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ok to get to the point i am a cutter and i don't cut because i am depressed i cut because it gives me a nice rush i think i might be bipolar because i looked it up on wikipedia and it said that people who are bipolar do that and ilike the feeling of getting body piercings so can someone please tell me if i am.

I don't think you're really bipolar. Wikipedia isn't actually too reliable since people can enter any information they want on there. If you really think you're bipolar, try looking up Bipolar Disorder on WebMD.com. They have more accurate information.

I know how you feel, body piercings are pretty cool. I got my nose pierced. But maybe deep down, there is a deeper reason for why you cut yourself. What's going on in your life right now? Do you feel like you fit in with kids at your school? Do you fight with your parents alot? Any of these reasons could be reasons why you are cutting yourself. Sometimes we don't know why we do certain things. Sometimes I don't know why I cry. But in our sub concious, we know the real reasons for what we do.

Bipolar Disorder is when you're happy for a week, and then very depressed the next week. Since you said you're not depressed, I doubt you're Bipolar. Besides, if you're a teen, it's normal to feel weird like that. I would look into other reasons why you might be cutting yourself. Maybe you just like danger, and cutting yourself makes you feel alive, like you're taking a risk. That might be why you cut yourself. But still, it's not healthy to so you should look up information about it. Also look information up about OCD. I sugguest WebMD. Hope I helped!

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Theres this girl i've liked for about 2 years now. i'm 13 and she's turning 15 in march. i really like her and i think she likes me but i don't know what to do. i keep asking her if she would ever like me but she keeps saying i don't know. what should i do? thanks.

Alright, well, alot of times girls like older guys. In a relationship, its pretty common for the guy to be older than the girl. But not so common for the girl to be older than the guy. Though, I have known guys who have gone out with older girls.

I'm sure you're a very nice guy. But to me, it sounds like this girl is just playing with your emotions. When a girl keeps flirting with you, but won't admit that she likes you, thats a big no-no! Because it sounds like she's flattered that you like her, but she might not want to date you.

You can still be friends with her, but it's no use wasting your time. There's tons of girls out there- you can find another one that you like and that really likes you back.

I can't say for SURE if that girl likes you or not. She might like you, but don't overdo it. If she keeps saying, "I don't know." say, "Okay." and leave it at that. You don't want to annoy her by asking her a thousand times. Hope it works out!

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i know this is kind of gross but im sure some girls do it. Is it normal do have sex while your on your period? I know its okay when your pregnant but what about while on your period?

Yeah, people have sex on their periods. Sometimes they have a tampon in, or if you have a light flow, you just put a towel down and deal with it. It's still possible to get pregnant also. Not something I'd want to do because I think it's be kind of gross, but yeah people do it. :]

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Ok so i just started this new semester at a new college. i met this kid and he's wicked nice.. we've been kinda flirting he's been poking me, hitting me with a tray from the cafe. ok heres the deal.. he asked if i wanted to hangout tonight.. to which i said yes. he and i have been texting back and forth.. and well obviously we have not gone to hang out tonight.. i don't know what to do. i'm really hurt. i called him and left a message but he has yet to return my phone. What should I do? When I see him next time how should i react? Should I forget about him? HELP ME ASAP!!

No way! Definitely don't forget about him! It sounds like he's definitely interested in you! Those are all signs that he likes you...ALOT! Maybe he's just a little shy when it comes down to an actual date. Yep, even boys get shy sometimes. Or maybe something just came up, and he couldn't make it. When you see him next time, just ask him what happened. Don't get mad or yell, you don't want to ruin a possible relationship with him. Try not to cling onto him too much either. Sometimes that turns boys off. So simply ask him where he was, and then say "Oh. Well call me sometime if you wanna actually hang out." and walk away. This way, you're not being obvious about it, play a little hard to get, but don't overdo it. Make sure you get to know this guy well enough to find out if he wants to actually date you or if he just wants to be friends, or friends with benefits. That's very important to find out because you don't want to waste your time! :]

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I was wondering if anyone could give
me a list of some sad songs that could help
heal a broken heart. I'm going through
a tough time with two heartbreaks in one
month and I'd really appreciate it if I could
get some names of some songs to listen to.

Right now I'm listening to songs like:
Best of Me- The Starting Line
Better than Me- Hinder
Whats Left of Me- Nich Lachey
Stupid Boy- Keith Urban

thanks

If there was ever an expert on sad songs, it'd be me. I need to listen to sad songs a few days a week to help deal with my life too. Just a few off the top of my head are...

Brand New: Sic transit Gloria. It's not really a slow song, but if you listen to the lyrics it's all about relationship problems and heartbreak.

From First To Last: Note To Self. It's about missing someone alot.

Senses Fail: Shark Attack & Still Searching. Talk about being sad, angry, and losing control.

My Chemical Romance: I Don't Love You. It's about losing someone and it's slow and sad.

Cinderella: Nobody's Fool. Classic break up song. It's about relationship problems and moving on.

Kittie: Into The Darkness. This one's great, I listen to it whenever I just want to vent.

AFI: This Time Imperfect. It's very sad, fairly slow, one of my favorites.

Tears For Fears: Mad World. A mellow 80's song.

Jojo: Get Out. (Leave.) I know its lame, but its a good song to vent to.

Guns N Roses: I listen to Guns N Roses, (they're an 80's band) ALL the time. When I'm sad and need to calm down, they always help me. The best ones are Patience, November Rain, Yesterdays, and Live And Let Die. All of these are about struggles in life and relationships and learning to get over them. They always give me hope. :]

Hang in there & Hope I helped.
P.S.- you can find most of these songs on Myspace Music, YouTube.com, or if you want to buy them, they're also on iTunes.

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okay so my best friend [ashley] and this other girl from her school [that i know] got in a "fight" & now they telling me to talk to the other person with their words. i always have to be this kind of person with ashley. im always stuck in the middle of these kind of situations with her. and sometimes i agree with the opposite person. but i dont want to make her feel that *I* dont want to be her friend.
omg
HELP
should i tell whats the truth even though it might mess up our four years of being best friends and should i try to stay out of the situation even though it might give the impression that i dont want to help?

This has happened to me before too. Don't feel like you have to get involved with it. It's not your fight, it's not your responsibility. You don't have to play referee here. Just let them work it out by themselves. If Ashley gets mad at you for not helping her out, just say, "I can't really help you with this, I'm sorry. I don't really know what's going on and I feel like if I got involved, it would make things worse." Let her know that you're her friend, and be there for her to talk to, but you shouldn't be bending over backwards for her, if you know what I mean. If she expects you to fight all of her battles and do every little thing for her, you should re-evaluate your friendship with her and figure out if it's the best thing for you or not. :]

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what is a girl that is 13 and b/f is 15 supost to get him for v-day?
i was thinking gift card to his fav. store and like some chocolates

good idea or no?
thanx

Sounds like a good idea to me. I mean, you shouldn't worry about getting him something too expensive, because it's not like you're married. A gift card and chocolate sounds like the perfect gift for a teen around that age. What guy can resist food, right? If you want to make his gift a little more personalized though, try making homemade cookies. Just like frosted cutouts in heart shapes. I swear, cookies to boys are irresistable. I make them for my boyfriend every Christmas and he never gets sick of them. Putting them in a heart shaped tin would be cute too. And as for the favorite store thing, sounds good. That way, he'll know that you really care about him enough to know what his favorite store is. I'd say anywhere from 10 to 15 dollars would be good, but don't spend more than that. You don't need to spend alot on a boyfriend, alot of times they enjoy homemade ( or homebaked) gifts. Have a fun V-Day!

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13/f

i have chubby cheeks, but im not a chubby person, i wigh 87 pounds and i have a round face.

i know im am still growing and going through puberty and my body is gunna grow faster in some places (my cheeks in this instance) and i know my body will catch up i guess, but heres the thing

i am a VERY ungie person that ALWAYS is going through change thats just me im exotic, im hippie, im punk, i just live my life fullest and i dont care what otherss think

currently my next change is i want to shave my head not TOTALY shaved bald but i want no hair, im worried about how it would look with my roundish face with chubby cheeks =]

any sugestions about how i can mabie losse some fat in my face?

hair style i want: http://www.sxc.hu/pic/m/b/bo/bohemienne/281044_bald_girl.jpg

me (this isnt the best pic. but my cheeks are bigger then they appear): http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g2/peta2piggy/DSCF1106.jpg

thanx in advance --ashley

You are so pretty! I actually don't think your cheeks are that chubby. You just have a round face, but it looks good!

I admire your personality, I was suprised to hear that you wanted to shave your head. Now that is some real courage and spunk! I think you'd look very good with a shaved head, but make sure it's what you really want.

There are really no facial exercises that will make your cheeks smaller. The only ways to are:

1.) Drink alot of water. Water helps regulate parts of your body like your chin and your cheeks. That is what most doctors will tell you.

2.) General weight lost might help. You DON'T have a double chin, but for people who do, working out and losing weight off your whole body can help to get rid of a double chin. I'm not really sure if it works for cheeks, but whether it does or not, exercising a few minutes a day can never hurt.

3.) Time. This is probably the most important variable. Your cheeks could be just how your face is shaped. You just might have a very round face and you'll have to deal with that, but sometimes it can be excess baby fat. Everyone has it in their face, its just a matter of how long it takes for the baby fat to go away. I had very chubby cheeks when I was younger, but as I got older, they got a little less chubby. They're still kind of big when I smile, but it doesn't really bother me so much anymore. Chances are, your cheeks will gradually get smaller as you get older, or, you'll get used to how they look and learn to love those cute things! :]

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there's this guy who lives like right near me. And i knew from the first moment that he liked me. lets call him 'L'. I dont like him that way..i really like another guy who happens to be his friend too but he doesnt live near me. I'll call him 'J'. Anyway a girlfriend of mine confided in me that she likes 'L'. i thought that was fine because i dont even like him and ive known it for ages. anyways last night i think i led him on too much and didnt mean to and we ended up kissing and now we're going out. I feel so bad...i dont even really like him, he's like my best friend and he's great but i dont think im doing the right thing by myself, my best girlfriend, 'L', or 'J' for that matter. omg, what am i doing? please help me i dont want to hurt anyone.

I've done this before. Please take my advice; break up with him. When this happened to me, I ended up just going along with the whole thing and going out with the kid for a few weeks. They were some of the most miserable weeks of my life. After I broke up with the guy, he became very obsessed with me and kept calling me begging to have me back. You should stop the relationship before it gets to this point.

Definitely talk to "L" and make it CLEAR to him why you are breaking up with him. (That way, he won't call you a billion times asking why you broke up with him.) Calmly say, "Look, I think you're really nice and I'm really flattered that you care about me so much. But I've realized that I only see you as a friend, not a boyfriend. I'm really sorry about what happened the other night, things got out of control and I think I made a mistake. You've always been a friend to me from day one, and I'd really like to keep just a friendship." or something like that. If he doesn't get the hint that you're dumping him, just say, "So I think it's the best for both of us if we broke up."

You won't hurt him too much. You're being honest and that's the most important. You really don't want to be dragged along in an unhappy relationship- it's not worth it. But here's the great thing- you have a friend who likes "L"!!!! This couldn't be anymore perfect- because after you break up with "L," you can try to hook up your friend and "L!" Tell L that maybe you're not the right girl for him, but you know someone who likes him alot. He will be flattered. (But make sure its okay with your friend first.)

I have a good feeling about this. Things like this usually work, and if he can spend more time with your girlfriend that likes him, he will forget about being sad over you. :]

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What drugs involve the use of needles?

Steroids, Heroin, and Cocaine can all involve needles. Other drugs CAN be taken with needles but mostly are in pill or powder forms. If you're thinking of doing a drug with needles, I would not reccomend it because needles used for drugs are rarely clean, and you could get HIV/AIDS from it.

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okay i usually don't like talking about this, but a lot of people are concerned so i thought i would. for the past few months i haven't been eating the best. i usually have special K every morning for breakfast, snacks & yogurt for lunch, and for dinner whatever my parents make. that's about it. i see it as enough food to survive, but everyone always makes comments & says how it isn't. i think you should eat enough to survive. but anyways, people say/think i shouldn't be doing that & i should be eating more. i'm not really fat, but im not that skinny either. im a female, 5'9, and 144 lbs. to me, that's kind of a lot, but idk. everyone is saying im pushing myself to an eating disorder. i do exercise 5 days a week, but i feel that if i don't exercise or eat something i shouldn't, i feel extremely guilty & can't take it. it bothers me a lot. any advice you could give me?? anyone in this situation??

thanks!!

Oh my gosh, you sound exactly like me. Weird, actually my situation is the exact same as yours!!

I don't think you neccessarily have an eating disorder. People say that about me too. They expect me to eat like 10 cheeseburgers and 40 cookies for lunch. And if you don't eat that much, you're considered, "anorexic." It's not being anorexic, it's just eating right. Your eating habits aren't too bad but there's room for improvement. Good Job on eating breakfast, thats very important because it helps your metabolism and gives you energy in the morning. For lunch, I'm not sure what kind of snacks you have but definitely stay away from chips and cookies. Yogurt sounds good, but try eating something else to go along with it, like a plain bagel, or a large piece of bread. Also make sure you're drinking enough milk, and taking a vitamin which will help give you more nutrients.

You said that you're 5'9 and 144 pounds. You're definitely NOT fat. You are a very tall girl and tall girls generally weigh more than short girls. You can't expect to weigh 100 pounds when you're that tall because alot of the weigh comes from your bones and muscle. It is literally not likely for someone 5'9 to weigh less than around 130 pounds. You're actually thinner than average! Most girls that tall weigh around 160+ pounds.

Here's something I very recently found out- eating snacks between meals helps to boost your metabolism and prevent you from over-eating later. Keep eating 3 light meals a day, but between meals (especially lunch & dinner) try to have a snack. Pretzels, Bananas, Apples, Animal Crackers, Granola Bars & Quaker Rice Snacks are very good snacks that are usually less than 100 calories. They will help your metabolism and help to keep you full for longer.

It's great that you're exercising! I exercise too, about 60 minutes a day. You'd be suprised how many calories you burn from that! But in an hour, depending on what you're doing and how hard you're doing it, you can burn up to 900 or more calories. But make sure you're eating enough. You NEED to eat to be able to work out. Food is like fuel. I know when I don't eat much and I feel hungry, it's impossible for me to get a good work out.

I feel very guilty if I even eat one cookie. I feel like I failed at eating well and I sometimes just give up and eat 10 more cookies. This is pretty normal for anyone. Stress has alot to do with it. But you know what? Don't feel guilty. Instead of totally cutting out candy, cookies, and junk food, allow yourself to have 2 or 3 "bad" things a day. Let yourself have 2 cookies a day. Or 1 cookie and 2 pieces of candy. You have to let yourself have a little junk food because if you don't, you will eventually give up and eat a ton of it. And anyways, a basic chocolate chip cookie is about 70 or 80 calories. Just think of how tiny that is, if you burn up to 800 calories an hour!

Hang in there, because you can't live your life obsessing over calories and working out every 5 seconds. On special occasions, you CAN pig out! Just work it off the next day. This is something that I battle with everyday, so you're not alone. :]

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idk,
lately it seems like all guys are jerks. atleast all the "decent ones", and the ones you REALLY like, are way out of your league.

:S

I know what you mean!! If you're a teen, chances are, boys haven't really matured yet. Did you know girls mature 3 years faster than boys do which is why they often fall for older guys. Most guys ARE jerks. Sure, guys get taller and older, and they mature physically but some of them will NEVER fully mature emotionally. Ha, that's what my mom told me about my dad.

So if you're a teen, especially around ages 12-15, this is something that almost every girl experiences. It's the point in your life where you're becoming a mature young lady, but the boys are still acting like 2 year olds, or are just plain shallow.

I don't really know what to tell you, except that you don't neccessarily have to have a boyfriend right now. You're young, and someday you might be married to a guy for the rest of your life, so enjoy being single while you can. Try to build friendships with guys right now, instead of dating, just be friends. That's how I am with alot of my guy friends. Because, are my guy friends immature? Yes. Would I date them? Probably not. But are they fun to hang out with anyways? Definitely!

Give it a few years, they will eventually get a little bit better. :]

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So i recently asked a Q about what I should do with this guy I like hwo is 18 and I am almost 15 on whether or not we should date. And I have been getting anwsers of "its a bad idea" Well what about, Not officially dating, but hang out, hug, kiss, hold hands, and talk and stuff? Is that still wrong? I care about him a lot and I just want to share something with him... Eeeck I do not know what to do. Help!

Hey, I totally understand what you're going through. Girls are generally attracted to older guys because girls mature 3 years faster than boys do. Which would be why you're almost 15 and like an 18 year old. I was in a similar situation. I was 12 and I liked a guy who was 14. It was alright at first, but before I knew it, things got way out of hand, he expected too much from me, and I was forced to break up with him.

Now, I'm not going to tell you, "its a bad idea, don't do it." You are smart enough to make your own decisions. My personal opinion is that this guy is definitely looking for more than "hanging out." If he doesn't actually ask you out or ask you to be his girlfriend, this might be a problem. When a guy wants to "casually date" as in just hanging out, kissing and holding hands, it usually means that he does not want to commit to an actual relationship. You know, like friends with benefits. You could find yourself in a sticky situation. He might expect you to do certain things with him, or he might start seeing another girl at the same time which is what happened to me.

Don't get your heart broken. Evaluate the situation. Ask yourself, does he seem like he actually wants a relationship right now? Does he have a history of having alot of girlfriends or friends with benefits? Could you handle it if he broke up with you? These are questions you must ask yourself.

The best thing you can do before the relationship goes farther, is to get to know him better by talking to him. By doing this, you can find out what his real intentions are. Also ask for someone older's opinion. Like an older sister, an older friend, or cousin. They may have been through things like this and might be able to point you in the right direction. Hope it all works out!

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i feel weird, not really sick, just weird. i have only been eating 2 regular meals and 1 meal of snacks or something. today i only had 2 meals though. could that be why?? i felt really hungry and got a headache, but i feel some what dizzy and out of it. even when i was eating i felt sick, but im feeling a bit better. is it from not eating, or can it be something else??

thanks!!

It's probably because you don't eat enough. You really need to eat more! Eating healthy will help you to feel great and energized all day long. Some good things to eat are: Granola bars, Oatmeal, Raw Veggies & dip, Peanut Butter and Jelly sandwiches, any lean meats like chicken or turkey, yogurt, pretzels, fruit such as bananas or apples, or Quakers Rice snacks are what I usually eat. Try not to eat alot of sugary or salty snacks like candy or chips. Those can really slow you down and make you feel tired, and sick.

Instead of just eating 2 meals, try eating 3 light meals and some snacks in between. What i do, is I have a light breakfast, like a yogurt or granola bar. (Eating breakfast is VERY important if you want to feel good.) In between lunch and dinner, I usually have 2 snacks. Eating snacks in between meals can help to give you more energy, tide you over until the next meal, control your appetite, and it helps your metabolism! Good snacks, like I mentioned, are yogurt, bananas, pretzels, stuff like that.

Exercise also might help you. If you feel sick and tired all the time, exercise can help give you more energy. Try to get 30 to 60 minutes of exercise a day. it also helps you sleep better which is important because you need 7 to 8 hours of sleep each night.

If you have your period, some of these symptoms might be caused by it. Make sure to talk to your doctor about it. Hope I helped!

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I've never had a boyfriend. Currently, almost all of my friends have one so it's making me feel even more lonely. I don't want one just cause they do, but I feel weird. I feel like if I have one, it will be awkward and I'll break up with them. I don't know. I REALLY want to have one, but I feel like I'm not ready. Is this weird? Lol, or is it normal?

Totally 100% normal. Especially if you're a teen. Let me tell you something- boyfriends are like dogs. You have to devote alot of time to them if you want to keep them. And hey, its OKAY if you don't want to take care of a dog, (whoops I meant boyfriend.) every 5 minutes. I hate being tied down, I feel the exact same way you do. And when you're a teen, you shouldn't be tied down to one person. You have the rest of your life for that. Someday you might be married and spending the rest of your life with someone, so enjoy being single right now.

Even if all your friends have boyfriends, it doesn't mean that they're all happy with their *wonderful* boyfriends. Whenever I have a boyfriend, I usually feel happy for the first week, but after that, I get bored and miserable. When I'm single again, I'm happy as a clam. Besides, if you have a boyfriend right now, chances are you are eventually going to break up. Most teen relationships only last for, maximum length, I would say about a month or two. (If you're lucky...)

You might be ready to have a boyfriend. But maybe it's just that theres no guys you like, or maybe you're like me- I'm ready to have a boyfriend but I don't want a really serious relationship. I'd rather date a guy who was fun and more of a friend-type. So if you really feel that you have to have a boyfriend, try going out, (or pretending to) go out with a guy friend. Nothing is permanent. You can ALWAYS change your mind if you want to.

Or, just make up a boyfriend, maybe on myspace! Haha, it sounds ridiculous but I've done it in the past. That way, it makes your friends shut up about how you don't have a boyfriend, and you get to "have a boyfriend" without all the responsibility!

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everybody in my school thinks i am emo or gothic.
so i dress black/red sorta different the others , look on the ground often , don't make eyecontact , mostly am sad (but that's just cause i hate the school and i'm lovesick lately) have naturaly black hair and naturaly white skin. yeah okay and i admit i hate myself , and hate my life blablabla
but does that make me emo?
cause i never thought about it that way

You're not emo unless you want to be. There's nothing wrong with being emo. Emo is just another label, like prep or jock. Actually, the trend right now is to be "emo." I would just continue to be yourself and not worry about what other people say. If you want to consider yourself emo, then that's great, but if you don't want to label yourself, you shouldn't feel like you have to label or be labeled by others. Making a big deal about being called emo, kind of falls into the general description of emo. Don't worry about it, people will shut up if you show them that you're not bothered by being called emo.

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it says my pic is greater than 15 k.
i dont know how much to reduce it to bc my computer does it in pixels..help!!

Are you on myspace? Haha, well I get this problem all the time. If you have Adobe Photoshop, you can open up the picture in it and resize the picture there. I think you click edit and then resize. Just resize it to a smaller amount of pixels until it looks right. Or if you don't have Photoshop, upload your picture on photobucket.com. After its uploaded you'll see above it, it will say, "Edit." A menu will drop down and say "Resize." Usually resizing it to a Web or Email sized picture will make it small enough.

Hope I helped.

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does anyone know how i can convince my mom to let me get my lip pierced. im only 14 but i have wanted this for about a year now. and i dont wanna wait 4 more years until im 18.

I had to go through this when I wanted to get my nose pierced. Here's what you should do:

1.) Research about lip piercings. Find out everything, from the actual piercing of it, to the aftercare, to how much it will cost. Most places charge around $30-$40. It will take about 2-3 months to heal, so that means you have to keep up with cleaning your lip daily for 2 or 3 months, or else it will get infected. You should definitely read more about what it's like to have a lip piercing so you can decide if you truly want it and if you can deal with it getting infected.

Here are some good sites:

http://www.tribalectic.com/LipJewelryAftercare.asp
http://www.pamf.org/teen/health/bodyart/piercing.html
http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/body-piercing.html
http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/articles/ptafter/lip.html
http://www.ringsofdesire.com/care-lip.html

2.) After you have thoroughly researched it, make sure you show your mom the websites, so she can find out about it too. The most important thing right now is to be calm about the situation. If your mom says no at first, don't complain, whine, or beg. My mom said no at first too, but then she changed her mind. Say calmly, "Mom, I have researched the lip piercing, here are some sites where you can read about it too. It is really important to me to have my lip pierced. This is something that I want to do, for me and my self expression. I promise to take care of my lip piercing for as long as it takes to heal."

3.) If your mom STILL says no, tell her to talk to some people who actually have their lip pierced. When I wanted my nose pierced, my mom went to the grocery store and talked to random people who had their nose pierced. If your mom actually talks to people who have it done, then maybe she will get some better opinions on it. Tell her to talk to someone, ANYONE, don't even have to know them, who has their lip pierced.

4.) The next thing to do is to stay responsible. Keep up in school, get good grades, do all of your chores without being asked, be nice to your parents and siblings. Being responsible works most of the time.

5.) And finally, research local piercing places near you. Before you get your lip pierced, visit some local piercing places on the weekend. Visit more than one. Talk to the piercer there, ask questions and make sure the place looks clean and legitimate.

Hopefully your mom will realize that something like body piercing is not something that you can restrict someone from. Hope it all works out!


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okay so as you can see from the subject, my boyfriends mom got me this dress and its a size 8. and i havent seen it yet but my bf told me that she got it. and right now im in a size like 12 maybe. and the next time im gonna see them (its a long dist. relationship) is in feb. on the weekend of the 16th. so is there anyway possible i can get down to a size 8 in the next like 3weeks?
i'll do anything. (just i dont have money to go to a gym.)

please help!!!!
thanks so much :)

It's nearly impossible to do that. I'm sorry to say this, but I just don't want you getting your hopes up. First of all, you are probably beautiful just the way you are, and there's NOTHING wrong with being a size 12. Even starving yourself will NOT make you lose that much weight, that fast. Actually by starving yourself, you could gain even MORE weight. The fact that your boyfriend's mom got you a dress in a size 8, I would take that as a compliment, but if I were you, I would nicely say that it's the wrong size. Thank his mom for the dress and say, "It was really sweet of you-especially since you thought I was a size 8! I'm flattered, but I'm actually a size 12."

You can still work out if you want. You don't neccessarily have to work out to lose weight. You can work out just to be healthier. But you really should start out slow. Taking walks, dancing to some music you like, or repetetively walking/running up and down the stairs are great to start out with.

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Where I live, every single guy is obsessed with skateboarding.
I dont mean its their hobby.
I mean they are obsessed.
I have never heard a guy say something other than a skateboarding trick, thats all they ever talk about to eachother.
The sad thing is , im not over exaggerating.
I know they like it and stuff
but do they ever think of anything else besides it?
thnx.

Wow! i wish I lived where you did. Not many guys skateboard around here, but I do know some who do and are kind of obsessed with it too. I skateboard a little, but my life definitely doesn't revolve around it. I think that guys probably do think about other things, like girls, obviously, and food, music, movies and probably school to some extent. But maybe they're not thinking about girls yet. Depends on if they've gone through puberty yet, which if they haven't, might explain why they are so obsessed with skateboarding.

Guys are alot different than girls. They're not as concerned about their looks, about what they wear, or where they're going with their friends. So since they don't really have alot of stuff to worry about (at least for right now) they become attached with skateboarding. To them, skateboarding is their makeup, clothes, shopping, magazines. This basically means that us girls usually have alot to focus on (we actually mature faster than boys) and sometimes guys are a little more laid back, and just want to skate.

But don't worry, though it may not seem like it's EVER going to happen, boys eventually grow up and mature. (Well most of them...some never do, haha.)

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