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Q: wow well i showed my friend this dress i wanted to get and she bought it that day so yeah now i dont have a dress...i live in rochester new york where can a get a semi-formal dress???

There all over go to Marcys or Kohls HaPPy HoLiDaYS! TRiXXie!

Q: ok im 13/f and my bf always asks me do u wanna make out and hell yea i do but i dont know how how? i mean idk.i really like my bf but i am kinda prude and i wanna atleast make out so this is kinda a stupid question but how do u make out with sum1?
ok i need advice asap bc my bf is starting to get annoyed bc i keep saying not right now not right now...any1 have any ideas? im afraid he may break up with me?

You probably got told it natural a billion times. Thats because thats the truth. I was scarred the first time i would admit. I mean jus kinda move your tounge. I actually heard someone say to massage his tounge. I dont know if i would say that but it might work i just dont look at doing it that way lol. HaPPy HoLiDaYS! TRiXXie!

Q: I'm wearing a sweater and wasn't sure how to do my hair. It's a big, off the shoulder sweater from American Eagle. I'm just wearing it with jeans. I've have pretty long hair, down to the middle of my back. What can I do?

you could straighten it or scrunch it up! or half up half down thats always cute HaPPy HoLiDaYS! TRiXXie!

Q: How do you do a messy bun? I've looked all over the web to try and figure this out. Maybe I'm just not seeing it, who knows. Can anyone help me?

I wear them all the time :) Put it in a bun then pull out pieces of hair all over. and then grab the bun and kinda shake it. HaPPy HoLiDaYS! TRiXXie!

Q: My boyfriend was living with me for a while, and he just "moved out" today. I can't call him, but I really miss him a lot, I don't know, I just need a way to miss him less. What do I do? We're still going to see eachother and stuff, it's just going to be less than when he lived with me. (He had to move out because my dad never knew he lived here, and he was really mad)

Thats wierd. Just put away anything that reminds you of him. Happy Holidays!! Trix

Q: ok so, what do you do if you're stuck in this situation:

your dad had an affair for 3 years .. without telling your mom or you or your brothers

sounds bad enough, right?

well .. he's still with the whore and expects me and my brothers to warm up to her... be nice to her .. accept her into the family and what not. oh right, and to add to that: she has a 2 1/2 year old son who is annoying as hell.

she comes with us on vacations, and i know my dad spends the money ...that he needs to 'save' before we're able to buy a BASKETBALL HOOP? ... on her

thats not right.. and i've tried having those long serious chats with him. he thinks i'm just doing what my mother does ... hating her for no reason. she screwed over my whole life, why shouldn't i hate her? ...what should i do? and don't say i should try to like her .. cause thats not happening .. other than that i'm up for any ideas

helllp me

I would blow up on her :) Happy Holidays!! Trix

Q: Okay well here it goes.I have a friend named Jordyn and she is a girl.Well she tells everyone everything that she hears or what you tell her.It sucks cause i really like her but i have to watch what i say around her or what happens cause she isn't also afraid to change things around and make things worse than it really is.Is this really a good friend to hang around or no?Also is this a true friend?Please help me!!
Love always,
XxshortyxX

Just dont tell her things that you wont hidden. SHe isnt a true friend a true friend wouldnt go around and spread things and also change it. Happy Holidays!! Trix

Q: i have been best friends with Alex for 4 years. This year, i found out that he likes me. And i like him. He has attempted to ask me out but i am always busy with something else. I feel very bad because he doesnt understand how much i really care about him. He is also known as the school hottie and he flirts with all the girls at out school. I dont want to go out with someone who flirts with everyone right in front of me; what do i do??

Well before you say to going out set rules. Like try not to flirt w/others in fronto of me or behind my back. Set rules. you know. And sometimes you will be busy like sense its x-mas break me and my bf dont get to see eachother.. so we just really survive with like a 10 min. phone call. So there are times where you are going to busy and thats how it works so maybe just give a try and if it doesnt work then just break up and act like nothing happaned. Happy Holidays!! Trix

Q: my best friend likes my ex-boyfriend and i still like him too.. but i was the one who broke up with him.. i told her i didnt still like him because she really likes him and he likes her back! but im pretty sure he still likes me because he still acts like it. i am fine with my best friend going out with him because she actually asked me before but i will just be so sad.. i dont know what to do!

Day-Ja voo! This happaned to me actually. Cept we broke up because it was a mutual thing. I just told myself that they wont go out forever and i highly doubt that anything will go to far. I was right they broke up like a month later and i had already moved on. I was in a serious relationship and she always told me she wouldnt go out with him unless she got the word from me that I didnt care. So just know that they probably wont go and if he had true feelings for you they wouldnt go out. Maybe you could just let your best friend know that you still like him and let her make the decision but dont let a boy come between you guys. Happy Holidays!! Trix

Q: I'm 16 and I'd like to try out for the school musical, but I'm really nervous. what should I do to have a good audition?

Practice over and over again. That way you can be sure of yourself and know you wont mess up and if you do it wont be a big time mess up. Thats what i did for my testing i just kept making sure i practiced and i did very good. Happy Holidays!! Trix

Q: I guess the subject line says it all. I constantly flip-flop between Christianity, Atheism and Buddhism. I like a little of all, and I can't seem to choose one faith. I always change my mind. Is there something wrong with me? Am I flaky? It's just that a faith is an important choice, and I'm afraid to make the wrong one.
I like all three, but I know I have to pick one.
What should I do?

No I think at our age we are all a little bit unsure i was confused one why do we have to confess our sins to the priest and why not do them in our prayers. So I went and talked to the priest about it. That could help you if you went and talked to one about your problems. Yeah they are alot holyier but the understand where we are coming because we are young and dont know to much and we are exploring and trying to see where we fall in. But i cant pick for you its what you think is right. Happy Holidays!! Trix

Q: I am 35 and my older sister is 37.
I am a creative, intellectual type and she is a practical, common sense type. She does not understand me or why I love to read so much. She considers my creative writing a waste of time. What I love, she has no value for. What can I do or say to help her understand me? We are so different. She is a great sister otherwise.

Well maybe she just doesnt get why anybody would like to read. Sometimes i dont. I dont read for fun or write for fun. I think its boring. But see i might be just like your sister. But i can understand the fact that we are all different and we all have different interests just point that out to her. And pick something of hers that she does for fun and tell her you dont understand and just let her know its something you enjoy doing! Happy Holidays!! Trix

Q: What should i get my mom and dad for xmas? i dont have any money and i cant go out and buy anything so i was wondering if any of you have any ideas on what i could give them or make them? i hope you have some ideas because i only have 2 days! i will rate for effort! ill give you a five!

Make them a nice card. Or bake them something or have a family dinner. Its really the thought that counts. Like help around the house. One time for mothers day i was broke so i made a coupon book. Like.. a week of doing dishes.. or hug n kiss.. sorta thing she really liked it. LIke i said its the thought that counts. Sorri! I hope i helped. Happy Holidays!! Trix

Q: I have a problem: some part of me wants my older sister's approval so much, yet I am nothing like her. She is a good and decent person, if not a little conservative and practical. She is a good role model, but I am not her. I am intellectual, studious and questioning. When I ask her the big questions, she thinks I make a big deal out of little things. But I think she never asks herself the big questions in life or is afraid to.
Why do I want her approval so much? She is a good person and I love her, but why don't I have the fortitude to be my own person?

You do you just need to follow thru with someone too

Q: If you have a boyfriend and another guy likes you ... do you go for him or stay with your boyfriend?

depends on your feelings for the both of them. Who ever has the stronger feelings go for them

Q: Whats a good song?

Rap.. Eminem-Like toy soldiers Pop.. Destinys Child-Soldier or Kelly Roland-Stole Rock/metal Limp Bizkit-rolling

Q: What are some good ways to make your girlfriend feel special, like make her feel like you are the best guy in the world (well I know that's probably around impossible. So I am exaggerating a bit, haha.)? What do you girls think would make you special if your guy said them to you or things like that?

The littlest things really. I love you's lil kisses. Random and cute things

Q: I've been going out with my boyfriend for 4 days now, and before that we were really close. Well, he's living with me now, and he's taking up the majority of my time. My parents are not okay with him staying here, and I'm grounded for them catching my boyfriend here a few times. So, I don't have much time for my friends, the only time I really have, is with my boyfriend, but that's only because he lives with me. I've tried talking to my friends, but it doesn't get anywhere. What should I do? Please help, I'll rate.

tell him to move

Q: Last night my best friends parents got into a car accident. Her dad had to spend the night in the hospital because he broke his ribs and lost a lot of blood. Her mom is doin ok, she has internal bruises but is taking everything well. The doctors thought that her dad was going to die, but he made it through the night. Ive never been in this sort of situation before. I dont know what to say or what to do. Please help, i really need to be there for my friend!!!!!!!

well you tell her what you did and whatever someone else told you. I mean if her dad made it through the night thats very very awesome! and good for him! just reassure her that you are always there! ♥*trix*♥

Q: I want to die my hair like lindsay lohans in freaky friday. But i dont actually kno what color it is..so if anyone know and can tell me that'd be awsome ..thanks...

I would go to a hair styling place to get that done for you because that looks like a hard job to do by yourself

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"