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would you go out with a guy whos not that smart?
would you go out with a guy whos hot, nice and cool but he has a F or D in his classes?
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You should definetely just like him for his personality, and if that shines out enough, it should be alright. You shouldn't not go out with a guy just because he is struggling in school yet he's a great guy. Reccommend tutoring or ask him if he need some help in those subjects if they are your strong subjects. Whatever way you choose to go with this, I hope it works out :)
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As long as you're not just interested in him because he's hot, why not? He could be a great guy that tries really hard and winds up with a D.
The only time I wouldn't is if the reason he was failing was because of a drug habit or something else really bad... otherwise, give him a chance! :]
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personally, probably not... my parents, for one, would probably kill me. i'm in the top 10% so education is very important to me. and if he can't get good enough grades to get into college, what kind of future would we have together? sure, it would depend from person to person, but just with that information, no.
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I've had poor grades before, so I don't judge people based on that. However, it depends on how he's handling it. If he's not doing anything about it and just doesn't care, then no, I don't want to spend any time with that guy. It makes me wonder what else he doesn't care about in life. But if he's trying hard to bring the grade back up, and he had all the other qualities I look for in a boyfriend, then yes, I would admire that greatly and go out with him. As for the title question (because I see being smart and having good grades as entirely different things), no, I wouldn't go out with someone who isn't intelligent. He doesn't have to be a genius, he doesn't even require "book learnin'", he just needs to have a brain. I don't like thinking for two. :) Just my preference.
-Lia
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im not saying grades dont matter, but they shouldnt be the deciding factor for if you should go out with this guy or not. if hes nice and you like him then go for it!
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I don't think that his grades should stop you from dating him. If you like his personality and enjoy being around him, then go for it. If his grades bother you, don't go for him. He might not be good at those things but there are other things that he may be good at.
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So what if he's "hot"?
So what if he's "cool"?
Who cares? Why does it matter?
That should not be your deciding factor.
In a perfect world, that wouldn't even enter into it.
Ever hear of the expression, "It's not what's on the outside that counts; it's what's on the inside."? It's a good rule of thumb.
If he is nice, then there shouldn't be much of a reason you can't give him a chance.
Grades can be something completely different.
Perhaps it shows a huge chunk of his character. The U.S.A is a miraculous country. The best thing about it, is that it offers so much opportunity to everyone. Why do we take so much for granted? In America, you get out of life what you put into it.
Maybe he doesn't value the amenities and freedom the United States has, when third world countries spend much of their time dreaming of what they would accomplish if they have everything that we have available to us, available to them, also. Maybe school to him seems like a chore simply because it is said that he must attend. Maybe he doesn't have enough self-respect to care about where he is headed later in life. Maybe he doesn't care about much of anything, at all, inside or outside of school.
Or perhaps he works his butt off for those D's and F's. If that is the case, then he deserves some recognition. I gather you don't know the whole situation yourself. Don't fault him for his attempts at higher education.
Bottom line is, if this guy is a respectable human being and will treat you as you deserve to be treated, then maybe you should give it a whirl. But if you'd only be in it for his looks and popularity, why don't you do him a favor and back off entirely before you hurt and use him any further.
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I'm not sure if this is an opinion question or if you want us to tell YOU if you should date a guy who's not exactly the brightest crayon in the Crayola box.
Either way, it depends on both of the people. You should never date a guy just because he's hot, that's for sure. Attraction is important, but it's not something to build a relationship based on.
If you like his personality and you enjoy being with him, I'd say go for it. If his grades bother you, then I wouldn't date him.
Maybe he's just not book-smart. If he acts like an idiot outside of school as well, that's a different story, but if it's just that he has difficulty in school or paying attention, then it shouldn't be that big of a deal to you.
This is something you have to decide for yourself, but I'm just giving you things to think about.
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Well look at this way.. Some people just can't do well in school it's not there thing. If he is nice then what does it matter. My brother is such a smart guy but he failed every subject in school, doesn't mean he's not smart, just means it's not his thing. I mean if it's becoming an issue like he's making stupid desicions and whatnot then you can think about but if he's being nice and fun then thats fine. Good luck! :)
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