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Is he really interested?
I have this guy friend "alex" and we just recently started talking more. He asked me to dinner, but because of our working/school schedules its a little hard to make an exact date, well last week we ended up hanging out together with a few other friends, and after our friends went home he took me to eat dinner and we watched a movie in his car at a school parking lot. he taught me to waltz in the middle of the parking lot around midnight (seriously like something you would see in a movie) then a couple days later he asked if I wanted to hangout after work. so I went to his house and we just sat around watched tv, talked, and danced a little more. and hell ask every now and then if I want to talk on the phone before bed. and we end up talking for a couple hours before actually hanging up. he tells me all this corny stuff like flirting kind of, and makes fun of my height cause hes taller then me. he acts like hes interested, he even asked my best friend if I date. well the other day I was asking him to hangout with me and a few of our friends today, and he said if he didn't have work he would, but we should hangout before then, so we made a plan to hangout after I got out of work, but 30 mins before I got out he texted me and canceled cause he had his daughter, then today he ended up having to work, so he asked if I wanted to hangout after he got off for a little bit cause he has to be up really early for college. but when he got off he texted me and said nevermind for tonight cause its late and he needs to be up early, and we can hangout some other time. im just confused on why he acts interested and says all the sweet things to me, and acts likea gentleman but the last couple times he asked me to hangout he canceled at the last minute.
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If I were you I'd be disappointed. And I agree, that night sounds like a scene from a movie.
My 2nd husband and I talked daily for hours, I know how that goes when theres such a great connection. But after we met a handful of times, neither of us could bear to be apart. Problem: he worked awful long hours 12-13 hrs gone so we moved in together to have the last bit of time together.
You already said from the start that between his and your work and school schedules that its really difficult to find times you're free to get together.
If school is that important to both of you, then consideration towards using evenings for study or to rest for the school day ahead is going to take priority over a relationship. I believe he is really interested its just that there is plain and simply no time in your schedules to get together or if there are snippets of time occasionally, it may not be satisfying enough for you and cause you to feel resentment for not coming first when there's nothing that can be done with your current schedules.
You both will just need to be patient and try make the best of it if its worth waiting for the other. Or if you at some point become serious enough as a couple, you could discuss doing different school schedules if possible like taking less classes. Best wishes to you dear
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It seems to me that he just has a complicated life. He definitely is interested in you though. You can't expect him to make it to every date when he has a daughter, is going to school and work. So it seems understandable to me.
So to answer your question, yes it does seem like he's interested. He's just a busy man. I think when you should get concerned is when he cancels every single time and it doesn't seem like he makes an effort at all. But he has been texting you and wanting to meet up so I think you're good.
Don't stress about it and just try to be patient with him.
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It sounds like he has a pretty complex life right now. He has a child part time, he is going to school and working full time. Give the guy a break! He's got a lot of balls up in the air and finding time to date as well can be tricky.
It sounds like he really does like you and is interested in you. Maybe you should ask him how much he dates? How old is his daughter? Has he had many girlfriends since she was born or since he broke up with her mom? Maybe he hasn't dated in a while and doesn't know how to fit it into his life as a single father/ student. Just be understanding try to get a better idea of him and his life and situation. Maybe he doubts his own ability to be a boyfriend because he's a bit overwhelmed in his life. If you two continue to hang out ask him some questions about his life and how he feels about dating. Then you can understand where he is coming from and not get confused or thrown off so easily. If you two start seeing each other regularly it might be good to have a talk about him keeping you informed so you don't get confused and you being understanding of his life and it's complications.
Basically to me it sounds like he is interested. Dating is just something he is unsure of and struggling to find a balance with in his life. So if you want to see him and your interested despite his complex life then let him know. Feel free to be straight forward and ask him how interested he is. I've found that being straight forward is usually very respected and well received among most men. Just calmly and kindly pose the question, "hey sometimes your actions confuse me a bit and i was wondering how interested you are in me? What are your intentions?"
Good Luck honey!
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