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Q: I want to start going tanning at this major tanning salon near my house. Im having a problem with the lotions tho. The tanning salon has tons of lotions but theyr all expencive. They reccomend California Tan lotions but does anyone recomend others or like California Tan the best.

thanks.
To me banna boat is really good. I've never tried California tan though.

Q: my bf and i have been going out for a month now and i really like him! but before him and i were going out i sorta liked this guy named steve. and he knows that i have a bf now and we still talk and were friends and everything, but now hes saying i love you and he asked me to the movies. i want to go and hang out with him. but im afraid that knowing he likes me now and the fact i used to like him will make me get feelings for him again!! and i don't wanna do that to my bf cuz i love him more then anything

should i or should i not go to the movies?
and what should i do about the whole situation
Yes definatly go to the movies but take your boy friend along so steve gets the idea that you are together. Try to talk to steve and tell him all the mushy stuff about how much you care about him and and that you think he is great then gently tell him you have a bouyfriend and you are not available for dates. Hope I helped!

Q: I have an extremely sore throat. It wouldn't be a big deal but I have singing try-outs for the school play on Tuesday. Does anyone know how to heal a sore throat fast? Thanks.
Gargle salt water. DONT DRINK MILK!!

Q: last night was my first time getting fingered. i was wondering...what are like the bad things that could happen from that? are there any consquences?!
THe biggest consquence is what this may cause your hormones to do. It's gonna make you want to ya know. I'm not sure how old you are but most people on this site are teens. If you are younger you are not mentally or emtionally ready. You and your boyfriend or whatever he is may think you want to take it there but most teens aren't as ready as they think they are. I'm not sure if you can get HIV or STD from it but there probably is a possibility.

Q: I have no idea what to get my boyfriend for v - day... he likes soccer, skiing, and snowboarding... i'm not really sure what kind of candy he likes and i want something great because i'm knew to this and i am bad at getting stuff for boys. Pleaz help, i rate high..
p.s. i want something that will make him smile
Simple yet sweet is the way to go. Get him like a box of chocolates or flowers or something. Save the big stuff for the winter holidays and his birthday.

Q: If given the choice between Italian and German...which one should I pick to learn?
It really depends on how familar you are with each language. If you have no familarization with either go for German because English is a Germanic language. However, Itlaian is a Romance language and English also has many Latin roots. Also, if you have ancestors from one of the languages go with that one. good luck

Q: i am wanting to change my look to a more 'ashlee simpson/punky' look without being called a poseur. i am currently into hollister, american eagle, forever 21, abercrombie, and aeropostale. how can i change my style without being too drastic? please help
Take it all in little steps. Don't go from Hollister into Hot Topic and call yourself a punk. You can go into there and buy something of a small change. But in my opionion you shouldn't believe in labels. You should be what you want to be. If someone calls you a poseur call them a labeler (it gets them everytime in our school).

Q: I don't mean to bash the religion, but I'm sick of it. I live in Utah, so I'm surrounded by it. And everyone is always bringing up that the religion should be more a part of the school. Well, I don't believe in any of it. Personally, I think their religion was just founded on Joseph Smith trying to steal other men's wives and get away with it. And they have a class here. How do they get away with having a religiously oriented class in a public school, isn't that infringing on the separation of church and state clause? My question is how do I deal with all of this religion when I don't want it, especially since all the guys that I could date are mormon?
Go to your school princlepal and state that you feel it's wrong that there is a class in your school about that religion. It really is. You have to bring this to any authority that can change this. Get your parent involed, this is completely wrong. About the dateing thing talk to the guy you date about how you feel about the situation. Hopefully, he'll understand. If you want any help with the school class either ask me here or on help4ualwayz17.

Q: Does any1 know how to get rid of some of the website listings under the URL place on your home page? This is kinda hard to explain but on your homepage there's the bar for typing in the webstite you want to go to, then there's an arrow on the right end, which u can click to show all the websties you've visited recently, well how do you get it to not show some of those? thanks for any help!
Are you hiding something from your parents? Just kidding. Anyway you hit ctrl and h together and then there is a thing on the side with all the websites you visited. Right click and hit delete on the ones you don't want to be there anymore.

Q: Im 14/f and ive never had a boyfriend..is this weird...is it normal??
It's not weird and it's not normal. People find love at their own pace. You are finding it later then some others but that's fine. Some will find love later then you and that also is fine. Everyone has a different pace.

Q: my friend told me she was raped by some guy at a party a few years back. i told her she should report it to the police but all she remembers was that he was black and tall (about the african-americain male population). and since it happen so long ago why say anything? no, she told me. and a few weeks ago she showed me that she cutting herself and stealing razors from some store. i feel like these are the kinda things you dont keep a secert about. what should i do?
It is great thet you want help and that you realy care. Talk to your mom eventhough you are breaking the big code of trust it is better she lives and hates you than she dies and for the rest of your life you feel guilty that it was all your fault. Right?

Q: I know this sounds stupid but here it goes..THere is this guy at our school that FLIRTS with all the girls, but he flirts with me the most and all the girls say so to. I really like him too. He always plays footsie ne and like he always drinks out the same cup as me and then he is like oh sorry but I can tell he does it on perpose and he tries to hold my hand. THe only thing is we are not going out, and this has been going on for about 2 months and I just cant stand it why wont he as kme plz type back
aww. sound like a good chance... trust your instincts.

Q: I have like this guy since last year. We have flirted a little bit and stuff like that, but i cant tell if he likes me. He stares at me all the time during class. But when we talk on AIM, he will be really mean. Except, today, I randomly asked if he had seen "Coach cater" because i wanted to know if it was a good movie, and he said "no, but do u want to go?" I said i was already going witha friend, and he was like "fine ur loss". I dont know if this was some kind of joke, or if he really likes me! Please help me out!
If he's nice in person talk to him in person. Since he's mean on AIM don't ask him if he likes you there. Just ask if it was a joke online or what. I hope I helped!

Q: What does pi r squared mean? What does it do?
It means 3.14 * the radius of a circle squared. It is to find the circumfrince of a circle.

Q: How much should I charge to babysit a 5 year old and a 10 year old for 3 hours?
5$ an hour. The five year old might take a lot or work and you only make 15$ so the parents wont be mad.

Q: Th guy I like has a girlfriend. I'm not the stupid type that thinks they're going to break up because I like him. I was just wondering do you know how to get over him?
Try to find someone else you like. Like maby a person who is older and better looking.

Q: I am having trouble with my hair. I have a huge knot I can't get out. Any tips?
try using a wide tooth comb and see what happens.

Q: What do you do when a person wants to hang out with you all the time? thanks
You tell them you are going to need space sometimes. Try and introduce them to some people they might want to hang out with. But don't tell them you are introducing them so they stop hanging out with you.

Q: Lol well every time I try to clean my room, I start with one area, and put all the stuff I do/don't want into piles. But I end up having nowhere to put the stuff, and kind of leave it in a bigger mess than before! My room is a HUGE mess, my bin isn't big enough so I have rubbish on the floor and on my desk. I want to tidy my room, but I just.. can't lmso ;P Help?
Get a garbage can in your room. Throw out the stuff as you come across it or your mom may have to call clean sweep. My mom would take my stuff and throw it out and I would never see it again. So plan a day where nothing will happen but cleaning your room.

Q: My best friend never beleives me she always beleives her mom or ... ANYONE exept me, then i yelled at her because she is my best friend and is sopposed to beleive me, so she got really sad and i feel bad for me making her sad and her not beleiving me. what should i do i need to know now
You need to talk to her about this. Explain how you feel that she doesn't trust you or whatever you feel this is showing. Get your thoughts out to her to let her know you can be right sometimes. But don't be annoyed she believes her mom. It's first instincts to believe the parents. Just be patient and talk to her.

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