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how to convince her
does anyone know how i can convince my mom to let me get my lip pierced. im only 14 but i have wanted this for about a year now. and i dont wanna wait 4 more years until im 18.
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I had to go through this when I wanted to get my nose pierced. Here's what you should do:
1.) Research about lip piercings. Find out everything, from the actual piercing of it, to the aftercare, to how much it will cost. Most places charge around $30-$40. It will take about 2-3 months to heal, so that means you have to keep up with cleaning your lip daily for 2 or 3 months, or else it will get infected. You should definitely read more about what it's like to have a lip piercing so you can decide if you truly want it and if you can deal with it getting infected.
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2.) After you have thoroughly researched it, make sure you show your mom the websites, so she can find out about it too. The most important thing right now is to be calm about the situation. If your mom says no at first, don't complain, whine, or beg. My mom said no at first too, but then she changed her mind. Say calmly, "Mom, I have researched the lip piercing, here are some sites where you can read about it too. It is really important to me to have my lip pierced. This is something that I want to do, for me and my self expression. I promise to take care of my lip piercing for as long as it takes to heal."
3.) If your mom STILL says no, tell her to talk to some people who actually have their lip pierced. When I wanted my nose pierced, my mom went to the grocery store and talked to random people who had their nose pierced. If your mom actually talks to people who have it done, then maybe she will get some better opinions on it. Tell her to talk to someone, ANYONE, don't even have to know them, who has their lip pierced.
4.) The next thing to do is to stay responsible. Keep up in school, get good grades, do all of your chores without being asked, be nice to your parents and siblings. Being responsible works most of the time.
5.) And finally, research local piercing places near you. Before you get your lip pierced, visit some local piercing places on the weekend. Visit more than one. Talk to the piercer there, ask questions and make sure the place looks clean and legitimate.
Hopefully your mom will realize that something like body piercing is not something that you can restrict someone from. Hope it all works out!
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All I know is that my folks wouldn't let me get my nose pierced until I turned 18. There was no mind changing what so ever. No meant no in the home in which I was brought up. I'm sure it's the same at your house.
Though I understand where you are coming from, I understand her angle too. She probably doesn't see a lip piercing as being "respectable," and honestly, you would be doing the right thing by respecting her wishes while you still reside in her home. I would suggest you wait the 4 years, then you don't have to answer to anyone, and your mom will be happy about it.
I strongly advise against doing it yourself in order to just defy your mom and get what you want. Number one, body piercings are to be done with special hollow needles from my own experiences. Number two, you could really mess yourself up- we're talking about your face, here. Body piercings should ALWAYS be done by a professional.
I don't know where you live, but in Kansas, you can't go into a place that does body piercings unless you are 16 and accompanied by a parent/guardian. (Excluding ear piercings) Reason being, they need to photo copy a legal driver's licence for state records.
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Do your research and make a brilliant argument along the lines of how much safer it is than a tattoo, how reversable it is, etc. Show her examples of successful people with lip piercings and ask for it as a special treat, like a birthday present.
That's the only approach that would make me reconsider a hardline stance against it myself.
Sabine
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I went through the same thing with my parents about a month ago, but instead of my lip it was my belly button.
They told me I had to be 17 and I didn't want to wait.. so I did it myself. I completely screwed up and a few days later they found out about it and completely freaked! They said that they'd rather take me and get it done professionally than me do it myself.
Now, I'm not saying to do it yourself, but I am saying that once your mom realizes how much you want this it will be easier for her to take you to get it PROFESSIONALLY done.
Look things up on the internet, prices, tatoo parlors where you can get it done, phone numbers, cleaning tools, etc. The more information you have the better off and more prepared you'll be for any questions your mom might have.
And let her know how bad you want this. Tell her you'll pay for it.
I hope everything works out!
-Katie
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