|
The wicked stepmother!
Okay this could get long..
I am absoulouty fed up with my stepmother. My older sister whom is 30 years old and my stepmother have never gotten along. My father and my stepmom have been married for 14 years.
My father: Never really had a good relationship with my older sister and I, Doesn't stand up for himself at all, Barely calls the two of us..and in his eyes my sister and I were always trying to split up him and his wife.
My Stepmother: The bitch whom I can't stand, Talks badly about my older sister in front of my father to me and tries to get me to turn on my sister by saying how she is not responsible and doesn't call my father enough etc.
Okay well..It is now August and my sister sent an email to my dad and stepmother back in April saying how she was fed up with Dad and my stepmom and how my stepmom always told her how to raise her kids and made innapropriate remarks to my sister in front of her children. For example *Around Xmas my stepmother went to visit my sisters kids and the 2 year old girl put on lip gloss and blew kisses at my stepmom and told her that she loved her* and my stepmom yelled out "How sexual!" in short terms the email also stated how my stepmom is a opinionated, selfish, assuming, outspoken bitch (I won't lie, It's true) my father got fed up and called my older sister back and said "have a nice life" wtf? Anyway, I not to long ago wrote an email to my stepmom about how I feel she is the reason why my older sister and my father stopped talking and I can't stand her! Okay IT TOOK MY FATHER 4 DAYS TO CALL ME!!!! I know right.. wow now not to be mean here or anything but my father is Pu$$ywhipped.. He doesn't speak his mind or ANYTHING..it aggravates me and my sister. So he called me left a message for me to call him back but I know if I call him back all he is going to do is lecture me about how my stepmom "is his wife and I should respect that" etc. Either that or maybe he will tell meto have a nice life? I don't know what the hell to do anymore.. I want to tell him how I feel but again I've already had this discussion with him before and I'm sick of it!
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
Thats a tough thing to deal with, Im sorry. I have a few suggestions that I think will help you guys get along again/better. So despite all of yours and your sisters attempts to separate your dad and your step mother, he always ends up on her side. I think that if you both truely love your dad, which it very much sounds like you both do, then you should try to tolerate her with minimal contact. Im not taking your fathers side, but put yourself in his shoes. He is devorced, and now remarried for 14 years now, he has two daughters that he barely talks to.
I think that it would be a good idea for everyone in the situation to stop acting so harsh and loud if that makes sense. What Im trying to say, is that instead of sending emails, or talking on the phone, I think that you and your older sister and your dad should take an afternoon off together and go out to lunch, somewhere peaceful. This way you can both express your feelings while talking over them. Just be sure to stay in a peaceful and calm manner, he wont listen if he feels like he is having lunch with two attack dogs haha. And I think thats why he hasn't listened lately. Also, since its obvious that your dad isnt planning on splitting up with you step mom, it would be a good idea to try to make peace with her. I know that sounds impossible right now, but you and your sister should go out with her alone too, and talk to her. Tell her (calmly) that you think shes nice, but there are some actions she has taken that you both deem innopropriate. Express in a mature manner how you would appreciate it if she didnt make those jestures in front of the kids anymore.
Think about it, right now all that is happening is its you and your older sister vs your dad and step mom. At this point, you should try to make peace with your father and step mom, and try to end the war.
Good luck!!!! if you have any other questions or need anything else, you can always inbox me.
]
Im sorry you are having to deal with this.... it stinks!
My dad was a high paid security guard for NASA here in houston and when he met this lady kim, he left his whole life behind and went with her. She's absolute trash, they live out in the middle of nowhere in a 100 yr old house that's run down. she works at a restarant and he now spends his days behind the register at a dollar store. A DOLLAR STORE. WTF?
His new wife is mean to me thank god I don't live with them, but I feel bad for my little sister because she does! And kim is such a bitch. ...my little sis tells me that kim talks bad about me all the time and verbally abuses my little sis when dads not home and when sis tries to tell him, he calls her a liar!
Neither I nor my sister can figure out exactly HOW this woman came into our life and turned our dad from a successful man. Into a man who has nothing!
My advice is, see if you can talk to him privately. She doesn't need to be there that might make you more nervous. Tell him that kids should come first and that you are happy that he is happy, but you are absolutely miserable because of her attitude. Tell him if nothing changes, you will be forced to cut ties with them and as much as it will hurt you, this is something that you must do for the your own sake. Noone should have to live with such built up resentment!!
Inbox me if you want to talk. Or email me. Im here for you!!
Stephanie.ellick@gmail.com
Steph 21
]
More Questions: |