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Do I call her after so long?
I was in a mental institution and I got really close to one of the staff members that worked there, she helped me in every way possible and I thought of her as my mom. Since I have been out it seems like everytime I call the hospital to talk to her, they make an excuse for me to NOT talk to her. Last night my sister looked her up on the internet and come to find out, she lives a mile away from me, and I have her home phone number, I mailed her a christmas card this morning to her home, but I dont know if I should actually call her at home. I miss her so much and she made such a big impact in my life, what do I do? I don't want her to think that I am like stalking her or anything! ???????
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You should write her a letter aside from the card. Tell her how much she's helped you. Tell her you'd like to meet up for lunch one day. The only way she will think you are a stalker is if you write the letter in newspaper clippings and tell her your watching her every move. What you'd be doing if you wrote the letter is a very nice thing to do and its her loss if she takes it the wrong way.*Hope I Helped! Love Always, Ali *Feedback is greatly Appreciated!
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Send her a letter and tell her exactly what you just asked!
~Brina~
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Firstly, I am glad to hear that you are well enough to have left the institute, it's a huge goal that you should be really proud of.
In my honest opinion I would not call her at home, especially if she did not reply to your Christmas card, I assume your contact details were on that, which means if she wants to get in touch she can - although a lot of mental establishments prohibit their staff from making contact with patients on the "outside"
I understand how close you must feel to her, especially as she helped you out loads whilst you were going through a rough patch, but being at the institution is this ladies job.
Imagine you work as a chef. The last thing you want to do when you come home after a long day at work is cook for people.
This may sound harsh, but I think that you would be an awful lot better moving on from that part of your life and look forward to the rest of your future, you have your sister, why not try and build a similar relationship with her.
Take Care
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I'm sorry, but someone before said it really well, do not call her. It technically is unethical for her to have a relationship with you beyond the hospital boundaries. You put her job at risk. They are also very busy in Mental Hospitals, she may have seemed like she had time for you when you were in there, but that is because that is what her time was for. Now she has to spend that time with the people that are patients now. As said before, write her a letter, and mail it to the hospital, its inappropriate to contact her at her home. You have to remember she's dealing with people that are mentally ILL. Its an invasion of her privacy to be contacted at her home. Its honorable that you found someone in the health profession that was so helpful in your life, but you may have to come to terms with the fact that it was a short term relationship. I'm sorry.
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Call her and tell her just what you told all of us.. be like i want to thank you for all of your help and i hope we dont lose touch ect.. but if u dont mind my asking... why were u in a mental institution..
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I think you need to be very careful. It's normal and natural to get close to someone who helped you through a rough time, and she's probably very happy to know she was important to you, but at the end of the day there are professional boundaries.
She is in a role which does not allow her to become actual friends with patients, no matter how friendly or supportive she has been in the past. She's probably undertaken training, as have ALL the staff, about boundaries. The hospital is making excuses for you to not talk to her simply because it could be considered inappropriate by hospital standards.
This has nothing to do with who you are as a person. Even if she thought you were wonderful, it would still be part of her professional role to not have an outside friendship with you. I don't think you should call her.
Why not write a letter to her abou thow she's impacted on your life and how much it means to you, then mail it to the hospital? Contacting her at home isn't okay, but writing to the hospital is. You can ask in the letter if she considers your actions okay, and then wait for her response.
Best of luck.
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You should call her. She won't think you are stalking her. You should tell her how you feel she helped you and you would like to stay in touch. I hope I helped!
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of course you can call her. You should get your chance to thank her and try to bring her back into your life. goodluck
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I'm sure she would be happy to hear from you. Just call her and wish her a merry christmas, I'm sure that she would be thrilled to hear from you. The only reason why they wouldnt want you to talk to her though is probably because mental institutions aren't for making friends, it's to help solve a problem in your life. But I don't see what would be wrong with calling her, find out if she wants to talk to you. Ask her, she wouldn't turn you away like that. Good luck and Merry Christmas. -Angel
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Aww, that's cute. I would give her a call if I were you. Explain to her how you feel about what she did for you, and wish her a merry christmas or something like that. I don't think you will seem like a stalker or anything- and that was rude of them to not let you talk to her at the institution! I hope everything works out for you and good luck hun!
-Jennifer
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Of course you call her, especially if she has made such a big impact on your life. Call her and say thank you or something...Hoped I Helped (HIH)
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I would definently call her. If someone has made such a major impact in your life, the least you can do is thank them. Just call her and tell her that you miss her and tell her how she changed your life. You should also mention that you aren't trying to stalk her but you felt the need to say thanks. Then be sure to wish her a safe a wonderful holiday season. If I was her and I got a phonecall like that, I wouldbe flattered. I think it's very sweet of you to reach back out and thank those that helped you through your troublesome times. There aren't many people out there like you so keep up the good work! I hope I helped.. ~Brit
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hey i think that you should call her for all you know she might miss you and want to hear from you to .so call her!!!
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Hey hun,
Aw I know how that feels! You should just keep trying to contact her. I think you should call her house phone. She will melt when she finds out that she changed your life, and she WON'T think you are a stalker. Trust me, just call her and be like "merry christmas", "i hope your having a wonderful time around the holidays" Just make a stand and call she will be soooo touched that you did. :)
Good Luck, hun
Pura Morena :)
xo0x adriana
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