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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!

A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.

BU 2014 :)

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^my forum, liven it up a little?

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would you go out with a guy whos hot, nice and cool but he has a F or D in his classes?

As long as you're not just interested in him because he's hot, why not? He could be a great guy that tries really hard and winds up with a D.

The only time I wouldn't is if the reason he was failing was because of a drug habit or something else really bad... otherwise, give him a chance! :]

How much does it cost to permanently straighten hair? My wavy hair straightens pretty easily with a hair straightener, if that helps. Also it is about half way down my back, but I am willing to cut a little past my shoulders if it will lower the price a little. Will that help?

Chemical straightening is hundreds of dollars and can severely damage your hair. Regardless of the length, it's going to be expensive and require a lot of upkeep.

Since your hair straightens fairly easily already, why destroy it with chemicals? Save your money, and buy yourself a really nice flat iron instead (salon-quality ones cause less damage!) :]

i dont have like, a ipod video, but like. can i watch the podcasts bigger? because its in that small corner on my itunes and hard to see.
;/

Click on it. A much bigger window should come up

:]

i have 8th grade graduation coming up! my dress shows back alot... omg and im so nervous becuase i have backne.. its like pimples on your back.

what can i do to get it off?

Try getting Neutrogena Body Clear. It works well, and even better if you can use a back brush with it :]

Hey im a 16 year old female...i just started going out with a guy ive liked for a long time. He asked me out on the 31st. I think this might be a stupid question but ya know...so when do we know when our one month..two month..and all our anniversarys are?? theres not a 31st in every month...i dont know how it works and ive just been wondering cuz i dont get it haha

Either celebrate your anniversary every fourth Thursday [could get confusing] or just say it's the first of each month- first full day you were together, that might work :)

i forgot that i was suppose to type right, and yes i do know how to type, thank you.
ANYWAY, i dont know i he wants to keep a secret relationship or not becasue he didnt say anything about it, and im only sayin should he be mad dat some people know that we go out

He shouldn't be mad- he probably knows that people will find out anyways. It's not a big deal- don't stress over it :)

Tomorrow I am going on a school field trip with the whole middle school. It is a fun place with pools, lake, fields, rock walls, et cetera. But I think I am getting my period so I don't know what to do. I'm not going swimming [I didn't want to.]Ireally sucks. I'm bringing pads. Is there anything else I can do? I am not a tampon person. Also, on Thursday we are going to a theme park, should I be okay on a log flume, rapid ride, and other water rides?

Thanks in advance!

You should be okay on the log rides on Thursday. Just don't wear white pants [a bad idea when you have your period OR are going on water rides, regardless] and you should be fine. Go to the bathroom afterwards and make sure the adhesive didn't get wet or anything [could get uncomfortable/embarrassing later on] but you should be ok.

have fun! :]

15/m
riiight i need a bit of advice, girls your the only people who can help. i love my gf to bits but she keeps like having loads of mood swing i know the period n all that but its not that:S she keeps having loads of mood swings and everything is ok with her family and all that i dunno what it is. so girls do you get like this at times?? and if so why:S its personal yeh but i could realy do with the help. thanks very uch:)

Yea, we get like that. The fact that it's Monday, one of our side bangs being less straight than usual, a chip in our nail polish, hearing something sad that happenend in Utah, anything can make us seem bitchy.

Just give us a hug [if we let you] and be there for us when we want to talk. We appreciate it more then you think.

i am dating my girlfriend for 5 mos now and i just found out bunch of secrets she hid from me like i know i wasn't her first but she lead me to believe i was her first at certain things i.e- sex, and i found out a week ago that what she claimed i was her first about was all fake and it didn't bother me what she did with him it just hurts that she made me feel like i was the first she apologize but she claims that she forgot now she told me that she thinks she had a miscarriage with me about 2 and a half mos ago but she felt compelled not to tell me i really do like her i think i am in love with her but i need help on how to handle this situation

She shouldn't have lied about her past- keeping something like that from you wasn't right. However, she may have been too upset to tell you about having a misacarriage right after it happened, so try and forgive her for that.

If you want to continue to have a relationship with her, sit down and have a serious discussion. Relationships are about honesty- tell her that you don't want her hiding things from you, like past sexual partners. However, you probably don't have to know every little thing about her life [women spend a lot more on hair products and shoes than we'd like to admit] but the big things, you SHOULD know.

right iv got spots i know they can be genetics but i keep having bad outbreaks and its annoying me how can i get rid of them what can i buy im in the u.k. i dont want any of these stupid things like clearasil ultra clear which dont work i dont care how much it costys but whta can i use

Tru Neutrogena Oil-Free Acne Wash. It's about 5-6 dollars here in the U.S.; I'm sure you can find it in the UK too, it may have a slightly different name. Also, try Clean&Clear Advantage Spot Treatment if you can find it.

Other options you have are ProActiv [it's worth a try if other things have failed for you] and seeing a dermatologist. They can prescribe you stronger medicines and topical creams, and give you exactly what you need for your type of acne. They can even prescribe you antibiotics, in some cases, which could clear up the problem almost completely.

What does the abbreviation lol stands for. I konw it's used after something funny, but notsure the actually meaning. Ur hint will be appreciated.

Laughing out Loud.

Or Land O' Lakes Cheese [Hannafords uses that abbreviation at the deli sometimes]

:)

now wat if dis dude asked you out rite? and so, you said yea, and den you told one of ya friends, and she told lyk 5 otha dudes who'll proly tell sum more ppl, and now you THINK dat if he f0und out dat sum people kn0 den h3'll get mad. wat would you d0?

I would learn how to type, and remind the guy I'm going out with now that it's physically impossible to date someone without everyone finding out anyways. If he wants to keep your relationship a secret, what else does he have to hide?

people on this site think they are so mature and know everything but they don't know shit. (some do, most dont.) first of all, alot of people on this site believe that if they live a simple life and dont care about electronics and huge houses that they are better than people who care about their appearence and want nice things. just because i have some designer stuff doesnt mean im not a good person right?!! i shop at all of the expensive stores but its because i LIKE the clothes. if you like walmart thats good for you but i dont. and i dont give a f*** what the "popular" kids think. i do what i want and just because i want nice stuff and care about my looks doesnt mean im immature. alot of people on this site are prejudice. and prejudice means PRE JUDGING. you guys are pre judging teenagers just because they give a care about how they look or what they buy. and usually its the adults who critisize teenagers. but if you havent noticed alot of teenagers are smart and they dont always follow the crowd... these uninformed people give us teenagers sterotypes when they havent even met all of us. i say i shop at abercrombie and fitch and suddenly i have all these people calling me a follower. i know how i am and i dont follow. i lead. wow, so i like the same stores as other people. BIG DEAL. i dont smoke and drink and im not a slut. i just CARE about my appearence. deal with it! stop judging the teens on this site wrong and calling them whiny bitches because its not us, it's YOU.

opinions please. =)

Hey, we're not all like this. People who wear nothing but Abercrombie are called followers because some people think they're only wearing the clothes to fit in. Granted, some people do. Others DON'T and some people just don't get that. Don't let it bug you. Why should you care what other people think? Not everyone's going to like you. Short people are gonna be teased, tall people are teased, fat people are made fun of, skinny people are made fun of, EVERYONE is teased/insulted at some point.

NOT EVERYONE IS GOING TO LIKE YOU.
That's a really important lesson to learn- some people just plain hate your guts for no reason at all.

Adults screw things up, sure. But so do teenagers. Adults have done the same things we do, and are just trying to keep us from falling into their same bad habits. An adult who smokes and tells you not to isn't being hypocritical- they're trying to keep you from falling into a horrible addiction. But remember that no one's perfect, either. And adults are capable of making mistakes, and everyone's happy to pass on the blame to "stupid teenagers". They were teenagers once, too.

There's always going to be stupid people. No matter how old we get, there's going to be someone in our generation who still doesn't have a clue. And they never will.

i really need to lose 30 pounds this summer..
but i have no idea how.
i no i should excercise, and eat healthy but can someone explain
what exercises i should do, how long, how many of them.
what foods i should eat, how much of it, how often.
things like that would REALLLY help.
thanks so much!

hey, I did that last summer. And I'm hoping to do it again [lose another 30; I kept it off for almost a year so far]

What you've gotta do is eat a balanced diet. Go to [fitwatch.com] and take advantage of all the calculators and tools on there. Figure out your BMI [body mass index] BMR [basic metabolic rate= how many calories your body needs to simply function] and the How many calories are in.... thing. That'll help you with the next thing- keeping track of what you eat. For a week, write down EVERYTHING you eat- right down to three M&Ms after dinner. Add up the calories, make sure the amount of fat is in a good range, carbs aren't all refined, et cetera. Determine how much weight it's actually healthy for you to lose- you may acutally need to lose only 20 to be in a healthy range.

Exercise should combine something like running or walking [try to do 20-30 minutes most days] and work your muscles with Pilates, pushups, etc. Crunches are effective- and feel good too. The biggest thing for me, though, was making it fun. Walking with your friends makes it seem like you're not even working out- and before you know it, yu've wandered around town and walked five miles. As long as you don't view it as "Ugh, I HAVE to exercise" you'll stick to it and see results.

One last thing- don't weigh yourself more than once a week or so. Even then, don't get hung up by the number on the scale. Focus more on how loose your clothes are getting and how you FEEL in your own skin. Being confident is the most important thing, even if that means being five pounds heavier than nutritionists tell you that you need to weigh.

good luck, and inbox me if you need anything else!
=]

i was wondering how on myspace when you go to music and find a song you like to put in on your myspace how you can download the song like it says download but u cant click on it and this is a unknown group is there any other way?

No, if you can't click the link you can't download it from there.

You could always buy it off iTunes or download it somewhere. Or buy the CD.

whats PMS?

An excuse for girls to be a bitch once a month or so. It's all the symptoms like moodiness, cramps, bloating, etc. that usually happen before we get our period.

okey, im 14/f and i dont have really acne but just pimples here and there, but it drives me crazy, everyone else has clear skin, and i want that. ive tried almost literally every skin treatment and nothing has worked. but now im wondering does ProActiv Solution work?

Yes, ProActiv works. Since it's expensive, I usually suggest that you try other things first, but you already have. Buy one kit, at a mall kiosk if you can. (That way you won't be locked into getting another kit every 2 months). Try it out, and if it works for your acne & doesn't make your face turn green [that won't actually happen, btw, but your skin COULD get too dried out from the benzoyl peroxide], keep using it.

Another option is to see a dermatologist, or even a regular doctor if you can't see a derm. They can give you stronger topical creams [like Retin-A, one of the best inventions ever] and antibiotic regimens for cystic acne.

good luck getting your skin clear! :)

okay well i'm supposed to be going to the concert tomorrow night ( june 3) to see bury your dead, stick to your guns, since the flood, and suicide silent (i think thats what the name is?) and i know it was oringinally at the cabot street pub in chicopee but a friend of mine told me it was moved to the water front.

anyone have any accurate information?

and how crazy is the concert going to be? by the way im' a 13/f so i'm kind of nervous.

Call the venue it was originally supposed to be at and ask them. Also, check their myspace page- a lot of bands nowadays put updates like that in their blogs. I know MCR did when they all got food poisoning.. hah.

If you don't like him,turn around now.

Can someone point me to someplace that analyzes his music?I never liked him and thought that he was a trashy piece of crap,but it seems like there's a lot behind his music.

[ http://www.wikihow.com/Appreciate-Marilyn-Manson ]

[ http://www.songmeanings.net/lyric.php?lid=17496 ]

The second site- you can find almost every song imaginable on there, complete with analyses from other users.

sorry this is kinda long?

i dont know if this is in the right category but wat ever. ohkay. so my hair is so frizzy. ive tried hair spray, gels, frizzy stuff (the kind you jsut rub in your hair), and tring to clip it down and then doing a head beand and shampoos and well basically none of its worked i have really curly hair and its dry. im too self concicous (sp?) to do anything with it besides putting it in a bun. So what im asking if anyone has styling ideas for someone with long curly hair (pics if possible and steps) not like a pony tail i know how to do that. and how to deal with my frizzy hair. please only respond with thing that work. sorry i have so many requirements but this hair thing is really aggivating.thank you in advance

Get your hair trimmed. Your ends are probably splitting & are drier than the rest of your hair. At the same time, ask the stylist to cut some layers in and get rid of some of the bulk. It'll be easier to manage because there'll be less hair to deal with. & as it grows back in, it won't look bad- I promise. You'll just need to be re-shaped every couple months or so.

Find a good shampoo or conditioner that you like. Pantene Smooth & Sleek is amazing [$3 a bottle at WalMart] but my favorite ever is Tigi BedHead Moisture Maniac (or Dumb Blonde if you color your hair]. You can get two big bottles of it for about $20 at a salon. Whatever conditioner you use, leave it in for about 5 minutes to let it work.

This answer is getting really long.. haha.

Paul Mitchell makes a product called Super Skinny. It's a serum that tames even the craziest of curls, and it smells like apples. Try it.

Let your hair air dry after taking a shower, and brush it out with a wide-tooth comb to get tangles out. Blowdrying makes poof worse [unless you straiighten it after] :)

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