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2 weeks ago my fiance and I of nearly 2 years broke up, she said I had become like a brother to her, but we were going to try to work it out. We were already dealing with a lot of stressful family situations as it was. Things were going as well as they could be, until her cousin called her, and said that my parents and I said that she left for a bunch of reasons, none of which were actually mentioned. She got mad at me, because obviously she believes her cousin. We got in an argument, and she said she never wanted to see me again. The next night she called, and we talked about things. After that stuff was ok, until she talked to her cousin again. Then she decided there was no chance for us to get back together. She tried to call later that night, but i had fallen asleep for a couple hours, i didn't want to call her back, and wake her dad up, because he drinks a lot, and I didn't want to start trouble. She got worried that I did something to myself, and had a friend drive by, which I was already up(this was 3 in the morning), and she saw me through the window, now she thinks I'm lying about that. Then someone told her I was going to hurt myself, so she'd come to see me, but I never said it. Now she's deleted all history of me from her life it seems, right down to deleting me from her myspace, and all the pics of us. I really think this is the girl I was meant to be with. Is there any hope of me getting my soulmate back, or did her cousin win? And what exactly might be going through her head?
First confront her cousin and find out what in the world is wrong with her! Her dads a drunk right?, what would he know. She obviously has feelings for you but with the stress of things and all the rumores going around shes not thinking straight. If shes seemed to delete you from her life then give her some space and let her miss you. Find a way to talk to her and remind her you were engaged and how happy you both were together. It sounds like she doesnt trust you. Good luck I hope this all works out.
I have an elder cat, who we've had for as long as i can remember. one of my kittens, who's a couple years old now (not so much a kitten ) was born around this older cat and absolutely adores him. he purrs and rubs himself against him. will he get depressed when my older cat passes on? how can i help him feel better when he does?
The younger cat needs to learn to be normal even while its away from the elder. To do this,its best to start when their young, take him away from the elder cat for hours at a time. He will adjust to not always being with the elder. I had to do this with my cats and dogs and it works really good.
I love this boy but you see he acts different when he is around his friends. I told him that he does but he doesn't listin to me and blams the whole thing on me saying i am changing and that im not the same person he feel in love with. i don't know what to do and my friends just seem to not know either. i need help. Do you have any advise for me?
What a freaking jeark you deserve better then this, dump him. I would of said comfront him but you did and he blamed it on you. You said you love him well loves a two way thing. But you might not want to break up with him so bring him around your freinds and treat him like he does you. But know if you do break up with him it will teach him not to treat you or any other girl like that also if you dont he will keep treating you bad and it will just get worse.
okay so im not bad looking. a lot of people think im cute and hott in ways im nice and funny and i cant get a boyfriend any tips?
i bet there are alot of guys out there that like you but are just to shy to ask you because they think your to amazing. Go talk to one of them and get to know them more. One way or another a guys going to want to date. Go for it. oh also looks are nothing compared to personality.
im almost 16 ive never had a girlfriend im worried
my penis is quite small i dont know if any girl would want to be with me what can i do to make it bigger? will i be able to satisfy a girl?
Size doesnt matter. Thats not why you should be together if thats all she wants get someone better. We are also satisfyed in other ways not just by intercourse. Nothing you do will make it bigger you just have to wait.
im a 15 a girl and my boyfriend and i went to have sex and he couldnt get his penis in it hurt
a bit we tried again and it happened again
its not real big what can we do?
I agree lubercant would make it more easy to insert.
18/F
I've liked this guy for almost 5 months, and have been waiting for something to happen. He really is one of the sweetest, nicest guys I've ever come to know. He's also a bit shy, and his last few girlfriends were quite aggressive, which I kind of am not Finally, after 5 months of me liking him and flirting he kissed me (just a couple of pecks on the lips). Apparently, he had been texting my sister for advice about me and has been telling her how much he likes me, and he likes how different I am. This was two and half weeks ago.
However, lately I feel like I'm back to square one. While he was away for the first week (he had a family reunion about an hour away) we would text and he would tell me missed me and stuff. But now that he is back, I still have not seen him, and I hardly get any calls. I understand that he is super busy with football (he has practice from 2-8) but I feel like every attempt I try to make with him gets shot down. I know for a fact that some of his friends go out after practice, too.
Some of my guy friends tell me I should give up, while my other guy friends tell me to keep trying. I don't know what I should do. I'm sick of being the person to make all the effort. I WOULD talk to him about this, but since we never actually have had a conversation about "us", I feel like I would come off as the crazy stalker girl.
Deffenilty talk to him. He likes you obvisouly. Dont put it as us. Bring up the fact how you kissed and how he said he missed you.
okay im 18 years old and i weight 179. most of the weight is in my stomach & i hate it!!!! its flabby & i have love handles and it makes me feel so insecure. i tried the gym but it doesnt make me smaller jus make muscle where the fat is so its still jus as big. i even asked the pharmacist if any of the weight lost pills work and he basically told me no. idk wat to do please someone help me !!!!
Im sure your fine the way you are everyone is different. If you want to loose weight though a diet and exercise is the best. On your diet cut out all soda and drink more water and non fat milk. No more desserts and mid day/night snacks if you have those. Try morning walks thats exersising and getting ready for the day. If you dont loose any weight thats ok your fine the way you are!
ookay, so there's this guy and we were going out for a little while and i really love him and we were really close for a little while but then we started falling apart and he said he just wanted to be friends but that he still loved me and i said that was fine just whatever he wants to do to make his life easier is fine..i was a little happy about the fact that he was happy but now i feel really empty and depressed and just thinking about him being with other people really makes me really sad and there is this thought at the back of my head telling me that I want him to ask me out again but i want him to be happy so badly..what do i do?!
PS- female ...13
Give him his space and put up with the heartbreak. In the end you come out a stronger person. Your only 13 you have your whole life to find someone you love and they love you back.
I'm 15, I'm a girl, I'm in love with a 28 year old man, he is in love with me, we have never done anything, not even kissed, but we go on dates and meet up about 3 or 4 times a week.
Is this wrong? And does he just want sex? Because that is what I'd normally think, but we've been dating a few months and he's never so much as suggested anything. And we were friends for ages before that too. I don't know what to do.
And I know I'm young, and people say I'm to young to be in love, but I've never felt like this before.
I dont think your sure what love is but he makes you feel happy and thats important, As for the age difference I dont think anythings wrong with it but its not looked upon lightly and people wont think of him as "normal". It doesnt sound like he wants sex from you. Ecspecially if you havent even kissed. Older men tend to have more respect when it comes to woman. Dont let this ruin your freindship. Also some people wont be so understanding and openminded as me. Just be careful with your decisions.
I was just wondering why my cousing got upset today even though he's autistic becouse his cheeseburgers were wrapped in white paper instead of yellow paper he got hostile about it.
Some times the littlest things set people off like that.
I am having these feelings about abnging any guy. I want sex but I am waaayyy too young(13)
Well I would say thats normal. Most of us teens have simalar thoughts. Do you think your ready for sex? I think If you go bang some random guy later on you will regret it. Of course its all on you. To relive your self try masterbation, if you do that kind of thing.
im a 15 year old guy.. my girlfriend and I have talked bout it and want to go further. we already make out. next is feeling up. we've talked bout that too. she's fine with it. I kno when we make out to put my hands on her hips and work my way up under her shirt but where do I put my hands. do I move up and place them on her boobs? what's after that?please help
Lol well as a girl I would say take it slow and be very touchy. Im not sure how she would like it though so you should ask her because all girls are different. Just try and experiment. Which things gives you the most pleasure what gives her the most pleasure. If your going all the way use protection! Good Luck!!
My ex broke up with me about a month ago. The main reason was that my parents don't allow me to see him very often and are very restricting in general. It's summer so naturally I can't see him at school. It's been tough since the day we broke up. We both say we love eachother. He also happens to be my best friend. We decided to keep hanging out but one thing led to another and we started acting like a couple again. Kissing, holding hands, ect. The problem is that over the summer he developed feelings for another girl as well. They aren't dating or anything but they do see eachother a lot. I suspected that something was going on and yesterday my mutual friend spilled the beans to me and the other girl. I decided to talk to him about it and see what was going on exactly. I wanted to protect my friend from being attacked by him for not keeping this a secret, so I lied and said that I had read a text message between them on her phone. But then I decided to tell him what really happened and for some reason he got incredibly angry. I know that it is because I lied to him and betrayed his trust, but I was only doing it to protect my friend. Now he very upset and although I talked to him, I've never seen him this hurt. I'm supposed to be his best friend who tells him everything, but I messed up. At the same time I also feel hurt that he didn't tell me that he had feelings for this other girl. I know that he is single and can like whoever he wants, but I love him so much and I know what I want. The problem is that even now he doesn't know what he wants. He's very confused. I'm not sure how I should handle this. I told him that I'm still his best friend and that I was really sorry for everything. I think I am going to give him some space so that he can figure things out, but it's so hard not talking to him. He's the person I turn to for everything. And now I can't do that. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
This is why you shouldnt date your guy freinds because it can mess up your freindship! Since it already happened nothing more can become ruined. Now is the time to tell him to give you another chance tell him why you lied and how hurt you were when he kept this a secret. Hopefully he will understand and you can both go about earning one anothers trust back. Its good to just give him space. If hes smart he will talk to you once more. As for the other girl dont bother with her eventually shell be gone.
so my friend and her boyfriend were making out and like dry humping and he ended up jizzing in his pants and he she had no underpants on and so lows. she said her pants were wet and his boner was liek in her and she peed liek 15 minutes later. is it possible she could be pregnant? i told her to take an ovulation test.
Not likly if they had cloths on but there is a small possabilty. Also peeing after that kind of thing is normal.
My boyfriend and I lost our virginity to each other after our one year anniversary about a month ago. This probably doesn't sound new to anyone, but our first time wasn't really as special as i thought he would try to make it (I wasn't expecting candles and chocolate or anything, I just thought he would spend the night or be more romantic), and he could tell i was upset because i was acting strange for a few days but I didn't want to try and talk with him about it because I'm not really a demanding girlfriend and our relationship is pretty relaxed; we barely even fight. But anyway when he confronted me, that led to us talking about our relationship and feelings and whatnot (which we never normally do, we don't really have a intense relationship). He said that I'm really special to him and that he doesn't know what love exactly is, and i just kind of played along like it wasn't a big deal because once again, our relationship is pretty chill and I didn't want him to know that deep down I'm pretty sure that I love him. And I really do understand that he doesn't know what love is; I don't really have a concrete definition myself (we're both only 18) so that doesn't seem to bother me.
So I'm not sure why every time we spend a night together having sex, I wake up the next day and I can't go about my normal day without crying, because I know that he cares about me but he would probably think I'm crazy or feel guilty if he knew how confused I felt about this, and I don't want to do anything to put pressure on him or mess up our relationship. Everything is perfectly fine between us, so my initial solution is to just get out all my upset feelings in private so I don't dump any baggage on anyone. I don't even know how I feel about any of this because half of the time I feel upset, and the other half I feel embarrassed for feeling upset over something so stupid; I tell myself that I'm overreacting, so I don't know why I feel so disoriented. Has anyone else ever felt like this? Is there anything I can do to make myself feel better or am I just overreacting?
You need to comunicate if your realationship is as good as you say then it wont hurt it it will help.
15/f so i have a mole in a rather awkward spot, in my inner thigh vagina area. i REALLY wanna get it removed obvioulsy because im scared if someone sees it they would freak out or something. I have other moles on my body, and i got one removed the other day, and im getting the others removed soon. i thought that would be the perfect opportunity to get it removed right? wrong! my dad decided that he HAD to come in the room with me for some reason. so i don't know when i am ever going to get them removed! i heard that you can actually remove moles yourself, but im scared...that is a delicate spot and im sure it could get infected easily right? what should i do, any advice? i want it gone!
Well I say you should go back and get it removed even if your dad is there more then likeley he will look away
Right well, im 15 and im a girl, but see, im really small. Like short, little, skinny, i dont know, just small. I get "awwh!"s its SO annoying but whatever, thats not my question. I wasnt really sure where to put this, but i guess since my crush does this too, i put it here. So i guess since im little, the guys i know think its okay to just man-handle me or something, i dont know. Its wierd. When they want to get me to move, like out of a doorway for instance, instead of just saying "excuse me" like they would for any other girl, they literally pick me up and place me out of the way. Its soooooo aggrivating. I give the whole firm "no" thing and im serious about it, and I ask them to stop but it doesnt. And its not just a few guys, its all of them. They just pick me up and do whatever they want with me. Hello?? Im not a toy, just say excuse me. And its not like my reaction eggs them on. As i said, i firmly (but calmly) say no, and ive asked ALL of them to stop countless times (even though i dont mind TOO much when my crush does it... hehe) but it doesnt. One time, a guy (hes not really my friend) picked me up and put me on the top of a fridge... like really?? what the heck? Most of the time, its just the harmless picking me up and moving me but even that drives me crazy. Why does it bother me so much? How can i get it to stop? Am i doing something that provokes it? Am i just going to have to live with this?
And please, dont tell me to like kick them in the balls or be really mean or something like that. I love these guys, theyre my friends (and my crush, i dont want to be a jerk to him) and i love them to death, but this has got to stop.
Oh and sorry this is so long, i like to rant... haha.
If they dont listen to you then I would kick them. I can guess it will make them stop because being nice about it.
you know how ovens have the oven racks just like grills...well Iw as wondering if I put some foil down can I grill chicken and stuff in the oven and get a similar texture...not so uch the grill flavor but the crispier skin texture? thank you
Yea, I do it like cooking bake poatatos in the oven. I wrap it in around in tin foil and cook it. Its just like baking it or u can use your boyiler
Im 15,female.Well my boufriend and i play with each other. he sticks only the head of his dick in. He has never cummed in me but im still scared. im still a virgin and want to know if there is any possibility of getting pregnant? please help me.....And wat are the possibilities? Please answer!!!
If he has never came in you or had cum on his dick while you two did those things no you cant be preagnet. In order to be preagnet his sperm some way has to enter you. You also have to be carefull when masterbating with him if you get his cum on you then touch youself you could get preagmet. I dont think your considered a virgin either.