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I’m 19 years old and when I turned 18, I decided I wanted to move in with my friend and her brother, who are very nice and reliable and I’ve known them for years. Even though I’d be moving, it’d only be an hour or two away from my family’s house. My family is a different story. I have been fighting to move for a year and a half and I just keep continuing to get screamed at by all members of my family. I have money to pay for things, as I saved up a lot, and I tried to get a job but when I wasn’t hired I was continually told by my mom that it was my fault I didn’t get the job and I can’t do anything right. I can’t drive, but my friend’s family said they’re willing to teach me (My own family won’t let me because they don’t want to risk me wrecking something) I very calmly explained that I’d like to move to my mother and my plan for everything, and she either screams or gives me the silent treatment, saying “You’re not moving and you’re stupid if you think you’re an adult.” I told her that by law, I am an adult and she just took away everything so all I could do was eat or sleep. She told me that as long as I graduated, she didn’t care where I went and now that I have, she says I owe her for when she helped me with homework and I only graduated because of her. She also constantly brings up my faults and things I did wrong or said years and years ago. The other day, I tried one more time, calmly telling her I wanted to move and she screamed and called my dad in, and he screamed and they threatened to send me to a boot camp, or find other ways to “make me listen and have respect” I was shaking and crying and I had suicidal thoughts at a few points in my life. Nothing too serious, but just “what if’s” My mom overreacts, when I told her I just wanted to hang out at a friend’s house (who she knows) she told me to “Watch how I talk because I’m not an adult.” Her strict friend, who’s coming next month, (When my friend and her brother want me to move with them) told her she’d take me back with her and “Teach me how to work, and make sure when I’m done, I’d listen to my parents.”
My friend says I should just leave, but I don’t know what to take, and I’m honestly terrified of my parents. (They scream a lot) At the same time I’m really sick of yelling and them not listening to me. (They also like to guilt trip me)
So because that was really long, here’s a quick summary.
I can’t drive but my friend’s family is willing to teach me.
I’m applying for several jobs once I move (If I move)
I have enough money to pay for my own things.
My parents and family scream at me all the time, guilt trip me, and never listen to what I want to say without cutting me off and just saying forget it, because it won’t happen.
I’ve been threatened to go to boot camp, a church place (don’t remember what they’re called), going to my mom’s strict friend’s to “learn manners and respect”
My friend’s family fully supports me and whatever I want to do.
I don’t know what I would take or how to move or how I would leave (Someone is always here) and my family constantly says I’m a failure or will be.
What do you guys think I should do? (And I know its legal that I’m 19 and can move out, but I’m wondering how to deal with my situation exactly, because they and it terrify me.
Thank you!
Frankly, I would be terrified living with people like your parents. You don't need any enemies when you have the parents you do for they are treating you as if they were your enemies. Sometimes we are born to parents who do not make good parents at all. Its a fact of life. I am sorry but for your own good, its best to move. If you stay, you will be depressed and I can see it getting to you to the point that some day, you might think suicide is the answer. Your life is worth something. Suicide would be the giving up choice. The best choice is you moving out and you will probably want the support of your Friends Mom. She sounds like a supportive parent and though not your own, you can adopt people of your choice who are much healthier to take up the slack of actual 'blood' family you had to cut out of your life. Maybe your parents may improve a tiny bit over the years but it won't be enough for you to get along with them. They have tempers and anger issues not to mention what ever else that a psychologist would be the only help. Don't hold out hope as they need to realize they have a problem and have a desire to get better. You need to think of yourself and your welfare and your mental and physical health. I had a verbally abusive husband I am divorced from and remarried to a wonderful guy. So I know that there is stress from living the way you do under their thumbs. The constant screaming will bring on stress which needs to have somewhere to go. It will either affect you emotionally and mentally, or it will affect you physically. For me it was every stress related medical issue/condition a person could get, I had about all of them. Some stress unchecked can eventually cause heart attack or cancer and end a persons life possibly. I didn't want to get to that point. SO when I say this is for your own good, you need to realize I know what I am talking about here.
Use plastic bags if you have to, to stuff clothes in, at least the pared down amount with some things for all seasons and you can buy more later. Keep the bags in your closet out of sight. Without a phone, you'd have to get to a neighbors and ask to use their phone. If they ask why, just mention its a bad family situation and you need to get away and need to call a friend to come get you. When your friend and her Mom come to your house, go get your bags and go with them. If your parents go crazy threatening you or the friends Mom, she can call for police to come. If you have a phone, you can make the call to friends Mom. Learn how to drive, even if you don't initially have a car of your own. My heart aches for you. Please keep in touch and let me know how things go for you. YOur life can only get better from the point you leave your parents.
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Ive been having my period since i was 10 and I'm on the pill so im never late. I'm a virgin. I'm 4 days late and i dont know why. All the females in my family struggle to have kids and my older sister hasnt had her period in 2 years. I'm just really scared there is a problem. I also dont wanna tell my mom because she'll think im pregnant and probably wont believe me that I'm a virgin but i dont wanna lke and say i do have it and then there's actually something wrong.
Ive been out of breath constantly lately and have had headaches, tiredness and dizziness if that could do with anything. Please help im really stressed
There is no way you can be pregnant if not engaging in sex and on the pill. I don't know if your Mom is the kind of person who can't even say the word sex or not, only you do. If she is not like that, then how did you get on the pills and why? Was it for heavy bleeding in periods? That is the only reason I know of. Is Mom aware of this, and set appointment for you? If this is all a secret to her, then yes...hearing you are on the pill, she may jump to the conclusion that you are sexually active. But if she does know about you on the pill for medical reasons, then you should be able to tell her whats going on. You really need to see a doctor I don't know how long you've been on the pill but some women have side effects to some forms of birth control. I had not heard of 'out of breath' as a symptom of taking the pill.
What I found is scary enough that you better tell Mom no matter how she reacts because if the pill has caused the same condition in your lungs along with the fatigue that this other woman got, doctors discovered she had blood clotting in the lungs. She could have died if she hadn't gone in. Blood clots are very serious and can be deadly. Sorry, don't mean to scare you and hopefully its nothing like that but read this article, show it to Mom if you have to. If she won't take you to emergency right away, ask someone else or just call the medics to take you. Here's the article:
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-6642/How-My-Birth-Control-Pill-Almost-Killed-Me.html
I've been eating a whole food, plant based diet for the past 2 years but at 5'4", I'm still 135 lbs.
I want to look as dainty as this girl photographed: http://bit.ly/2t2jBmw
I literally eat fruit and veggie smoothies for breakfast, salads for lunch, and veggie soup with sweet potatoes for dinner. I've completely cut out processed sugar, salt, and oil, too. I don't even think I eat up to 1,500 calories a day, so why do I still weigh as much as I do? Do I need to exercise more? Run everyday? I don't want to get muscular, I just want to be slim.
I don't understand what so many Asian girls do differently to look as they do. Can anyone reveal their secrets? Do they just not eat? I'm not even trying to starve myself and I've cut calories and increased fiber as much as I can, but I don't know how to still go further.
I don't believe it's genetics because I do know many overweight Asians, but I'm thinking more of the recent immigrants from east Asia, who tend to be as skinny as reeds (in a good way)
I must second what Nor said about bone structure. Unless you have the same, you can't achieve that look you want. But don't believe us, ask your doctor next time you are in to see him for a wellness check. I'll bet he tells you the same thing.
Since you don't beleive it is genetics, unfortunately there is nothing more I can share. I know this is not what you hoped to hear. What would have been better is having a photo of you, don't need to show head, just body shape to compare to the photo of what you want to achieve. But your doctor is a better source of professional opinion on what you can do. Maybe he can refer you to a dietician who could help if you actually require weight loss, but even then, our underlying muscle structure even without working out, can differ greatly from Asians and therefore you may not be able to get the skinny Asian look. I think it looks borderline to anorexic and not very appealing at all. The best is to learn to like how you look. I know I don't have to achieve the unreal photo brushed look of models to be appealing to the opposite sex. I am at the end of my fifties, have some grey in hair and I still get some guys looking at me. Not all men require a model look. Most I've dated have said to me that they know thats all fake and not appealing anyways to them. Men are more attracted to self confidence in a woman so that even the average looking woman will get attention.
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I am trying to learn how to cook and I was wanting some suggestions for easy recipes. I have already learned how to make hamburger helper and wanted to learn something new that wouldn't be to difficult. I have also learned how to make pancakes.
Spaghetti is easy. Choose from many shapes of pasta if not spaghetti noodles, or gluten free, a jar of pasta sauce which can be the regular tomato or alfredo (cheesy) sauce. Have it with or without hamburger. Just cook hamburger in a pan adding it to your pasta. Or, instead of hamburger, you can make it with chicken chunks. So you can used canned chicken in a pinch or bake a chicken breast in oven following cooking time in on line meat cooking instructions, I have put a frozen chicken breast in a crock put of water beginning of day and when it was time to make dinner, it was done. This way of cooking it up makes it so tender it can be pulled apart in strips for casseroles or spaghetti.
Hiya,
what's boy actually thinking, when he says, 'but we can stay friends' after a conversation that he was asking me, how long have you been with your bf. he also asks you do like when I joke this way with you, if you don't like it tell me to stop making jokes. the thing is his way of joking seems like flirtatious to me. we both have partners. he has a fiancé and I have a boyfriend. but I'm trying to understand why would he say he wants to stay friends? is he just waiting if there's any chance he could ask me out in the future if we stayed friends? we have been friends for a few months so we do know each other. thanks all
Flirting in conjunction with "but we can stay friends", sounds to me like he is being consider of your feelings and reassuring you that even though flirting, its only as a friend, not for serious as if you were his partner in a couple relationship.
All you need to do is let him know if you like it or whether to stop.
You are dwelling too much on these words and coming up with your own twist on different possible meanings. No matter if he Indeed did mean something different, if you're happy with your boyfriend and you don't like the male friend romantically, knowing what chances there are for the future don't even matter, do they? Unless you plan to date two people at once and cause both to get upset thinking you are cheating. The only time you need to even be concerned about whether he is dating just for dating sake but really interested in you is if both of you were single which you are not.
About 2 months ago I introduced my mother to a game called Subnautica. She was reluctant at first but soon came around and started to really like it. I was happy that we had something to bond over. After about a week of playing it she became obsessed. She started playing it a lot more than she had before. I was fine with it until a few incidents happened. I once asked her to get out of her submerine to check on something, she did and got killed, resulting in her losing a lot of her in game items. She then through what I can only call a tantrum, yelling and screaming about how I planned this on purpose, when I did no such thing. Another incident was when I was playing a hirror game and she starts asking me if she can play her game. I told her I was in the middle of my game and to wait. I might of sounded a bit bitchy, but in my defense I was in a more difficult part of my game. She then starts complaining how she was at work all day and how it was her computer. Whenever I'm playing it and she wants it, it's her computer, but any other time it's the family computer. The last incident that really drew the line was when I asked her for help on my horror game. It helps me if somebody memorizes all the twists I take and hekps me to get out of an area. I just thought since I help her with her game she'll help with mine. She said no. Instead of just walking off I decided to press matters and say I help her all the time. She then said that she already played this game and would rather ficous on her game that she hasn't completed yet. I have completed her game myself, so I said that I guess I wouldn't help her since I have already compmetes her game myself, and woyld rather focus on tge trophies in the other game I was working to complete. That set her off into a screaming fit. I k ow I was acting kinda bratty, but it's her that always starts screaming. Whenever I try talking about this to her she always says it's my fault. Every conversation we have has to be about that dumb game! I'm starting to think that game matters more than me. What can I do to make her act normal again, and actually treat me better than a fictional game?
Sorry, theres no going back. Once you introduced mom to these games, once she played, she liked this way as her choice of how to chill out after work. I happen to play some games on Facebook. Once you are committed to a game, it can take a lot of time, timed events that require you going back again later. Theres no way to stop unless you do it cold turkey and just walk away from it.
Since she is an adult, she makes her own choices. You mentioned the game, she chose to play. Now you want to control how much she plays and get her to help you? We had a daughter years ago ask us to join Farmville on facebook cus she needed help. We sent her energy and gifts for the game but eventually she stopped playing and we kept on, moving on to other games. I would suggest that you do not interrupt while she plays games but to talk to her. Leave a post it note on the table next to her or somewhere she'll see, and say when she's got a stopping point, you need to ask her something. Heck I have to do that with my husband or him with me if either of us is playing a game with time limits where you need to use speed or do certain things before time runs out. Or when she will be away from computer like out of the house to run errands, go with her and then you'll have her attention in the car. Can anyone make you quit playing games cold turkey simply cus they mention you need to stop or do it less or have more time for them? If you can, you're one in thousands of people. There is always some level of addiction to games on computer. But I so have days allotted to running nothing but errands all day and never get on, or visiting with family so I only have an hour to do some critical stuff on games.
Hello,
Just curious, does special have any particular meaning when used between two friends? I always thank him when he calls me special and unique, not all the time but he still does. I tell him very kind of you to say that. I'm a girl plus I feel like we've known each other for ages and reality it's only a year. I have a feeling that he must like me. He seems to be cheerful when he sees me. He's more touchy feely when we're alone. Winks at me here and there. Now, I do like him but little hard to know what he's thinking actually? Help guys! Thank you
When it come to having interest in someone, males and females are pretty much the same. So let me ask you a question with roles reversed.
Lets say for the past year you have hung out with a guy. You tell him he is special and you are touchy feely with him, all to give him clues how you feel about him.
Now heres the biggie: Would you do all that for a guy you are not interested in? Would you do that for someone you do not even like, or a guy who gives you the heebie-jeebies? If you were trying to find the male whom you could enjoy as a boyfriend and hopefully more, would you waste your time acting like you like them as a friend?
I know that every single woman wouldn't dream of doing that for fear it would encourage the guy to ask her out or even try to kiss her. We don't as humans even spend time with people who we wouldn't like as friends.
So if you wouldn't do that, why would he. He is still around because he is hoping for some kind of clue from you other than being polite and thanking him, that you are interested in him also. He may be looking for a girlfriend. being friends first is a good way to go because some of the most successful long term relationships start off as best friends and the romance is added later. Romance and being each others sexual equal is just as important. Most people only find a best friend or a great lover but not the two in one person. If you would like to date him, then encourage him somehow or straight out ask him if he'd like to go on a date, not as friends but as a couple.
She is a very friendly, adventurous, young kitty. I adopted her a week ago. Her original name is Lily but I don't like it. But I'm having a tough time thinking of names. Anyone have any suggestions?
https://www.instagram.com/p/BWgsSSzFa_o/
It would be more helpful to have some idea how to narrow this down. For example I thought of the catagory: unusual cat names and did a search and here is the site that came up for that.
http://www.petplace.com/article/cats/selecting-a-cat/naming-your-cat/uncommon-cat-names
If you want cute cat names, put that in your search, or even 'personality based cat names'. I am sure there are more catagories but not knowing what you might like, I have no clue what to suggest. Start with the link I gave as that is an extremely long one. Some names came across as dumb to me but others were cute and creative and unusual. If you can't find what you want there, then do further internet searches. Good luck. If you remember, I'd be curious to hear what you decided on.
What does, 'I'm all yours mean?' Can it be used among all sorts of situation per se between friends and in romantic relations? My friend flirts and teases and he has used this sentence twice. But when he says this it feels like he's saying in a romantic way coz I could see his clear flirty face. Thank you
Your womans' intuition is probably correct that he is flirting and doing so because he is into you...more than just a friend.
The thing that gets sticky is when two people who are good friends have their feelings change. they still like the person as best friend but the romantic feelings that weren't there before, now are. Would you mind if this male friend became your boyfriend? If you have feelings for him too, or at least would like to try, there is something you can say. The reason he may not have said something more direct to you is that friends in this position are afraid that if they share how they feel and their friend doesn't feel the same way, that the situation of unrequited love will always feel too awkward and it might break up the friendship.
For him to say 'I'm all yours' sounds like he is offering himself to you. Its what people say when they may have a busy calendar but they are needed somewhere and they clear their whole schedule to be available to do the task at hand and let the other person know, 'Okay, I'm finally all yours, at least til the end of the day.
Unless you were asking for help with a project and he answered that, my bet is he wants to be part of your life as more than friends. Do you just smile and say nothing when he says this? Thats not the best way to find out what he's getting at. So just ask him if he has ever thought about you two being more than friends. He can say yes and you ask him for details, or no, and you leave it at that. Or if he asks why you asked the question, you can say you came to that conclusion due to what he said.
If this is a phrase he says all the time, then its just a part of how he communicates for certain things But you said he's only said this twice recently. He is looking for some kind of positive response from you that lets him know for sure you return his feelings. Guys are just as scared of rejection so this is what many of them do. Some guys don't want to come off as pressuring a girl to make the next step, from friends to dating, or to hand holding, kissing, etc. And so there are some guys who will not make the first move or at least the only move they make is to introduce themselves as my 2nd husband did in dating site. Otherwise, I had to make the first move for it all, kissing, sex. but once I did and he knew I chose him and wanted him, he had no problem initiating things between us. So its up to you whether you let things be or ask him out as a date. But you must specify you are asking him out not as a friend but a date.
I just graduated with a masters, and am now back home living with my mom, trying to find a job and become independent. As I have a very distant relationship with my mom and always have, and miss the people in life I'm close with very very much (they are all far away), I'm painfully depressed. I think it is partially because I'm an empath and sub-consciously absorbing all of my mom's negative energy. Today was a rough day of crying all day. I just feel unbelievably sad and empty. Does anyone have any tips on protecting myself so my empath qualities aren't constantly hurting me?
You can find plenty of links online to ways to protect an empath. Here is just one:
https://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/5-steps-to-protecting-yourself-as-an-empath/
This is simple. I am not an empath but even I can recognize things like an energy vampire. I feel more tense around them and start shaking sometimes as they keep draining me. I think is my body trying to resist. I have a sister like that. She does it on ad off depending on whats going on with her sickness at the time. So sometimes, you can not totally avoid an energy vampire, thats why I found the suggestion of imagining yourself in a bubble interesting as I do the same. I know it can sound crazy to those who have never done it and had the success of it but using our minds in picturing things like this, even though they can't be seen by the human eye, actually do exist. That would be my greatest advice to you. I would imagine that bubble of pure God light energy surrounding me as a bubble that moves with me no matter where I go. This helps to protect against that drain and negativeness affecting you. I do have another example where I used the imagination to protect myself and it worked.
I attended a folk festival in town with my grown daughter and her bf, for her Birthday. It was not so crowded that people would rub shoulders or bump into each other. There were plenty of choices of where to walk. But no matter where I choose to walk, people kept bumping into me really hard. Not my 2 companions. only me. It continued until I finally got angry enough when I was looking at the good of a booth when someone I wasn't expected, almost knocked me over. I am not exaggerating. This actually was happening and had gone on for 2 solid hours, of about every 3 minutes having someone bump into me. So since this wasn't a protection against evil or negative energy, I did not use the bubble but imagined my middle with a large inner tube around it so people could bounce of that before they could get close to me. Then I felt that might not be enough and imagined something scary for their subconscious minds to pick up on. I placed sharp metal points standing out like rays attached to the inner tube with little flames coming out of the tips. Thats sounded dangerous enough. Once I thought that image into place around me and proceeded for the next 4 hours to enjoy my time there, not one, I say NOt One person ever wandered into my path or bumped into me ever again. So it doesnt matter really what you imagine but that you actually know and believe it will protect you and it will. People subconscious, even energy vampires will realize they are not getting anything from you and give up trying or shorten the time they are with you and look for another victim.
You mention lots of friends you miss. Isn't there any way to work towards a plan where you and some of these friends end up sharing an apartment together. The best solution would be to start now to set at least plans in place with others to do something like this. Then if its a matter of finding a job, I would search in the area's where these friends live (unless we're talking a totally different country), then it should not be a problem to relocate. Many people searching for jobs do not live in the city where the job is at currently but that should not stop you from applying. Once a company bites and wants you to come for an interview, you can let them know that you do not currently live there and will need to travel there for the interview and ask them to let you know with enough warning if they need to reschedule or something. You could stay with a friend while going for interview if an overnight thing. If you drive but don't have a car, rent a car. There shouldn't really be anything that can hold you back from pursuing a job in the area where all your friends are. If the money is great enough that you can afford places there on your own, then its all the more reason to find a way to get employment there rather than in the city where Mom lives. You do not have to live close to her. In the future, if she wants to visit, she can travel to you. Same goes for a Wedding, and future grandchildren.
It’s ok if he moves on and is in a relationship but its not ok for me to do it? I’m not saying I let him get involved in my life but my question is what can i do for him to stop/protect myself. (I actually don't let him get involved. He finds out this info and I only tell a small amount of people, and then he has his "buddies" figure out who the guy I am seeing is)
He has been dating a girl for three years they also plan to get married next month. However when a man tries to enter my life or tries to date me he doesn’t like it and goes and messes it up. (By talking crap about me, by hitting or going up to a guy who shows interest in me) (I also haven’t seen him in 5 years and this past summer was my first time seeing him again). I confronted him about our past relationship since we were so toxic and he said to me "I still love you but I can't be with you because I already promised another girl that I would marry her"
If it also helps he has anger issues like very bad anger issues and in the past has hit my ex boyfriend. The reason why he hit my ex boyfriend was because he found out him and i were seeing each other, He went up to my ex and asked him "What's between you and Tara" my boyfriend at that time replied "I love her" and he punched him for saying that, He also had my cousin spy on us. Also tried another time to beat up my boyfriend at that time by trying to take him somewhere far so he can beat him and my boyfriend got away.
I was also talking to his cousin once on Facebook and we just had normal "Hey, How are you" conversations and I wake up one day and see that he has blocked me for no reason. I believe that reason was because of my ex. But I now have been dating someone else and he doesn't know and i intend to keep it that way.I plan on moving back to the state he's in because my family and friends live there.
Do you guys think this behavior will stop when he gets married and has kids? Why is he still doing this? Advice please?
I don't know if you can file a restraining order against him with police is he hasn't directly threatened you or said or promised to do things that make you fear for your life, which is when a restraining order can be made. However, there should at least be a paper trail with the police. Your boyfriend I hope called and reported this to the police. Once they see the pattern of all your future bf's been physically attacked by this guy who isn't even dating you anymore and not available and moved on, it will be easier to have a restraining order put on him. Either way, I would call my local police and ask. The order would have to include not approaching you or your bf's and not to contact any of your family to learn things about you or where to find you. If he even calls an aunt and the family needs to report it to the police or to you to report it. He can go to jail for breaking a restraining order. What he is doing sounds a lot like 'stalking' to me, always trying to find out where you are at so he can check on you and see if you are with another guy. No matter what crazy reason he got engaged for, he made himself unvailable to you. He can not dictate that you remain single while he marries. If he's not marrying for love, but money, then this very action of choosing money over love just goes to show how little he cares about love. He may fool himself into thinking he still loves you and want the best of both worlds, having her money and having you to control and have sex with. I don't think he may even be capable of love. Some minds are that twisted. My ex was someone like that. He fooled himself, and me and family into beleiving himself to love me but once married, it became clear he was abusive.
Your ex's actions so far show he is not good relationship material at all so its good you are no longer with him. But his behavior needs to be reported. You also need to let family know when you have made this a police matter and tell them not to give him any info about you and to report when he contacts any of them. You will also have to let family know that whenever the two families are getting together, that you want to know so you can plan to not attend. You can see your own family on other get to-gethers. If lets say you really liked his cousins who are friends, or his parents, it is okay to keep in touch with them but they have to know that it has to be separate, without him around and let them know how he's acting possessively, hitting your bf's and stalking you. Ifhis family are offended and don't believe you, then its time to cut things off with them. Keeping up the seeing of people in his family who are 'tight with yours', would be too encouraging to him to continue his psycho-attachment to you. Block his phone number too.
Let any new bf's know what the situation is. If any guy really cares about you, he'll want to protect you and won't be scared off by the chance that your ex might attack him to discourage you from seeing anyone. Your bf's need to report to the police together with you as they were the ones hit. Any new ones should be willing to go through legal channels to handle this guy and not do anything that could make it look like he is the one at fault, throwing the first punch, or hunting him down to give him a piece of his mind and getting into a fist fight. All that would look bad.
Also, next time you see him coming and it looks like he will attack your ex, get your cell camera ready and get a video of him attacking and thats great proof for the police. But you might want to consider calling the police right then, even if the ex has already left the scene. You can describe what he was wearing which you wouldn't know if he hadn't come by and give them the desciption of his car and license, show them the video and I'll bet they'll put out a notice for any cops to pick him up and bring him in for questioning. If theres a restraining order that he broke in making contact, and the bf files a complaint of being physically attacked, he's already got two counts against him. If thats not enough to keep him in jail, if he's released and repeats the offenses, I'll bet he'll been in jail for a longer amount of time.
For the past few nights ive slept on amatress in thr lounge with my mom because my room has been freezing. The one night i had a dream my house was burning down and the next night i had a dream that soneone broke in. Now this morning my mom told me that last night i sat up pointing saying that a man js trying to take bella (my dog) and when she laughed i just fell back down. I dont remember any of this. There's been a few times that something like this has happened that i dont remember.
In my old house when i slept in my sisters room a few years back in the middle of the night i sat up and stared out the blinds on my window telling my sister theres a man outside and then i just fell back asleep. I'm not sure if this is sleep talking or ive seen stuff about some shadow man or something. What could it be?
Even if not walking, this describing the condition of sleep walking, and heres a link that describes it.
https://sleepfoundation.org/sleep-disorders-problems/abnormal-sleep-behaviors/sleepwalking
When you are deep asleep, you are not aware of things going on around you so you could not be upset by a person staring in the window if there really was one for example.
If you start to walk too much and start leaving the house in your sleep, then its dangerous to your safety and you need to go talk to your doctor. Otherwise, people have lived with this just fine.
My ex talked mostly in his sleep and often got up to look out the window. I had fun with it after being woke up from a dead sleep. Once it was "Where's my suit?" And I asked, "Which suit?" He actually answered and said his blue suit. So I made up something outrageous, "Oh that suit, its at the cleaners. The dog got peanut butter on his long tail which brushed peanut butter onto the slacks as the dog went exploring in our closet. " He would even realize it was too odd for being real and mutter, thats just silly and go back to sleep. Another time he peered out the window asking what was going on out there. OUr property line was up against a church parking lot. Often the cops would meet there during their routes at night, or sometimes kids doing drugs or skateboarding late at night had been there. So I actually got up thinking he was awake an heard a disturbance. There was nothing out there. So I then said, 'Oh you mean those aliens and their ship you see. They asked me earlier if I minded if they park there tonight and I said it wouldn't bother me." The he frowned and said, "You're talking crazy. Mumbled something and slid back into bed. I don't know if he still has it but I was with him 30 years and he always had it.
So me and my boyfriend are both 18 years old and virgins. We're both each other's first boyfriend/girlfriend. So the other day we were making out and he went lower down my neck and to my boobs (I was wearing a bikini at the time and a swimsuit cover). We've made out a lot but this is the first time he went that low (we've been dating for 8 months) and he started kissing the exposed part of my breasts. He suddenly gripped my butt hard and pulled away looking at me. I asked him what was wrong and he was reluctant to tell me but eventually said he wanted to go lower as in pull my bikini top off. I said no because 1) our parents weren't too far away and 2) I wasn't ready... So he changed the subject and act like nothing happened. Today, a few days after, he still acts like that. I made a small joke regarding something about it just to clear the ice and because we're always joking and laughing with each other (I texted him the joke) and he just didn't respond and just changed the subject. Now I feel like I let him down or something. It's almost like I disappointed him... I just wasn't ready to be touched that way. I wasn't ready to expose my body yet. I wasn't comfortable. To this day he hasn't said anything about it. I've mentioned to him before that I was abstinent. He is a Christian like me but he isn't abstinent. I'm kinda scared that because I'm abstinent will hurt our relationship. Should I feel bad that I said no? I love him and treats me like a queen. Maybe he felt deserving of it? Maybe he was? :(
Hurray to Adviceman, as he gave you the very best advice, what I would have said.
I only want to add that I was in a combo HS/college age group when your age. I had some male but wasn't dating. I want to tell you that even in churches, you'll want males who want sex for fun and many college girl friends complained to me after a couple dates with different guys where each tried to get away with something sexual with her. I was glad to learn then that just because they may go to church, they may not abstain. The pastor said, just because you find a mouse in a cookie jar, that doesn't make him a cookie, anymore than some people you find going to church are not believers, not Christians. A person can call themselves one but not adhere to or beleive any of the bible or doctrines. I agree he's probably pouting. I will second the thought of not to worry that abstinence will hurt a dating relationship. If you do not want to have sex until you are married and with your husband, then remember, there are guys who will wait until they are married to their girl, no matter how much they don't like not being able to have sex with her because their love for her is stronger. I have heard that line too, having sex to prove you love them. That is so false. Do a search on line for the 5 love languages. These are 5 differing ways that people show they love you and not in any of the 5 is sex mentioned. The five are giving of gifts, words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time together, and lastly physical touch. With physical touch, it can be the gentle arm around the shoulder, stroking your hair, holding hands, giving of a back rub, all ways to show you love a person for who they are, not the sex they can give you. But once two are both in love with each other, then sex is a wonderful outpouring, generated simply by two lives that have come together in love. The words "I love you" so have sex with me, do not necessarily mean he loves you like that. He may care for you, but not deeply enough to be love. Words are simple and easy. A person proves their love by how they treat you and thats where study of the 5 love languages can give you a really good idea of how a person shows whether they are in love with you. At 18, first love is special and strong but it may not last to the point where both can marry and have children together. I knew of pregnant teens in church who were so sure their bf loved them but they had abandoned the girl and one had the parents kick her out of home so a family at church sponsored her, offering her a place to live, taking her in.
I have white purse the brand is Guess and unjust noticed their is an ink stain on the bottom of the purse. How do i get it off?
I don't know what products are on the market today that would take care of that. However when I was in my twenties working in an office and we sometimes got ink on our clothes from copy machines or ink pens, a couple older co workers told me to try hair spray, the cheaper the brand the better. I sprayed it on the ink stains and was able to rub it out. This was on clothing. so if it worked on clothing, it may work on the material of your purse. You could try the travel size section of the store to get a small bottle of hairspray. If its like one of those felt markers that are meant to be permanent, you may not be able to remove at which point you would have to cover it up somehow.
You could try a craft shop and ask workers there what they would recommend. Perhaps you could cover it with a little white acrylic paint or something else. You may still know where the ink mark was and think it looks tacky, but if its more important to you what other people might think or see, once its removed, or covered, ask some of your friends if they can spot where the ink mark was. Most people are not able to spot it because it should not be very obvious anymore. So even if you think you can still see it, as long as others have no clue, you're set to go.
Hi, what does it mean when a boy says if I was not compromised, I would have married you with a beaming face? been a good friends but he does have a gf and I have a bf. even though he knows that I have a bf he sounded sure that would say yes to marry him. I just looked at him and we shared a smile. I like him and he seems to know and I know that he likes me as well but when he mentioned the word marry, I was like he could be pretty serious about me or wanting to date me. what do you reckon all? we do flirt back and forth but he says we're joking not flirting which I don't get it, duh! thank you
I don't think he used the correct word or maybe he tried to sound fancy and intelligent to impress. Perhaps he meant instead that if he wasn't already dating someone else, already taken, unavailable. Compromised doesn't come up in a word search for meaning and the word compromise is different than compromised. A compromise is when two people with differing views find middle ground together that they can agree on instead, that's a compromise. But compromised to my understanding means invasion of something thst caused negative results. ie Due to an error in setting the alarm for the shop, the security system was compromised and robbers were able to get into the store without setting off any alarm. Or a Doctor might say, due to years of smoking your health is now compromised and you will need to be on an oxygen tank from now on.
So, just saying I've never heard that word used to describe your situation. He could mean something totally different and mean it personally, like something he has done that no longer makes him a good choice for you like if you are strictly a no drugs type and he started using recreational drugs and knows you wouldn't date him therefore. Only you could figure out what that might be from past convo's.
So right now he thinks you know what he said because you shared a smile. That was the perfect time to look confused instead and ask, what do you mean by compromised? Now if he had said to you that if you were not compromised, his meaning of not already taken, already having a boyfriend, then he would have married you with a beaming face,
It would mean he is trying to say that if you were still single he would have married you. Logically, there are holes in what he is implying here.
First, he is assuming you would have answered yes. Unless he simply tossed that statement out to see how you would react. If you only liked him as a friend but did not have romantic feelings towards him, he is assuming you would have said something right there like "Even if I were single, we'd still only be friends, not married because I don't have romantic feelings for you." Since you only smiled, he may believe that you were agreeing.
What if he is not happy with his girlfriend? He could be checking to see if there are any better choices before breaking off with her.
Theres something wrong with his thinking if he says the issue is that he is dating and not single. He's not being forced by super forces to stay with her. If he realizes that she is not the one for him, then why doesn't he go single again and then simply said if you were still single and into him, he would have married you. would have is past tense, used when there is no chance of going back, changing anything. But that is not true. Heck even people who are engaged, break it off. Even married people who don't work out get divorces. So there is nothing preventing him from making himself available again.
Since he seems to be afraid of anyone saying he is flirting, he corrects you to say joking? If he was afraid of a jealous girlfriend, he could be flirting but just calling it joking. Joking would mean he is not serious. Which would imply anything related to relationship other than just friends, is not flirting but joking.
It's not too late to ask him what he meant, even if you didn't say anything at the time, Just start with, The other day when you said..... I kept wondering after what you meant by the word compromised." Then say whatever else you want or you might mention some of the rest: I also heard the word marry. However you say you never flirt, just joke. So I am assuming using 'marriage' in your speech was just a joke. But I want you to know that I do not appreciate you joking about something like that which is serious matter for females."
I gave you a taste of what conclusions ones mind could take you to as long as you're just guessing and you still know nothing.
He may be into you but that doesnt explain why he is taken. If you do not like your current bf, then you also should move on. Dating is for two reasons starting with hanging out to get to know each other really well, enough to know whether you could live with this person for the rest of your life, til death and if not break up. Those who both want to stay together forever make some kind of commitment and call themselves dating or seeing each other and most likely make a move to live together and set up household together with or without a marriage license.
If you ar not interested in him that way, don't say anything. Not unless he asked point blank if you have feelings for him or are in love with him.
Why do American children grades K-12 have mandatory gym class everyday but have little, if at all, education on how and why to eat healthy?
Diet leads more to weight loss than food alone. After 4 months of being vegan I easily shed 40 lbs with minimal exercise. I went from being obese (30 BMI) to being normal (23 BMI). Don't get me wrong, exercising more would still help me, but I now weigh less (at 23) than I did in middle
and high school, when I was a compeitive athlete (training for hours, multiple times a week, while still being overweight). I had a prediabetic A1C then (my blood tests are all great now).
Most of the leading causes of death are both preventable and reversable through diet. Many people are ignorant. They say "Well, I'll just eat my bacon" or whatever because they don't see the link between that bacon and their father's triple bypass or their mother's breast cancer. They don't see the link between their sugar laden cereal and their hunger before lunch or the MSG in their pizza and their attention issues.
Why spend so much effort on gym class and not on even one nutrition class a week or even in a year? I learned nothing about nutrition from school. I had one home ec class and they taught us to make a sugar laden "dirt" cake, made from oreos and gummi worms. I now find that insane. I liked it then because I didn't know any better. Is there some conspiracy for kids to end up fat and sick or what? Food chemicals affect the human body in many different ways. It's a lot more than just portion control. Even skinny people get sick, so it's more than just about looks, too.
Education is truly power. It takes time, but it is worth it. Public education is the reason smoking rates have gone down so far over the years. I still remember the DARE class I did in middle school and the hole through that smoker's neck, where her breathing tube went in.
THat is a very good question and the average person is not going to have any answers or reasoning to give you. The only people who may be able to give you an answer is personnel in the school district or higher up like the cabinet level of US government.
Here is a link to their site:
https://www.ed.gov/
I know that funding is something that will be the pat answer given, that there aren't enough funds to teach nutrition. But funding wasn't the issue when I was a kid and nutrition was never something important enough to teach in schools. although the school nurse came in one day to kindergarten and showed us how to brush our teeth properly and that was about it. In fact, once I had kids in school, I discovered many were cutting out health classes which covered a tiny bit of many things, like sex ed too and these days, most schools no longer teach that either. So we get young people writing in asking questions that let me know they have not got a single clue about their own anatomy or that of opposite sex and how our sex organs work, how one becomes pregnant, etc. It would be nice but unless enough parents get together to protest this and ask for food/nutrition education
programs and give the education dept ideas on how this can be made possible without funding, they will not do anything. It most likely will entail having an after school program where the person teaching is a volunteer who is a retired nutritionist or dietician, or heck even a retired naturopath Dr. Or if the curriculum for it was something strict to follow, any student of college for natural health or nutritionist may be able to gain extra credits for volunteering time. To volunteer teaching such a class, these people would still have to undergo screening to be sure they are not sex offenders and it would need to be voluntary to parcipate with parents informed of the class and signing up their kids for it. That way it doesn't cost the government any money. Where theres a will, there's a way. Unfortunately it takes a person or several people constantly petitioning the government and at local schools to get such a thing going. The moment any parent who is advocating for this stops and drops the ball, nothing will happen. It can become a part time to full time unpaid job simply to hassle with government for years until change comes. And most people can't afford to put that kind of time into it so nothing ever changes. I'd like to see Health Ed come back, even if it had to be an after school volunteer program.
How do I ejaculate by myself
If female, the easiest is to masturbate the clitoris which is external. There is however the G spot which is easily reached by inserting a finger and is on upper part of vagina in front of the urethra and with something like wrinkled pruney skin in front. This skin when stroked just right will expand with blood much as a males penis expands with blood. This makes it more sensitive and gives a feeling like you need to pee but that means orgasm in coming as long as you don't resist thinking you will pee. Best thing to reassure oneself that it isn't pee is to empty the bladder fully before starting masturbatuion.
I have more to say if you are female, recent studies have shown that ALL women who have orgasms do ejaculate. However there isn't always a fluid to see to confirm this. There is a small tube that forms for some in utero and not for others. Those who have this tube connecting to their bladder will have their ejaculate empty into their bladder. Those without will find the extra liquid empties out through the walls of vagina and comes gushing out. This is referred to also as women who can squirt. The thing is, men ejaculate once and then need to recharge. Females as long as the stimulation keeps going can ejaculate as many times as they want to without waiting.
I also recommend looking for how to masturbate if female and you may want to search under clitoral masturbation or G spot masturbation.
Hi everyone. I would appreciate taking the time to read this and to understand where im coming from. Whoever replies back to this, please have an open mind and understand where I am coming from and what i am currently going through. Okay so. I’ve known this guy for 6 years, were family friends and we've always like each other. I am 23 and he is 25, we have been into each other since the beginning of time, however, it was always the wrong time. Either i felt too much and he felt too little or vice versa. Either he was in a relationship and engaged or i was in a relationship or we both wanted to be single at the wrong time and we never dated. We only knew that we had this strong bond, natural connection and something rare. Ive always said that hes the guy for me because of how hes the only guy thats come into my life that's actually stayed and he says the same thing. I had really strong feelings for this guy, more than him actually and even if i was with someone it was always him in the back of my mind. If i broke up with someone, hes somehow the person i always leaned on because we always had this "what if" between us that we never truly fulfilled because we've never been together but have always been so curious about it. Around 8 months ago, we were still talking and he kept telling me that he wanted to be with me but that I had to wait until he was ready to be in an official relationship again because he had just broken up with his 3 year fiancé that he truly loved. And that he was’t ready for anything serious but that he feels like were meant to be together and he wants to come talk to my parents soon so that we get married. I honestly had a hard time trusting him because usually I feel like he has feelings for me and never does anything about it, or that we never truly made any moves to be together, but this was the first time he talked about marriage. I said I would wait for him and was a little dramatic about it and figured that we were probably gonna end up together anyway but I wasn’t thinking so deep into it. I just learned to let it be between us. That’s how we’’ve always been, going back and fourth with one another so I figured its no big deal and if it happens then it happens. I met this guy a month after and have been with him ever since. We’ve been together for 7 months now and we have a nice relationship. He is loyal, respectful, sweet, loving, everything ive ever truly wanted in a person. Except that we come from different societies, we have different mindsets. We are inlove, and attached and for the most part we work well together, however, ive always had second thoughts in my head about the future with him because there was just always that one thing that we didn’t share, were kind of incompatable. There are just some things that I cant deny. We have this intense love for eachother, but when I hink of the future I feel like I cant see a family with this person because we are truly so different than one another. Which hurts me so much. It kills me that I am so inlove with him but feel like im not sure if we can be together for good. The thing is, we speak different langauges. I am Egyptian American and he is pure Egyptian, there are tthings in my personality that I can only express in English because I was born and raised in the states, there are things about my personality that I feel he doesn’t understand. And some things we are just different about. Now, in any Egyptian family, marriage is a priority. We don’t wait until were 30 to get married and it’s extremely different here than it is outside the country. This guy I am with now works and doesn’t make enough money to not only get married, but to even get engaged, hes not goal oriented and has no plan in the future. Which worries me. I have a lot of daddy issues, and I wont say that I lean on someone to financially support me because I have been working my whole life towards being successful in my career, I have been through the worst possible shit ever and I honestly do not intend to marry someone who is just going to remind me of how hard it is living with my father that doesn’t financially support me at all. This other guy, the one that I mentioned in the beging having chemistry and history with for 6 years now came back into my life and said that he wants to marry me soon and that he knows im the one for him and that were meant for eachother. He keeps talking about how we always go back to one another and how we share this unbreakable bond, a natural bond that is just always going to be there. Which I completely agree with, but I don’t love him. I love my boyfriend. But I feel like my boyfriend is lazy and has no future and I know it sounds terrible but it’s the truth. The guy ive known for years is not only rich, but he knows my family from A to Z , he knows all my circumstances and he wants to share the rest of his life with me and sees it. We talked about it although I felt it was highly inappropriate to talk about this with someone who is not my boyfriend. But I set a limit. I only let him talk about what he wants and listened, and tried my best not to emotionally cheat on my boyfriend even though I feel like I can’t help but want the same things that this guy does. We both have many things in common. Future and life goals in general. We like the same things, but I am inlove with my boyfriend and he is crazy about me. I think that if I ever left him he would do something to himself and id break his heart and id never forgive myself for it. Im left in shock seeing how you can truly love someone so much but feel like they aren’t te person for you. I never felt like that was possible until now and It completely destroys me. I don’t know what to do. I told the guy that ive known for years to just leave me alone and that I have to pay attention to my relationship and he told me that Im not in a good relationship because I even considered him (Which is the truth because I did, ive been confused for a while now about which one of them I should be with and that’s not good) and I know its not good, and I don’t mean it and im not a terrible person but I don’t know what to do. A part of me is telling me to go for the guy of 6 years that keeps promising me the world and promises to make me happy and telling me that he loves me. And a part of me wants to stay with my boyfriend that im not suer about because I love him so fucking much it hurts. I really feel like I want to rip my hair apart because of all the depression I am going through. Today I sat with my boyfriend and cried to him telling him how much I love him but I feel like were different in many things. He didn’t understand and kept trying to make me feel better and told me to stop crying and kept saying hes sorry if he upset me, but he is so genuine and loyal and I really can’t imagine breaking his heart because all this guy ever did was make me happy. Truly happy for 8 months, yet, I can’t shake off this feeling of feeling like he isn’t the one for me. How is it possible that I love someone so much but see my life with someone else? I really can’t wrap my head around it, I feel so guilty. So upset. I feel like I betrayed my boyfriend and betrayed myself. But I feel like I should also consider myself and what I want in my future and for me and my kids and my lifestyle with this other guy makes more sense. They both love me, and I love my boyfriend but I see more potential and a happier future with this other guy. What do you think I should do? I know that no one here will probably understand, I just need to know that theres someone out there that has been through something like this. I don’t wanna regret leaving any of them. And if staying with my boyfriend is the safer choice then Ill do it even if I don’t think its right. I wish i could be single so that i can figure this whole thing out, But I can’t break his heart and Ill be breaking mine if I get with someone else and feel like I made the worst mistake of my life. Thanks for reading.
To keep things straight as I talk of the two, I will simply use some of your words and label the 6 yr one Rich and the 7 month bf Lazy.
You say you do not currently have feelings for Mr. Rich. But from what I read, You once did. If you really did love him at one time, my guess is the only reason you don't feel love for him right now is not because you have a bf but because he either didn't return your love or has been wishy washy up til now. Actually, considering your ages, there may be a good explanation if he's finally got his act together. The decision making part of our brains is not fully developed until we hit our mid twenties and for some its even later. So he most definitely may not have been ready to make such a decision before. If I were you, before I decide, I would at least not count what he was like in the past as reason to not consider him. Only you dating him for a while will be able to tell if he is more committed and sure and in control of his decisions.
Mr Lazy is someone it seems you met at the point when Mr. Rich asked you to give him time to emotionally get over his last love. That was reasonable. But while you were waiting, you met Mr. Lazy and claim to be in love with him. Unless you promised to not date anyone you met while waiting for Mr. Rich, You shouldn't feel you betrayed him. As for dating Mr. Lazy, if you told him in the beginning that you were giving an old male friend time to get over a break up and then would try to get together with him so you can't really commit to him right now and if he's okay with just dating you socially for fun but not seriously, then that would have been best. But hey, we all fail to say things we could have said and say things we wish we never did.
In choosing whom to marry, there are several things to consider. A solid foundation for a relationship is made of two things, being each others best friend in how you treat each other and know each other and the romance/sexual part is there, the attraction and you both are each others sexual equal. With Mr. Rich, it sounded like you are great friends. I do not know if you've been sexual with either one. But I will paraphrase the writings of a female psychologist on how men and women see things differently, which is that women view sex as both an accompaniment to a strong relationship and a way to secure that relationship. The emotional bond for women is tied into the physical act so they have difficulty seeing both separately and thus have the hard time with still feeling love for a guy who mistreats them or is just not a good choice for them."
This may be the reason that you love Mr. Lazy even if he doesn't sound like he'll be able to provide for you. But I can't say for sure, not knowing your status with him.
You might want to review for both men the following list I added to that I found on line,
7 Questions to know if he really loves you
1. Does he say I love you. For some, it's a hard thing to say but they show it to you in other ways. When he says I love you, he is viewing that as a commitment to you. It is not a flippant phrase.
Saying I love you too early like during first couple dates is a warning about the guy. Its a very good chance he is needy and wanting a woman to be his mom. Other phrases from a guy count too, like you're awesome, I adore you. You're the woman I always dreamed of.
2. Does he make you a priority in his life? Guys have more than one priority...things very important to him but you should be one of top 3.
What he does for you or how he acts can't be faked easily because it's hard to lie with your body. Things he does without having to be asked, making dinner, picking up something for a collection you have, making time for you, even if it's a walk or a long phone chat. If the guy likes you, he'll make time for you at least a quarter of the time.
3 Does he tell friends about you and like to show you off? Have you been introduced to his family and friends? If he keeps you separate, he's hiding something or ashamed or fearful of something
4. Does he care about your pleasure during sex? Is he only into seeking his own pleasure or your's too. Does he open his eyes and want to have both your eyes connect while making love?
5. Does he respect and encourage you? Respect means, does he value your opinion, do you share decisions and treats you as a partner. Are you encouraged by him to have your own friends and hobbies outside the relationship and encourage you to seek your dreams and uphold you in that.
Jealousy is not love, it's control. It's okay to be protective, but jealousy shouldn't be what prompts the protectiveness
6. Do your friends and family like how he treats you? Others make a great gauge for judging a guys character.
7. Does he look at you with lust and passion in his eyes, with a hunger and thirst for you? Does he give you admiring looks, does he still want to sneak peeks down your shirt. What he sees is Very important since guys are visually stimulated. If he isn't looking anymore, he has lost his interest. All men because of this natural trait, will also view other women but do so discreetly, without being an ass about it. Don't expect a man to look at only you. If he doesn't look at other women at all, it may be a sign that he is gay. You do want a man who is visually stimulated by women.
How many points are true for you with your guy?
7 true He treats you as a Queen and he is an exceptional man
5-6 true He loves you. Just don't focus on what is lacking.
3-4 true He loves you enough to make the relationship work for him. If it's enough for you, then be content. If you feel like you're settling for less, let him go and look for something better.
1-2 true He's a douche-bag, a user or controller. Leave immediately.
The list as you see doesn't have wealth as a defining factor. So when it comes to deciding, you may want to think about your future children. With Mr. Lazy, the kids may grow up very poor and male children as children will copy their parents, may end up choosing to be just like Mr. Lazy because to them that is normal. YOu would need to be willing to be the bread winner or a 2nd income here. Also kids need to see parents that love each other as this is how they learn what a healthy relationship is like. The loving couples who both share a 50-50 load of effort into the relationship, the parenting and running of the home is what is best for children to grow up with. So if for any reason, neither men are right, then do not choose one or the other, just don't choose either and keep looking.
I am looking to work for a company the best fit me. I will be graduating this year and want to know the companies I should apply to? I do not have much experience but I have enough experience if that makes sense. I have experienced rejection but I know if I apply to the right company I will get hired. Here are my questions:
1. What companies are most likely to hire recent accountants
2. What companies are less competitive?
3. What nonprofits companies need accountants? (recent grads)
4. In general, what are the best places to apply to for an accounting job
I also want to work for a company that has a friendly work culture.
I don't have a list of companies for you but a suggestion instead. If you can not find work soon, you might consider going to a temp agency for accounting type work. I know someone who is an accountant who has often worked temp jobs in between any permanent jobs that end. The temp jobs can be a few days but usually are somewhat longer being for months and even a year. This is a good way to get experience under your belt to have not just schooling but work experience to impress when applying for jobs. You can still do job interviews while working while waiting to be accepted for a position.
So I've been in a relationship with this man for ten months now. We got engaged five months into our relationship (don't judge, please. My parents got engaged at 17 after a few months of being together. They've been HAPPILY married for 31 years now, so this is possible. I've NEVER been certain about any guy in my life EVER except for this man.)
Anyway... What makes me *GENUINELY* happy and overflow in pure positive energy is putting infinitely effort in making him happy.
When he puts effort in (which trust me, he does A LOT)... it makes me happy, but not as happy as when I'm doing things to make him happy.
I do things like give him massages without him asking... waiting on him, like taking his dirty plates in the kitchen, making him food and bringing it to him, etc... complimenting him whenever... reassuring him about everything... allowing him to change the channel when I'm watching a show I really love (for example, I love Jerry Springer, but he doesn't, so I let him change it, which makes me happy when I let him change it to what he wants)... choose to listen to his favorite music in the car instead of my favorite (which I like his music anyway; but sometimes he'll choose to listen to my favorite because he's sweet like that.)... etc.
Trust me, he puts a lot of effort in. He's SUPER appreciative and the sweetest thing ever.
I don't know why I'm like this. I just don't get that happy when he's trying to make me happy. I'm PURELY and GENUINELY overjoyed when I'm doing things to make him happy.
The more I do for him, the happier I am.
The less I do for him, the less happy I am.
Is this bad at all? I REALLY don't want to stop putting so much effort in because it makes him super happy as well as making me super happy.
I agree with Adviceman. The relationship should be 50-50, not 60-40 or 80-20, etc. I also have no idea what exactly he does for you, regardless of whether you feel happy or not.
And right up the alley here is this quote "Happily ever after doesn't happen just because you wish it so. It only happens when both parties put in Equal effort to make it so."
You only wrote in detail what you do for him. Yes, it's normal to recieve pleasure from doing things for the one you love, however if both of you were at the same time choosing to do something special for the other, that way you also receive happiness from him.
So I want to know if he gives you massages without you asking, does he wait on you, like taking dirty plates or offering to refill your tea while he's up, does he ever cook for you 3 or 4 times out of the week as that would be about half the time, does he compliment and encourage and speak supportively of all your want to do, does he reassure you when you need it, actually noticing you're out of sorts and not having to be asked to reassure you, does he ever offer to change what he is watching to allow you to see a show you want, does he choose to show interest in your favorite genres of everything, etc.
Sometimes there wont be able to be compromise. I am talking of you wanting one show, him wanting to watch another. A better choice might be to not give in and watch his fav. show but both of you decide on what else is on that both of you would enjoy watching. If you always let him have what ever makes him happy without giving him a chance to reciprocate as much as you do for him, then you are robbing him of the chance to give his 50% in the relationship. And that is not normal to me nor for what healthy normal relationships are known to be these days.
What you wrote sounds a bit more like what womens magazine articles used to tell housewives in the 50s to do for their man, anticipating all his needs before he has to ask, being at his beck and call, serving him, making sure he never has to life a finger in the home, dressing up in dresses and high heels to greet him as he arrives home from work, offering him his favorite chair, putting his slippers on him, handing him his favorite beer and the list goes on. The man has to do nothing because all women did it all beleiving that was her role in life. The problem is that most men if spoiled like this, never given a chance to reciprocate, or trained to do special things for you, will grow up to become parents of boys who believe the same and society for women does not improve. At least these are my impressions due to what you've written.