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why would a boy mate say this?
Hi, what does it mean when a boy says if I was not compromised, I would have married you with a beaming face? been a good friends but he does have a gf and I have a bf. even though he knows that I have a bf he sounded sure that would say yes to marry him. I just looked at him and we shared a smile. I like him and he seems to know and I know that he likes me as well but when he mentioned the word marry, I was like he could be pretty serious about me or wanting to date me. what do you reckon all? we do flirt back and forth but he says we're joking not flirting which I don't get it, duh! thank you
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I don't think he used the correct word or maybe he tried to sound fancy and intelligent to impress. Perhaps he meant instead that if he wasn't already dating someone else, already taken, unavailable. Compromised doesn't come up in a word search for meaning and the word compromise is different than compromised. A compromise is when two people with differing views find middle ground together that they can agree on instead, that's a compromise. But compromised to my understanding means invasion of something thst caused negative results. ie Due to an error in setting the alarm for the shop, the security system was compromised and robbers were able to get into the store without setting off any alarm. Or a Doctor might say, due to years of smoking your health is now compromised and you will need to be on an oxygen tank from now on.
So, just saying I've never heard that word used to describe your situation. He could mean something totally different and mean it personally, like something he has done that no longer makes him a good choice for you like if you are strictly a no drugs type and he started using recreational drugs and knows you wouldn't date him therefore. Only you could figure out what that might be from past convo's.
So right now he thinks you know what he said because you shared a smile. That was the perfect time to look confused instead and ask, what do you mean by compromised? Now if he had said to you that if you were not compromised, his meaning of not already taken, already having a boyfriend, then he would have married you with a beaming face,
It would mean he is trying to say that if you were still single he would have married you. Logically, there are holes in what he is implying here.
First, he is assuming you would have answered yes. Unless he simply tossed that statement out to see how you would react. If you only liked him as a friend but did not have romantic feelings towards him, he is assuming you would have said something right there like "Even if I were single, we'd still only be friends, not married because I don't have romantic feelings for you." Since you only smiled, he may believe that you were agreeing.
What if he is not happy with his girlfriend? He could be checking to see if there are any better choices before breaking off with her.
Theres something wrong with his thinking if he says the issue is that he is dating and not single. He's not being forced by super forces to stay with her. If he realizes that she is not the one for him, then why doesn't he go single again and then simply said if you were still single and into him, he would have married you. would have is past tense, used when there is no chance of going back, changing anything. But that is not true. Heck even people who are engaged, break it off. Even married people who don't work out get divorces. So there is nothing preventing him from making himself available again.
Since he seems to be afraid of anyone saying he is flirting, he corrects you to say joking? If he was afraid of a jealous girlfriend, he could be flirting but just calling it joking. Joking would mean he is not serious. Which would imply anything related to relationship other than just friends, is not flirting but joking.
It's not too late to ask him what he meant, even if you didn't say anything at the time, Just start with, The other day when you said..... I kept wondering after what you meant by the word compromised." Then say whatever else you want or you might mention some of the rest: I also heard the word marry. However you say you never flirt, just joke. So I am assuming using 'marriage' in your speech was just a joke. But I want you to know that I do not appreciate you joking about something like that which is serious matter for females."
I gave you a taste of what conclusions ones mind could take you to as long as you're just guessing and you still know nothing.
He may be into you but that doesnt explain why he is taken. If you do not like your current bf, then you also should move on. Dating is for two reasons starting with hanging out to get to know each other really well, enough to know whether you could live with this person for the rest of your life, til death and if not break up. Those who both want to stay together forever make some kind of commitment and call themselves dating or seeing each other and most likely make a move to live together and set up household together with or without a marriage license.
If you ar not interested in him that way, don't say anything. Not unless he asked point blank if you have feelings for him or are in love with him.
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