing those awful headaches too. I know how you feel, I get sooo many headaches. Head on really really works. Its non perscription, you can take it with medicine, and you can apply as little or as much as you need. Also, advil saves my life haha (liquid gels are faster working I hear, but I have solid.)
But one of the best methods I have ever had for getting rid of headaches is wearing "the cold mask" they are gel filled face masks that you can put in the refrigerator to turn cold and get rid of headaches, or you can put them in the microwave to get rid of congestion.
As for the emotional aspects of headaches, sometimes we can overwork ourselves, have you been undergoing alot of stress lately? Going to bed late and not getting enough sleep can also be a cause. So can eating/drinking too much caffine. Let yourself relax every once in a while, everyone needs a brake. :-)
Good luck!

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Okay this could get long..


I am absoulouty fed up with my stepmother. My older sister whom is 30 years old and my stepmother have never gotten along. My father and my stepmom have been married for 14 years.

My father: Never really had a good relationship with my older sister and I, Doesn't stand up for himself at all, Barely calls the two of us..and in his eyes my sister and I were always trying to split up him and his wife.


My Stepmother: The bitch whom I can't stand, Talks badly about my older sister in front of my father to me and tries to get me to turn on my sister by saying how she is not responsible and doesn't call my father enough etc.


Okay well..It is now August and my sister sent an email to my dad and stepmother back in April saying how she was fed up with Dad and my stepmom and how my stepmom always told her how to raise her kids and made innapropriate remarks to my sister in front of her children. For example *Around Xmas my stepmother went to visit my sisters kids and the 2 year old girl put on lip gloss and blew kisses at my stepmom and told her that she loved her* and my stepmom yelled out "How sexual!" in short terms the email also stated how my stepmom is a opinionated, selfish, assuming, outspoken bitch (I won't lie, It's true) my father got fed up and called my older sister back and said "have a nice life" wtf? Anyway, I not to long ago wrote an email to my stepmom about how I feel she is the reason why my older sister and my father stopped talking and I can't stand her! Okay IT TOOK MY FATHER 4 DAYS TO CALL ME!!!! I know right.. wow now not to be mean here or anything but my father is Pu$$ywhipped.. He doesn't speak his mind or ANYTHING..it aggravates me and my sister. So he called me left a message for me to call him back but I know if I call him back all he is going to do is lecture me about how my stepmom "is his wife and I should respect that" etc. Either that or maybe he will tell meto have a nice life? I don't know what the hell to do anymore.. I want to tell him how I feel but again I've already had this discussion with him before and I'm sick of it!

Thats a tough thing to deal with, Im sorry. I have a few suggestions that I think will help you guys get along again/better. So despite all of yours and your sisters attempts to separate your dad and your step mother, he always ends up on her side. I think that if you both truely love your dad, which it very much sounds like you both do, then you should try to tolerate her with minimal contact. Im not taking your fathers side, but put yourself in his shoes. He is devorced, and now remarried for 14 years now, he has two daughters that he barely talks to.
I think that it would be a good idea for everyone in the situation to stop acting so harsh and loud if that makes sense. What Im trying to say, is that instead of sending emails, or talking on the phone, I think that you and your older sister and your dad should take an afternoon off together and go out to lunch, somewhere peaceful. This way you can both express your feelings while talking over them. Just be sure to stay in a peaceful and calm manner, he wont listen if he feels like he is having lunch with two attack dogs haha. And I think thats why he hasn't listened lately. Also, since its obvious that your dad isnt planning on splitting up with you step mom, it would be a good idea to try to make peace with her. I know that sounds impossible right now, but you and your sister should go out with her alone too, and talk to her. Tell her (calmly) that you think shes nice, but there are some actions she has taken that you both deem innopropriate. Express in a mature manner how you would appreciate it if she didnt make those jestures in front of the kids anymore.
Think about it, right now all that is happening is its you and your older sister vs your dad and step mom. At this point, you should try to make peace with your father and step mom, and try to end the war.
Good luck!!!! if you have any other questions or need anything else, you can always inbox me.

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