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Mother cares about a video game more than me?
About 2 months ago I introduced my mother to a game called Subnautica. She was reluctant at first but soon came around and started to really like it. I was happy that we had something to bond over. After about a week of playing it she became obsessed. She started playing it a lot more than she had before. I was fine with it until a few incidents happened. I once asked her to get out of her submerine to check on something, she did and got killed, resulting in her losing a lot of her in game items. She then through what I can only call a tantrum, yelling and screaming about how I planned this on purpose, when I did no such thing. Another incident was when I was playing a hirror game and she starts asking me if she can play her game. I told her I was in the middle of my game and to wait. I might of sounded a bit bitchy, but in my defense I was in a more difficult part of my game. She then starts complaining how she was at work all day and how it was her computer. Whenever I'm playing it and she wants it, it's her computer, but any other time it's the family computer. The last incident that really drew the line was when I asked her for help on my horror game. It helps me if somebody memorizes all the twists I take and hekps me to get out of an area. I just thought since I help her with her game she'll help with mine. She said no. Instead of just walking off I decided to press matters and say I help her all the time. She then said that she already played this game and would rather ficous on her game that she hasn't completed yet. I have completed her game myself, so I said that I guess I wouldn't help her since I have already compmetes her game myself, and woyld rather focus on tge trophies in the other game I was working to complete. That set her off into a screaming fit. I k ow I was acting kinda bratty, but it's her that always starts screaming. Whenever I try talking about this to her she always says it's my fault. Every conversation we have has to be about that dumb game! I'm starting to think that game matters more than me. What can I do to make her act normal again, and actually treat me better than a fictional game?
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Sorry, theres no going back. Once you introduced mom to these games, once she played, she liked this way as her choice of how to chill out after work. I happen to play some games on Facebook. Once you are committed to a game, it can take a lot of time, timed events that require you going back again later. Theres no way to stop unless you do it cold turkey and just walk away from it.
Since she is an adult, she makes her own choices. You mentioned the game, she chose to play. Now you want to control how much she plays and get her to help you? We had a daughter years ago ask us to join Farmville on facebook cus she needed help. We sent her energy and gifts for the game but eventually she stopped playing and we kept on, moving on to other games. I would suggest that you do not interrupt while she plays games but to talk to her. Leave a post it note on the table next to her or somewhere she'll see, and say when she's got a stopping point, you need to ask her something. Heck I have to do that with my husband or him with me if either of us is playing a game with time limits where you need to use speed or do certain things before time runs out. Or when she will be away from computer like out of the house to run errands, go with her and then you'll have her attention in the car. Can anyone make you quit playing games cold turkey simply cus they mention you need to stop or do it less or have more time for them? If you can, you're one in thousands of people. There is always some level of addiction to games on computer. But I so have days allotted to running nothing but errands all day and never get on, or visiting with family so I only have an hour to do some critical stuff on games.
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Hi sweetie,
I'm sorry about the frustration that you are going through regarding the gaming and your mom. That can't be a good feeling. I would recommend that you try to set the example in this situation. When she comes home from work, ask her how her day at work was, did she get a chance to enjoy the weather?, etc. Then, if you live somewhere where the weather is nice these days, ask her if she'd like to take a walk with you outside. This will start the ball rolling as far as the two of you spending some quality time together and out in some fresh air, which is really good for you! You can still come back in and play your respective games too, but at least you both will feel better after walking and having spent some time together on something beside video games. I wish you the best!
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