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Is it okay to like a friend's ex?
So I like this guy, but there is a problem. My friend liked him. And he asked her out, but the next day told her "they are better off friends". They didnt even go out, and my friend was sad. Now she is over him and likes someone else. She randomly brought up that if he asked one of us out she wouldnt care. I think she was lying, because I would care if my friend dated one of my crushes/exes.
So I think my questions are:
Is it okay for me to like him?
Does this break the "Girl Code"?
P.S. She doesnt know I like him.
Thanks, Janiiee (14 years old)
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This is one of those controversial topics. Some people say no, others say yes. My opinion on this is if the friend is over the guy and said she wouldn't mind if her friends dated her ex,then it's all fair game. I dated my friend's ex because she was over him, and told me that she didn't mind, it was my choice. What really pisses me off is when girls get mad at their friends for dating their exs when they have clearly moved on. It is selfish and immature. On the other hand, if the friend is still hung over her ex, I would try to avoid anything. In your case, I would say yes, it is okay to like him because she has moved on and said it was okay. But you should also talk to her before and tell her that you like him just in case. Depending on how flexible you think the "girl code" is, the answer to your second question will vary. I hope this helped and good luck :)
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If your friend is no longer with the guy then why can't you like him? You aren't breaking any rules as they are no longer together.
I could understand it being backstabbing in a way if you just dated the guy RIGHT after they broke up, However you sort of lack information. How long ago did he reject her? Did it just happen?...If it did I would maybe hold off a week or two before I go and just ask the guy out. As long as they aren't dating, Then it should be fine as they aren't in a relationship.
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