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You would think I would know the answer by now
First I'm a girl, 21 years old. My ex and I were together for 3 years his mom and brother died and suddenly he didn't want anything to do with me which was understandable so I gave him his space. But then two months after I heard he was back with his ex. The same ex that he would constantly break up with to go out with me. Anyway, over a week ago he contacts me and I missed him so I replied. About 5 days ago he starts acting distant and I ask why and he said he was thinking of his mom and brother and his best friend starting trying to hook up with his ex, I tried to make him feel better and it worked because he seemed so happy for a day. I had a bad day too but I let my bad day go because I knew he needed cheering up, which I know he would never do for me. Then about three days ago we were talking and he just stopped, I tried calling no answer, call back, text, nothing, so i havent tried since that day. I know its not cause he has alot on his mind, i know him well enough to know that when he has problems he likes to have someone to share them with. He's done this before and it's usually because he's talking to someone else. I feel so pathetic because I keep falling under his little spell. He promised he wouldn't do this again and he did. What do I do to get over it? Like for good, I know I don't deserve this but how do I make myself stop being so in love with him?
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the best way is to stop all communication with him. that takes alot of strong will and perseverence.
i had the same problem (couldnt keep away from the ex that treated me bad) the easiest way is to distract yourself so you are too busy to answer his txts etc. it sounds to me like he runs to you whenever he feels down so you can comfort him. i can understand the guilt if you didnt after what hes been through, but surely he can talk 2 someone else. once u let him go he will go his own way and u will b happy
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The guy has issues and is doing nothing but dragging you into them.
If you want to get over it for good then you NEED to cut all contact. Stop texting, answering his calls, etc. Just end it
The guy repeats his pattern and treats you like shit, As long as you allow yourself to be sucked into his problems you are never going to move on. Lets face it, It's one hell of a slap in the face when someone dumps you for an ex isn't it? So why are you still bothering with him?....You sound well aware of the fact that he isn't going to change. Clearly, He needs therapy. This guy will only change if HE wants too change. Not if someone lays down guidelines and makes him happy for a day.
Simply put, You are wasting your time. Stop being his doormat because that is exactly what you will always be as long as you allow it. When he is doing good it's pretty much screw you until he's miserable again and goes crawling right back.
I feel bad for the guy, It must be tough to loose your mother and brother but on the other hand you have to realize you have a life of your own and that life isn't waiting for someone to wipe their feet on. Move on and cut contact and focus on YOUR life not his.
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