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He's ignoring me. I don't know why!
My ex and I were pretty good friends, but it was really obvious that we weren't over each other. We even hooked up once after we were broken up. We both said we didn't want to be in a relationship with anyone but since we felt comfortable with each other, we decided it would be okay to talk and flirt around. During the winter break, we didn't talk much or see each other as he went out of the country and I went out of town. The thing is, my family recently moved, and live about 4 hours away from where I used to live. I still live in my old house to go to school, for now. My parents want me to move up with them, but for a year, I put it off, because I wanted to stay and orginally finish school. Being with my parents for the break made me feel really good, I felt really safe and happy, and coming back made me feel a little out of place because what I once knew as home, wasn't really home anymore. I was also convinced at the time that I would need to stop seeing my ex in that fashion before it would get any harder to let go. Now that I'm back, I ran into him one day at school (we hadn't talked since before he left over the break). I told him I wanted to move up and that I felt better up there. He asked why? And I gave a brief answer. I was also in a rush to leave, because I had transportation issues from school. He did look a little confused, but I didn't want to hang around him much before I started feeling awkward. I heard he was going to be at a show the next day, and I decided to go (he was singing for the first time in public and I wanted to be there to listen to him). That night, he completely ignored me and hung around another crowd, that I used to be close with in the past, but not so much anymore. I had other guy friends there, one was an ex but we weren't so close anymore and another one was a previous crush, who's just a friend to me now. I felt really hurt that night, considering he didn't bother saying anything to me. Another guy friend purposely tried to get him jealous, but I kept telling him to stop, but I'm sure my ex saw something, as innocent as it was.
I did attempt to talk to my ex throughout the show but he wasn't very responsive. I guess he was nervous about his performance, but after, it was nothing. I left feeling really hurt and the next day, I went to his cousin's house (we're good friends and he's about a few years younger than I am). Somehow, we ended up at my ex's house, his mom had to go over there to do something and I tagged along. I thought this would be a good opportunity to see whether or not he was actually mad. Apparently, he was tired, and was watching a movie and didn't say two words to me either. I felt really awkward being in his house too.
I then left and decided to go home after feeling really bad. That night, I texted him saying that I didn't know what I did for him to ignore me like that at the show and at his house but that I was sorry, and sorry for coming to his house like that. And also that I was sorry for not really talking to you at school, I was in a hurry to leave from before.
He texted me back a day later saying he didn't realize to what extent he ignored me and how tired he was and that it was up to me whether or not I accept his apology.
I couldn't believe he said that, because it sounded pretty lame but I feel really bad about him not talking to me like he used to. I even called him once and he didn't pick up. I'm wondering if he feels bad that I'm leaving. (When we were a couple, one of the reasons why we broke up was because I was going to move, and he wanted me to be with my parents). But to ignore me now for the decision doesn't make sense. I want to talk to him about it and tell him how I feel, but I also don't want to make myself look desperate for his attention. What should I do?
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Your relationship is over, That is what it is.
When you bumped into him and told him you were moving it sounds like it was nothing more then a quick conversation and not so much feeling bad about it. From his reaction, Maybe he got caught up in something? Did he seem to intentionally ignore you? If he did then maybe he's just simply over it. The best thing you can do for you is to try and focus on you and your schooling. If the guy wants to catch up and talk to you then let him come to you, However I wouldn't hold your breath because there is always a chance that he moved on. If you don't want to look desperate then don't give him that impression. Wait and see if he comes to you and if he doesn't then you know....
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