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16F (my boyfriend is 16, too)
My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 4 months now. For the most part, our relationship is going well. There is one problem, though. Whenever we're standing next to each other, even if we're in school in front of our teachers, he'll lean over and wrap his arms really tightly around my chest. It always makes me feel super uncomfortable, especially because every time I have to lift his arms over my head to get him off of me.
Now, I understand that a lot of people might like this kind of thing, but I feel like he's not respecting my personal space and it's really embarrassing. I'm not sure why he does this, and he's almost knocked me off of my feet several times. He's a lot bigger than I am and there's really not much I can do, physically. I try to politely tell him to stop, but when he doesn't listen, I can't bring myself to yell at him and tell him off in front of everyone. It would be humiliating for both of us.
How can I make him stop hugging me like this and start respecting my space? And does anyone know why he feels the need to do this? Thanks in advance! (link)
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When I was 15-16 years old my boyfriend did that a lot. Any time throughout the day at school he would have his arms wrapped around me.
I noticed a few other couples who did that too but I wanted to be the couple who didn't need to touch each other every time I saw them.
I'm thinking he's doing it because he wants to show everyone that he's yours. While that could be sweet, it can also be very annoying. So if he does it again, you tell him calmly that you don't like it.
Like you said, you don't want to make a scene at school so if he doesn't listen, later on when you guys have privacy, you tell him that you don't like it.
If he doesn't take you seriously, I'd say break up and maybe he'll take you seriously. This would be completely up to you. You said you have a good relationship except for this problems but it's just if a guy doesn't respect how you feel about something and he keeps doing it anyways, he doesn't respect your feelings and it's not a good quality in a guy.
Anyways, I really hope things start working. Good luck!
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So, I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 16.
We met on a teenage chat site and started talking, afterwards I snuck and call him from my house phone (I was on punishment at the time and not suppose to have boys calling or call them)
After a while he said we wanted to know what I look like so, I was scared of if he's think I'm ugly so I sent him a picture of my really pretty cause instead.
He said she was BEAUTIFUL and he send me a picture back, and now I wanna let him know how I really look but he said the only reason why he really really loves me is because I'm honest but I'M NOT, I LIED :( I'm so scared to tell him but its eating me alive.
What do I do, my parents don't even know I talk to him everyday, they think I'm talking to my best friend. (link)
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Well if you want an actual relationship with this guy, you suck it up and you tell him that it wasn't you.
It will keep eating you alive until you tell him. There's not really another way to get around the guilt.
So if he breaks up with you, it wouldn't be the end of the world anyways. You're 15 and you're dating a guy you've never met. It's more fun to date guys that are around because you actually get to hang out with them instead of talking on a phone.
So you tell that the picture wasn't you, you were feeling insecure, ect. Just tell him the truth. Lying in relationships will ruin them.
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So I met this guy on a website specifically for writing your own stories, but there are forums where you can chat to other people. They're nice people, honestly.
Anyway, I started talking to him and we have a ton in common. The first night he asked me about my secrets, and thinking I'd never talk to him again, I told him everything. And he listened the whole time and he didn't judge. He cared. And then he told me some of his secrets. And i listened and cared and didn't judge.
A couple days after that, we were talking about relationships and love and he suddenly asked me who i liked. I didn't even think he cared. I tried to dodge his question, because in truth, I had started to like him as more than just a friend. And i know thats weird because it's moving so fast, but i honestly don't care. You love who you love.
So near the end of the bombardment of questions he shot at me, he said, "Obviously it's me." And i said, "How?" and he went on to explain how defensive i was of it and how the answers kind of described him. And then he told me he liked me back,and i was so excited.
Until he said he wanted to keep it a secret and not tell anyone.
Honestly I still want to be with him, even though he wants to keep our relationship a secret.
But there's a problem. See, he lives in England and I live in the States. That kinda complicates things. I just wish he didn't live so far away.
I want advice on how to handle this and if i should even attempt a relationship. Please? Anything would be helpful.
Oh and I'm 15, a female :) (link)
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These are hard to answer because I've never dated a guy I've never personally met. Most times I hear stories like this, sometimes they lie about who they really are.
I don't believe you can love someone you've never met. Maybe love them as a person but not be in love with them. Only because you don't see who they are. Everything you know about them is what he decides to tell you. If that makes any sense. You don't see who he is when he's with his friends or with his family. You don't know how well he works and how honest he is with other people.
Anyways, that's just my opinion and maybe I'm wrong.
So I won't go ranting about that, but the way to actually be in a long distance relationship is to have a long term goal. The thing is, you'd have to wait years to see him. Being 15, that makes it so much harder. On top of that, he doesn't like you enough to admit to having a relationship with you. Unless he has another reason as to why he wants to keep this relationship a secret and just between the two of you?
I don't know, you didn't go into detail on that part.
If you attempt to have a relationship with him, you'd have to have a lot of patience. When you actually meet him, you'll have to start at square one again.
I've seen some couples who finally met each other and it was awkward for quite a while. You'd be putting off dating other guys for a guy in another country.
I believe long distance relationships can work but they are really hard.
So my advice would to not pursue, for the reason that you're 15 and have so many more years for boys. There could be more chances and learning to date is fun when you're in high school but it's not as much fun when your boyfriend lives far away.
Anyways, good luck and I hope everything works out for you!
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Hey :) i really like my best friend, and we have known each other for about 3 years now, but i am too scared to risk losing this friendship. I dont know whether i should go for it or try and get over him. I tried getting over him many times, but seeing him in school everyday make it that much harder! help! (link)
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I don't know how old you are, if you are in middle school or high school.
Either way it's tough to make these kinds of decisions when you're still in school because it makes everything so much harder.
These are the things that can come out of this.
-You either stay friends with him and maybe you'll move on and keep the friendship the way it is.
-Maybe you won't make a move and he'll end up with someone else.
-You date him but it ends terribly and you lose the friendship.
-You date him, it ends on good terms and you stay friends but it never really goes back to how it used to be.
So you can either try it out and risk the friendship or just keep it as friends. You could also see this as a learning experience.
A lot of girls I knew waited till they got out of high school to date because it was mostly drama and most high school relationships don't last. But nowadays there are kids that are so young that want to be in a serious relationship because they are pressured by society and think being with a guy is a going to make them feel more loved.
So you can take your outcomes into consideration and if you're willing to try it, then go for it. If you think you can handle it then it might be a good relationship.
If you would rather keep the friendship the way it is, then that's what you do.
Good luck!
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how do i tell my mom my hymen broke (link)
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Why do you have to tell her?
Hymens don't even break. They stretch, you could look that up if you want to.
They partially cover the vagina so when you have sex, they stretch and that's why a lot of women bleed their first time. If you don't have sex for awhile, it goes back to the way it was and if you do it again, you might bleed again.
It can also happen from tampons or sex toys or even activities so I don't see why you have to tell your mom.
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How i can fake my virginity (link)
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You can't fake virginity. Virginity is just a term if you had sex. You can't prove if someone has had sex.
The hymen doesn't necessarily break, it stretches and that's why a lot of women bleed the first time they have sex. Over time if you don't have sex for awhile, it'll go back to the way it was and you could possibly bleed again.
So there is no way to fake virginity as there is also no way to prove someone isn't a virgin.
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My sister, who we'll call Morgan, is engaged to a guy who we'll call Mitchell. They've been dating since August of 2011 and in July of 2012, she told me she was certain she wanted to marry him. She always talked like you shouldn't think about marrying someone until you've been dating them for at least a couple years.
Before Mitchell, she dated a guy who we'll call Jordan for four years. When he dumped her, she was heart broken and took until she started dating Mitchell before she quit talking about being in love with him. My family and I hated Jordan and thought he was a hopeless, needy, obnoxious, controlling, free loading party boy, which Morgan says she sees now, but sometimes it seems like she's just trying to talk herself out of being in love with him.
There are certain things that I've taken as signs of her being in love with Jordan. For example, when they were dating, somehow she, my mom, and I got on the subject of baby names and she said that her favorite boy name was Hudson. A short time later, a group of us, including Morgan and Jordan were talking and Jordan claimed to have the greatest baby name ever, which was Hudson. I knew he came up with it because she has no identity of her own. She doesn't know how to choose something for herself, so it had to have been his idea. Since they broke up, she still loves the name Hudson and hasn't gotten to like her fiancee's favorite names, which may mean nothing, but she hasn't done anything like that before. Other than Hudson and one family name, it seems like she changes her favorite names every time she talks about them and always has.
Also, when Jordan's name came up the other day at lunch, she got really mad and stopped talking for the rest of the meal. Then, she started yelling at whoever brought his name up just for mentioning him. I can't imagine being like that about an ex boyfriend who I no longer had feelings for, especially if I was engaged.
Another thing that makes me feel that she's getting married for the wrong reasons is that Jordan and almost all of her friends are either married or getting married sometime soon. I'm worried she just wants to show Jordan that she's moved on and found someone to marry too, as well as that she doesn't want to be the last of her friends to get married. I think she's worried that she's getting too old not to be married and that she's always been way more in love with the thought of being in love and having a wedding than with the actual guy she chose to marry.
I don't really like Mitchell that much either. He's okay, but he seems to want her to do everything he wants to do rather than to come up with a compromise. Like I said, she has no identity so she'll do it, but will later resent him for it if their marriage fails. Then she'll be unhappy with the way her life turned out.
I'm worried she's going to screw up her life, or that one say I'll have a bunch of nieces and nephews who came from a broken home and act like my cousin who's from that kind of home. She got pregnant in college and wants another baby, but refuses to get married out of her anger at her parents failed marriage. Her dad is the kind of dad I imagine Mitcheel being if he and Morgan get divorced. One who's more interested in his step kids than his real ones.
What should I do? (link)
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You're in a tough situation. One of the hardest things to do is watch someone you love make huge mistakes.
You obviously can't make her do anything. The most you can do is talk to her. If you do decide to say something to her, just make sure you're not accusing her or pointing fingers at her. Just tell her you're worried about her and you don't want her to get hurt. Don't get into an argument with her and if she really doesn't want to listen to what you have to say, just be a good sister and be there for her.
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Hi there! I am a sophomore in high school and have a guy friend (let's call him K) that I've known since 7th grade. We didn't become good friends until last year, and this year we've become pretty close because we are involved in a lot of the same things.
I didn't think of him as anything more than a friend until this year. I thought I may have caught him very subtly flirting with me (he's pretty shy), and since I really liked him as a friend I started to try and see if I could see us together. I couldn't at first. But then, when my friend and I noticed him talking to this girl, we thought they would be really cute together, and kept talking about it/jokingly scheming on how to get those two together. Well, in the process, I started feeling a tiny bit jealous. It turns out he and the other girl really were just friends.
Then we started talking more as we got to know each other better through our school activities.
Now we text almost daily, usually about school stuff, but then it turns into chat. I think something is definitely there. Our eyes meet a lot, we joke around, and already have countless inside jokes. I'm really attracted to his smile and his blue eyes. :) I don't think he is "hot," in the conventional use of the word, but I am attracted to him. In addition, he's really smart, passionate, kind to everyone, a little shy, but pretty funny and easy to talk to. I told my best friend today that I kind of liked him and she got very excited and said we would be so cute. There is definitely something there. Today, I noticed him go out of his way to walk me to my car, telling everyone he needed to go that way too, but then he turned around.. :)
My concerns for our potential relationship are our friendship and our mutual friendships with others. We are both on a co-ed sports team with only 10 people who are all very close, so I'm concerned that dating him (and especially if it should end) might be awkward. He also asked one of my friends out on a date last year (she said no because she doesn't want to date in high school, although they remain very close friends), so there is another potential source of awkwardness. Another reason this concerns me is his formality in wanting to go out to restaurants and things on dates, which I have never really done before. Though the idea of a more mature relationship excites me, I'm also worried one of us will be uncomfortable or not know what to say or how to act. I'm also friends with his younger brother, I know his mom and dad from the sports events, and we have lots of mutual friends. While this might be a good thing, I am worried it could turn awkward.
I'm also not entirely sure if I even really like him or if my feelings stemmed from picturing us together, because the feelings I have are more sweet rather than a fiery crush.
Sorry this is long. Props to you if you really read it! I think writing it out has helped me at least a little bit in figuring it all out.
Basically, K and I have something going. I think our personalities mesh very well, and our chemistry is awesome. I see him as a great potential boyfriend, but am uncertain about getting over the uncomfortableness stage with him. What do you think? Do you think we are relationship material, or better off as friends? Is there anything I should say or do if we do end up dating, or if it should happen that I need to turn him down?
Thanks for your help! (link)
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Obviously, this choice is up to you. If you think that you can handle the awkwardness that might come along with a relationship, then go for it.
You guys may or may not be relationship material. You both sound like great people who could probably have a fantastic relationship but you may also find out that the chemistry you guys have might be for being just friends.
There are so many "what ifs". It's up to you to take the risk.
I mean you are in high school, chances are the relationship won't last. You can still have a friendship after the relationship, depending on how mature the break up is but it'll always be different.
So if you're willing to try it out, then do it and don't hold back.
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i've been married for 5 years and i've met this guy who is my sister's friend. He lives in another town. He's been recently sending me messages through facebook. What should I do?? Because I've started to like him..I really love my husband,though, and I'm afraid of hurting him. (link)
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It's normal to feel the way about a guy who is flirting with you. It makes you feel good.
While developing feelings might be normal, you are married.
So since you want to stay faithful to your husband, you should stop talking to this guy. You can either tell him straight up that you are flattered but you are married or you can just stop talking to him and just leave it at that.
So that is the way to avoid hurting your husband and yourself.
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Ok so me and my Boyfriend have been dating for about 3 weeks.. (2 weeks and 6 days) And he says he is going to kiss me.. But he never does.. How do i know when he will.. Oh.. And i probably should mention this too. I am 12 and he is 14. (link)
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Don't stress about it. When I was 16, I had a boyfriend who asked if he could kiss me and took forever to. I hated knowing that because it wasn't as exciting. But he's probably just nervous and trying to build up the courage. You've only been dating 3 weeks so it's not like he's taking forever
Just wait and be patient, it'll be better when you're least expecting it.
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We started off talking like every few days. Hung out a few times and texted eachother a lot. And he was obviously interested as I am. Well now I feel like he along with some other friends just quit talking to mw so much. Yeaterday he texted me and asked how work was going. I said it was alright and stuff and he didn't reply then he texted me a few hours later saying woo you get off in a hour. And that's it. Today he didn't text me at all. I texted him and said I hope he had a great day and no reply. I just don't understand why he's backing up all of a sudden. And just everyone else it seems at the same time. (link)
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I've known so many guys who have done this. It can be really annoying and confusing.
I won't be able to give you a straight answer as to why he does it because know one but him actually knows why.
I could just make guesses.
Maybe he got bored. Maybe he's not as interested as he was before.
Maybe he's trying to figure out how he feels about you.
Maybe he doesn't like to text. I actually know guys who texted a lot because they really liked a girl but once that new exciting spark was over, they hardly texted.
I honestly don't know why everyone else isn't talking to you either. Maybe it's just bad timing unless they're all planning something against you lol.
Anyways, my advice would be to back off a little. If he doesn't text you, then don't text him. Maybe in a couple weeks text him and see how he's doing. If his response is nice, then you're probably alright. If he doesn't seem interested in the texts, then maybe he lost interest.
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I have this guy friend "alex" and we just recently started talking more. He asked me to dinner, but because of our working/school schedules its a little hard to make an exact date, well last week we ended up hanging out together with a few other friends, and after our friends went home he took me to eat dinner and we watched a movie in his car at a school parking lot. he taught me to waltz in the middle of the parking lot around midnight (seriously like something you would see in a movie) then a couple days later he asked if I wanted to hangout after work. so I went to his house and we just sat around watched tv, talked, and danced a little more. and hell ask every now and then if I want to talk on the phone before bed. and we end up talking for a couple hours before actually hanging up. he tells me all this corny stuff like flirting kind of, and makes fun of my height cause hes taller then me. he acts like hes interested, he even asked my best friend if I date. well the other day I was asking him to hangout with me and a few of our friends today, and he said if he didn't have work he would, but we should hangout before then, so we made a plan to hangout after I got out of work, but 30 mins before I got out he texted me and canceled cause he had his daughter, then today he ended up having to work, so he asked if I wanted to hangout after he got off for a little bit cause he has to be up really early for college. but when he got off he texted me and said nevermind for tonight cause its late and he needs to be up early, and we can hangout some other time. im just confused on why he acts interested and says all the sweet things to me, and acts likea gentleman but the last couple times he asked me to hangout he canceled at the last minute. (link)
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It seems to me that he just has a complicated life. He definitely is interested in you though. You can't expect him to make it to every date when he has a daughter, is going to school and work. So it seems understandable to me.
So to answer your question, yes it does seem like he's interested. He's just a busy man. I think when you should get concerned is when he cancels every single time and it doesn't seem like he makes an effort at all. But he has been texting you and wanting to meet up so I think you're good.
Don't stress about it and just try to be patient with him.
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I've known this guy for about 3 and a half years, I used to be very depressed and he acted as a consular and helped me. We both started to really like each other but we didn't wanna date because we love 5 hours away so we agreed to date other people but nothing serious. We go to the same camp ground so I see him a couple times a year. Around October he calls Me crying saying his gf is pregnant (he's a virgin so she cheated on him) but his parents and hers made them get married....we tried so much to stop it but it was a fail. So he joined the army to be able to pay for and in hopes his new wife will get bored while he is gone and leave him. He is telling me that he knows we will be together some day but it all is just so hard.....what do I do :/ gone (link)
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This is so weird.
What parent makes a kid marry a girl who has another man's child?
The other thing that's kinda odd is that you guys agreed to date other people because of the distance but he has a girlfriend? Having a girlfriend is considered serious.
So why did they make them get married?
To be honest, if he didn't want to get married, he has a choice. No one can force you to marry someone.
Anyways, if this whole situation is true, then I guess there is nothing you can do. It was his choice to go along with the marriage, and if he wanted out, he could easily get out especially if it's not his child.
As for what you do, you can sit around and wait for him but I say just keep yourself preoccupied and don't wait forever. He needs to get his priorities straight and figure out what he really wants.
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So, I have a boyfriend who I really really love..But ive met this guy on facebook. He started to chat me up and persuaded me to sort of being slutty towards him..Its all been done through the chat..The thing is that i decided to go a little further..and I sent him a picture of me being naked..Ive been feeling miserable ever since..What was I thinking?? I decided not to talk to this guy anymore..please.I need some advice..Thanks!! (link)
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You're in a tough position. Hopefully you at least didn't have your face in the pic.
Anyways, there isn't anything you can do but consider this a lesson learned. I don't know how well you know this guy, if you know him at all, because he could have sent them to anyone or put them on the internet.
Just don't talk to him anymore and never do that again because it is illegal.
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Im 14/ f and ive been a selfharming since the beginning of february.. I have been getting better tho! Anyways my mom and I were sitting side by side waiting for my sister and I forgot to put a bandage on my cuts when I changef into a tank top.. she was on the phone and looked at my wrist and thered only 2 visible ones and pointed at them with a questioning face.. I pulled my arm away and went to the bathroom and cried my eyes out.. what do I say? Our cats are declawed. . (link)
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You tell her the truth.
I don't know your mother, I don't know how she'll react. But I know you're scared because maybe she'll over react and maybe say something that might hurt your feelings.
I used to cut for 6 years. When I was 14, my parents found out and I was grounded for months. They just yelled at me. That never stopped me and I had wished I got help sooner.
Your parents love you nonetheless. Hopefully your mom won't freak out. She will be upset, she will be hurt because her daughter is hurting herself.
And if your mom has never understood, she'll be really confused as to why you do it when all she does is love you.
So expect her to question you. She'll probably ask why you're doing it. Be honest and tell her why. Most parents get mad because they think their child should be happy because they provide them with everything and yet they're still sad. They don't know where they went wrong.
You do need help though. You need to tell her that. You should tell her that you've been struggling with self harm for the past few months and you want to get help before it gets worse. Tell her you want to learn how to handle your problems and stress better. She'll most likely take charge from there and look for places where you can get counseling so you can overcome this.
Everything will be fine!
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So im 13/m and i am addicted to masturbating... i also watch porn but i have a gf. So is it ok if i watch porn? Am i a perv or cheating in a way? (link)
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Masturbating is fine because you're going through puberty. It's a normal thing.
But the porn thing depends on how your girlfriend sees it. When you bring porn into a relationship, it can destroy it because their partner doesn't see things the same way they do. Some people think porn is cheating, some don't. Some people think it's ok and it's healthy for a relationship, some don't.
So really, you'd have to discuss that with your girlfriend and see if she's ok with you watching porn.
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Ме and му friends both 13 female and I used to cut and tried killing myself by taking a od. Anyway lately friends been cutting hecticly, she started friday and been cutting over the weekend and has been telling ме how she wants to die and she's planning on comitting suicide. I'm really worried about her. How can I make her stop and give her good advice and what can I say to make her think a little? I can't tell sanyone about it though so please don't say tell her parents because they know and she just gets grounded for it and they fight because of it which makes her cut even more. Her famils the main reason of her cutting. (link)
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Well you're in a tough situation. There's not much you can say or do to get her to stop on your own. You can be supportive and tell her how much you love her but she could possibly have depression, and that can't be solved by a friend telling her she's loved.
I know you probably don't want to tell an adult. That's where the tough part comes in for you. You probably don't want her to get mad at you. But I was in your friends situation once. My friend knew I was cutting and she knew I wanted no one to know but since she loved me and wanted to help me, she told my schools counselor. While the counselor had to tell my parents, I knew that my friend cared enough to try to get me help.
You definitely should be worried about her because she's thinking about suicide. So it's better to have a friend who's mad at you, than a friend who's dead. That's how you have to look at it.
Since her family isn't helping her, she should talk to a counselor or some other trusted adult. You could have her talk to a doctor as well. Talk your parents and see if they could help you out.
Since her family is a big part of why she's doing this, she's only 13, she is going to be living with this for the next 5 years. So if you leave her like this with just some encouraging words, it's not going to save her life than what you really could do for her.
I was in her situation when I was 14. When my parents found out, they grounded me for months and I couldn't see anybody. I wish I had gotten help sooner. I made sure my friends wouldn't tell anybody because I was afraid my parents would get mad again. But I had one friend who really knew what I needed.
So don't let her waste her life, get her some help.
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I've had a crush on, (let's call him Alex),since the beginning of this year. I haven't told him, but I did tell him that sometimes I felt like he was using me for school work and company. His ex-girlfriend cheated on him two times so he was lonely and maybe vulnerable so I let him off the hook the first time. The second time, I stopped talking to him abruptly and after a few weeks, I wrote him a letter explaining why I had stopped talking to him(him using me etc.). The last day of school, he came to me before I left and hugged me. He said he was sorry and while we were hugging, he whispered, "I love you" and I whispered, "I hate you." but I think we both know that it's the opposite. It was kind of a soap opera moment. Sadly, that was the last we'd spoken since the last day. It's been almost three weeks and nada from him. I'm taking it as he just thinks we're friends. His best friend, (Harry), has started talking to me on kik a lot. Calling me beautiful, my love, and saying things like "Wow you look gorgeous in that picture." We also talk about how he likes to write songs and such but I feel like he might like me. I'm going to see them both this Saturday because we've made a small party for the kids that were in my group. I feel like this party's going to be a make it or break it kind of thing. I was just wondering, what would you guys do? Would you talk to them individually and ask what's up? Would you come clean and tell them how you feel? By the way, I don't like Harry like that. I still have feelings for Alex even though I think he might not feel like that for me. Help? (link)
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What I would do if I was in your situation, I'd talk to both of the guys. I don't know either of them so it's harder to tell what I would say to them.
Since you don't like Harry like that, don't lead him on. I'm sure you don't mean to, because you obviously like his friend. I think a lot of guys think it's ok to flirt and hit on you when the girl doesn't stop them. So just talk to him normally and keep it as a friend thing. If you plan on telling him you don't like him like that. Just say something like, "I've been picking up this vibe by the way you talk to me and it's making me think that you like me. I just wanted to clear it up before it goes on too long." Something like that.
With Alex, definitely talk to him. If it turns out that he doesn't see you like that, then it's time to move on and find another guy. Don't be nervous and just stay strong.
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ok so i am a 16 year old girl and really bi-curious? I think i like guys but if i get into a relationship i end it too quickly because it doesnt feel right when i am with a guy. but I'll look at a guy and say he's hot but it ends there. as with girls though i've never had a crush on a girl but i can see myself in a relationship with one (a girl in general). i am just so confused, i don't think there is anything wrong with being gay but i am afraid that if i am that I'll loose friends and be judged harshly. i know my family will accept but i am still scared. (link)
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It's normal to be curious about your sexuality. People will judge you, that's just life. It's harder when your friends are judging you though. If you lose friends over this, they weren't real friends.
So just explore how you're feeling and see where it goes. You don't need to be ashamed or feel bad because it's you. You should love being you. Don't take what people say to heart. Although, that's easier said than done. Just grab all the support you can from your family and don't let yourself get down.
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i am 15/f. on 6th feb 2012, he proposed me. we had been besties and then when he proposed...i still remember the happiness...i have never been so happy in my life.and the best part was he liked what i did and understood before i said things...he knew me completely. more to say i never thought he was human, i thought he could read me. i was so overwhelmed by him. every thing about him. i was his first and he is my first love. till i left that town and shifted...we still shared the same love until one day he cut all contacts without any fight or anything . i later came to know that his father had forcefully taken away all his COMMUNICATION FACTORS. but slowly, as i eagerly waited for him, i heard he didnot miss me, jokes around and flirts in school,he does hav a cell which he lends to girls and uses to call his new gf ...and so on including a few instances where he abused me indirectly . i must mention that all these were from sources and not him. what he texted himself was..." I CAN NOT LOVE you ANYMORE. I HAVE GF HERE". so....i tried to kill myself
then this guy whom i had rejected once called me up and he was all the mental strength i needed at that time to recover and want to live again. i have to mention that he is not at all like me in any way . he is quite repulsive and difficult for me to understand. but i didnot ditch him coz i didnot want to hurt him and slowly i fell for him. atleast i thought i did. but yes, i admit that it was not so overwhelming and special and i never felt the same as my first love. it was more of formal love...something that i was doing rather than it being happening on itself. i hope the difference is clear. but we fought a 1000000 times which was hurting and yet we never broke up...if you call that love .
now somehow my x is back and...he says that he never ditched me but by the time he had the means to contact me i was already with this other guy so he didnot want to disturb?...he texted that ...remember?...i am myself confused but whenever i talk to him i can't but trust him.so according to him, he still loves me and always will.
and as i had said...my present bf ...we are again fighting. he is ignoring me. he doesnot have time for me. but he never says he doesnot love me . i know he does because his whole family knows what he is up to with me which my x never dared to tell his family.
so now, i am confused. i love both of them so much. and both of the love i feel is very different in nature. though, the one for my x is very intense, the one for the other guy is very caring and giving if that makes sense.if i had a chance i would go back to my x but now i also feel i wont be able to trust him like before?...or maybe i can?...i still love him and i feel those cravings inside me. but i cant at the same time imagine my present bf crying because of me. i am in a complete mess. i love both of them. what to do?...whom to choose? (link)
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You're 15, you don't need this kind of drama.
So his dad was the one who cut all the contact with you? But you heard from other people that he flirts with other girls? Well you can't listen to that kind of gossip first of all until it comes from the source itself. But he did tell you he has a new girlfriend. That means he moved on from you and didn't feel the need to wait for you like you waited for him.
So it shows he doesn't love you because you don't do that to someone you love. You would wait for someone you love.
Don't try to kill yourself or hurt yourself over a guy. He isn't the only guy in the world. If you keep feeling this way, you need to get help.
This other guy you got with was the rebound. I don't know if you love him. But you keep comparing him to your ex so it shows you don't truly love him if you're comparing him. It's not fair to him. It's not fair to him that you're with him right now. He's not a toy to help you get over someone else.
I think if you ever got back together with your ex, you wouldn't be truly happy because you wouldn't be able to trust him again. What if he pulled another stunt like that again?
And your ex never told his family about you? Do you even know his family? You truly see how people are when you see them around his family and friends.
You might love them, but you love them differently and you shouldn't love either of them that way. You're not in love with them though.
If you can't trust someone, the relationship won't work.
I think you should take a break from your current boyfriend. Don't get together with your ex though. He doesn't seem like good news and he doesn't seem to be right for you. Your current boyfriend will be hurt but it's better than leading him on because you don't know how to feel.
So give yourself your own time and don't talk to either of them. Maybe you'll end up finding someone else who you won't fight with all the time and will be there for you even when you're not around.
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