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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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The falling sensation is pretty common with many people, but this is different and I don't know how common it is. In my sleep I'll feel like I'm desperately trying to run away from something but I can't budge. Its weird. The falling thing is the only comparable thing. Any idea what this "can't run away" feeling is? Has it happened to anyone?
Running
To dream that you are running away from someone indicates an issue that you are trying to avoid. You are not taking or accepting responsibility for your actions. In particular, if you are running from an attacker or any danger, then it suggests that you are not facing and confronting your fears.
To dream that you are trying to run but cannot make your feet move as fast as you want them to signifies lack of self-esteem and self-confidence. It may also reflect your actual state of REM paralysis during the dream state.
To dream that you are running alone refers to your determination and motivation in the pursuit of your goals. You will find success and rise above those around you. Alternatively, the dream may mean that you need to hurry up in making a decision.
To dream that you are running with someone signifies cooperation.
My husband and I have been married for a year and a half. We have a baby boy. I'm very unhappy. He's not at all what I thought him to be. It's really a long story but in short his family hates me because he's the step son and I'm his wife. And he does nothing to defend me. They treated us like crap and made up so many lies ( and I'm not exaggerating ) and my husband has never done anything to fix it. His family tried so much to break us up but we moved out. My husband doesnt wana talk to them because he thinks that it will completely separate him from his family but he doesn't see what it's doing to OUR family. I'm tired and sick all the time thinking of all these problems and my husband doesn't help me. I want out but he won't let me leave. But also doesn't do anything to make me feel better. I'm stuck.
What do you mean he won't let you leave? Has he threatened you? If he did then you need to take this one up with the police.
If you aren't happy, You need to file for divorce. You can proceed this process by going to the court. Since there is a child involved you are going to need a lawyer as you will be fighting not only a divorce but a custody battle. If your husband isn't willing to let you leave, Again you need to go to the police and explain them your situation.
my fiance and I are having terrible problems with his 9 yr old son. He has told us more then a dozen times that he is completely alright with us being together, getting married, etc. But we are now experiencing problems.....he (the son) tells her mother (who is a total psycho stalker{we have a restraining order against her}) everything that occurs in our home, makes up lies about me, my children and his father. He constantly lies to us, disrespects us and ignores every word we say. He is concerned only with getting what he can from us. I will not leave my home for him, stiffle my children from speaking with his father or end my relationship. Someone please help us. We are at the end of the line with this child. Also his mother does not make him listen, respect, behave, do homework, care for himself (personal hygene wise) or feed him well {fast food every nite she can't cook}. We cannot at this time take him from his home so that is not an answer.
You should speak to his father about talking to his son, Communicate with him. This is the only way to really work things out.
For one, You do not need a 9 year old boys permission to marry or be with someone.
Really what the child needs is either some sort of counseling, The father needs to have a one on one talk with him and set boundaries. If the son isn't willing to follow the rules then he shouldn't be allowed to stay at the house. You are his fathers wife, The child needs to learn to except it and respect that. The boy could be acting out on relations to his mother and father divorcing. Likewise he is having a hard time adjusting to the fact that his father is no longer with his mother. You should bare in mind that this is a child, A child should never control your life and the choices you make. Again, You are going to have to talk to with this father. If the child is this far out of hand HE needs to step up and do something.
Is it possible that yu can get HIV by having sex with a gay guy trow the ass
Yes you can
i am a 13 year old girl about to be 14 in 5 months. before you judge me, please just read my story. My cousin has a friend and I've only met him only a few times but over winter break i got to see him more and i started to like him, a lot but after a few more months i began to forget about him. Then i saw him over the summer i don't exactly remember why we hugged and talked together,too a lot of times. It just kind of sparked me he is 18 but again i'm not saying i want to date him or do weird things, but i really like him but i have mixed feelings about it. I hear people say all the time saying age doesn't matter when it comes to a 22 yr. old girl dating a 35yr. old guy but when its like this people are so judgemental and say "he just wants to molest you" but he isn't weird like that nor have i heard anyone like that to him. I hate when people say like "you don't know what love is" and "you have no common sense" and if he ddnt like me i would change for him im that "crazy" for him. im also wondering is it because since no "hot" or "cute" guys in my class notice me im just scrambling for something. Am i just stupid? slutty? or "going thru a change"? If your thinking of leaving negative comments DONT EVEN WASTE YOUR TIME.
You are missing the point, You are a minor. Someone who is 22yrs and 35yrs is legally an adult.
Yes, At age 13 age does matter. In many states the legal age to even consent to sexual intercourse is 16 and that is being having intercourse with people your own age. If a 16 year old decides to have sex with someone 18 it is STILL considered statutory rape. No, You are not stupid, slutty etc. However, I would still advise you to stay away with him. If you were to ever have a relationship with this man you are putting him at high risk for being charged as a pedophile.
Sure, It sounds ridiculous to you but the law is the law and the law also says you are way to young to be dating or thinking of dating someone that is 18 yrs.
19/F
Yeah, it sounds like the plot to a bad sitcom, right? No, it's my reality.
So, I met this guy through a mutual friend and we really hit it off. I mean, I REALLY like him. We get along wonderfully and he's probably the sweetest and most thoughtful guy I've ever met.
Well, last night we were texting and sort of really opening up to each other. And then he tells me he has a secret. He has no toes. I thought he was joking (he jokes quite often, one of the things I love about him), so I laughed it off. But he was serious. He even sent me a picture. I texted our mutual friend about this and she said she had no idea. I texted him back and just pretended like everything's fine.
Now, I still really REALLY like this guy. But the no toes deal freaks me out. I'm not one to judge on appearances and it doesn't really change anything about him... But I'm also an extremely squeamish person and the thought of his feet make me uncomfortable.
I really like him and I feel like I terrible person for being disgusted by his feet. I feel so guilty. How can I get over this?
You left out important detail, Does he walk?
People who don't have any toes can't walk, Toes are what keeps us balanced. If he is walking to the point where nobody had any idea that he had no toes then the guy is pulling your chain. Sure, A picture is believable but make sure it's actually real before you jump to assumptions. It is a proven fact that it is nearly impossible to walk without toes, Yet alone walk to normally where nobody has a clue there is something wrong.
Okay I'll try to make this short.
My friend and I have been friends for about 2 years now. In late September of 2011 her husband, her and I engaged in a threesome, then another one a week later. I visit their house about 2-3 times a week. Ever since the threesome her husband has been really flirty with me (but never in front of her.)
He makes out with me in their house when my friend is in the other room, when she goes to the bathroom he takes his penis out and puts my hand on it. I've given him oral sex about 7 times since September, but never anything more.
Another thing he does is we chat on facebook and have pretty inappropriate conversations about sex and 'things we would like to do to each other.'
I want this to stop, after all, he is my Best Friends husband. I get that this isn't his fault, I am also involved. I'm just nervous to tell him that I want to stop, and I don't know how, so I guess that's what I'm looking for advice on. Also, I don't know whether or not I should tell her.
Has anybody ever been in a similar situation where they engaged in sexual activity with their friends partner? I get that what I have done is a VERY bad thing, now I'm just looking for advice on how to rectify the situation.
So... Do I tell her? and How do I tell him that I want to stop without messing up the friendship that he and I have?
Thank you.
I partly agree with Adviceman, The threesome was not wrong because all three of you consented.
You WERE wrong to let things get out of hand, You allowed it to become more then it was supposed to be. In this case, It is a lousy thing to do to a person you call a best friend.
Your friends husband is way out of line, You allowing him to do these things to you not only put his marriage at risk but is loosing your best friend over it really worth it? If the answer is yes, Again I'm going to have to say your a real lousy friend.
End it, That simple. You tell him straight up that things have got out of hand and you are not willing to be the person that comes between their marriage. If he is messaging you on facebook then you BLOCK him, Continuing to proceed a conversation is only feeding into the problem. Threesomes can be fun if everyone is on the same page, In this case her husband obviously was a bit off track. If you feel that it's necessarily to let your friend know then be prepared for her to have a huge fight with her husband....and say goodbye to your friendship.
Well my ex's best friend came up to me and said that he wanted me back... i just dont know if i still really like him. he gets a little phisical i mean most the time its pokes and grabing whitch i dont mind at all but then he will get a little carryed away, he will kind of shake me and the other day he lightly pushed me while i was walkin down the stairs i almost fell and he was saying he was sorry and he kept hugin me... so should i take him back???
please help!!! Thx!! :)
Move on
From what you've stated your mindset is already telling you to move on. Whether pushing someone "lightly" or not it's still putting your hands on someone. Meet someone who is more worthwhile and won't cowardly have his friend do all the work for him.
I hear people calling each other this in general places. I think I know what it is but I'm not sure.I don't know what category this falls under.
A dick can pretty much have 2 meanings
1, Dick referring to a male's penis
2, Dick as being an insult "Ass, Idiot, Jerk, Asshole etc."
Ok well I live in cleveland ohio and am a really great cook/ chef. I want to rent a place by month but just cnat find a place to rent wel that fits in my budget. I want to pay the most of 500 dollars a moont and I would like everything included as in stove a grill etc.. Can you please find a place that I could rent by month for 500 dollars or less including everything? I would prefeerr the west side because I live on the west side of cleveland. My second question is well I want to be a vendor in the cuyohaga county fair. How much is it and what do I have to have and do in order to be a vendor there. Thanks and if I have anymore questions I will ask.
Thanks.
Dear Chef,
Your best bet is to find a place in the community that is leasing or renting out and call the number. If you have any questions the owner would be the one to talk too. We cannot find a place for you, This can be done simply by looking in your local area. Check around in plazas, New buildings etc.
As far as the fair your best bet would probably be the town hall where the fair takes place, Again we cannot give you a price on how much it would be. You need to do the investment yourself.
Good luck with what you do
So I like this guy, but there is a problem. My friend liked him. And he asked her out, but the next day told her "they are better off friends". They didnt even go out, and my friend was sad. Now she is over him and likes someone else. She randomly brought up that if he asked one of us out she wouldnt care. I think she was lying, because I would care if my friend dated one of my crushes/exes.
So I think my questions are:
Is it okay for me to like him?
Does this break the "Girl Code"?
P.S. She doesnt know I like him.
Thanks, Janiiee (14 years old)
What exactly is a "Girl Code?"
If your friend is no longer with the guy then why can't you like him? You aren't breaking any rules as they are no longer together.
I could understand it being backstabbing in a way if you just dated the guy RIGHT after they broke up, However you sort of lack information. How long ago did he reject her? Did it just happen?...If it did I would maybe hold off a week or two before I go and just ask the guy out. As long as they aren't dating, Then it should be fine as they aren't in a relationship.
hey i need help on something... okay im not slow,mentaly confused have add and or adhd and im not bipolar,but sometimes out of nowhere i have people try and make me cry or i feel out of normal untill i cry or i have the strange moments where im wathing tv with my older sister having a good time then she starts messing around with my dog and i dont know i just flip out and go crazy like i get out top of her scream strape her down and i have the urge to littrly kill her but there is something holding me back then i just get up and walk out like i never did anything then say sorry i feel like i cant control my self it happens like 5 times a month and my family tell people im crazy and going to end up in a crazy home but i dont kno whats rong with me.. help me please i dnt kno what to do ... thanks
I don't think "crazy" is a proper word
Out of control? Maybe..
Have you ever been tested for bipolar or do you automatically assume that you don't have it? Lack of detail there.
I am going to assume you are a teenager, From what you've posted I would recommend you try to get into therapy and see a psychiatrist where they could properly diagnosis you and give you medication to help you balance out. It is not normal to think of killing someone or getting so pissed off you go flipping shits, I think you should also look into anger management classes. It may go along way...but to answer your question; You're behavior isn't normal
SO my dog is a male 6 months old pitbull. He's white and I don't know if it has anything to do with it but I recently noticed that his testicles are bright red. I don't have enough money to take him to the vet so I'm hoping someone knows something to help without the vet. Please and thank you
Some vets allow you to do a sliding scale, Basically what that means is they let you pay off the bill little by little.
Call around and ask
17)F. i lost my virginity to a guy id known a couple weeks when i was 14, he was 19. we had sex just that once. i had a relationship with an 18yr old when i was 15 sex was a big part in the relationship. also 15, i got intimate with a 30yr old married guy with kids :( we did not have sex. }6yrs old 20yr old bf, sex almost 3+ times a day, we lived together. i went clubbing at 16 and went home with a guy i met. found out after sex he was 30 TT'. i had a 17yr old bf this year, we had sex once. and now i have
I don't like the word "slut"
I'm going to say I think you've made poor judgment by sleeping with several men at not such a young age but much older than you. At 15,16,17 older men are much more likely to take advantage of you because young teenagers are vulnerable and tend to lack common sense.
If you think you have a problem with craving sex, Perhaps you should seek therapy for possibly sex addiction. I also would advise you to tone it down a bit and stop sleeping with everyone you meet. If a guy doesn't respect you enough to be with you, Then don't be with them at all. Selling yourself off isn't going to make a guy like you more nor less. An older man having sex with a minor is statutory rape even if the younger one consents. Giving yourself up for someone to get them to like you more is just degrading and immoral.
Again, try therapy
Will I get prettier as I grow up? I'm 14 right now and not exactly happy with my appearance. I don't think I'm absolutely ugly, but I don't think I'm pretty either.
I can't help but feel as if this is part of the reason my relationships don't last... like the guy always feels like he could do better.
So will my looks improve as I grow older and mature, or am I pretty much stuck with this?
Picture down there, by the way. Would probably be helpful.
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I don't know what you are talking about, You are already a very pretty girl.
My ex and I were pretty good friends, but it was really obvious that we weren't over each other. We even hooked up once after we were broken up. We both said we didn't want to be in a relationship with anyone but since we felt comfortable with each other, we decided it would be okay to talk and flirt around. During the winter break, we didn't talk much or see each other as he went out of the country and I went out of town. The thing is, my family recently moved, and live about 4 hours away from where I used to live. I still live in my old house to go to school, for now. My parents want me to move up with them, but for a year, I put it off, because I wanted to stay and orginally finish school. Being with my parents for the break made me feel really good, I felt really safe and happy, and coming back made me feel a little out of place because what I once knew as home, wasn't really home anymore. I was also convinced at the time that I would need to stop seeing my ex in that fashion before it would get any harder to let go. Now that I'm back, I ran into him one day at school (we hadn't talked since before he left over the break). I told him I wanted to move up and that I felt better up there. He asked why? And I gave a brief answer. I was also in a rush to leave, because I had transportation issues from school. He did look a little confused, but I didn't want to hang around him much before I started feeling awkward. I heard he was going to be at a show the next day, and I decided to go (he was singing for the first time in public and I wanted to be there to listen to him). That night, he completely ignored me and hung around another crowd, that I used to be close with in the past, but not so much anymore. I had other guy friends there, one was an ex but we weren't so close anymore and another one was a previous crush, who's just a friend to me now. I felt really hurt that night, considering he didn't bother saying anything to me. Another guy friend purposely tried to get him jealous, but I kept telling him to stop, but I'm sure my ex saw something, as innocent as it was.
I did attempt to talk to my ex throughout the show but he wasn't very responsive. I guess he was nervous about his performance, but after, it was nothing. I left feeling really hurt and the next day, I went to his cousin's house (we're good friends and he's about a few years younger than I am). Somehow, we ended up at my ex's house, his mom had to go over there to do something and I tagged along. I thought this would be a good opportunity to see whether or not he was actually mad. Apparently, he was tired, and was watching a movie and didn't say two words to me either. I felt really awkward being in his house too.
I then left and decided to go home after feeling really bad. That night, I texted him saying that I didn't know what I did for him to ignore me like that at the show and at his house but that I was sorry, and sorry for coming to his house like that. And also that I was sorry for not really talking to you at school, I was in a hurry to leave from before.
He texted me back a day later saying he didn't realize to what extent he ignored me and how tired he was and that it was up to me whether or not I accept his apology.
I couldn't believe he said that, because it sounded pretty lame but I feel really bad about him not talking to me like he used to. I even called him once and he didn't pick up. I'm wondering if he feels bad that I'm leaving. (When we were a couple, one of the reasons why we broke up was because I was going to move, and he wanted me to be with my parents). But to ignore me now for the decision doesn't make sense. I want to talk to him about it and tell him how I feel, but I also don't want to make myself look desperate for his attention. What should I do?
Your relationship is over, That is what it is.
When you bumped into him and told him you were moving it sounds like it was nothing more then a quick conversation and not so much feeling bad about it. From his reaction, Maybe he got caught up in something? Did he seem to intentionally ignore you? If he did then maybe he's just simply over it. The best thing you can do for you is to try and focus on you and your schooling. If the guy wants to catch up and talk to you then let him come to you, However I wouldn't hold your breath because there is always a chance that he moved on. If you don't want to look desperate then don't give him that impression. Wait and see if he comes to you and if he doesn't then you know....
Months ago, I met this girl named Jessica, we had 2 classes together in college and we were getting along well, one day she told me she is bisexual and I told her I'm straight but told me that she thought I was cute. When she was drunk she told me that she likes me. She also asked me if I wanted to kiss her after couple weeks of getting to know each other, but I said no because I did not think of her like that, but I only told her that I thought she was cute. She told me that her ex girlfriend cheated on her by making out with another guy when she was drunk. Jessica was really heartbroken and I guess that is the reason why she came off really strong to me in couple of weeks. I didn't like the way she approach me because she was too forward for me, since I'm more of a shy type. Time goes by we started hold hands,cuddle and later on we started to make out couple of times. I guess you can call it as we were friends with benefits. It was really fun and I liked it because of the thrill and we were playing with each other, but she told me that we cannot do that much when she was fixing up the relationship with her ex girlfriend. We still fooled around when her ex girlfriend came to the bay for Christmas and for New years. She told me she did not want to kiss two people at once but she couldn't help but she kissed me couple of times. I told her she should't get back with her ex girlfriend because I don't want her to get hurt like how she got hurt before, one day she picked me up from work and said" I'm waiting for my ex girlfriend to ask me out" and she kissed me. I don't know what she meant by that when she did that. Couple of weeks later they got back together and Jessica said "If you were bisexual and actually liked me, we would have went out" Now that she is back with her long distance girlfriend she does not talk to me as much and I do not talk to her as much. She would always text me everyday but now sometimes she doesn't text me for a week and text me saying"How come you never text me first?" and whenever she has a problem with her current girlfriend I'm there to listen or call her on the phone. It seems like I'm the one who is chasing her now. The question is.
1.) Do I have a chance? or I was just a rebound from the beginning?
2.) Did I hurt her feelings by playing with her at first?
3.) Am I starting to like her or just trying to get her back because I lost her.Because I'm not sure if I'm bisexual yet.
4.)Did she do a right thing by getting back with her ex girlfriend even though she hurt her by cheating on her?
5.)Was it really just a friends with benefits or she wanted to be more?
6.)Any opinion will be great, because I'm definitely confused...
You are basically a rebound just as you said, The girl clearly isn't over her ex.
Technically from the sound of it you are the doormat she can wipe her feet on whenever she pleases. As long as you allow yourself to be a doormat she will continue to take advantage of you. Just to put it out there, People who are drunk don't think with a sober head and not that you would go as far as having sex but someone being drunk cannot legally consent to sex. From what you've posted she basically used you and took advantage of the friendship.
Are you starting to like her?..I really can't tell you how you feel but I would probably say I think you like the idea of having someone to fool around with not so much her in general.
My advice I would try and find someone who isn't still hung up on someone else, Find a real girl
First I'm a girl, 21 years old. My ex and I were together for 3 years his mom and brother died and suddenly he didn't want anything to do with me which was understandable so I gave him his space. But then two months after I heard he was back with his ex. The same ex that he would constantly break up with to go out with me. Anyway, over a week ago he contacts me and I missed him so I replied. About 5 days ago he starts acting distant and I ask why and he said he was thinking of his mom and brother and his best friend starting trying to hook up with his ex, I tried to make him feel better and it worked because he seemed so happy for a day. I had a bad day too but I let my bad day go because I knew he needed cheering up, which I know he would never do for me. Then about three days ago we were talking and he just stopped, I tried calling no answer, call back, text, nothing, so i havent tried since that day. I know its not cause he has alot on his mind, i know him well enough to know that when he has problems he likes to have someone to share them with. He's done this before and it's usually because he's talking to someone else. I feel so pathetic because I keep falling under his little spell. He promised he wouldn't do this again and he did. What do I do to get over it? Like for good, I know I don't deserve this but how do I make myself stop being so in love with him?
The guy has issues and is doing nothing but dragging you into them.
If you want to get over it for good then you NEED to cut all contact. Stop texting, answering his calls, etc. Just end it
The guy repeats his pattern and treats you like shit, As long as you allow yourself to be sucked into his problems you are never going to move on. Lets face it, It's one hell of a slap in the face when someone dumps you for an ex isn't it? So why are you still bothering with him?....You sound well aware of the fact that he isn't going to change. Clearly, He needs therapy. This guy will only change if HE wants too change. Not if someone lays down guidelines and makes him happy for a day.
Simply put, You are wasting your time. Stop being his doormat because that is exactly what you will always be as long as you allow it. When he is doing good it's pretty much screw you until he's miserable again and goes crawling right back.
I feel bad for the guy, It must be tough to loose your mother and brother but on the other hand you have to realize you have a life of your own and that life isn't waiting for someone to wipe their feet on. Move on and cut contact and focus on YOUR life not his.
Ok im 18 and I want to pop my cherry so i can finger and play with my self. But I don't want a boy to do it because then I will not be a virgin. Whats the best way to do this? And what is the true meaning of being a virgin? Is it like when you have sex with a boy or when you pop you cherry? I don't want to rush in to this then feel sorry later. Thanks.
P.S.
I have already have tryed with my figers and they are to short. OMG!! so i just took a barbie doll that my sister took from me years ago. When i put it up there i felt a some pain but i freak out and did not do it that's why I need some help.
Why are you using a barbie doll? At age 18, You can legally go into a store and buy yourself a vibrator.
Putting things that don't belong up there of course it's going to hurt depending on what it is. Plus you are more at risk of getting infections and cutting yourself.
Go buy a vibrator or if you feel more comfortable order one offline. They arrive at your house in a box so nobody will know what it is.
SO im 15/f and i recently asked a question about why and when you should go the gynecologist. After reading a bit more about what goes on there, I DONT WANT TO GO! I know im suppose to but im nervous and extremely scared of going. Any tips on nerves. As well is it possible to ask if i can only have females present. I would never to be able to go through with it if there were males in the room. Is it in a private room? And are my parents, well my mother, in the room?
You are over the age of 14, Therefore you are able to go into doctors appointments on your own without your parents guidance.
There is a law called HIPAA, Really what it basically means is you as a patient have your own privacy rights.
Yes, They have private rooms. It's just like walking into a doctors office. They have room with a door, They have you change into a johnny etc. Everyone is nervous their first time but let me tell you, It is not as bad as it may seem. Every time I've ever gone the exam is maybe 5 minutes tops! Other than that it's mostly just your doctor asking a bunch of questions. The best part? You only have to go once a year unless of course she tells you otherwise. If you feel more comfortable you can always request a female doctor instead of a male. It's not that big of deal, Your first time is understandably nerve wracking but once you get it done it's nothing.