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Hiya,
what's boy actually thinking, when he says, 'but we can stay friends' after a conversation that he was asking me, how long have you been with your bf. he also asks you do like when I joke this way with you, if you don't like it tell me to stop making jokes. the thing is his way of joking seems like flirtatious to me. we both have partners. he has a fiancé and I have a boyfriend. but I'm trying to understand why would he say he wants to stay friends? is he just waiting if there's any chance he could ask me out in the future if we stayed friends? we have been friends for a few months so we do know each other. thanks all
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Hi,
To be honest, you haven't really known this guy for very long, as a few months is not that long a time to really know someone deeply.
You say that it seems flirtatious to you, and you should go by your instincts, as they're all you have!
Considering that he has a fiancé, I really don't think he should be making flirtatious remarks towards you, even as a "friend" and especially not as a "friend." You may be comfortable enough with it but I don't think it's very appropriate!
So follow your instincts and respond to the situation accordingly and to your comfort level.
Best,
Nor
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I've been eating a whole food, plant based diet for the past 2 years but at 5'4", I'm still 135 lbs.
I want to look as dainty as this girl photographed: http://bit.ly/2t2jBmw
I literally eat fruit and veggie smoothies for breakfast, salads for lunch, and veggie soup with sweet potatoes for dinner. I've completely cut out processed sugar, salt, and oil, too. I don't even think I eat up to 1,500 calories a day, so why do I still weigh as much as I do? Do I need to exercise more? Run everyday? I don't want to get muscular, I just want to be slim.
I don't understand what so many Asian girls do differently to look as they do. Can anyone reveal their secrets? Do they just not eat? I'm not even trying to starve myself and I've cut calories and increased fiber as much as I can, but I don't know how to still go further.
I don't believe it's genetics because I do know many overweight Asians, but I'm thinking more of the recent immigrants from east Asia, who tend to be as skinny as reeds (in a good way) (link)
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Hi there!
Much has been made about Asians' healthier diets and focus on nutrition compared to "Americans."
One thing you need to be aware of before going further though (which quite frankly, I don't recommend aside from exercise) is that bone structure plays a huge role in a person's physique. East Asians tend to have a smaller bone structure, and so unless yours is the same, you will not be able to attain exactly what you are aiming for.
I would recommend that you aim to love what you are and how were made by the most perfect hand of God, and to do the best with what you have. Eat a healthy, balanced diet like you are doing (but add kosher or halal meats and/or lentils for protein) and get moderate exercise.
You will be looking your best before you know it!
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About 2 months ago I introduced my mother to a game called Subnautica. She was reluctant at first but soon came around and started to really like it. I was happy that we had something to bond over. After about a week of playing it she became obsessed. She started playing it a lot more than she had before. I was fine with it until a few incidents happened. I once asked her to get out of her submerine to check on something, she did and got killed, resulting in her losing a lot of her in game items. She then through what I can only call a tantrum, yelling and screaming about how I planned this on purpose, when I did no such thing. Another incident was when I was playing a hirror game and she starts asking me if she can play her game. I told her I was in the middle of my game and to wait. I might of sounded a bit bitchy, but in my defense I was in a more difficult part of my game. She then starts complaining how she was at work all day and how it was her computer. Whenever I'm playing it and she wants it, it's her computer, but any other time it's the family computer. The last incident that really drew the line was when I asked her for help on my horror game. It helps me if somebody memorizes all the twists I take and hekps me to get out of an area. I just thought since I help her with her game she'll help with mine. She said no. Instead of just walking off I decided to press matters and say I help her all the time. She then said that she already played this game and would rather ficous on her game that she hasn't completed yet. I have completed her game myself, so I said that I guess I wouldn't help her since I have already compmetes her game myself, and woyld rather focus on tge trophies in the other game I was working to complete. That set her off into a screaming fit. I k ow I was acting kinda bratty, but it's her that always starts screaming. Whenever I try talking about this to her she always says it's my fault. Every conversation we have has to be about that dumb game! I'm starting to think that game matters more than me. What can I do to make her act normal again, and actually treat me better than a fictional game? (link)
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Hi sweetie,
I'm sorry about the frustration that you are going through regarding the gaming and your mom. That can't be a good feeling. I would recommend that you try to set the example in this situation. When she comes home from work, ask her how her day at work was, did she get a chance to enjoy the weather?, etc. Then, if you live somewhere where the weather is nice these days, ask her if she'd like to take a walk with you outside. This will start the ball rolling as far as the two of you spending some quality time together and out in some fresh air, which is really good for you! You can still come back in and play your respective games too, but at least you both will feel better after walking and having spent some time together on something beside video games. I wish you the best!
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I have noticed I can't maintain relationship with women. This year, I said I wanted to make long lasting relationship but I lost two friends. It hard because for some reasons these girl triggered my inner child. They hurt me but as much as I want to blame them, I see part of this is my doing. I really want great and long lasting relationships but I don't know why I am easily triggered. If someone is blunt with me, I feel that they don't care enough about the way I feel. I often feel left out which makes me feel jealous. So far, I know I have abandonment issues. But how can I begin to heal my inner child. I have been writing about it and talking it out. I am aware of that the neglect I experience growing up has a major part in this. I know it's a process but can you give me practical way to heal theses wounds? I been to therapy for other issues but I am just now realizing this is my main issue. I need some encouragement as well. (link)
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Hi there!
You've already done the hardest part, which is identifying the issue. So give yourself a pat on the back for that. I recommend that now that you have a sense of what your main problem is, you revisit therapy for further healing.
Best,
Nor
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Why is 2% fat milk called 2% fat milk when 45 calories from fat divided by 120 calories = 0.375 x 100 = 37.5 calories from fat and not 2%?
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I heard somewhere that the 2% is referring to 2% LESS fat than whole milk, rather than 2% in total. I don't know if that is accurate or not and it is worth researching. Great question!
Nor
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OK guys, please help me understand he's a friend whenever we're sat next to each other, time to time and very often feels like he likes touching my arms patting my shoulders, when we disagree on something he goes on and says if you don't shut up I wil give you a hug with a hint of smile, I'm not a shy girl as we've hugged few times (i insisted the quick hug) just before saying bye from having cuppa. When I get the things right on a project he says I'm proud of you and deserve a kiss with a hint of smile again. As I'm going away for a few weeks he says he's going to miss me and told him I'll miss him too. So, what is this? Do you reckon any normal male friend does this or is this all in a good fun or does he like me at least a bit? Every answers are appreciated! (link)
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Hey Sweetie,
It's hard to say with the information that you've provided as we can't know what's in his heart and mind, but it seems like it is one of either 3 things:
1. He is interested in you
2. He is just flirting
3. He's gay but likes you as a person
I wish you all the best!
Nor
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Good afternoon everyone,
I am an international student in the U.S., and I have been recently admitted into two programs which are the MA in TESOL in American University in Washington, DC, and the MA in Liberal Arts in Georgetown University. However, since I am fascinated by both programs and universities, I have not been able to decide which college I need to attend; therefore, I would like to ask you in order to help me in my dilemma. I need to mention that both programs are going to be held in Washington, DC, and they have nearly the same tuition as well as the expected time to graduate, so my concern is which degree will be beneficial for me, either personally or professionally, in the future, particularly my bachelor's degree was in business administration .
The MA in TESOL from American University:
Pros:
1. Most universities in my country have not offered this major yet, so it may give me a credit when I return back.
2. There is continuous demand for studying English in my country. For example, studying English is required during the school and university education.
3. I personally like to deal and learn English linguistics and grammar, and I often taught my classmates some grammar lessons during my studying English in the U.S.A.
Cons:
1. I assume this degree might minimize my career only in teaching and educational fields.
2. Since English is not my native Language, I am worried that I will not be preferred by some English institutes to teach it, although the vast majority of English teachers in public schools and universities in my home are non-native speakers of English.
The MA in Liberal Studies from Georgetown University:
Pros:
1. The major is unlimited and broad, so it will probably boost my career into several jobs and positions, such as a professor, author, or editor.
2. Georgetown University is a prestigious university, and its reputable name will possibly attract different universities and organization when I return to my country. I know Georgetown University because I have studied English as a foreign language for a year and half int its English center, and it was such as spectacular experience.
3. I enjoy Studying and learning about history, religion, language, literature, and political subjects.
Cons:
1. I have been told by many professors and students that a degree in liberal studies is useless and jobless, and it cannot enhance my job opportunities in the future.
As a result, I hope from you to assist me to decide which degree I am recommended to choose, so I can tell both universities my final decision, which should be sent by Oct, 10. Finally, I truly appreciate your advice, and please accept my sincere apology for this long topic, and any inconvenience this may cause.
Best wishes,
Moata (link)
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Hi Moata,
I believe your original post with the same question, submitted yesterday, was answered. Just for your information :)Good luck to you in your endeavors!
Nor
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I'm a 17 year old female and my parents never let me out of the house. I'm in university now and a part of being a freshman was the frosh week, I paid my own money to go and because of my parents I only attended 3 out of the 10 days of frosh week, also the days I attended there were parties that started around 8pm and ended at 12am, of course my parents didn't let me go to any of them. My mom made it clear I had to leave campus by 6pm because it wasn't safe to stay on campus at night, yeah I know it's not safe but the parties were patrolled by police officers and to move around the campus at night there's a security program the school has that you can call to escort you to wherever you wanna go. There was another frosh event to go to the beach originally my mom said no because since I can't swim there was no reason for me to be at the beach but I had to beg and plead for her to let me go because I only went to frosh for 2 days, she finally let me go but that was the last day I was ever allowed to go again, now today's the last day and it ends with a boat cruise and my mom said I can't go because it's a boat, like wtf? She's always thinking of the worst case scenario, how am I supposed to survive in the real world when they're always sheltering me? Because of her my sister and I are afraid to walk down our own street by ourselves because right when high school started she would usually walk with us to the bus stop even when I told her to stay home. She expects me to be able to talk to strangers boldly but then keeps me locked in the house, she usually only lets me out the house if I'm hanging out with the friends I've known since elementary school. i wish I lived on residence I would've had more freedom, what can I do to help my mom stop thinking of the worst case scenario? because being sheltered isn't always a good thing (link)
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This is SO tough. I really feel for you. It sounds like your mom has an anxiety issue of some kind, that she may not be ready to acknowledge. Do you believe in a higher power? A power whose lines are open 24/7 to listen to you no matter what the circumstance, and help you achieve your dreams? I would start speaking with that power :) Good luck to you!
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im girl 17, im in 3rd year in high school... i told my classmate(boy) who is also my crush that i like him, in the concrete i gave him a note, saying i like him bc , i felt really relieved after i told him...two days later, i asked him to talk about it bc he didnt give any respond and i wanted to how he feels , during school (we didnt study , we just played games etc), i asked him if we could go and talk somewhere private , he said it is nice that i told him about my feelings for him, he repeated it 5 more times :D :D, he also told me that he know how hard it must´ve been for me to hide my feelings from him... then he said he doesnt have time for relationship bc he has activites besides school (he plays guitar, he dances)...and also he told me he firstly wants to develop more spiritually..(if that makes sense) bc we go to catholic church , ..and then he hugged me saying that we should continue to be friends and he told not to act nervous before him,
i deleted him from my friends on fb during summer holidays bc i was always checking if he is online...now is new school year and he found out i removed him from my friends on fb, and he texted me why i did that, and if he did something wrong he is sorry , i didnt answear, i told him i did it bc it hurts me and that i dont want to be friends, and he said it´s, i thought it would hurt less, but it hurts me more , i just dont know what to do ? i see him every day at school, we dont talk to each other, and it hurts me so much , what should i do ?
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I think you are worth more than this. Please focus on your own life. Do you have any hobbies you could get into more? Are you particularly good at something that you could focus on sharing with the world? I know you are! The world needs you! If it's meant to be with this boy, it'll be...nothing and no one will be able to stop it - not deleted facebook friendships, not 1 year of no talking, not any competition from other people crushing on him...not anything!
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Good evening everyone,
I am an international student in the U.S., and I have been recently admitted into two master's programs which are the MA in TESOL in American University in Washington, DC, and the MA in Liberal Arts in Georgetown University. However, since I am fascinated by both programs and universities, I have not been able to decide which college I need to attend; therefore, I would like to ask you in order to help me in my dilemma. I need to mention that both programs are going to be held in Washington, DC, and they have nearly the same tuition as well as the expected time to graduate, so my concern is which degree will be beneficial for me, either personally or professionally, in the future.
The MA in TESOL from American University:
Pros:
1. Most universities in my country have not offered this major yet, so it may give me a credit when I return back.
2. There is continuous demand for studying English in my country. For example, in some universities, studying English is required during the foundation year.
3. I personally like to deal and learn English linguistics and grammar, and I often taught my classmates some grammar lessons during my studying English in the U.S.A.
Cons:
1. I assume this degree might minimize my career only in teaching and educational fields.
2. Since English is not my native Language, I am worried that I will not be preferred by some English institutes to teach it, although the vast majority of English teachers in public schools and universities in my home are non-native speakers of English.
The MA in Liberal Studies from Georgetown University:
Pros:
1. The major is unlimited and broad, so it will probably boost my career into several jobs and positions, such as a professor, author, or editor.
2. Georgetown University is a prestigious university, and its reputable name will possibly attract different universities and organization when I return to my country. I know Georgetown University because I have studied English as a foreign language for a year and half int its English center, and it was such as spectacular experience.
3. I enjoy Studying and learning about history, religion, language, literature, and political subjects.
Cons:
1. I have been told by many professors and students that a degree in liberal studies is useless and jobless, and it cannot enhance my job opportunities in the future.
As a result, I hope from you to assist me to decide which degree I am recommended to choose, so I can tell both universities my final decision, which should be sent by Oct, 10. Finally, I truly appreciate your advice, and please accept my sincere apology for this long topic, and any inconvenience this may cause.
Best wishes,
Moataa (link)
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Well, a lot of foreign ESL teaching positions seem to require you to be a native speaker, but as long as you are planning on taking opportunities in your home country, where it sounds like many non-native speakers are teaching, I would go for the MA in TESOL. That degree may even give you higher qualification than the competition in your country if they don't offer this degree (MA TESOL) there. good luck to you! I wish you all the best!
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Hello, I am a 13 year old girl. My parents are Catholics and so is most my family (and it's not like the non Catholic ones are outside of Christianity-they are methodists, protestants, etc) but I'm Wiccan, and have been for 4 years. Well, actually, ever since I was really little I never fit in with the church and thought other things, I just didn't find a name for it until later. I do as much as I can to practice my faith. But my parents (particularly my mom) want to force me into it! My mother keeps saying "blah blah blah take the good with the bad!" But if I can find a religion (*cough* Wicca *cough*) that (in my opinion) has no bad why should I settle for something else?! And she keeps talking about keeping an "open mind" but I have and that's why I'm Wiccan! My plan is as soon as I'm off on my own I leave the church (I've done research and found out how), join a coven and say bye bye to Catholicism but I just feel so sick thinking about having to be catholic until I'm an adult. I study very hard in school so I can get my own place and support myself as quickly as I can, and leave quicker. What I want to know is, is this legal (I live in New York) and if it is, how else can I get out of this? Absolutely no part of me wants this. (link)
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Hi there...I don't know if this will help you or not, but in reality, everyone is born of the same religion.
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