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I am a 14 year old male.
i have asked this girl (anne, 14)on a date.
I have decided to take her to the local fair this Friday?
but i have never been on a date before.
I don't know where to begin!
I need a good ice breaker that will keep us talking the whole time.
I appreciate all advice.
All help is good.


also: should I end the date with a kiss?
I don't relly know how. i have never been kissed.

Mr. Ice Breaker,

I'm sure that if Anne doesn't know you all that well, she won't be suprised if you come across nervous or there is a moment of akward silence. Being a girl, I know the one thing I like is to be complimented. If you run out of things to talk about, Compliment Compliment Compliment! Whether its the shirt she's wearing, her grades, whatever! Just be a gentlemen. I hate guys that come across ignorant or cocky. Don't talk about yourself too much- talk about her! that's a sure fire way to get a convo going. Oh yea, don't worry about kissing her. I mean hey, if you want go ahead. I think I like to get to know the person better. Just don't sweat it! Kissing is like an art, there are no rules or boundries. WOW! I sound like a philosopher-lol. Hope I could Help- oh and don't forget to rate! Tell me how it goes!
Italian Princess

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Last night my best friends parents got into a car accident. Her dad had to spend the night in the hospital because he broke his ribs and lost a lot of blood. Her mom is doin ok, she has internal bruises but is taking everything well. The doctors thought that her dad was going to die, but he made it through the night. Ive never been in this sort of situation before. I dont know what to say or what to do. Please help, i really need to be there for my friend!!!!!!!

Sympathetic Friend,

It is nice that you care for your friend. Tho the topic is a hard one to answer. It depends how your friend is taking it. i would sugest that if she wants to talk about it, hear her out. don't add input or stories to it just agree and show sympathy. But if she shows no desire in talking about it, then change the subject to something up lifting and happy. try not to brag about yourself and tell stories because that will only make her wonder, "why is she talking about herself when my family almost died?" it all depends on the situtation, but let me know what happens.
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!

~Italian Princess

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I tend to get paranoid very easily. For example, I will think my boyfriend doesnt like me, or thatI have no friends or that people are always talking about me. Everyone says I'mbeing stupid but I really believe it. Any advice?

Paranoid,

You are not being stupid. It seems that you are just a worrier. It is okay to worry about things, but the things you are worrying about don't call for thinking about. I am sure you have friends and lots of them. As long as you are kind to them or don't gossip about them they will be your bff's till the end, so just be the best friend and/or gf you can be and there will be no need for thinking things through. i hope i could talk some reason for you. Please rate. HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!

~ItalianPrincess

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Hi
I'm a 14 yr old girl and I work at the gym 4 days a week, plus im a baskeatball player. so i want to bulk up and define my muscels. i want to do this Healthfully. so know of any good shakes or powders? Thanks kmagirl16

Kmagirl16,

Let's be honest shakes and powders don't really do the job. there is no sence in cheating your self with that junk. my advice is to eat things that give you more engery. Try Fruits and healthy cereals (wheaties, corn flakes, Cheerios, etc.). they have carbohydrates that give you more energy! but in your case if you want muscles... try PROTEIN. that is the nutrient that builds muscle and definition. (my personal favorite source of protein is peanut butter... yum! or any kind of animal product (eggs, chicken, red meat, etc.)) I hope i could help! Make sure to rate my advice!!!

~ItalianPrincess~

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Ok, so I'm in jazz band I play the trombone. Theres this boy and we share music and stuff. I'm really shy and stuff, like insecure of my playing (when its not totally with the band, and today we were practicing as just sections) and I wasnt play loud and stuff. So then I was in study hall and my sister comes out "aww someone likes you" to me and I was like 'duh nuh uh.' and shes like 'yeah someone from bannnd' so I was like 'whatever.' and she names off the guy who I share music with in jazz band. Well she's like (her friend) was talking to him and he said something about there being this freshman that plays trombone but sucks and just fakes it and shes cute (or some other compliment I dunno) and I've been sitting around for a day and a half just wanting to cry since this. I'm CRUSHED. How could he say this about me? I know I'm not the GREATEST but I didnt think I sucked. And I dont fake it. It really hurt my feelings. I dunno how to get over this...like its hard. I'm thinking about quitting band but I dunno. Any suggestions?

Crushed,

I'm sure you've been playing awhile. there is no reason to quit now! i think you need to step up your game and win him over with talent and looks!!! all you need to do is practice. if u want u can invite him over to your house and he can help you play!!! i hope this helps!!! stay confident. Playing an Instrument is an art and should be appreciated. Let me know what happens and don't forget to rate me!!! *wink wink*

~ITaLiAn PrInCeSs~

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I like this guy, hes my friend, and I wanna know if he likes me back. I wanna kind of ask him out, but not REALLY ask him out.. Like i wanna give him hints and see if maybe he will ask me out or something. I'm afraid that if he finds out I like him or if I ask him out and he rejects me, then things will be akward between us and our friendship will be different. And I couldn't stand it if I wasn't able to talk to him afterwards. So how do I ask him out.. or give him hints.. in a VERY subtle way, so that if he doesn't like me, it will seem like I never liked him in the first place?

Secret Amirer from a far,

The thing is, if you don't know him too well than you don't know how he'll react. If you guys don't hang out, then it won't be too awful if he doesn't talk to you. My advice is don't tell too many people about this crush or everyone will know b4 he will. you could always ask a friend to talk to him, but it might look set up. the best advice i can give is do what you think is right. it all depends on the type of guy. if he is outspoken and doesn't like you he might make fun and if your shy that attention won't go over well. i think while you guys are in a public place, so it is casual, just be like, "you laugh (or whatever he is doing) as if you like me" and smile, so it sounds like ur kidding. if he smiles too or says maybe- like kids- it is possible. I hope this helps, so keep me posted!!! DON'T FORGET TO RATE ME- lol- Ciao!
~ItalianPrincess

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i recently moved with my mom and brother just into town. i still go to the same school and everything. we dont have alot of money, while my friends do. i know for christmas i'm not going to get very much, and i'm ok with that.. but my friends go on about alll the stuff they're getting, and i dont want to hear about it. what's a polite way to tell them to just back off and shut up?

I know that must be hard on you and your family. i think you should try to change the subject or you can just say, "ur lucky! i wanted something like that, but i don't want to ask because i would feel bad." if they are good friends and they know about the situtation you are currently dealing with they'll stop. HOpe this helps!

~ItalianPrincess~

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Well i have thins friend lets call him Jen. Well Jen is so ANNOYING she follows me around EVERYWHERE. Everything i do she does. (ex: i color my hair, she does the same. i cut my bangs, she does the same. i make up crazy words, she says she did.) its getting really anoying and i cannot even joke with her about things and then she gets all mad. even my friends know her for a month and thinks she is annoying. She even tried to steal my BF and she didn't even like him she just wanted a bf. She also like a guy after one hour of knowing him. She always complains about not having a bf and i will never have one. and i cannot do much about. So what should i do be friends or not?

befriender of thee annoying,

i see we have a copycat. it sounds to me that she is kind of envious. she prolly doesn't even realise that she is doing it- for the most part. you could prolly label her as overly obessevive, but you did say you've only known her for a month. it sounds like she is trying to fit it. there is something about you and your friends that appeal to her and she wants to be apart of it. you should just tell her _without joking_ that she is a nice girl but you hate her stalkerish ways. tell her that friends are individual and if they all cut their hair the same way or etc there would be no fun because nothing would be spontaneous. the cutting the hair thing must of set you over the edge, but there has to be more to it than that. it sounds like a desperate attempt to fit in. i hope you use my advice and it helps. also please rate me. DON'T FORGET TO UPDATE ME!

~~ItalianPrincess~~

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ok so i have this so called friend that i hate so much and she hates me a lot to..........everytime we try to figure something out it seems to get bigger and bigger i mean i could be nice to her but it would be really hard for me to do that because i cant stand her in any way! you will probably just say dont hang out with her or anything....but my bestest friends are always hanging out with her so i have to hang out with her or i will lose all of my friends.....WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!?!? PLEASE HELP!

Annoyed by a so called friend,

it seems that everyone goes through this problem. i have and i am still dealing with it, but it has lessened. i think that you should tell your other friends how you feel about the so called friend. i don't mean gossip, just simply acknowledge the fact that she gets annoying. that way they won't be suprised if you suddendly have steam coming out of your ears one day. if you don't like this "friend" so much try not to hang out with her alone and when hanging out with a bunch of your friends keep your distance. the less time spent with her will be less agervation, but if she askes a simple question don't bite her head off. say it calmly and if she starts bugging you just tell her to leave you alone. i don't want to sound cheesy at all, so i am not going to say reconcile and be nice at all times. simply tell her to knock it off and if your friends know about your disliking towards her they won't ignore you and/or gang up on you. well i hope this helps and update me.

~ItalianPrincess

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me and my best friend (hes a guy) went out b4...but now we are best friends. but i think i still like him...but im not sure. and i dont think he likes me but it always seems like hes flirting w/ me but it could be cuz we r friends...im confused please help.

Confused,

Let's put it this way... Boys are CONFUSING!!! I like to be out right and honest with someone to let them know i like them. some guys are a little intiminated by that, but if you guys are good friends its different. i think that since you guys are friends the flirting might be strictly friendliness. i think that you should tell him that you haven't forgot about when you guys went out and see what he says. if he says anything to the fact that he remembers it (fondly perhaps) then i think you should tell him you liked it when you were more than just friends. i hope that will help and make sure to update me!

~ItalianPrincess

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I have a pretty big emergancy...
My boyfriend gave me a hicky like 30 minutes ago and I was wondering if theres ANYWAY to help speed the process of it disapearing?
please help if my parents see this then i'll get killed!

Makeup is my thing. U need oil based concealer- Pronto! i suggest a lighter color than your regular skin tone to brighten it up. after that apply a powder to set it. that is all you need. you might need to re-apply this trick every so often, but it will be gone within a few days. Hope I could help!!! Best of luck to you. remember concealer to conceal the hickey and powder is important!

ItalianPrincess

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