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Hi there.
I'm 19/F and I'm in college to become a Labor and Delivery Nurse. A classmate of mine got pregnant at 16 and had a daughter named Katelyn. When she was around 7 months old, she would bring her to my house and leave her with me for weeks, and weeks at a time. I woke up with her whenever she cried, I fed her healthy, ect. I fell in love with that little girl. Well, just recently, when she was a year and a half, that girl brought Katelyn over again, and she stayed for two months straight. I tought her her colors, numbers, and body parts.
Ever since then, I have fell in love with kids. I've been lookin online but so far no luck. Anyone know where I could find a job babysitting? I have my own transportation, I have a very reliable, flexiable schedule, ect.
Any ideas?
Well, Sounds like your friend doesn't have very good parenting skills.....Leaving a child with a friend for weeks/months?!
Anyway, To give you a hand on what you are asking I would try to make ads and hand them out to friends, family even members of the family etc. Whatever you do, Never put your personal information out for everyone to see. Meaning, Don't go and put your number online etc. You could even try looking in the paper, Sometimes local day care centers will have a bulletin board where Mothers are looking for babysitters. Try that route and good luck to you!
well i want to babysit but i have no idea who needs a babysitter i am almost 14 and i am very good with kids if any body has a job for babysitting tell me my name is Tannika mcgrath and if you want to look me up look me up on this website www.facebbok.com and go to the serch bar and type the name tannika mcgrath!!!!!hope somebody will help me get a job!!!!
It may not be such a good idea to put your full name out there for everyone to see, This is a privacy concern.
Also added onto what the user below me said, I also wouldn't feel very comfortable leaving a child in the hands of a 14 year old never mind anyone who didn't know CPR as that would be one of the main things that would be a must with any parent.
At 14, Most fast foods will hire you as long as you have working papers which you can get from school. That may be your best bet...
I5/f. I'm a virgin and my boyfriend wants me to have sex with him but i have no idea.
If you don't know the basics of sex, Then I am going to assume that you are not ready. Sure, This may not be what you want to hear but it's the truth.
I would recommend you start reading about sexual education and birth control.......
I am WAY kinkier than my boyfriend and I've tried to talk to him about spicing it up a little bit because I'm frustrated ( I hvent had the big "O" in 8 months) I love him and he's good to me but he doesn't care enough to try, I'm starting to resent him, what should I do?
There isn't a whole lot of detail here
1, Are you on any sort of birth control, Medications?
Sometimes certain birth control can have a decrease in sexual desires and some goes for certain medications. These two things can make it hard to achieve orgasm.
2, Why does he want to try? Is he depressed, Does he work a lot, Is he stressed out or embarrassed?
You two need to talk about it, I know stated that you have but again detail is missing in your question. Have you told him how you feel, What your fantasies are, What turns you on. Maybe even telling him that you two could explore together that way he doesn't feel odd about the subject? Maybe even offer to go to a store together and look around for something you two can enjoy. (Not sure if you are 18 or not)
Need more details for better advice...
When is the worse time to have sex
If you are referring to pregnancy, There is no worse time to have sex. Pregnancy can occur at any given time.
I'm 13 years old and the boys have been asking me if I am a virgin I have been saying yes but I doont really know.I have had a cone of the bottem of the brush in my pussy and have had an orgasm like 50 times.then when I answer the question they say they want to do me and cum in my pussy.they are always touching me butt and saying I have a fat ass and they say when they see my ass there penis gets hard.what does this mean.and am I still a virgin.p.s. I had not have sex with anyone before.
You are a virgin until you have sexual intercourse.
At 13, You are too young to be having sex or thinking about having sex.
This is the question you should ask yourself before you have sex: Are you able to handle the possibility of raising a child on your own? and Are you financially able to provide for the child and give it a good home that it deserves? ......If these answers are no then you shouldn't be having sex. Despite birth control and condoms these things are NOT always guaranteed to prevent pregnancy. Wait a few years...
My girlfriend bought me a watch for my birthday and told me it was really expensive. I am really into watches and I do like the watch itself.
However she eventually told me it was limited edition and it was worth £800. I've recently found out that the watch is actually only worth £250.
Should I be upset about this? I know its the thought that counts and I'm still chuffed about her buying me this watch but why has she lied to me?
Well I agree with both Adviceman and Nascar on this one
However when someone gives you a gift it shouldn't be about how much they spend on it. It's the thought that counts, Your girlfriend went out of her way tried to find something she thought you would like. Instead of getting all pissy you should be thankful and appreciative as this was a gift from your girlfriend. Being greedy and selfish won't get you anywhere in this world.
So, I already asked a question about me possibly being pregnant, but now I have a new question regarding the same subject. I am sixteen, have had sex once, and fear that I may be pregnant. I know, I won't know for sure until I either take a pregnancy test or I miss my next period. But, as you can expect, I am very confused, stressed out, and worried. I have told my boyfriend and a few select friends of my current predicament, however, although they mean well with their advice, I need advice from someone who has a higher maturity level than I an is much more knowledgable than I. So, should I confide in my teacher? He is my favorite teacher, and I think that he could help. But what if I'm not pregnant? If I confide in him he'd probably think that I'm not quite the girl he thought I was; his opinion, oddly, maters to me very much.
I personally don't think your teacher would be the best person to go too for this situation. A teachers job is too educate now give parenting advice.
The people you should be going too are your parents, They are the ones that will give you the proper advice and support that will you need not your teacher. Sure, They may be understandably upset but they will eventually get used too it.
Now you stated you don't know for sure if you are pregnant. If you don't know then why are you sweating it? For all you know the test could come out negative. I would never go around spreading the possibility you may possibly be pregnant if you do not know for sure as with teenager nowadays anything can get out and rumors spread. Take a test first and if it comes out positive then consult your parents not your teacher.
Hi I'm 18 years old and I have a little sister who's 10 years old. I found her fingering herself on the bed on her bed but when I look at her fingers they were covered in cum!.
I have 2 question.
Is she going to be pregnant and how do I stop her fingering herself.
PLEASE HELP NOW!!!!!
First, Chill out
Your sister is a normal human being who is exploring her body. Many people do this at a young age because we are curious. At 18, I would think you would know that she cannot get pregnant by self masturbation, In order to become pregnant you would need to have contact with a penis or sperm.
Now, If you are concerned about your sister CALMLY explain the precautions of sex. If you feel unable to do this in a mature manner then you could let your parents know that it may be time to have the talk with her. What she is doing is completely normal!! She isn't harming herself or anyone else so calm down.
18/f
So last night I hooked up with a guy. We didn't have sex, but we did everything else besides sex. Afterwards, we cuddled and he stayed with me the rest of the night. Before we hooked up we spent a long time talking and I felt a connection with him. Now I feel like I'm being "that girl" who becomes attached to the guy she hooked up with one night. I know things could never work out with us because we live pretty far away but I just don't know what to do. I want to talk to him, but I don't know if he wants anything to do with me. I just have been feeling so badly about myself all day and I just don't want to feel like this.
Why do you feel so attached? Because you allowed yourself to get attached by having a stand with him beyond a friendship.
If you know it could never work out, Then accept it as it was and move on from it. Sometimes hooking up with people can come with consequences. While we tell ourselves that it will be nothing more then the title shit happens all the time. More then likely you feel like crap because now you have it enbedded in your brain that there was a connection that seems unlikely that it could ever work out.
You have two choices
1, You could try to talk to the guy and hope you can work something out but if it's long distant I don't really recommend it. (I was in a long distant for 5 years and in the end that is one of the main reasons it didn't work out!)
2, Accept that trying to have a relationship with this guy will never work and move on. Find someone that is more convenient to you and that is more a suitable partner.
If you don't want to be "that girl" then don't allow yourself to be her.
27 f australiarecently i gave up smoking.ive been without a drink 3 yrs go to regula meetings.ive had bad sexual feeling towards children before have not wil not do anything like this.until the last year i had no friends and it was dark and stil is sometimes.my life difrent now .i come from a midle clas family.im starting to isolate ta lot lately its been really hard giving up smk and ive finished a course i was pasionateabout.im in a relationship that kils me but i m to afaid to leave.im going insane.iput fingers dwn my throat like to punish my self heaps and it hurts..ive been wondering if my father abused me as a child.i spent the most time with him when we moved first then the rest of the family.i was 3 or 4.i remember wondering this before thou until recently tht it was my twisted head.i remember siting in between his legs in the bath and he was washing.and i felt really uncomfortable like he was sic and i left.i remember watching tv with my otha sisters in his and mums bed i was lying beside him and cld feel the heat coming off him.its just feelings and in last 2 days i feel like my heart is broken.my counselor away till end of month.im so sad ive got no energy right now i feel like this is taking me down.any advice?
I would recommend seeing a psychiatrist and a therapist. A counselor can only do so much while a psychiatrist can prescribe medications and if needed have you see a therapist. If you are having sexual urges towards children then you need to seek help for it.
Everything you just said can be worked on, In the meantime I suggest avoiding any negativity and try taking some time to clear your head and chill out.
So I'm approaching the big 28.... Everytime I hear of someone getting married or having a child it makes me so sad. I wsnt both and actually am engaged to be married in ten months. However I have been having an affair - should I just look past the affair and move on since I want these things so badly ??? Someone give me some advice !
I'm 27, I'm not married nor do I have kids either. Why? The economy puts me in such a position where my partner and I are currently on hold in certain aspects of our life. We enjoy being together, Although we both would like to get married someday it isn't the most important thing and it's not something we make a big deal of.
Your biggest mistake is your affair, You are engaged and to be married in 10 months and you are already seeing someone else?! You need to get your issues situated before you make a choice to walk down the isle. If you can't be honest with yourself now then you are going to be heading for a divorce real fast. Many people aren't married, Have kids nowadays and you know what else? MANY PEOPLE AREN'T EVEN ENGAGED! You are not the only one to want but having an affair is not going to solve your problems, Make it come any faster or fill your void of wants and needs faster then 10 months will. Seriously, You are engaged you should be planning your wedding faithfully with your fiance and focusing on the two of you. I think you should be honest with him, Tell him how you feel and I suggest clearing the air of your affair as well. You are in the wrong and you are setting yourself up for failure if you walk down the isle without being honest with yourself and your partner.
Hey I'm on middle school there's this boy I like everyday he told me hi but one day I told my friend to tell him that I liked him and if he liked me to buy since that day he started to ignored me and doesnt talk to me but he hangs a lot my friend everyone says he like me that he hang with my friend because he is shy and what's to know more about me but my friend days he never asks for me but the problem that she likes him to so I'm confused is my friend inventing things ??? And does he like me??? Please answer the question I'm really confused and sorry us to long
If you like someone YOU need to tell them yourself, Taking a chance on having someone else do it for you could put you in a situation where things you don't want said could be said. Maybe she did say something I really couldn't tell you.
Not to burst your bubble but some guys find it cowardly if you don't approach them yourself, Your friend is the one that approached him FOR YOU and maybe she told him something different.....but on the other hand it could be possible that he didn't like your friends approach and would of rather had you do it yourself. It could be possible that maybe he is starting to like your friend? After all she was the one that went up too him and approached him. I couldn't tell ya but if you really want to know then I suggest doing it yourself and not involving your friends.
First off call me ice. Anyway,what is facebook all about? I'd like to sign up but i can't until I'm like 16. Parents are way too overprotective,but i can see why. I'm not going to say why i don't want to upset anybody. Also is facebook becoming even bigger by the day? Thanks a lot!
From Ice
Facebook is a social network, You can connect with friends and family. Sort of like Myspace but more updated.
Here is a link from Wiki that also explains it well
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Facebook
17/f
It's not good that I have feelings for my 1st especially now that he has a girlfriend. What can I do to get over him? This needs to happen fast before I get my heart broken AGAIN.
You need to acknowledge that the relationship you both had was nothing more then an experience. Sometimes getting over someone takes time, Your ex moved on and you need to do also. Once you learn to accept that the relationship is over then in time it will get easier. The guy is in a relationship, You need to except that. It may not happen overnight but it will in time. In the meantime I recommend trying to stay away from him. If you are peeking in on his facebook BLOCK him. As long as you allow yourself to update on how he is doing in his life then you will continue to allow yourself to dwell on it and you will never get over it. If you are friends with him BREAK off the contact, The worst thing you can do is stay in contact with him when you are trying to move on. Hang out with your friends, Spend time with family and before you know it you will learn that you do not need the guy in your life.
I have a boyfriend, but I'm starting to have doubts on him.he might not be the right guy for me. A: he's not popular. B: sadly he smells. C: he's started to call me his girlfriend i don't really care about that part... so anyway, should i break up with him?
Maybe he isn't the right one for you but I'm going to point a few things out.
A, When you are with someone it shouldn't matter how "popular" someone is, That is a very shallow way to think about someone.
B, Maybe he does smell but have you tried to be nice about it and maybe explain to him in a gentle way that he needs to clean himself up? Sounds like you are judging him?....
C, If this is your train of thought on finding someone your expectations are way to high because nobody is perfect and if you want to be shallow about it then good luck finding a guy that will stick around.
Truth be told
Why is Laughing Healthy? I'm Glad it is Because i Laugh a lot but Why?
This explains it well
http://www.helpguide.org/life/humor_laughter_health.htm
im an 18 year old female and have been with my boyfriend for 18 months, but recently we have been fighting a lot for silly reasons, and he told me today that he is constantly angry and frustrated with me and i feel the same way, i don't know why we feel this way is this normal, or the beginning of the end?
There isn't a whole lot of detail so my advice is limited.
Do you and your boyfriend spend a lot of time together? Sometimes when couples spend all their time together it causes tension, stress and before you know it you've got yourself a dog fight. Lets face it, You two have been in a relationship for over a year now and if you want to make things work then you have to communicate and give one another time to breathe by going off for a few hours and spending your time apart. Now ask yourself, Why are you angry?...Why are you frustrated? and what can you do to fix it.
If you two need to breathe, Then instead of talking/texting everyday try to keep it every other day. If you spend all your time together then try to see each other every other day or on weekends where you two can have time apart and when you are together you'll have something to talk about. If you are bored and don't know what to do with one another then plan a day to go out and do something fun. Go to the movies, Dinner, Mini Golfing, Snow Tubing etc. *If you call your movies I believe they have discounted tickets once a week* Plan something fun to do together and most of all remember to communicate.
Best of luck..
Why do they say "high school is the best 4 years of your life?" Why? Isn't that only in the movies, cause everyone in high school says its all homework and tests and extremely hard. Why is it the best?
Im 13/f and i go to high school this year but next school year (in 8th grade)
Ever person has a different experience of what High School was like for them. In my opinion High School is not really the best years of your life.
Lets face it, In today's society it is all about the influence, peer pressure, bullying.......That alone doesn't earn the title. I've heard that phrase one or twice and I always assumed that perhaps it was used because it's the last 4 years of school. (At least before you hit College) High School is much different then Jr. High. It's bigger and as your grades don't matter much in middle school, Once you hit high school your grade point average matters.
My experience, I hated High School but of course I never made it any easier on myself being in the principals office frequently. Like I said everyone has different experiences.
I am 46 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years. We recently got into an arguement and for the first time ever, he said he would hit me and throw me in my car. But he didn't. Is this a sign? I love him very much and he says he loves me. We are both divorced. He does not want to get married. I would like to someday and he said that he might too. He said that I am very special and he has never felt the way he feels about me before. He went through a nasty divorce and has dated many women. I was married for over 20 years, raised 4 sons and own my own home. He has only worked 5 weeks since I met him, he makes me drive alot even though he owns 3 cars, 2 motorcycles, jet skis and a drag bike. I struggle and I feed him, cook for him, do everything for him(grocery shopping). I have never asked him for a dime. what should I do? thank you so much for just listening, I have 2 sons in the Marines and they are both being deployed soon...
You have been warned, There is a reason this man is no longer married and you may of just hit the beginning of the reason why.
NO man should EVER threaten you and there is absolutely no excuse for it. From what you've described you are being used to his own benefit and he cares nothing but of using you to make his life better in his lazy ways. Is this a sign? Of course it is. Two years in a relationship and he hasn't put in any effort to help you out? Relationships/Marriage are 50/50 that old saying..."You scratch my back and I scratch yours" You are not his slave, You are not his doormat and I would suggest toning down on the talk of marriage until you both sort out the issues in your relationship. Threatening someone is usually a sign that the person has an anger problem and maybe even a history of violence that you are not yet aware of. If I were you I think I would move on, Two years is long enough and you've already got your fair share of warnings...