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Lying about price of gift.
My girlfriend bought me a watch for my birthday and told me it was really expensive. I am really into watches and I do like the watch itself.
However she eventually told me it was limited edition and it was worth £800. I've recently found out that the watch is actually only worth £250.
Should I be upset about this? I know its the thought that counts and I'm still chuffed about her buying me this watch but why has she lied to me?
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Well I agree with both Adviceman and Nascar on this one
However when someone gives you a gift it shouldn't be about how much they spend on it. It's the thought that counts, Your girlfriend went out of her way tried to find something she thought you would like. Instead of getting all pissy you should be thankful and appreciative as this was a gift from your girlfriend. Being greedy and selfish won't get you anywhere in this world.
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Getting mad about her lying to you about a price of a gift she got you, is SILLY. It's immature, and very very very selfish. Who cares if she lied? It's a price, its not like she cheated on you, or was out with another dude.
If my boyfriend got me a ring, and I loved it and he told me it was $800; I'd tell him thank you, but he shouldn't have spent that much; than if I found out that it was only $100 or whatever, I wouldn't be MAD at all! I fell in love with the RING itself, not the price. It seems like you liked the watch more because you thought it cost more, but when you found out it was cheaper, you wanna get a pissed.
Who gives a damn!
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A simple suggestion: She might not have known.
Of course, you'd be the better judge of this, but it's very possible that she, not being as into watches as you are, had her ignorance taken advantage of and didn't do enough price comparision.
It does happen. It's one of the risks we take when we buy someone a gift in thier area of interest and expertise, but not our own.
If she lied to you, then yes, it's understable to be upset, and you need to have an honest conversation about why she felt lying was necessary (Have you bought her over the top gifts and she felt embaressed she couldn't keep up finacially? I've had boyfriends do this and can be hard to handle if you have much less money than your partner to spend on gifts) but unless you know for certain what she spent, it might be worth it to give her the benifit of the doubt.
Maybe in the future - even though it would ruin the surprise - you could give her a bit more guidance in what you want, where to get it, and how much it should cost.
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I can see why you would be upset because what was her reason for lying to you? I think the reason she lied was to impress you and make you feel special. Maybe she wanted you to be happy so that's why she said that. I don't think talking about the pricing of gifts in a relationship is good because it ends up making competition and it will eventually turn into a fight. I would say let this one slide don't fight about it jsut let it go. The only thing that concerns me though is has she lied about anything else? Have you ever caught her in another white lie? If that's the case I would watch out for her. The main thing in a relationship is trust and if you don't have that, thats not a good sign. Good luck!
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I don't have an answer to your question but think about this.
Is it possible someone took advantage of her; selling her that watch and telling her it was worth more than it was and charging her more. I mean if she is not into watches as you are is it possible some unscrupulous sales person sold her a less expensive watch an pocketed the difference.
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