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So i recently asked a Q about what I should do with this guy I like hwo is 18 and I am almost 15 on whether or not we should date. And I have been getting anwsers of "its a bad idea" Well what about, Not officially dating, but hang out, hug, kiss, hold hands, and talk and stuff? Is that still wrong? I care about him a lot and I just want to share something with him... Eeeck I do not know what to do. Help!
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The main reason most people might think it's a bad idea is because it would be considered stat. rap if y'all were to have sex. However, I don't think age is a big deal. If you aren't planning on having sex, then I say go for it. I know what it's like to be attracted to older guys. Just be careful.
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Hey, I totally understand what you're going through. Girls are generally attracted to older guys because girls mature 3 years faster than boys do. Which would be why you're almost 15 and like an 18 year old. I was in a similar situation. I was 12 and I liked a guy who was 14. It was alright at first, but before I knew it, things got way out of hand, he expected too much from me, and I was forced to break up with him.
Now, I'm not going to tell you, "its a bad idea, don't do it." You are smart enough to make your own decisions. My personal opinion is that this guy is definitely looking for more than "hanging out." If he doesn't actually ask you out or ask you to be his girlfriend, this might be a problem. When a guy wants to "casually date" as in just hanging out, kissing and holding hands, it usually means that he does not want to commit to an actual relationship. You know, like friends with benefits. You could find yourself in a sticky situation. He might expect you to do certain things with him, or he might start seeing another girl at the same time which is what happened to me.
Don't get your heart broken. Evaluate the situation. Ask yourself, does he seem like he actually wants a relationship right now? Does he have a history of having alot of girlfriends or friends with benefits? Could you handle it if he broke up with you? These are questions you must ask yourself.
The best thing you can do before the relationship goes farther, is to get to know him better by talking to him. By doing this, you can find out what his real intentions are. Also ask for someone older's opinion. Like an older sister, an older friend, or cousin. They may have been through things like this and might be able to point you in the right direction. Hope it all works out!
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The reason people think it is a bad idea is because he might jsut use you for sex. Being a friend with benefits is like letting him do all of the physical stuff without making him commit to you. Actually, there is nothing wrong with you dating him as long as you do not do any below the waist activity. It would be a far better decision to date him as opposed to being his plaything. However, if you do plan on dating him you have to understand that he will probably pressure you for sex and you will be forced to constantly struggle with turning him down. If you believe you would have the strength to say no, then ask him out. If not, cut him out of your life completely. Guys do not respect girls who let them have everything for free. You cannot have true love without respect.
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YES BEING A MINOR STILL IS AN ISSUE BECAUSE YOUR SO YOUNG YOU ARE STILL UNDER THE CONTROL OF YOUR PARENTS AND THEY CAN MAKE IT REALLY HARD FOR THIS GUY AND YOU.
Its still something he could get in trouble for you need to get your parents approval. If you were atleast 18 the age idea wouldnt be a bigdeal..its not that its a bad idea if this guy is up to snuff it just could lead to trouble if your parents find out. Its always better to be in a relationship because then if its not official theres no attachment so its no bigdeal if a person is dating other people while hes kissing you or having other non official relationships like you so thats never the best option because its bound to bite you in the butt. Just get your parents aproval and make sure hes up for dating you, and be very careful even though you know him.
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