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why would he say this?
Hiya,
what's boy actually thinking, when he says, 'but we can stay friends' after a conversation that he was asking me, how long have you been with your bf. he also asks you do like when I joke this way with you, if you don't like it tell me to stop making jokes. the thing is his way of joking seems like flirtatious to me. we both have partners. he has a fiancé and I have a boyfriend. but I'm trying to understand why would he say he wants to stay friends? is he just waiting if there's any chance he could ask me out in the future if we stayed friends? we have been friends for a few months so we do know each other. thanks all
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Seems to me he is being unfaithful to his fiancé, If he was being this way towards you he shouldn't be settling down marrying someone. I would honestly cut all ties if you truly care about your boyfriend. Its not worth it and he kind of is a loser if he is trying to flirt with you while he knows you have a boyfriend and hes engaged. He can only do so much on how much you allow him. You are allowing him to be flirtaous set the ground rules and be like Yes, we are friends...and that's the way I want to keep it I truly care about my boyfriend.
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Hi,
To be honest, you haven't really known this guy for very long, as a few months is not that long a time to really know someone deeply.
You say that it seems flirtatious to you, and you should go by your instincts, as they're all you have!
Considering that he has a fiancé, I really don't think he should be making flirtatious remarks towards you, even as a "friend" and especially not as a "friend." You may be comfortable enough with it but I don't think it's very appropriate!
So follow your instincts and respond to the situation accordingly and to your comfort level.
Best,
Nor
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Flirting in conjunction with "but we can stay friends", sounds to me like he is being consider of your feelings and reassuring you that even though flirting, its only as a friend, not for serious as if you were his partner in a couple relationship.
All you need to do is let him know if you like it or whether to stop.
You are dwelling too much on these words and coming up with your own twist on different possible meanings. No matter if he Indeed did mean something different, if you're happy with your boyfriend and you don't like the male friend romantically, knowing what chances there are for the future don't even matter, do they? Unless you plan to date two people at once and cause both to get upset thinking you are cheating. The only time you need to even be concerned about whether he is dating just for dating sake but really interested in you is if both of you were single which you are not.
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