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Car Accident
Last night my best friends parents got into a car accident. Her dad had to spend the night in the hospital because he broke his ribs and lost a lot of blood. Her mom is doin ok, she has internal bruises but is taking everything well. The doctors thought that her dad was going to die, but he made it through the night. Ive never been in this sort of situation before. I dont know what to say or what to do. Please help, i really need to be there for my friend!!!!!!!
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stay in the hospital , stay with her 247 and just let her know u are there do everything you can for her becuase thats a horrible expereince.. she will remeber u were the on who was there , she might act all bitchy or in a bad mood but it might b bcuz of her shock she has, jus stay with her, and dont get mad n stuff b a good freinds to hur i gues i cAn sey!
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Stick by your friends side and make sure she knows that you'll be there for her. Make her a card and give her flowers.
~Brina~
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Im glad that they are doing ok! Make sure that ur friend knows that you are always there for her when she needs a shoulder to cry on. And that you are constantly praying for them. Take her places, like the mall or somthing to try to get her mind off of it or awhile. Hope i helped!
*~*Danielle*~*
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It's really hard to know what to say or do in a situation like this.
The only advice I can give you is to be there for her. To listen, to hug her if she gets upset, to be a board for her to sound off at if she feels angry (and at some point she probably will!) or to just sit and share silence with her.
You cannot begin to imagine how much that helps, just to know that there is someone there if you need them, so that you are not alone - actions speak louder than words.
When they get out of hospital obviously there are lots of practical things you will be able to help her with, but after something as awful as this happening so near Christmas she will need your emotional support more than anything else.
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Just comfort her.. hug her and when she is crying let it fall on your sholders.. go hang out with her try and get her mind off of it for a while..
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well you tell her what you did and whatever someone else told you. I mean if her dad made it through the night thats very very awesome! and good for him! just reassure her that you are always there! ♥*trix*♥
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Tell her that whatever happens, you will be there for her and you really care about her and her family. Don't make her cry and say things like "i hope your dad doesn't die, because that would suck!" or something like that. Also, tell her that whatever happens happens for a reason, but that you will still be her best friend and will always care for her well-being. Also, maybe you could pray for her father and mother, and tell her that you will. I will too if you want. Hope I helped!
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just be there for her. take her to a movie or invite her over and yall just ogout and do somethin that will get her mind off everything, thats the best thing to do. dont try to pull the sympathy card on her, bc it wont make her feel better, probly just worse to tell the truth. but yah i hope that her parents get better!
lots of love
~Haley~
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There's really nothing you can do about her parents, but you can comfort her. Always be by her side and let her know that you care and she can always talk to you about it. Good luck to you and your friend!
Happy Holidays!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~
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Sympathetic Friend,
It is nice that you care for your friend. Tho the topic is a hard one to answer. It depends how your friend is taking it. i would sugest that if she wants to talk about it, hear her out. don't add input or stories to it just agree and show sympathy. But if she shows no desire in talking about it, then change the subject to something up lifting and happy. try not to brag about yourself and tell stories because that will only make her wonder, "why is she talking about herself when my family almost died?" it all depends on the situtation, but let me know what happens.
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!
~Italian Princess
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thats all you gotta do, be there for your friend, be there for her to talk to, let her cry on your shoulder, stuff like that. If you dont know what to say, that's okay. She'll understand. Bake her cookies or something, just be a good friend to her right now, all she needs is a little time and someone to be there for her, you're doing the right thing. Way to go. -Angel
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I'm not really sure what you can say to your friend. My friends mother is going through brain tumors, her sister gets seizures all the time, but I make sure she knows that she can talk to me. About 1 and a half or 2 weeks ago we went to the guidance councilor together to talk about it (but that's b/c I'm also close with her family and was feeling a lot of he pain) Just let her know that you're there when she wants to talk, or just when she wants to cry. If you have a cell phone then leave it on all night just in case she needs you and wants to call you. Usually people grieving don't want to talk about it at all, or they just feel like they can't talk about it. I lost a friend in a car accident back in late September, we were drinking, she was 17 and was driving home, and she got in a wreck. It would've been her 18th birthday almost 2 months ago. I had a teacher that knew about it so that's who I talked to, none of my friends knew her or what I was going through, the teacher helpled me realize it wasn't my fault and stuff. You have to help her realize that she has people who love her, and that she can come to you whenever she needs a friend, day or night, anytime anywhere. Just like that song... There ain't no mountain high enough... from the movie Stepmom. You also have to go through with that. Whenever she needs you, you have to be there. If you have no possible ways of getting to her then you have to have some way of still being able to help. She needs you now more then ever, just be a shoulder to cry on, someone to talk to, or someone to just listen to her and let her vent. I'm really sorry to hear about your friends parents, and I hope they're all right. I've lost a lot of people recently, my best friend, and a kid I'd only known a few months 2 years ago just recently passed away from OD, I know what your friend is going through, waiting trying to see if the loved one in the hospital will make it, it's torture and really what she needs is someone to talk to, or someone to listen to her, or just a shoulder to cry on. Be there for her, that's all you can do. DON'T say you know how she feels if you don't. If you haven't been through what she's going through then don't say you know, try to understand, but just be there for her! Hope everything turns out for the best! Good Luck!
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There isn't really anything you can say, because you don't want to say the wrong thing. Just let your friend know that your there for her. That's really all she needs.
Good luck. I hope everything goes good.
<33 Brit
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just be there for her and tell her he wont die
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call her check up on her, let her know you are there for her! Try and take her mind off things by taking out somewhere inviting her over you house to watch movies or have dinner! just tell her if she needs anyhting that your there for her! happy holidays!
*BeSs*
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hey there, i think you should help your friend the only way you can you know by carrying them ta the movies ,shopping or just kicking back doing things your friend likes to do
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