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What would you do?
I've had a crush on, (let's call him Alex),since the beginning of this year. I haven't told him, but I did tell him that sometimes I felt like he was using me for school work and company. His ex-girlfriend cheated on him two times so he was lonely and maybe vulnerable so I let him off the hook the first time. The second time, I stopped talking to him abruptly and after a few weeks, I wrote him a letter explaining why I had stopped talking to him(him using me etc.). The last day of school, he came to me before I left and hugged me. He said he was sorry and while we were hugging, he whispered, "I love you" and I whispered, "I hate you." but I think we both know that it's the opposite. It was kind of a soap opera moment. Sadly, that was the last we'd spoken since the last day. It's been almost three weeks and nada from him. I'm taking it as he just thinks we're friends. His best friend, (Harry), has started talking to me on kik a lot. Calling me beautiful, my love, and saying things like "Wow you look gorgeous in that picture." We also talk about how he likes to write songs and such but I feel like he might like me. I'm going to see them both this Saturday because we've made a small party for the kids that were in my group. I feel like this party's going to be a make it or break it kind of thing. I was just wondering, what would you guys do? Would you talk to them individually and ask what's up? Would you come clean and tell them how you feel? By the way, I don't like Harry like that. I still have feelings for Alex even though I think he might not feel like that for me. Help?
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What I would do if I was in your situation, I'd talk to both of the guys. I don't know either of them so it's harder to tell what I would say to them.
Since you don't like Harry like that, don't lead him on. I'm sure you don't mean to, because you obviously like his friend. I think a lot of guys think it's ok to flirt and hit on you when the girl doesn't stop them. So just talk to him normally and keep it as a friend thing. If you plan on telling him you don't like him like that. Just say something like, "I've been picking up this vibe by the way you talk to me and it's making me think that you like me. I just wanted to clear it up before it goes on too long." Something like that.
With Alex, definitely talk to him. If it turns out that he doesn't see you like that, then it's time to move on and find another guy. Don't be nervous and just stay strong.
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In our youth, we learn how to be a good judge of character of people. Some we can learn be observing a person from a distance. The rest we need to learn the harder way by getting past the awkwardness and getting closer to you can see what guys are like beyond their looks. So yes, I think you have a good idea to talk to both.
For the future, in some cases, you may find there is chemistry with a guy that developes not because you were attracted to his looks, not that he is ugly, just that you are attracted more to his personality and what you have in common. Thats another important part of any relationship.
So go after Alex and see if theres something there. If not, start checking out other guys.
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