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big question for girls!!!
15/m
riiight i need a bit of advice, girls your the only people who can help. i love my gf to bits but she keeps like having loads of mood swing i know the period n all that but its not that:S she keeps having loads of mood swings and everything is ok with her family and all that i dunno what it is. so girls do you get like this at times?? and if so why:S its personal yeh but i could realy do with the help. thanks very uch:)
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something is probablt just bothering her.
just don't do anything to anoy her and
don't be rude.
be as nice as posible
and show her you care.
be there for her.
tell her you love her
and that your there for her
when shes ready to talk.
hope I helped. :]
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Sometimes girls have a hard time explaining whats going on. She may feel like you wouldn't understand, or that you would simply brush it off and say "That's stupid". Don't take it personally if she takes it out on you, she just can't help it if you happen to be the one who's there when she has a meltdown. Maybe she's just stressed because it is the end of the school year, or maybe she is fighting with a friend. It's okay to ask what's wrong, just don't push her to talk. Tell her that you will always be there to listen to her if she needs to vent.
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im sure your getting the same answers but girls r VERY emotional. i love my boyfriend so much but im very moody with him too. the stupidist things bother us.. maybe she feels like she doesny look good, or soemthings going on with her friends. We have a lot of thoughts so sometimes we get overwhelmed. be patient with her.. she'll come around. but i wouldnt ask her why.. tell her whenever shes ready to talk about why your ready to listen, cause she might get offended otherwise.
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hey
ok i know you probably got alot of hte same answers from below and i have no idea if you already got this because i didnt read the answers but alot of girls get these mood swings. us girls can get really emotional and are alot. sometimes we even get pissed off or depressed for no reason. also the situation if htere is one could be so stupid or tiny to you but to us it could be big, like a friend isnt hanging out with you as much, or a friend isnt talking to you, a friend bought an outfit you had, is coying you, becoming you, etc.
just dont dump her because of that. all we ever need is a hug and all girls love it =] so if you see her in a bad mood go on the couch have her lean on you or snuggle put your arm around her and just take it easy that day. and tell her how beautiful she is and stuff like that. compliments always make us happy =] unless you dont mean it. then your in a lot of trouble.
talk to your gf and be like hey baby i just need to talk to you, im concerned you seem to not be your self recently your quiet and seem sad. is something going on? you can totally trust me whatever it is. because trust is a major point in a relation ship.
just try not to dump her due to that. it will make her feel horrible and just make it even worse.
hope i helped =]
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Well, you and I are in the same boat.
my ex used to become very emotional and take me along for the ride.
that included him being weird, moody and DUMPING me 3 times PLUS saying hurtful things which i could'nt manage to piece together as they werent true (or were extremely exxagerated)!!
well, now you've told me this i have alot of sympathy for you to be honsest!
it just sounds as if shes' a little inconsiderate of how this may affect you NOW becaue of what happened last time (her dumping you), and for reasons such as that its just irrational and unfair on your bahalf :(
well, you love her. you support her. you be there for her.
thats all you CAN offer.
and if she isnt grateful for that and can't see how much you care for her, then i'm sorry but you don't deseve treatment like that, and she doesn't deserve to have the privalage of having a caring boyfriend if she is just going to dismiss you.
hope that helped a little more :)
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hey
can i just say
i was actually dumped because of this.
ill tell you WHY i was like that, to help you understand :)
(if what i have to say doesnt apply, then i apoligise, im just trying to make you understand how its the things you may not even realise affecting her moods :( )
i doubt you treat her badly, but when i was with my boyfriend, it was really great until he broke up with me after 10 months. i had the occasional mood swing mostly due to hormones. however, then we got back together a month later which changed everything. i was having mood swings every week because of HIM and we broke up about 3 months ago because of it.
he was blind to it and so didnt understand, let alone ASK why i was like this.
( by the way, im not saying youre at fault at all, im just talking from experience)
he was TOTALLY in control, and this made me doubt to whether he loved me or not.
its not JUST that, it was tiny things like he may have canclled our plans, and i could never trust him.
sometimes it went as far as he would call me a name and not mean it but i took it to heart because im sensitve. and then wewould argue.
i became VERY paranoid which caused me to be VERY snappy around him.
of course, he couldnt understand this, but im hoping youll have more tollerence with her, by trying to understand...after all women have these as it is preparing them for motherhood.
if worst comes to worst, youll go a few days without seig hr so she can cool off. explain to her how you feel, and maybe youll be able to talk abiout it and explain that you may feel that its ruining what you have.
but if you love her, dont break up with her.
because that will contradict your emotions, and make her feel totally at fault.
i didnt have anything to be mooday about either apart from him. maybe its different in your situation.
She may have things she doesnt want you to know, like it may be school stress, or she MAY be having family problems, but doesnt want to say anything.
It coud be something realy samll to you, but big for her...for example her best friend may have copied her hair style or bought the same top as her.
it IS normal for us to be depressed or moody without a reason though.so dont worry :)you wont get this because luckyily, males are not as emotional as females! haha
all you can do is appriciate her for who she really is despite her "alien" personality, all girls have them. try to support her as much as possible and i know itll be hard, but she really doesnt mean to act like this.
if we could help it, we wouldnt do it :)
sorry this was a bit long, but i hope i helped somehow.
i would have offered more if you explained the situation a little further :)
you sem to care for her a great deal if youre seeking help.
good luck and i hope all goes well :)
take care
Alex
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oh god story of my life. i alwaysss get like that. not having enough sleep, someone like a friend saying somethinng can make me bitchy an entire night. most girlsss are like that though they can go from like 0 to 100 in like 10 seconds but dont work its not you. its just a girl thing.
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it's not you she's pissed off about. it could be anything. maybe she's having a bad hair day, her mom forgot to wash the shirt she wanted to wear, she failed a test, her best friend is acting like a bitch... anything basically can make girls have moodswings. boys arent as emotional as girls which is a good thing and things bother girls more than boys. just dont mention it to her because she thinks its normal, which it is for girls. unless shes cutting herself and listening to screamo music, just let her be. kiss her and let her know you care, but dont butt into her business. just be the loving person that you are and she'll appreciate it.
=) you seem like such a nice boyfriend.
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yes we tend to get like that...it's a girl thing...if we're hungry we get pissed off and upset, if it's Monday we're moody anyway, it's just definitely a girl thing and we all do it at some point or another...and maybe there are things that she isn't telling you like maybe there are problems at home with siblings or parents that she doesn't feel like discussing and telling people about...just because you're her boyfriend doesn't mean she doesn't want to keep certain things in her life private.
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Yea, we get like that. The fact that it's Monday, one of our side bangs being less straight than usual, a chip in our nail polish, hearing something sad that happenend in Utah, anything can make us seem bitchy.
Just give us a hug [if we let you] and be there for us when we want to talk. We appreciate it more then you think.
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sometimes really little things can change my mood like if i'm hungry i'll be pissy or if i see a dead animal on the road i'll be sad or i can be like overly hyper if i didn't get enough sleep..and soemtimes i just get in a bad mood and don't want to talk to anyone for no reason. Hope that helps...
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