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prejudice people on this site
people on this site think they are so mature and know everything but they don't know shit. (some do, most dont.) first of all, alot of people on this site believe that if they live a simple life and dont care about electronics and huge houses that they are better than people who care about their appearence and want nice things. just because i have some designer stuff doesnt mean im not a good person right?!! i shop at all of the expensive stores but its because i LIKE the clothes. if you like walmart thats good for you but i dont. and i dont give a f*** what the "popular" kids think. i do what i want and just because i want nice stuff and care about my looks doesnt mean im immature. alot of people on this site are prejudice. and prejudice means PRE JUDGING. you guys are pre judging teenagers just because they give a care about how they look or what they buy. and usually its the adults who critisize teenagers. but if you havent noticed alot of teenagers are smart and they dont always follow the crowd... these uninformed people give us teenagers sterotypes when they havent even met all of us. i say i shop at abercrombie and fitch and suddenly i have all these people calling me a follower. i know how i am and i dont follow. i lead. wow, so i like the same stores as other people. BIG DEAL. i dont smoke and drink and im not a slut. i just CARE about my appearence. deal with it! stop judging the teens on this site wrong and calling them whiny bitches because its not us, it's YOU.
opinions please. =)
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i started reading your "question" thinkin wtf is this? you seem to have quite a nice time takin the piss outa people who will be giving you an answer maybe in the future or maybe now. if YOU dont like our advice go fuck yourself im 15 and i'm gonna be prejudice right now you seem like a fucktard and yes i am "PRE JUDGEING" you ya seem like a pikey chav wanker not giving a rats ass about your parentals i think theres a little thing called expierence that surpasses yours and mine knowledge, the other thing that caught my mind was when you say "i just CARE about my appearence" made me realise you a girl and only you would care ya vanitised cow
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Adults make dumb decisions just like teens. They make the same shitty decisions except in a much more sophesticated or responsible manner. However, adults tend to have experience and therefore tend to make less dumb decisions.
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I'm 19, just so that you have an idea of the perspective I have. I'm just at the age where I have the benefit of hindsight regarding the behaviour of teenagers, without being too old to remember being one.
Nobody here thinks that all teenagers are stupid. I haven't seen any indication. If we give answers that you don't like, you don't have to listen to our advice... but keep in mind that you did ask for it.
I personally don't care what you wear. But when it becomes the all-consuming purpose of your life, as it seems to be for most teenagers on this site, it's an issue.
I was a smart teenager. I didn't follow the crowd. I was on the honour roll every year, and I held 2 part time jobs while doing volunteer work and training for my black belt in karate. Irresponsible? No. Most of my friends were the same way. However, most of the other people in my school were irresponsible.
As for your attack on adults and their mistakes, did it ever occur to you that it may be why they're wiser? Think about it. Who knows more about what you're going through; someone who's going through it still, or someone who already has? I don't see how we 'try to blame it on teenagers'.
I have no problem with letting self-centred, immature people (including adults) know what I think of them. If you don't like it, then you don't have to follow my advice. I just give it because I hope that someone will appreciate the perspective of someone older who has gone through more life challenges.
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You're obviously not happy here, go bother the people on those sites and save us the trouble.
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Somebody's a little ranty. Here's the thing: this is an advice site. Advice meaning opinions of the people on the site. If you don't want our opinions, don't ask for advice. And when you say that everybody on this site is prejudiced (it has a D on the end, get a dictionary) that's a pretty broad generalization. Are you not accusing me and everybody else here of making a similar generalization about teenagers?
Look, there are always going to be generalizations made about everybody. You said that adults always screw things up and blame it on teenagers. You also called adults "whiny bitches." Do you think that makes YOU better than any adult? Simply because you can "put them in their place"?
I don't know what to tell you. It seems that you care more about how cruel the world is to you than about how you could change that. People are always going to be mean. There are always going to be people that hate you for no reason. And people are going to generally think that teenagers are complete morons BECAUSE. OF. WHAT. YOU. JUST. SAID.
The median age on this site is like 14. Think about what that means. Are adults really out to get you? No. Are you making a fool of yourself when you come here to rant about how much your life sucks? YES. Deal with it. If you hate it, freaking change it. And you do that by presenting yourself in a manner that will make other people think, "Oh, she's mature." Right now, I feel like you feel the need to tell other people that you're a leader and not a follower, even though you have designer clothing/whatever. Does a real leader feel the need to tell other people that? No.
If you had a problem with a certain person on this site, you need to take it up with them or the mods instead of posting an open question like this. This is not an advice question; this is you ranting about how horrible we (Advicenators) are. If you think we're so horrible, why the hell are you still here?
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I will assume that most of your rant is directed at me since I am the only "adult" who has answered any of your recent questions. All the other answers were from teens just like yourself. I believe this is the question you are referring too.
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In this question you seem to think you are "owed"
these things by your parents. You are not. Your question came off sounding like you were being a
poor little old me, I can't have what I want so I hate my parents and my life and am going to go drown myself spoiled little brat. You may not be in real life, but thats how that question came off.
In general, I couldn't care less what anyone wears,if they can afford to go buy it no matter how old they are. I do not judge people by what they wear, where they live, what color or nationality they are. I do however tend to judge someone by their words.
You have to admit that question was not one of your better moments. Neither is this one, since you are judging all adults because one didn't say, Oh you poor abused baby! There aren't that many adults on this site and even fewer who would even bother answering the question.
I do not pre-judge all teens. There are some very smart ones on this site I am proud to consider friends and favorite columnists. So if I'm the one you're mad at, get over it. I'm also old enough to know you'll understand what I was talking about someday.
No hard feelings kiddo. :)
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Here's some of that egotistical wisdom from someone with a few more arbitrary numbers on their drivers license:
It's great to be right.
When it comes to an opinion like "Judging people is baaad" it's also not hard to be right
So congratulations you are absolutely right.
Most people are idiots.
Not all teens are stupid.
(Wait a second. Can both sentences be true? Never mind.)
Anyways.
Being right is fun, being content can be even more fun.
Being mad is exhausting.
Being mad at people for making generalizations, even unfair ones, is like being mad at them for breathing.
The human mind makes generalizations. It has to. My mind has made the generalization that each morning when I walk out my door the sky will not fall on my head. My mind has made the generalization that the guy on the city street yelling curse words is not someone I want to stop in chat with. Those are generalizations that make my life easier and make me able to function. If I had to stop and think about these things every time, I would go mad.
I am not a teen, but I have smoked, I do drink, and I am a bit of slut. That's who I am. Those are the choices I have made. That doesn't make me a bad person.
That doesn't make teens bad people either! That makes them people, like everyone else.
Accept it. Find some happiness in your own choices and stop going mad every time someone gives you shit.
People will be giving you shit your entire life. I promise.
When you are twenty your professors will treat you like a lazy pot-smoker, when you are thirty your boss will treat you like an idiot, when you are forty everyone will assume you having a mid life crisis, when you are fifty everyone will assume you are upset about being fifty... And ALL your life people will be deciding to hire you/flirt with you/befriend or not based partly on the way you dress!
Getting pissed about it is easy. Finding your happiness regardless and doing you best anyways, those are the traits of happy and mature people, whether they be teens or seniors.
Ranting does nothing but tire you out.
You can Rise above the universe! You can aim for better for yourself! Or you can complain on advicenators.com and feel better because a bunch of people tell you that you are right and change nothing at all but tire yourself out with pointless anger.
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My problem with this is what you're talking about is that it isn't people on this site. The majority of people on advicenators are teenage girls. What you're talking about is the world in general, so please don't blame advicenators.
Personally, I've noticed that people who buy expensive things get kind of addicted. You buy one Coach purse, you want another until nothing's good enough. Many, many rich people are unhappy.
Nothing's wrong with designer clothes. As long as they don't define you, you don't wear them to fit in or be popular, and you at least pay for some of it yourself, whatever.
In my three years on the site I have yet to see predjuice. People are annoyed by questions, sure, but who's calling people whiny bitches? You're the one launching an attack against something that if it happens, is a minority. The world judges people. It's a sad fact that you have to get used to. People are judgemental and if you can't deal with that you probably won't make it in the real world.
It's a sad fact that these days, most teens aren't very smart. I'm a teen, and I know it. I'm surrounded by people who care more about how they look than the fact that millions of people are starving and dying of AIDS. It's just selfishness. As for stereotypes about Abercrombie, sorry, but I really hate them. They stereotype when they hire people. A girl in my town did an exposee on it. When she first came into the store and asked if they were hiring, she wore a headband, abercrombie shirt and jeans, flats, and girly makeup. She has blonde hair and is pretty. They said yes, they were hiring and gave her an application. The next day later she came in wearing cheap jeans and a plain, fitted tee with no brand name, and cheap ripoff converse. She also used temporary hair dye to dye her hair black and wore badly applied eyeliner and chapstick. They said they weren't hiring.
Anyway, you are the one being prejudiced. You just judged an ENTIRE WEBSITE. Hypocrite. Sorry if you had a problem on her, file an abuse report and get over it.
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your right in a way...your right in the fact that people should care about what they look like...but for them...not for what the "cool kids" think...which most of them ask...whats "cool" thats where the people on here get into who cares if your stuff is designer or wal-mart...it doesn't matter...just be yourself...If you ask me...it's not the people giving the advice that are the immature ones...it's the ones asking for it...I'm not saying that if you need help don't ask...please do...but please keep in mind that this is an OPINIONATED site...we are asked to give our OPINIONS on what we would do in a certain situation...it's open to a different interpretation for everyone. So I like how you think that your being "righteous" but your not...I buy nice designer things too...90% of my clothes come from freakin' Macy's for crying out loud...but it's because thats what I feel like wearing...not because its "cool" I don't smoke, or drink, or go out and sleep around with lots of guys either...but I don't think that this site is full of prejudice...people ask for help and opinions and thats exactly what we give them.
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i think you've got the right idea.
people who give lame answers on this site
are judging those that are asking.
and adults should try to understand teenagers.
but it's an advice site.
I mean, if people want real good advice,
go to somebody you trust, right?
this site's simply opinion.
and just because you shop at stores like everyone else,
so what?
that dosen't make you like the others.
there stores for goodness sakes.
you shouldn't be judged by your clothing
or tha fact that you care and want to look decent.
i mean,
i care about my appearance,
so what?
now I'm strictly a follower?
it is ridiculous how people judge.
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I don't smoke, drink, or any of that stuff either. There's really no point in it, other than for the idiots who think they`re "cool" to do it. I mean, we aren`t all complete idiots. But because there`s some who are, everyone else thinks every single one of us does. There`s some kids who actually know the difference in right or wrong and half of the time, the parents are the reason they do. But not because they`ve showed us the right way. For probably at least half of us -- or me at least -- they`ve shown the kids the wrong things to do and half of us don`t ever want to put our own kids through that. Seriously, a few days ago, I had my aunt come up to me and say, "Now you better not ever think about smoking. It`s a terrible habit and there`s no point in it." Guess what she was holding? A cigarette. And guess what she was doing? Smoking. Wow, we got some great role models out there.
And I`m not one of the people who just shop at those places to 'fit in' or any of that crap either. I just shop at those places because I happen to actually like the clothes there and I care about how I look. I`m not one of the people who are obsessed with being "popular" ... so I agree with everything you said.
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we arent judging you. we give our OPINIONS on what people do. if someone thinks your a follower, than they think youre a follower. if they dont, then they dont.
we say whats on our mind.
or what we feel is right for the situation.
so dont insult us, cause your basically giving us ALL the impression that YOUR a whiney little bitch. and totally contradicting your own statements.
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I have three words. GET OVER YOURSELF.
Not everyone here is like that, and if I am, SO BE IT. I don't care! Nobody said you weren't a good person, and nobody said you smoke, drink & nobody said you're a slut. Stop putting words into people's mouths & making them sound bad.
This doesn't even qualify as a question simply because you're whining about how society has been treating you. Wanting nice things doesn't make you a snob or immature, but letting those things get to your head & control you does. Don't ever call people on here prejudice. You're no better because here you are sitting behind some computer screen YELLING at US because what some people have done on this site. Not only are discriminating against them, but you're discriminating against ALL OF US. And that makes you JUST AS PREJUDICE.
And not a lot of teenagers are smart because if they were they wouldn't do the things they do. Adults are not hypocrites & for you to say they are IS WRONG. They tell us not to do things because they've made that mistake before & will try to achieve the goal of stopping us from making it.
Nobody said you were a follower but you need to stop calling us whiny & bitchy because we're not. We know what we're talking about [although some of us don't] & if you don't like our advice -- the solution is simple. DON'T ASK FOR IT.
That's my opinion. Rate me low, I don't care. But you asked for opinions & you got one. If it's not what you wanted to hear, OH WELL. =) Life goes on.
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Hey, we're not all like this. People who wear nothing but Abercrombie are called followers because some people think they're only wearing the clothes to fit in. Granted, some people do. Others DON'T and some people just don't get that. Don't let it bug you. Why should you care what other people think? Not everyone's going to like you. Short people are gonna be teased, tall people are teased, fat people are made fun of, skinny people are made fun of, EVERYONE is teased/insulted at some point.
NOT EVERYONE IS GOING TO LIKE YOU.
That's a really important lesson to learn- some people just plain hate your guts for no reason at all.
Adults screw things up, sure. But so do teenagers. Adults have done the same things we do, and are just trying to keep us from falling into their same bad habits. An adult who smokes and tells you not to isn't being hypocritical- they're trying to keep you from falling into a horrible addiction. But remember that no one's perfect, either. And adults are capable of making mistakes, and everyone's happy to pass on the blame to "stupid teenagers". They were teenagers once, too.
There's always going to be stupid people. No matter how old we get, there's going to be someone in our generation who still doesn't have a clue. And they never will.
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hahaha your so right!!!.. i myself havent had an "adult" tell me anything, but your so right!!. i care about what i look like to, and i LOVE hollister, as for my name =-p. but, what happened?. what made you say this?<3
and for Tina.. mae up your mind, shes talking to ADULTS.. your 16, not an adult, and your saying WE are not prejudice , WE make mistakes. talking as your an adult. ;-)
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