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should i forgive & forget or get rid???
i am living with my boyfriend at home with my mum i am 16 & he is 25 & i have been with him a year now i know about our age diffrence but i love him so much and i want to be with him forever but we have been arguing latly and one day i went on his imesh a website were you can download music and meet people and he had set his own account up and he had pictures of himself with no top on and o the acount it asks a question 'what i'm here for and he has clicked the date and hook up choice i confronted him about it and neally kicked him out but he got really upset and told me it was a mistake i forgave him but now he should be making up to me but hes just acting the same way as he always did and i am startin to wonder wether i had made the right decision ????
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First of all I would like to say age is just a number. If hes making more then 1 more mistake like this I would begin to have seriouse doubts. Also he has no right to treat you like that you deserved way better then that! I know you dont want to hear that because you love him but be cautiouse because in a realation ship anything could happen.
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i dont know why he would get upset, oh yeah becoz he wants to reverse this all on you..He got mad when you wanted to kick him out so that you can feel sorry for him and let him stay...instead of getting mad he should of told you the truth & said sorry and meant it..seems like to me that he got you like that....You need to show him that you dont play no games & he shouldnt eiether...If it help to confirm if he was doing anything on the site ask for the password, if he says no then you deff. know he was up to something & thats when you gotta put your foot down & striaght up kick him out the house.
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That doesnt sound like a mistake at all...His mistake was getting caught by you, I have nothing against age differences, but maybe you should re-evaluate whether or not this is going to work out. He is being completely disrespectful, you deserve way more than that.
Good luck!!!!
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No one on this site can tell you what to do, but we can guide you in the right direction.. therefore, if your giving yourself two options, to either forgive him and forget about what he did or get rid of him .. my vote is for the second option. I say kick him out and dump him. Obviously he never thought you were gonna see the site, and by being sneaky, that is one of the WORST signs. thats like .. number one warning sign, going behind your back and LOOKING for other girls to get with when he's with you .. technically, thats cheating. so think about it, do you want to keep wasting your time on him ? Obviously he isn't as commited to you as you are to him, and he's probably acting like nothing happened because he wants you to forget about it, but he'll just keep looking for other girls. some guys just never change.
Just because he got "upset" that you were about to kick him out, does not mean he's not faking or lying about that feeling just like he was faking not being in a relationship on that site and lying to you about it .. by not telling you it even existed. honestly, put aside how you feel about him and THINK about what he did. you can't have a relationship with no trust, and like .. trusting him after what he did .. is what he wants. he thinks you'll just forgive him after everything .. and he's going to take advantage of that .. in my opinion, if i were you, i would tell him that "this relationship is a mistake just like the mistake you made on the website." then kick him out. but it's up to you.. follow your heart and picture your life with him a couple months or years from now .. are you going to be really happy, or just pretending ? I mean, you can do so much better than a 25 year old who is willing to go behind your back and cheat on you.
good luck ! hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to contact me. xxo. :]
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