Hello friends!! Am bhuvaneswari of India.Am 20 doing my engineering final year.I met a boy in my first year of college.He was not that much smart but something impressed me and i have proposed him.He too accepted.But after a moment i proposed i felt so bad why did i proposed him because basically i hate this love because my parents are so much strict. But he started to love me truely.Many times i have admired him because of his care and affection towards me.Many times i just really feel like hating him because of his very much possessiveness, appearance and attitude.Even i feel very shy to tell my friends he is my boyfriend because he is not that much smart and not that much talented studieswise.Whatever he does like caring me whenever am not in need of it, i feel like irritating but manytimes i will miss him like hell when am much depressed and i will search him only when am in a problem or when am very much sad. Also i never think off to make him suffer in anything and i will be helping him everytime but i fail to care for him whenever he is in need of it. Always the matters between us ends up in a great fight.but always he apologizes and come to me even the mistake is mine because he loves me truely and he never allows me to face any kind of bad situation.even many times i have felt him he is my god but i feel like hating him sometimes and am not takng care of him. am not that much worryng even he doesn't eat and i dont worry about his health. Why am doin like this ? He is such a nice guy i always try to love him but am unable to do it. He is suffering a lot because of me but i feel like i want him in future but not now because i dont want him to make suffer by my foolish thoughts because he is such a nice loveable guy.Am scared that i will miss him in my future if i make distance now because i feel that no girl will get such a nice character boy in her life.But am unable to care for him wholeheartedly now and also i dont want him to suffer like hell because of my stupid character. And now my parents have come to known about my love but they dont know that am not in deep love.They have started to be strict and i also wanted to develop my family by studyng well.At this critical situation this kind of concept of love is killing me.. What to do at this situation?I dont want to miss him in my life because i cant lead happiest life without his care and affection towards me.But at the same time i dont feel like i love him dont feel like caring him i feel hatred that my parents have bad impression on me that their daughter had fell in love. I really dont know what am doing;(so much depressed unable to love and care for him wholeheartedly and unable to get out of his life.He is suffering like hell because of me i cant see that;(plss give any good solution for my life plss:(
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? Jheel answered Wednesday May 29 2013, 4:05 am: You dont love him.. you are just attracted to him and he is just a sort of pain killer and support for you..becoz you know that he is always der for you and will never leave you.. so you take him for granted.. leave this guy.. it would be better for him and you.. He deserves some one who loves and cares for him.. and you need to get out of this tricky situation.. If you cant love and respect him while he does.. Neither of you will be happy forever in the long term... [ Jheel's advice column | Ask Jheel A Question ]
santos answered Wednesday May 22 2013, 1:46 pm: Dear am also from india .i know indian girl want as boy friend who have lot money and smart and talented .love can not buy by money .it is a natural things. ,it is not love which you said in your note ,is just a affection. really love want two side but this is only one side.you are also confused so what you do love.second thing is that you not hurt your parents and her boy friend ,is not possible ,you have to hurt one so i know you will hurt your boy friend.love do with soul not form mind and you are doing love from mind i think you are using your boy friend.he love you and care you but you not .love means -kro ya mro. love want sacrifice . so suggest you leave him and not play his emotions .you need him in future ,not now . you know your future what happened in future,answer is no .so develop your family and do your study.love is not for that type people like you.love is the soul of voice ,is not a voice of mind and you are using your mind for love so solution for you -leave him and concentrate your study.best of luck. [ santos's advice column | Ask santos A Question ]
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